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I went with a friend that was also interested in improving with girls to a local strip mall about ten minutes away from our city. We live in the suburbs where there is very little energy anywhere. Girls our age generally stick to their phones and computers and seem to be scarce in public. It's a rare find to see a girl that is without a boyfriend or her parents, and if that isn't the case, girls are generally with their little groups. This strip mall, despite the scarcity was the only place I could find close enough to my area with a decent amount of traffic from girls my age.
He wanted to observe me, which was fine by me, because his observations would help me fine tune my own approach. My strategy was to open to girls that were out and about on the street walking toward us, since I'm not sure how to pull one off while they're distracted and shopping.
My plan was to open, ask for a name, introduce my buddy and I, and ask them if they wanted to come with us while we drop off job applications in the area. We'd walk and talk while we did so, and I'd ask for the number on a high point.
Group of Girls #1: I opened with what Chase recommended. "Hey, do you know where (obviously close store) is? I'm just kidding, I just thought you were cute and wanted to say hi. I'm AP!" The girl I directed it to was visibly shaken from her auto-pilot, blushed a bit, and began to giggle. Before I could ask for a name or anything though, they retreated into the Victoria's Secret. I'm still debating on whether I should have followed or not
Girl #2: I used the same opener, but also did not get the chance for any introducing. She was in a hurry, so although her head faced us, her body was already in the process of walking away.
Group of Girls #3: Same opener once more, but these girls neither waited for us, blushed, nor giggled. I messed the opener up a bit, so that's probably on me.
After this group, we went into a store to recap on what we had observed. My friend said it seemed like I was being direct and thought it'd be easier to find an excuse to bring them along and then win them over later. I concluded that I wasn't breaking their autopilot well enough and was prepared to try something a bit ballsier.
Two Girls #4: This was probably a missed opportunity. The girls were sitting down when we walked by, but they noticed us before we noticed them. We didn't approach right away (stupid), because I didn't think they were attractive enough, but after some convincing from my friend, we went back and sat down instead of actually approaching (stupid.) When we were there, I heard the girls begin coughing. Then they moved, but not away, just on the other side of us, closer. I knew this was a possible sign of interest, but since I couldn't picture how I'd approach someone sitting next to me, I didn't (stupid.) After five minutes of debating (stupid) I finally decided to walk over to invite them to come with us. I said something along the lines of "Hey, are you two doing anything important right now? I thought you were cute and wanted to see if you wanted to come along with us to hand in job applications. My name is AP and this is So-And-So." They turned us down, to which I responded by persisting. I smiled and said "It'll only be 5 minutes of your time. Promise." Probably should have said something better. Anyway, we got another no, so we went on our way.
Friend's Approach: After seeing me approach four to no success, my friend wanted to try one out for himself. We found a pretty girl sitting on the bricks texting, and if he hadn't called it, I would have tried my original approach again. He walked past her first, worked up his nerve, and then began to talk about trying to find Aeropostal. He asked her for directions, and at the end said "Thanks cutie" and we left.
I should have butt in and at least tried to get her to come along with us, but I didn't. Next time, I definitely will.
My take away from this was that I needed to come across more naturally and break the girls out of their auto-pilots better. I got the feeling that I was rushed and trying to catch their attention before they walked away.
I also noticed after the fact that I hadn't asked any of the girls their names. Stupid mistake, but I'll remember that better next time.
If anyone has any suggestions to help a newbie out with his cold approaching, or saw a flaw in my opener for the occasion, I'd be more than welcome to anything.
- AP
He wanted to observe me, which was fine by me, because his observations would help me fine tune my own approach. My strategy was to open to girls that were out and about on the street walking toward us, since I'm not sure how to pull one off while they're distracted and shopping.
My plan was to open, ask for a name, introduce my buddy and I, and ask them if they wanted to come with us while we drop off job applications in the area. We'd walk and talk while we did so, and I'd ask for the number on a high point.
Group of Girls #1: I opened with what Chase recommended. "Hey, do you know where (obviously close store) is? I'm just kidding, I just thought you were cute and wanted to say hi. I'm AP!" The girl I directed it to was visibly shaken from her auto-pilot, blushed a bit, and began to giggle. Before I could ask for a name or anything though, they retreated into the Victoria's Secret. I'm still debating on whether I should have followed or not
Girl #2: I used the same opener, but also did not get the chance for any introducing. She was in a hurry, so although her head faced us, her body was already in the process of walking away.
Group of Girls #3: Same opener once more, but these girls neither waited for us, blushed, nor giggled. I messed the opener up a bit, so that's probably on me.
After this group, we went into a store to recap on what we had observed. My friend said it seemed like I was being direct and thought it'd be easier to find an excuse to bring them along and then win them over later. I concluded that I wasn't breaking their autopilot well enough and was prepared to try something a bit ballsier.
Two Girls #4: This was probably a missed opportunity. The girls were sitting down when we walked by, but they noticed us before we noticed them. We didn't approach right away (stupid), because I didn't think they were attractive enough, but after some convincing from my friend, we went back and sat down instead of actually approaching (stupid.) When we were there, I heard the girls begin coughing. Then they moved, but not away, just on the other side of us, closer. I knew this was a possible sign of interest, but since I couldn't picture how I'd approach someone sitting next to me, I didn't (stupid.) After five minutes of debating (stupid) I finally decided to walk over to invite them to come with us. I said something along the lines of "Hey, are you two doing anything important right now? I thought you were cute and wanted to see if you wanted to come along with us to hand in job applications. My name is AP and this is So-And-So." They turned us down, to which I responded by persisting. I smiled and said "It'll only be 5 minutes of your time. Promise." Probably should have said something better. Anyway, we got another no, so we went on our way.
Friend's Approach: After seeing me approach four to no success, my friend wanted to try one out for himself. We found a pretty girl sitting on the bricks texting, and if he hadn't called it, I would have tried my original approach again. He walked past her first, worked up his nerve, and then began to talk about trying to find Aeropostal. He asked her for directions, and at the end said "Thanks cutie" and we left.
I should have butt in and at least tried to get her to come along with us, but I didn't. Next time, I definitely will.
My take away from this was that I needed to come across more naturally and break the girls out of their auto-pilots better. I got the feeling that I was rushed and trying to catch their attention before they walked away.
I also noticed after the fact that I hadn't asked any of the girls their names. Stupid mistake, but I'll remember that better next time.
If anyone has any suggestions to help a newbie out with his cold approaching, or saw a flaw in my opener for the occasion, I'd be more than welcome to anything.
- AP
