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Hi guys, made an approach at the gym this morning, wanted to share it, I feel like there's a decent amount to unpack. Will upload this in the journal later as well. Mostly all my approaches are coming from the gym, coffeeshops, elevators, as well as local dining places. Most people are busy studying for finals, and with the semester almost over, there's less good parties to go to, I can't go to bars, not 21, and logistics to take girls on dates are worse. Anyways still deciding to practice where I can before my study abroad semester next semester.
Anyways saw a cute, tall girl at the gym, was taller than me. Saw her at the beginning of my workout, decided not to say anything, needed to focus on workout, and wanted to see if there was perhaps a cuter girl I could approach instead, since I wasn't 100% sold on this girl. Anyways, when I'm waiting for a piece of equipment, I see her at a nearby machine, so I decide to "wander around" a bit walking past her and them some more, then when I go back to my original point, I decide to comment on her shoes.
A couple of takeaways I had is that I'm definitely getting better at some aspects, but running into lots of girls who say they have a boyfriend. While some of them might actually have a bf, I know that I'm not that unlucky with my luck of the draw, and that I still need to improve my game. Also, the shoes line in the gym is undefeated for me so far, every girl has responded enthusiastically. I think complimenting girls on their outfits or something that they took time to do is a great opener, as long as it's sincere. Either that, or go indirect.
Any other things I can improve on that I'm not seeing? Maybe she did have a bf, but there's a chance she could have used that as a rebuff. In the case she used it to rebuff me, where can I improve to get less of those?
Anyways saw a cute, tall girl at the gym, was taller than me. Saw her at the beginning of my workout, decided not to say anything, needed to focus on workout, and wanted to see if there was perhaps a cuter girl I could approach instead, since I wasn't 100% sold on this girl. Anyways, when I'm waiting for a piece of equipment, I see her at a nearby machine, so I decide to "wander around" a bit walking past her and them some more, then when I go back to my original point, I decide to comment on her shoes.
Me: Hi, where did you get your shoes from?
Her: [Proceeds to explain where, tells me that she plays volleyball]
Me: I love them, [describe a bit more in detail].
At this point we go into a quick convo about the shoes, then I ask her for her name. We exchange names and I give a firm handclasp. In the past, girls would not always return my handclasp, or I would make it into a handshake, but I made sure to keep my hand steady, and give her hand a bit of a squeeze. I also held her hand a bit longer than normal.
We then proceed to talk more about her being a college volleyball player. She tells me that she and the team suck. I decide to throw in a tease, not to make her feel worse, but to encourage her. I told her I believe in her, that she's gonna be the MVP of her team next year, she just has to push a bit harder. I tell her that she better be the MVP or I'm gonna be disappointed. The tease got a very good reaction out of her, she was giggling a good amount.
She then abruptly tells me that it was nice to meet me. In the past, I would have just said the same, and walked with my dick in my hand(not literally). This time, I decide to throw in another tease, acting sarcastically offended, saying that I wasn't done talking with her, I still have to wait for my piece of equipment. She tells me that she has class soon, and a good amount left to go in her workout. I tell her to do her set, and we'll continue talking right after. I proceed to walk a bit away from her, and when she finishes her set, I wait a bit before re-engaging.
I then ask her how much free time she has as a student athlete, and what she does. She tells me that her schedule is actually chill, since she just finished the season. At this point, I'm leading up to the ask, but not exactly there yet. She proceeds to cut me off and says that if I'm hitting on her, she has a boyfriend.
I decide to have a bit of fun with the interaction, and said,
"Who says I'm hitting on you? I could just be trying to make conversation while I wait for my equipment(dude was still not done using it to be fair)."
Her: "I'm just saying."
Me: "Well, to be honest, I was gonna ask you for coffee or ice cream."(Only said this to try to be more upfront, interaction was already failed).
We then say bye to each other, and I continue my workout.
Her: [Proceeds to explain where, tells me that she plays volleyball]
Me: I love them, [describe a bit more in detail].
At this point we go into a quick convo about the shoes, then I ask her for her name. We exchange names and I give a firm handclasp. In the past, girls would not always return my handclasp, or I would make it into a handshake, but I made sure to keep my hand steady, and give her hand a bit of a squeeze. I also held her hand a bit longer than normal.
We then proceed to talk more about her being a college volleyball player. She tells me that she and the team suck. I decide to throw in a tease, not to make her feel worse, but to encourage her. I told her I believe in her, that she's gonna be the MVP of her team next year, she just has to push a bit harder. I tell her that she better be the MVP or I'm gonna be disappointed. The tease got a very good reaction out of her, she was giggling a good amount.
She then abruptly tells me that it was nice to meet me. In the past, I would have just said the same, and walked with my dick in my hand(not literally). This time, I decide to throw in another tease, acting sarcastically offended, saying that I wasn't done talking with her, I still have to wait for my piece of equipment. She tells me that she has class soon, and a good amount left to go in her workout. I tell her to do her set, and we'll continue talking right after. I proceed to walk a bit away from her, and when she finishes her set, I wait a bit before re-engaging.
I then ask her how much free time she has as a student athlete, and what she does. She tells me that her schedule is actually chill, since she just finished the season. At this point, I'm leading up to the ask, but not exactly there yet. She proceeds to cut me off and says that if I'm hitting on her, she has a boyfriend.
I decide to have a bit of fun with the interaction, and said,
"Who says I'm hitting on you? I could just be trying to make conversation while I wait for my equipment(dude was still not done using it to be fair)."
Her: "I'm just saying."
Me: "Well, to be honest, I was gonna ask you for coffee or ice cream."(Only said this to try to be more upfront, interaction was already failed).
We then say bye to each other, and I continue my workout.
A couple of takeaways I had is that I'm definitely getting better at some aspects, but running into lots of girls who say they have a boyfriend. While some of them might actually have a bf, I know that I'm not that unlucky with my luck of the draw, and that I still need to improve my game. Also, the shoes line in the gym is undefeated for me so far, every girl has responded enthusiastically. I think complimenting girls on their outfits or something that they took time to do is a great opener, as long as it's sincere. Either that, or go indirect.
Any other things I can improve on that I'm not seeing? Maybe she did have a bf, but there's a chance she could have used that as a rebuff. In the case she used it to rebuff me, where can I improve to get less of those?
