Stages of Desire (2010)

[Lotus]

I was also able to halt on the expectation that every time I saw her that I would give her explosive passion. (I.E HEAVY excitement upon first seeing her that day. including making out, going directly for sex etc.) Bad precedent to set because as chase says if she comes to expect something and you do not provide it. She will become upset and drama will ensue.

I think I'm in a place where I can still apply that to my situation. Normally when she or I pick each other up from the airport it's typically pretty late, but we normally get home and have passionate sex and then go to sleep. I can mix that up and not always push for sex, and sometimes just go to sleep. Do you think that might work?

I am probably going to put up a more in depth post soon on the LTR boards about the different stages of relationships and how expectations are affected, formed, and what you will typically see as a relationship progresses. I touch upon it a bit in my (Why your libido stays high and hers does not post) But I feel I can delve deeper.

Relationships are a fascinating organism.

I'm looking forward to reading it!

I am hugely interested in relationship navigation as well. It seems for whatever reason most guys seem to not look to discuss relationships here, once they get in one. There's a lot of information and discussion on beginning stages but not as much we get deep into them.

Lotus

 

[The Tool]

I think I'm in a place where I can still apply that to my situation. Normally when she or I pick each other up from the airport it's typically pretty late, but we normally get home and have passionate sex and then go to sleep. I can mix that up and not always push for sex, and sometimes just go to sleep. Do you think that might work?

In your case because you are in a LDR having that high passion upon meeting will be an extremely good thing. Keep it up. Showing her your immediate desire shows her how much you have thought about her, and crave her while shes gone. She craves you as much if not more with the distance as well. So she wants to attack you as well

Its when you are within reasonable driving distance that you can tone down that expectation.

How often do you two see eachother?

I'm looking forward to reading it!

I am hugely interested in relationship navigation as well. It seems for whatever reason most guys seem to not look to discuss relationships here, once they get in one. There's a lot of information and discussion on beginning stages but not as much we get deep into them.

Indeed. People in LTR/LDR's is something lacking within this community lol As well as relationship discussion. Its exciting when someone asks a question on the relationship boards.

Thankfully relationship psychology is what I am in school for so I have a lot to share for the people who are interested.

 

[Lotus]

How often do you two see eachother?

We see each other every 2-4 weeks. Never more then a month though. These miles reward cards have been great.

She mostly flies down to see me except for when rates are super expensive. Then I'll get her to split the cost of flying me up. She makes more then I do.... for now

 

[RockstarBalance]

If you're a very busy guy and you're somewhat "could take it or leave it" about relationships, your relationships will tend to settle in about here.

That's when:

• She wants more closeness from you but doesn't always get it
• She wants more affection from you but doesn't always get it
• She wants more sex from you but doesn't always get it
• She wants more time with you but doesn't always get it

It's all about Keeping her on her Toes...