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The fallacy of seduction success part 3 - What is optimal??

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First definition:

"best; most likely to bring success or advantage:

Several treatment sessions are required in order to obtain optimal results.
Conditions in the chamber are optimal for diffusion, reaching very high temperatures.
Synonym

the best or most effective possible in a particular situation:

Companies benefit from the optimal use of their resources and personnel.
We have found that our workers reach their optimal level of performance around 11 a.m.
Different outsourcing levels may be considered optimal at different times.
See also"


So guys when it comes to seduction optimal comes down to what strategies will give you the highest odds to seduce women or higher odds in social dynamics in general (seduce people in general)


So what is the problem with optimal when it comes to the community.... In the community there are different skill levels, different years of experience, different strengths, different people in general... Some people have wayyyyy better skill set and experience than others so they can do more get away with more, they also are niche specialist (above average in proficiency in specific settings, for example me loud nightclubs and texting)

Something that is good enough does not mean is optimal.... For example i can go from a to b walking, or in bycle, or in a car.... The car would be optimal to get to the place faster, even though i can get to the place with no problems with the bycicle or a walking.

Skills get to the point.... Oh here we go with my analogies:

- Have you ever known a biz that was successful lets say a restaurant, you always good, clean, best food, hottest waiters and hostess that treat you like a king, fast service... Always packed and popular..... Then one day you go, you wait longer than usual in line then you look the other way, next time you go food was not as tasty as what you used to... Then you stop going, your stop going will not affect that biz much INMEDIATELY, you are 1 of 5 k clients.... But little by little things like that keep happening and all of a sudden from 5k clients now the restaurant has 500 clients.... The thing is by the time it got there since they had so many clients managment did not notice rapidly the problems....

- Aol was the instagram of back in the day, it had a chat function, then my space took over, then Facebook took over, then snapchat took over, then Instagram took over, then tiktok took over...In fairness Instagram incorporated tiktok like functions so they adapted they are still in... Imagine if you would have been like i have 100000 friends in myspace, don't mean shit today...

So how does the ^ relate to seduction and the problem with some seducers thinking:

- Sometimes you have top guys when it comes to seduction, that what they are doing works and works good, but little by little does not work AS WELL.... The thing is just like the restaurant when you are good is at times such a slow process that is hard to tell fast, the process when this happens is very slow the majority of the time.... And if you don't get same results since you are good and you believe you do everything optimal anyways, you think is on the girl, or environment vs you have not adapted fast enough.... This makes it even worst...

Let me give you some samples:

- you can see a seducer start getting out of shape getting a little more chubby or a little too skinny, and he will not really see much change in seductions results if any right away (happens slow)

- You can see guys wearing outdated styles in fashion and they will not see much changes in their results they will still get laid and results.... Again is micro stuff that will take time to realize. For example i remember when slim and skinny jeans came out i found them so cringe... I even used to have an opinion opener that went "what you girls think about skinny jeans" the thing is it took 5 years or so for skinny/slim jean to trend.... When i changed my style to the slim jeans chelsea boots (though i originally thought it was cringe) i got better results...

- You can see seducers that are EXTREMELY DOGMATIC, almost like a religion in their seduction beliefs (we all have big egos).. This happened to me years ago, my results went to shit when there were changes in the society that caught me off guard after a year break of seduction there was a point that the physical/minimalistic game style stop working(stop being optimal), i adapted and did more seductive verbal (second gen/teevester stuff) and got laid like crazy, so adapted from suboptimal to optimal.

^ so what is the difference between stuff that the community does vs red pill, black pill looks/seduction angle, so you guys don't think i am going red pill or black pill:

Well, for me sometimes the red pill takes are not a factual angle on seduction but a idealistic one based on erroneous kj at times conclusions.(usually blaming women steaming from hurt/anger point)... This in itself is anti seductive

The blackpill based erroneous conclusion due to extreme kj.... Most of the looks/fundamental angles are steam from actual laziness and cope, vs actual field testing and putting the work in others is cope vs solution oriented, most black pillers don't even put in the work to look decent...

