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Soo here goes my first field/lay report. Don't know exactly how to categorize it...
Began a great night like any great nights usually begin, with SHOTS on SHOTS. Lately, after reading some of Chases's material I've been hesitant to go out and really drink, if I plan on trying to pick up girls, but I had some friends over so I just decided I'd drink a bit with them. We all know what one shot with your friends turns into though, as 1 hour later I'm pretty drunk. Regardless, ended up heading to a house party where the booze was overflowing and spiralled into an even drunker state. After a bit of time there, I decided to head to the club. One of my buddies who was staying at my place for the weekend (a college town) who had already slept with a girl the night before, soo he was planning on meeting up with her again at the club. I told him I'd go with and try to see what I could get done that night.
After a 45 minute wait in line (which helped me sober up a bit), we got in and soon after found his girl dancing with her friend. I introduce myself to both of them and we all start dancing. The friend was pretty cute, nothing too special but was obviously very confident and thought pretty highly of herself. Knew I was going to have to impress her if I wanted anything to happen. Here's where I want to know what you all would have done in my situation. So after dancing for a bit and me teasing her about her age as I was a couple years older and her playfully hitting me and reciprocating with flirting, we all went to get a drink. I did end up splitting the cost of the drinks with my buddy for the two girls and I will tell you now, I rarely plan on doing that again. I have read not to buy drinks for girls and an alarm sign in my head did go off when we approached the bar, but I was the one speaking to the bartender, so I handed over the cash. I do see how buying drinks can really come off as desperate and a way to basically buy their time. I find a lot of the time when the conversation has halted, my mind just resorts to asking the girl to get a drink, to have something to do with her; which is a mistake. We finish our drinks and head back to dance some more.
This is where things start to get interesting. As we started dancing for a second time and things are escalating physically, I whispered in her that I bet I can beat her in a staring contest, which she immediately took the challenge. We start dancing really closely, our heads touching and me holding her. We play a couple rounds of this. Plan on doing this in the future, as it really escalates things sexually a lot. Honestly, when I think of it now, I don't know why I didn't make a move then. However, I did throughout the night debate whether or not to escalate in the club or wait to get her home and then actually kiss her, cause of what I've learned about logistics and last minute resistance. I knew I had to isolate from her friends so I grabbed her hand and brought her to sit down. I sat down first and surprisingly, she sat down on the opposite side. This had me a little discouraged, but I always like a challenge. I now always plan to have the girl sit down first and me to follow. After talking for a bit, I moved over to her side and tried to deep dive. She really wasn't giving me much and was being pretty stubborn with her answers, so I decided to do this ESP trick on her and really impressed her (trick rarely fails to impress people) and I really had her attention. I wish I could remember the conversation, but looking back I do feel like I was coming off as a little over confident myself, trying to find the perfect balance of confidence without seeming arrogant, but I guess I pushed it a little too far. So when I first made a move to kiss her, she resisted and basically said she's not like other girls and although I was smooth my tactics wouldn't work on her. I responded with a bit of arrogance, basically saying I know she wants to kiss me, which would later really bite me in the ass. Maybe 10 minutes later I went in for the kiss again and she accepted. I was still feeling a bit of hostility on her end and she said she wanted to go find my buddy and her friend. I was unsure if she was interested in coming back to my place, but my friend and his girl wanted to come back, so she did too. I even asked my buddy to see what her friend was told by this gir, which she was supposedly interested. On the way home it began to pour, so I grabbed her hand and we raced home.
