What's up guys, newbie here.
So I need some advice in this scenario here. I'm working at a retail store which just so happens to be filled with female employees, but I've been having trouble nailing down a date here. I've been here for about a month and a half, and I have made little to no (significant) progress. I've asked one girl out so far (didn't put her on the spot or anything so it was smooth), to which she replied "No, I'm not interested." Followed by a "I have a boyfriend." (Can't tell if she really does or not. She certainly seems attractive enough to but like, this doesn't help. If she's telling the truth, I can walk away and pat myself on the back for having the balls to ask her out, but if she doesn't, then it's only hurting my game). I was cool about it and made a joke to play it off, so it wasn't awkward or anything. So that was that and I'm just trying to move on at this. I haven't really talked to her since (except for that one time but she seemed a bit aloof so I backed off) and this happened like last week.
But the thing was, it sure felt like we were flirting. Like there we're moments where I thought to myself, "wait a sec, did she say what I think she said" or "is she touching me over and over again on purpose?", but I can't tell at this point if I was just misreading this all along.
And now I'm not sure if I should ask anyone else out at work. I don't know if she's told anyone else at work (i feel like she has, which isn't a big deal unless it hurts my chances with some of the other girls). And then I'm also in a state of doubt of whether or not girls are flirting with me. I mean I try to assume they are and go for it anyway, but, that'll only take me so far before I start living in delusion. (And I want to ask other coworkers out by the way.)
And there's another girl who's probably into me since she asked for my number and has been texting me nonstop everyday, but, she's not very attractive and I don't want to date her. So, I must be doing something right, right?
Outside of work, I try to cold approach maybe once every week or two (I know, it's not very many but I like to be in a certain state before I approach women, and I may genuinely nor have the time to do it even when I'm in the right state.) Thing is, is that I haven't gotten very far and attraction seems to expire by the time I ask a girl that I meet out. (I.e., I meet a girl working at the mall, bookstore, or gym and we hit it off, but, I don't ask for her number for X reason and I come back a few days later to see that she, most likely, has moved on).
And these lack of results are KILLING me. It's been months since I've last had sex, and this drought is just fucking terrible. I feel like every time I'm about to make a breakthrough, someone crashes in on my party and stomps on my dick.
So I'm just at the end of my rope here. Im about to ask this other girl I met in a social circle out who I'm attracted to and I think the feeling is mutual (not sure because I feel like I can't tell when a girl is subtly flirting at this point), but like, if this doesn't work then feel free to blow my brains guys, because I'm just on the verge of checking out of seduction.
What do you guys do to make breakthroughs, and how do you stay motivated and outcome dependent when it feels like your progress is stalling? Also, feel free to clarify some of the stuff about these girls at work for me.
So I need some advice in this scenario here. I'm working at a retail store which just so happens to be filled with female employees, but I've been having trouble nailing down a date here. I've been here for about a month and a half, and I have made little to no (significant) progress. I've asked one girl out so far (didn't put her on the spot or anything so it was smooth), to which she replied "No, I'm not interested." Followed by a "I have a boyfriend." (Can't tell if she really does or not. She certainly seems attractive enough to but like, this doesn't help. If she's telling the truth, I can walk away and pat myself on the back for having the balls to ask her out, but if she doesn't, then it's only hurting my game). I was cool about it and made a joke to play it off, so it wasn't awkward or anything. So that was that and I'm just trying to move on at this. I haven't really talked to her since (except for that one time but she seemed a bit aloof so I backed off) and this happened like last week.
But the thing was, it sure felt like we were flirting. Like there we're moments where I thought to myself, "wait a sec, did she say what I think she said" or "is she touching me over and over again on purpose?", but I can't tell at this point if I was just misreading this all along.
And now I'm not sure if I should ask anyone else out at work. I don't know if she's told anyone else at work (i feel like she has, which isn't a big deal unless it hurts my chances with some of the other girls). And then I'm also in a state of doubt of whether or not girls are flirting with me. I mean I try to assume they are and go for it anyway, but, that'll only take me so far before I start living in delusion. (And I want to ask other coworkers out by the way.)
And there's another girl who's probably into me since she asked for my number and has been texting me nonstop everyday, but, she's not very attractive and I don't want to date her. So, I must be doing something right, right?
Outside of work, I try to cold approach maybe once every week or two (I know, it's not very many but I like to be in a certain state before I approach women, and I may genuinely nor have the time to do it even when I'm in the right state.) Thing is, is that I haven't gotten very far and attraction seems to expire by the time I ask a girl that I meet out. (I.e., I meet a girl working at the mall, bookstore, or gym and we hit it off, but, I don't ask for her number for X reason and I come back a few days later to see that she, most likely, has moved on).
And these lack of results are KILLING me. It's been months since I've last had sex, and this drought is just fucking terrible. I feel like every time I'm about to make a breakthrough, someone crashes in on my party and stomps on my dick.
So I'm just at the end of my rope here. Im about to ask this other girl I met in a social circle out who I'm attracted to and I think the feeling is mutual (not sure because I feel like I can't tell when a girl is subtly flirting at this point), but like, if this doesn't work then feel free to blow my brains guys, because I'm just on the verge of checking out of seduction.
What do you guys do to make breakthroughs, and how do you stay motivated and outcome dependent when it feels like your progress is stalling? Also, feel free to clarify some of the stuff about these girls at work for me.