So i seen a recent trend of empty no practical stuff:

- I am 40 plus still get laid with young women ( no how, no lay reports, no field reports, no a to z this how i do it, so you can replicate)

- I still get laid wearing outdated styles.

- Is easier than ever to do this or that (nothing practical, empty words)

- I still wear skinny jeans get laid with no issues.

- I get laid i don't have to say all that is too complicated

you guys get the point...

^no practical, don't mean shit! useless, lazy...

The reason for the post is for me able to link here when someone field test and mentions... "this THE NEW THING i am doing and getting more results" and someone says "I am still doing something old no optimal and i get results" sub communication, I will just link them here.
 

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Great post and going to add another layer because I think it's important to have the discussion.

"Optimal" isn't necessarily the best way for every seducer and should be looked at on an individual case by case basis.

For me "sustainability" is just as important as "optimal". It's how you stay consistent and never have droughts. To give an analogy it's better to go to the gym 3x a week for the rest of your life then 5x a week for 6 months.

my wing goes out 2-3x a week every week until 4am. That's optimal for consistent results (which he gets) but someone who needs more sleep would struggle. As he's gotten older I've noticed even he's slowed down.

Some guys are naturally photogenic and have good texting so they have better ROI with online vs offline. Other guys aren't as photogenic but great in person so the opposite is true. Neither is better than the other, what matters is results for the seducer.

We all have our own advantages that work for us which is why seducers get passionate and at times defensive when their way is questioned lol.

Explain what's working for them along with the pros and cons and most importantly *why* they think it works. People can then pick and choose what strategies they use IF they think it suits their specific situation

There's definitely a shift in the "mainstream" clothing style. Moving towards a baggier street look. However this skews younger which is great if that's what you're targeting (16-21). I've dated girls (Mid-20's) who've straight up said "I won't wear baggy it's too Gen-Z" Lol. What's more important is optimizing for the girls you're after. If it's getting harder to get the girls you're after (even if small) it's good to change so I agree with the overall sentiment of the post
 
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@DoWhatWorks I agree about the sustainability. Learning game is a LOOOONG process, so it's better to not burn yourself.
 

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Many guys confuse optimal with low effort.

Can you get laid wearing out of trend fashion? Yes, you can.
Can you make girls pay for your dates? Yes, you can.
Can you get laid by approaching all girls with the same exact opener? Yes, you can.

Doesn’t mean you should.
 

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Can you get laid wearing out of trend fashion? Yes, you can.
Can you make girls pay for your dates? Yes, you can.
Can you get laid by approaching all girls with the same exact opener? Yes, you can.

Doesn’t mean you should.
Bravo, thank you
 

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"Optimal" isn't necessarily the best way for every seducer and should be looked at on an individual case by case basis.
If a certain personality/look is in style that you're not able to become, then it just sucks to be you.

For an example:
If the trend is that young girls find tattoos hot and for some reason tattoos look horrible on you, then it just sucks to be you. It's sad, but that's life. Doesn't make things subjective. It just means that you (might) have chronic disadvantages over others and your end results will just be worse because of it.
 

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Great post and going to add another layer because I think it's important to have the discussion.

"Optimal" isn't necessarily the best way for every seducer and should be looked at on an individual case by case basis.
Wha????
For me "sustainability" is just as important as "optimal". It's how you stay consistent and never have droughts. To give an analogy it's better to go to the gym 3x a week for the rest of your life then 5x a week for 6 months.
sustainability and optimal are 2 totally different concepts:

What is a simple definition of sustainability?


In the broadest sense, sustainability refers to the ability to maintain or support a process continuously over time
If you go to the gym 3 times a week and you are not doing in those 3 times an optimal workout you just wasting those 3 times a week, come dww you are suppose to get this....
my wing goes out 2-3x a week every week until 4am. That's optimal for consistent results (which he gets) but someone who needs more sleep would struggle. As he's gotten older I've noticed even he's slowed down.
So optimal would be to sleep more, maybe to no drink, maybe to come home a little earlier, maybe to cut down to 1 to 2 times a week etc... Maybe to optimize hormones and energy levels..... (all things i have done)...
Some guys are naturally photogenic and have good texting so they have better ROI with online vs offline. Other guys aren't as photogenic but great in person so the opposite is true. Neither is better than the other, what matters is results for the seducer.