We all got back to my place and started chilling on the couch. I wanted to move her to my bedroom, but I was getting a cold vibe and she wasn't acting so flirty. Finally, I told her to come check out my room. Once we got there I sat down and we started talking but she was standing up, which I found strange. After a couple minutes talking, I said to her I really wanted to kiss her but I didn't want to try if I was going to be turned down again. She responded by saying "So, don't"! I was honestly pretty shocked as although she was being a bit cold, I could tell she was definitely enjoying herself and was laughing at my jokes. I finally just got up and started to kiss her, which she quickly put an end to but then got on my bed. I then followed and went in for the kiss again and she turned me down again, saying that because I was so confident I could get her and she said I couldn't, she wasn't going to let me kiss her. I thought with a bit of persistance she'd give in, so I started to kiss her neck and ears, which she received really well. It was getting really intense, with me feeling her up, with my hand in her shirt and in the back of her pants but every time I tried to kiss her, she turned away. I was getting pretty frustrated but I just continued kissing her neck cause I could tell she was enjoying it and I sincerely was too. I tried to escalate and move to fingering her but she kept pulling my hand away. Even at one point she asked If this was exciting me, which I answered you're doing just okay, to which she put her hand "to check" over my pants and said "I definitely was." Again and again I tried to kiss her after kissing her neck and she wouldn't budge. She kept saying she liked seeing me squirm. Thinking about it now I should have been forward and said is anything actually going to happen or are you wasting my time, because obviously she had the power in this hookup and I should have put a stop to her playing games. After a while of whatever you want to call what we were doing, we just began to talk and she began complimenting me on my game and telling me I'm really attractive and that this would of worked on anyone else. She said that she usually never likes to kiss on the first date and I should be impressed I got that far with her. As we were getting up she got on top of me and quickly bit my lip. I handed her my phone telling her to put her number in, with the name I entered as "Plays too hard to get but still fun". She laughed and said it was clever. I drove her home, wondering the whole ride back wondering how I could have really finished the deal.
Today i got my buddy to ask his girl if the girl I was with said anything to her after. Supposedly she said she had fun and hopes I text her but just didn't want to kiss me out of principle. Thinking about if she's worth pursuing for round 2 or if she's just a waste of time...
I know this report is pretty long, but I hope I kept you guys entertained. Any suggestions and or feedback are appreciated. Just looking to improve and I know there's definitely room for that.
Cheers,
Sly
Began a great night like any great nights usually begin, with SHOTS on SHOTS. Lately, after reading some of Chases's material I've been hesitant to go out and really drink, if I plan on trying to pick up girls, but I had some friends over so I just decided I'd drink a bit with them. We all know what one shot with your friends turns into though, as 1 hour later I'm pretty drunk. Regardless, ended up heading to a house party where the booze was overflowing and spiralled into an even drunker state. After a bit of time there, I decided to head to the club. One of my buddies who was staying at my place for the weekend (a college town) who had already slept with a girl the night before, soo he was planning on meeting up with her again at the club. I told him I'd go with and try to see what I could get done that night.
After a 45 minute wait in line (which helped me sober up a bit), we got in and soon after found his girl dancing with her friend. I introduce myself to both of them and we all start dancing. The friend was pretty cute, nothing too special but was obviously very confident and thought pretty highly of herself. Knew I was going to have to impress her if I wanted anything to happen. Here's where I want to know what you all would have done in my situation. So after dancing for a bit and me teasing her about her age as I was a couple years older and her playfully hitting me and reciprocating with flirting, we all went to get a drink. I did end up splitting the cost of the drinks with my buddy for the two girls and I will tell you now, I rarely plan on doing that again. I have read not to buy drinks for girls and an alarm sign in my head did go off when we approached the bar, but I was the one speaking to the bartender, so I handed over the cash. I do see how buying drinks can really come off as desperate and a way to basically buy their time. I find a lot of the time when the conversation has halted, my mind just resorts to asking the girl to get a drink, to have something to do with her; which is a mistake. We finish our drinks and head back to dance some more.
