Third date ideas for a guy, 26 M?

[Anonymous]

I am dating this girl and we went out twice in the past 2 weeks.

1st Date: Coffee at Starbucks during lunch hour. We talked and discussed a lot of things (Career, Goals, Life, Family). Kissed on the cheek at last. Went GOOD!

2nd Date (after 1 week): Dinner at Red Lobster (she loves sea food) and after that night walk along a river with some more talks. I managed to hold her hands and kissed on the cheek when I said bye, she kissed me back on my cheek. I know I wish I could have kissed. But she is shy kind of person and she is taking time so I respect her views.

3rd date (4 days after 2nd date): So I am planning to take her to Disney World because she mentioned on the second date that she never went since she was 15.
BUT here is the deal: she is working on a low income level and I am working high as compared. Buying $90 ticket for her to go to Disney seems extravagant to me :\ Don't know you have to help me out. The other idea on the low budget is to take her to a beach view restaurant and then we can walk on the beach and spend the night together by watching a movie at my place.

I am confused

 

[Outrider]

Hey klm,

In my opinion you are moving too slow, if you don't move forward this next date her attraction for you will suffer a LOT. The Disneyland date is a bad idea. You said you have your own place, why don't you invite her over for dinner(cooked or ordered) and movie at your place? That takes away many variables from the date and lets you two focus on each other(also has much better logistics).
Also if you're really shy the movie is a good time to go for the kiss, just hold her hand, comment something about the movie by leaning your head close to her, take your free hand and gently hold her chin and go for the kiss without hesitation.
If she turns her head away refusing the kiss, just smile/laugh and go back to watching the movie, wait a minute(no more than that) and try again.

Good luck on your date!

 

[Anonymous]

Hey klm,

Also if you're really shy

Actually she is shy too. We met through online dating site and she referred over there that after 4-5 dates the deal will be closed by her. That is why I asked. Got the point for Disney, I know we wont be together separate alone, so no sense. Thanks man!

 

[Garrett]

I am dating this girl and we went out twice in the past 2 weeks.

1st Date: Coffee at Starbucks during lunch hour. We talked and discussed a lot of things (Career, Goals, Life, Family). Kissed on the cheek at last. Went GOOD!

2nd Date (after 1 week): Dinner at Red Lobster (she loves sea food) and after that night walk along a river with some more talks. I managed to hold her hands and kissed on the cheek when I said bye, she kissed me back on my cheek. I know I wish I could have kissed. But she is shy kind of person and she is taking time so I respect her views.

3rd date (4 days after 2nd date): So I am planning to take her to Disney World because she mentioned on the second date that she never went since she was 15.
BUT here is the deal: she is working on a low income level and I am working high as compared. Buying $90 ticket for her to go to Disney seems extravagant to me :\ Don't know you have to help me out. The other idea on the low budget is to take her to a beach view restaurant and then we can walk on the beach and spend the night together by watching a movie at my place.

I am confused

Klm9971, you should read the website, because you're basically doing everything wrong bro. You're fitting the mold society wants you to fit into, spending way too much, moving too slow, and you're excited about getting kissed on the cheek? If you said "We had hot steamy sex and I gave her 6 orgasms. Went GOOD!" I'd give you props, but a kiss on a first date is way too slow if you want this to workout well. Sometimes, doing the typical societal thing works, but it rarely does because women are biologically built like us to want to have sex/mate and if you don't give them that and give her what she actually wants, she's going to cut you out via auto-rejection due to you disappointing her. Ideally you want the girl to be more attracted to you than you are to her. Unfortunately, you are 26 so your views are going to be hard to change. What you should have done was gone to Starbucks on your first date, ideally split the bill and not paid for her drink (which I'm assuming you did), then built a connection through deep diving, then taken her somewhere private and had sex with her. Much easier, much faster, more efficient, more effective, more productive, better use of your time, energy, and resources! Logically, you can't argue with that

Cheers,
Garrett

 

[Franco]

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- Franco

 

[northstar08]

Don't do any expensive dates with her until she's yours. If you haven't even gotten a real kiss, then it goes without saying, she most certainly isn't yours.

It will save you a lot of money and grief. Remember, law of least effort. Definitely don't try to throw money on extravagant vacations like Disney just to "impress" her. You can't really invest a whole lot (money, time, effort, emotions) into a girl you haven't slept with yet or else you'll be devastated when it inevitably reaches a bad ending.

 

[Garrett]

Don't do any expensive dates with her until she's yours. If you haven't even gotten a real kiss, then it goes without saying, she most certainly isn't yours.

It will save you a lot of money and grief. Remember, law of least effort. Definitely don't try to throw money on extravagant vacations like Disney just to "impress" her. You can't really invest a whole lot (money, time, effort, emotions) into a girl you haven't slept with yet or else you'll be devastated when it inevitably reaches a bad ending.

I agree with everything you've said man. One thing to add though, I've kissed a lot of girls, and doing that, by no means, ensures she is "yours". You have to sleep with her at least a few times before she's yours and the girl will make it obvious if she wants a relationship, "We look so cute together"

Garrett

 

[Chase]

Kim-

Is there any particular reason why you're not simply having her come over to your place, cooking her dinner, and taking her to bed?

Chase