Smooth Alpha Male

[Average]

The smooth Alpha male is something I'm shooting for, yet everybody seems to look at me as though I'm a sigma male and like I know the least about everything street wise. Once I become a slow replying, pregnant pausing man who doesn't take shit, will this alienate me from peoople? I also wanna be more touchy feely (I.e get used to touching people intimately and letting them into my personal space). If I do that, gain independence and try to attain a quiet calm, mixing that with how neat I always am, will that qualify me as a sexy man? If not then what other traits do I need to add to achieve it? And I mean mental fundamentals guys because I've been physically grooming myself so obsessively that I'm one shower away from rehab.

 

[Bboy100]

Chase's "smooth and sexy alpha male" as you call it, is only one of many possible personas which get laid. Notice how almost all the authors here have different personalities, and "styles" and yet, they all get laid. There's no one size fits all. Chase's style works well for him because it expresses his personality well. So unless your personality is similar to Chase's, I would not aim to adopt the same persona as him. Instead, I would augment my own personality. Whatever you're normally like...it's ok. It can get you laid.

...It just needs some enhancements. Namely, you need to eradicate insecurities and neediness towards women. For you, I don't know what those are because you haven't given us that information (and you'd probably have to type up a whole essay to list off all of them anyways haha). But whatever they are...there's two components to getting rid of them.

1. Going out, meeting women, building up reference points and successes. <---This is literally the scientifically proven formula for building this mysterious, elusive thing that we call "confidence"
2. Introspection. You must look inside yourself, examine your beliefs, question them. Ultimately, if you're meeting women and getting reference points, you're likely to eradicate the ones which are unhelpful, and start to adopt those which are more useful....and probably more realistic.

Ironically, you'll notice that your real personality largely remains the same. You'll just feel more confident...and more genuine. You'll behave in a way which is true to who you are. Not in a way which you think you need to in order to gain the approval of and get laid by women (which is what you're doing right now weather you realize it or not).

 

[Average]

Third, if you don't go out and approach some or aren't very socially active, it will be very difficult to improve anything. Becoming "sexy" and "alpha" from a guy who is not those things already requires lots of action.

If all I have to do is to stop caring and too seek internal rather than external valodation, then wouldn't that eradicate the need for pick up columns? Wouldn't guys everywhere be deemed sexy as a result of their nonchalance? There are tons of people who are loud and hyper and others who are quiet and unnoticed and are all not respected very much. Any thoughts on them?

 

[Average]

The truth to succeed in any goal is to make dogged bold attenpts which include a massive amount of action, failure, and self correction, repeat until success becomes consistent. Therefore, it is almost always imperative to get your mind made up that many people will be alienated by you on your quest and will not give you validation, therefore you must depend on yourself for that validation by not being down on yourself for failure but rather encouraged by the progress you make through subsequent failures.

If you don't care enough about something to take action, well no, that "not give a shit attitude" will never make you sexy. But if you care about something and you pursue it without out giving a shit what others think of you, that will lead to success eventually and when you reach success you will generally be considered either sexy or a leader or dominant in that field. If that pursuit is seduction and social arts, you will inevitably become sexy and alpha and smooth if you so desire.

The first step is changing your mindset to allow yourself to take massive action and not give up.

So to answer your original question is that no, you cannot become a sexy smooth man by changing a few details that, while they may contribute to your overall sexiness, will never match the sexiness of confidence, which can only come through action.
Radeng

Alright. Thanks for the advice. I hear everything your saying but I only have one more question before trying to stop seeking validation since this one question has been plaguing me for a long while. I wanna be a secretive guy, as in, keep the dating scene between me and my girls. I ran it past a friend but he said that keeping secrets would ruin EVERY relationship (be it platonic or romantic) I ever come across with. Would becoming a guy who keeps to himself be an okay thing or is this just a classic case of "alienation before domination" type of thing?