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When I read that, I realized that despite all that I’ve done in the past 9+ months, my mentality is only part of the way to the end goal.
There is a massive difference between being non-needy and outcome-independent, and an abundance mentality. E.g. abundant man is able be dominant and effortlessly control frames, while the first guy has fewer options, such as not reacting to bait, or nexting.
I've been thinking about your comment, @Surveyor, and wanted to elaborate as my mentality has changed.
Level 1 - Man is needy, reacting, wondering why being nice doesn't work. Afraid to let tension build with a woman. Not in control. Friend zoned.
Level 2 - Abundant, non-needy and outcome independent. Realizing there are plenty of fish in the sea. Overcoming one-itus.
Level 3 - Realizing that every girl has a fantasy and wants to be seduced, to feel that thrill, that excitement, that tension, those tingles, the uncertainty. Wants pleasure.
It may come in different flavors and different colors, and perhaps not at 9 in the morning at Boots whilst buying cold medicine. But seduced.
It's like when Neo sees the matrix for the first time. He realizes it is all a facade. That's all the world is, man, a facade where men and women go through their daily grind wishing something interesting and exciting would happen to them. When you realize that everyone going about their day wants a compliment, wants to be appreciated, and wants excitement... wants pleasure... then the world is suddently abundant.
Last week at my coffee shop I saw a waitress gushing about a first date she had. Gushing.
We bring pleasure. Plain and simple.
Keep it up, amigo.
TJR
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