This are things out of your control genetics and photogenetic.. What is in your control is to optimize your pictures based on your genetic profile...... this is cope
We all have our own advantages that work for us which is why seducers get passionate and at times defensive when their way is questioned lol.
you should optimize your advantage i don't get this... read @ulrich post he gets it...
Explain what's working for them along with the pros and cons and most importantly *why* they think it works. People can then pick and choose what strategies they use IF they think it suits their specific situation
yeah but those strategies should be optimal....
There's definitely a shift in the "mainstream" clothing style. Moving towards a baggier street look. However this skews younger which is great if that's what you're targeting (16-21). I've dated girls (Mid-20's) who've straight up said "I won't wear baggy it's too Gen-Z" Lol. What's more important is optimizing for the girls you're after. If it's getting harder to get the girls you're after (even if small) it's good to change so I agree with the overall sentiment of the post
^ i don't care what she says lol, i go what the results on the field, come on brah..... You don't understand how 50 thousand times easier and hotter women you get by just changing the trending style...... I am not kj here, i am talking about from field testing.... It took me a year or 2 to transition i didn't get it....

Here is what i thought was cool, oh i left out the chelseas with skinny jeans, but no point all of you know that shit:
outdated-fashion.jpg


^ that shit stop working in 2023

this is what works today, again this is field tested (look how all those dudes have no girls or hot girls) this is what is working:

trending-style.jpg



Brah i will say field test (though is not just get in a trend, will take a lot of research, understanding the trend/method practice, field test and refine...

optimal is optimal, optima is not coping .... coping is coping no matter how you slice it....
 

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If a certain personality/look is in style that you're not able to become, then it just sucks to be you.

For an example:
If the trend is that young girls find tattoos hot and for some reason tattoos look horrible on you, then it just sucks to be you. It's sad, but that's life. Doesn't make things subjective. It just means that you (might) have chronic disadvantages over others and your end results will just be worse because of it.

no you can still optimize you, your logic is flawed...
 
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Many guys confuse optimal with low effort.

I think they're linked. By being optimal you can put in less effort and get the same/better results.

Don't see a problem with that.

If a certain personality/look is in style that you're not able to become, then it just sucks to be you.

This is over-simplified. For example extraversion helps with getting laid but introverts can clean up with more chill venue selection.

Are you going to tell the introvert, sucks to be you - you can't get laid? Just lol


sustainability and optimal are 2 totally different concepts:

If you go to the gym 3 times a week and you are not doing in those 3 times an optimal workout you just wasting those 3 times a week, come dww you are suppose to get this....

We're speaking past each other. The point I was putting across is there's nothing wrong with being "good enough" if you aren't willing to put in the effort to fully optimize. So long as you're honest with your results.

For me optimization is a scale not 0 or 1

As a personal example I did sub-optimal day 2 lays for years. I didn't want to struggle with the temporary dip in results but I always open/honest about day 1 lays being optimal. Because I was getting results with day 2's I continued to get sustainable results instead of striking out due to frustration. When I was willing to put in the effort and take temporary worse results for better with Day 1 lays I did.


outdated-fashion.jpg


^ that shit stop working in 2023

Respectfully, this was never cool in my book lol. For lurkers I went into outfits in my nightgame guide here

optimal is optimal

Too binary. Again optimal is a spectrum e.g. cool hair cut +1, outfit in-trend +1 now because you don't have tattoos doesn't mean you're 0 lol.

Maybe this is where I'm just different to a lot of seducers, I see nothing wrong with "good enough" and not having to be "optimal"/"perfect"

If my results deteriorate , unlike a lot of guys I'd be open about it & share what I changed to improve results.
 

