Too much tension

[corporesano]

Hello guys. Lately, I'm this weird serious, tension-creating guy that people don't realy want to hang out with. Any advices?

Thanks

 

[Sandman]

You might wanna check out this article: https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-not-be-creepy-guy

If you give specific examples such as an interaction where people were weirded out and describe it in detail; you can get more specific advice, plus it's a good exercise to fine-tune your social understanding because it forces you to observe and analyse.

Go and make tons of new friends you learn it as you go along

 

[corporesano]

"dropping the fun and entertaining vibe means people don't want to hang around and that certainly isn't terribly conducive to bedding new girls either". This is definitely one of the issues that got me to some rejections. I guess with all the advices on getting to know people, and don't do too much fun, I went overboard on the serious part. Planning to implement enough fun that people see me more as playfuly than serious. I believe this will be a game changer.

Also, from looking at past interactions, I tend to have this kind of competitive teases. Planning to change that kind of teases with building-up-teases. Guess that I'm missing this positive, warm vibe too, so I'll find some ways to give people value and encouraging them, building them up. Any advice on how to do it ?

PS: I've been searching on playfulness and found this article very helpful https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-b ... youll-need . I found out that my timing actually sucks and I tend to be funny when it's not exactly the right moment. Also, it says what I wrote before : Build Her Up; Don't Tear Her Down. Good stuff.

Thanks for the advice brother