The strong,silent type

[ashutosh]

Recently i have been using the strong , silent type personality with girls and have yielded effective results.

So my question is can i use that with my male friends because the problem that i run into is that if you are silent they see you as an weak, boring nice guy. So is this applicable with male friends.

 

[Nuncle]

Depends exactly how you do it and whether you can carry it off (which can be learned but takes a lot of effort). You have to combine the silent thing with sometimes not being nice,or at least not caring (as in not reacting to things). You have to be very secure in yourself so nothing gets to you.

What the girls may be responding to is the potential they sense in you to be the Clint Eastwood type, which has not yet been fully realised.

Also the friends presumably know more about you, have known you for longer and are around you for more extended periods of time, so they don't see you as some kind of "dark, mysterious stranger".

 

[Humay]

In my experience, i find that with anyone (friends, family, women), the less i speak, the more they respect me. Even my friends seem to 'chase' me. But once i start talking excitedly again, everyone (even my family) seem to lose their original interest. Curious thing, no?

Thing is, i don't think this will happen with everyone. There are many people who thrive on being funny, talkative and loud, so just experiment with it if you want

 

[dvjackson]

It all hinges on what you say when you do speak. Random girls at bars or wherever are free to assume that there are a ton of interesting and valuable thoughts brewing beneath the surface. Meanwhile your friends are around you enough that they develop an image of who you are based on what you say. If what you say has little value then they're just gonna think of you as the guy who doesn't talk much.

 

[ashutosh]

Thanks guys will definetly experiment it.
But the main problem that I face is when i practice this 'strong silent type' routine, day by day I naturally become very much serious and kind of creepy.