Tell me it's attainability!

[CaptainHenley]

What the hell is happening lads?

I hope its attainability.

I have been working out, and have an above average body.

My haircut is on point, and gets a lot of attetion and compliments.

Me being lean has revealed a very masculine jawline, which even I didnt know I had.

I have my facial expressions working on my side.

Get compliments on my walk.

I am 6'

People say I have a very strong presence.

I try being a genuine man, and I think I actually am one.

I am the best on my course, dominating on the mental side of things, were even the few girls who see me are in awe.

I see girls being nervous around me.

I see girls being dumbstruck by me in their puppy eyes.

Yet....here I am ...no results.

Asking a girl out while she politely declines, while she keeps being around me, or stealing glances my way later on.

Girls taking a sudden deep breath when I look at them only for them to immediately look down afterwards and not say a word to me.

I dont know what is happening....and I feel so bad that I can't get any results.

The girls I liked and rejected me, I hear about them now doing things with men far less charming, manly , charismatic, handsome etc. than me. Where did I go so wrong?

In the club, where girls 23+ simply love me, 18-23 are far too scared to do anything with me, making out with a bunch of average(if not below average ) guys both in game and fundamentals.( I am 18 btw)

And it's not that I am picky!

If a girl is cute, I like her. As soon as I got rid of bitterness, an ever growing love for women is burning inside me.

I also rarely get cockblocked, either in a club or in the morning. The friends of the girl are always on my side. Once during the day I even had the mom of the girl encouraging her to go out with me!

What am I doing wrong?

Always in my life I struggled to make connections with most people.Yeah sure I know a bunch of indiviaduals and all that, but never am I one of "them".And the young men who are, have better results than me. Obviously, they dont get the "reactions" I get, but they do get the "results", even if they dont seduce a girl perfectly, or maybe they cant keep her or what not, they still get more than I do!

I have to say though, that model-like girls and very ambitious ones are very , very attracted to me.

But they are extremely rare. I have met like ....2? That doesnt leave a lot of training ground for me to work on my skills.

I try to tone everything down, but then I act like an idiot or something, losing my attractiveness, because simply thats not me(by toning down I mean not having as good of a facial expression or as smooth of a movement or walk). I talk as little as possible, but the word of mouth of eg. my achievments in Uni gets around, and I see people feeling distant to me, or in a bit of awe.

To sum up, the only girls I get are on the extremes. I fit the "rebel" identity, maybe a bit on the masculine side of things as well.

And girls on the extremes are either very rare, or I am not really font of them.(never liked blue hair, no matter how fit a chick might be, I am a bit conservative)
or model category, but they . again, are very rare.

What is a man to do?

 

[.....]

Man I'm facing the same problem as well.

It's like they'll give you opportunity once.. .....but might not again. And if they do give.. ..its gonna be with resistance, declining your requests and acting weird. Especially younger girls, they are always on the urge of changing their minds way too quickly. And I'm like.. ....what the fuck is going on.

Flakes.

It definitely sucks. Sometimes it even makes me think.. ..'man, girls are stupid as fuck,'

This post just reminded me a great quote

" with great power, comes great responsibility "

Looks like that's what's happening.

 

[Seppuku]

Hey Captain,

It may very well be a problem of congruence.

A congruence problem would be when your external appearance conveys a certain image of you, like in "Wooow! He must be getting all the girls!". Then, by your demeanor, body language, voice tone and verbal communication, you convey a very different image. Like if your game is not in point. Or if you communicate neediness somehow. Or other subtle things communicated, which contrast with your appearance. Just an extreme example, imagine Sean Connery's James Bond, with the voice of Bugs Bunny.

You need to critically check for yourself if you're one and the same persona, between your appearance and what you communicate. If this is the case, the girls will think you're not the real deal. Congruence is very important - girls always check this. That's also why they do shit tests by the way. Checking that you're really what you appear to be.

Think about it. I don't know you, I don't know how you behave in person with girls. Only you can assess yourself on this and decide if this is the case.

In general, I would recommend you to think how you can better align your communication (verbal and non verbal) with your appearance.

I hope this helps!
Seppuku
PS. It could very well be that you're too attainable. That would also be a congruence issue. Like in "he must be getting all the girls", then "WTF? I can get him easily!"

 

[Seppuku]

If this is the case, the girls will think you're not the real deal.

typo. *If this is *not* the case

 

[JRob]

Hey Capt., try this for one week. Try approaching with the mindset of "I don't care; I'll use this as practice". Then see if you get better results. We're talking cold approach, right? So you can start over with the next girl being whomever you want to be. Do forget to close though. Sometimes us guys get overly invested in beautiful strangers, lose our cool, become nervous, and wreck the vibe. Just food for thought.

P.S.
Seppuku often has great advice.