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P.S I think an underrated part of being a competent seducer is that you can pick and choose what you do/don't do for girls. I may as well enjoy that luxury lol. Your billionaire losing millions was a good analogy. I'm willing to take the hit and if that changes, so will I.
 

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P.S I think an underrated part of being a competent seducer is that you can pick and choose what you do/don't do for girls. I may as well enjoy that luxury lol. Your billionaire losing millions was a good analogy. I'm willing to take the hit and if that changes, so will I.
this is exactly what i was talking about in the post, let me use you as an example you are really rigid and structure once you find a system that is working for you, you keep doing it till stop working... That is fine, but it has it risk......

Lets say for biz you used to do phone sales, and never use the web..... A change in society comes and you are not allowed to do cold calls, you just crash your biz all of a sudden....

If you would have kept doing cold calls, and little by little study web marketing and implement one thing or two.... If a crash happens does not hit you as hard... Cause you were a visionary ahead of the curve..... Get it....

Finally, the pictures i posted was for an analogy, i never dressed in the past like that, nor do i dress for the other dude i say is optimal, it was too make a point...You took it literally, the styles you posted are outdated anyways...
 

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@Skills this is what I mean about us speaking past each other. There’s no disagreement.

Not even in the clothes bit lol

little by little study web marketing and implement one thing or two....

This is similar to how I said optimal is not 0 or 1.

I’ll also be honest enough to admit that small changes little by little is a better way to do it vs my way of changing when something breaks.
 

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I see both sides -

Optimal can be something to strive towards. E.g. you dont like baggy clothes but its the optimum for seducing hot girls? Either change your mind or just accept it will decrease your results by a small amount.

But also, optimal doesnt really help sometimes. If someone doesnt like a style of game, or doesnt feel confident wearing certain fashion, then the optimum solution specific to them is different.

Im not sold on baggy clothes being optimal though, I dont even see an increase of gen z wearing them where I am. Feels like it will be short lived fashion fad.
 

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This is over-simplified. For example extraversion helps with getting laid but introverts can clean up with more chill venue selection.

Are you going to tell the introvert, sucks to be you - you can't get laid? Just lol
What I mean is simply that some things are superior to others for end results.
 

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Im not sold on baggy clothes being optimal though, I dont even see an increase of gen z wearing them where I am. Feels like it will be short lived fashion fad.
Funny how this became a thread largely about baggy.

Let me guess, you're in America? I can tell you it's dominating european gen z. And if you switch now you will be ahead on the trend. Won't be short-lived.
 

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I see both sides -

Optimal can be something to strive towards. E.g. you dont like baggy clothes but its the optimum for seducing hot girls? Either change your mind or just accept it will decrease your results by a small amount.

But also, optimal doesnt really help sometimes. If someone doesnt like a style of game, or doesnt feel confident wearing certain fashion, then the optimum solution specific to them is different.

Im not sold on baggy clothes being optimal though, I dont even see an increase of gen z wearing them where I am. Feels like it will be short lived fashion fad.
Where do you live in Arkansas?
 

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Funny how this became a thread largely about baggy.

Let me guess, you're in America? I can tell you it's dominating european gen z. And if you switch now you will be ahead on the trend. Won't be short-lived.
Women already have it here, still not fully trending with guys, which is good, so you are ahead of trend...same shit that happened with skinny and Chelsea
 

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Funny how this became a thread largely about baggy.

Let me guess, you're in America? I can tell you it's dominating european gen z. And if you switch now you will be ahead on the trend. Won't be short-lived.
Haha I was thinking the opposite. Was going to call this baggy trend an american thing cos I havent seen it at all in Europe.
 

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trends start in Europe, then go latin america/ny/Cali then everywhere else...

Could be, even if it is the new optimum, I'll take the loss on this one 😂.

Even when I hated slim fit clothes, it was because I didnt feel comfy in them and didnt care about looks. But I just opened up good old tiktok to educate myself and these new styles dont look appealing so Im glad that where I live, the good old skinny is still dominant choice even for Gen Z girls
 
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