This is where things start to get interesting. As we started dancing for a second time and things are escalating physically, I whispered in her that I bet I can beat her in a staring contest, which she immediately took the challenge. We start dancing really closely, our heads touching and me holding her. We play a couple rounds of this. Plan on doing this in the future, as it really escalates things sexually a lot. Honestly, when I think of it now, I don't know why I didn't make a move then. However, I did throughout the night debate whether or not to escalate in the club or wait to get her home and then actually kiss her, cause of what I've learned about logistics and last minute resistance. I knew I had to isolate from her friends so I grabbed her hand and brought her to sit down. I sat down first and surprisingly, she sat down on the opposite side. This had me a little discouraged, but I always like a challenge. I now always plan to have the girl sit down first and me to follow. After talking for a bit, I moved over to her side and tried to deep dive. She really wasn't giving me much and was being pretty stubborn with her answers, so I decided to do this ESP trick on her and really impressed her (trick rarely fails to impress people) and I really had her attention. I wish I could remember the conversation, but looking back I do feel like I was coming off as a little over confident myself, trying to find the perfect balance of confidence without seeming arrogant, but I guess I pushed it a little too far. So when I first made a move to kiss her, she resisted and basically said she's not like other girls and although I was smooth my tactics wouldn't work on her. I responded with a bit of arrogance, basically saying I know she wants to kiss me, which would later really bite me in the ass. Maybe 10 minutes later I went in for the kiss again and she accepted. I was still feeling a bit of hostility on her end and she said she wanted to go find my buddy and her friend. I was unsure if she was interested in coming back to my place, but my friend and his girl wanted to come back, so she did too. I even asked my buddy to see what her friend was told by this gir, which she was supposedly interested. On the way home it began to pour, so I grabbed her hand and we raced home.
We all got back to my place and started chilling on the couch. I wanted to move her to my bedroom, but I was getting a cold vibe and she wasn't acting so flirty. Finally, I told her to come check out my room. Once we got there I sat down and we started talking but she was standing up, which I found strange. After a couple minutes talking, I said to her I really wanted to kiss her but I didn't want to try if I was going to be turned down again. She responded by saying "So, don't"! I was honestly pretty shocked as although she was being a bit cold, I could tell she was definitely enjoying herself and was laughing at my jokes. I finally just got up and started to kiss her, which she quickly put an end to but then got on my bed. I then followed and went in for the kiss again and she turned me down again, saying that because I was so confident I could get her and she said I couldn't, she wasn't going to let me kiss her. I thought with a bit of persistance she'd give in, so I started to kiss her neck and ears, which she received really well. It was getting really intense, with me feeling her up, with my hand in her shirt and in the back of her pants but every time I tried to kiss her, she turned away. I was getting pretty frustrated but I just continued kissing her neck cause I could tell she was enjoying it and I sincerely was too. I tried to escalate and move to fingering her but she kept pulling my hand away. Even at one point she asked If this was exciting me, which I answered you're doing just okay, to which she put her hand "to check" over my pants and said "I definitely was." Again and again I tried to kiss her after kissing her neck and she wouldn't budge. She kept saying she liked seeing me squirm. Thinking about it now I should have been forward and said is anything actually going to happen or are you wasting my time, because obviously she had the power in this hookup and I should have put a stop to her playing games. After a while of whatever you want to call what we were doing, we just began to talk and she began complimenting me on my game and telling me I'm really attractive and that this would of worked on anyone else. She said that she usually never likes to kiss on the first date and I should be impressed I got that far with her. As we were getting up she got on top of me and quickly bit my lip. I handed her my phone telling her to put her number in, with the name I entered as "Plays too hard to get but still fun". She laughed and said it was clever. I drove her home, wondering the whole ride back wondering how I could have really finished the deal.
Today i got my buddy to ask his girl if the girl I was with said anything to her after. Supposedly she said she had fun and hopes I text her but just didn't want to kiss me out of principle. Thinking about if she's worth pursuing for round 2 or if she's just a waste of time...
I know this report is pretty long, but I hope I kept you guys entertained. Any suggestions and or feedback are appreciated. Just looking to improve and I know there's definitely room for that.
Cheers,
Sly