Girl 1: walk right up to no problem, barely any anxiety. Cute little latina girl, her no bra status and too-small shirt distract me but I do my best to keep eyes on her face. Conversation is easy enough, still not so smooth (young man, pace thyself) and I try to initiate a three part yes ladder: "Do you like talking to me?", "Do you like me?", "Do you want to see me again?" In answer to the second question, I receive something I've been receiving for a WHILE now when I ask girls what they think of me: "You're friendly". Yeesh. Friendly is nice but friendly is not sexy. She says she has a boyfriend, I blow past that, but still don't get number.
To improve on: SEXIER: slower, more pauses in speech, more sexy eye contact, more sexy face, think sexy thoughts
Girl 2: little bit of anxiety, but approach. She is taken aback, obviously not expecting to be approached in a grocery store. Maybe I should have addressed her concern: "You probably weren't expecting to be approached while buying ham". Even though she is amicable enough towards making conversation, she is not engaged. She mentions being there with her grandma, I take this chance to make a clumsy qualifier: "Aw, that's sweet". Perhaps I should have said: "I like girls who respect their family. A lot of people don't have a real sense of family anymore". However, I am feeling really friendly again. Course I don't get number.
To improve on: SEXIER, address concern, "I like girls who..." qualifier, figure out a way to stand without looking like you're posturing
Girl 3: cute girl with sister, I presume. Approach, she is taken aback (naturally), deep dive, SHE IS 17! And I don't go for jailbait as nice as her butt was. Also, still too damn friendly. Still wasn't that comfortable with me.
To improve on: SEXIER, perhaps address sister who appeared at the end?
Summary: the only way to be sexier is to start taking risks and perhaps act like an asshole but I'm stuck at nice guy level and I need to dynamite my way out. So it's worth a shot.
To improve on: SEXIER: slower, more pauses in speech, more sexy eye contact, more sexy face, think sexy thoughts
Girl 2: little bit of anxiety, but approach. She is taken aback, obviously not expecting to be approached in a grocery store. Maybe I should have addressed her concern: "You probably weren't expecting to be approached while buying ham". Even though she is amicable enough towards making conversation, she is not engaged. She mentions being there with her grandma, I take this chance to make a clumsy qualifier: "Aw, that's sweet". Perhaps I should have said: "I like girls who respect their family. A lot of people don't have a real sense of family anymore". However, I am feeling really friendly again. Course I don't get number.
To improve on: SEXIER, address concern, "I like girls who..." qualifier, figure out a way to stand without looking like you're posturing
Girl 3: cute girl with sister, I presume. Approach, she is taken aback (naturally), deep dive, SHE IS 17! And I don't go for jailbait as nice as her butt was. Also, still too damn friendly. Still wasn't that comfortable with me.
To improve on: SEXIER, perhaps address sister who appeared at the end?
Summary: the only way to be sexier is to start taking risks and perhaps act like an asshole but I'm stuck at nice guy level and I need to dynamite my way out. So it's worth a shot.
