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Understanding why girls don't want to be touch no more

zeroman2

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Hi Beginner here

While working on being more sexy I try to touch people more. Nothing major just a hug every time I greet. But I also understand not every women is the Hugging type. So I start with a handshake at first, then when they are conformable with me I move on to hugs.

I act in theater plays as a hobby. while in one of this plays I met a girl. (all though she is attractive I just wanted to remain friends). so naturally I started her out with a handshake. But I guess when she seen me giving everybody hugs she wanted one so that what I did. But this last 2 days she doesn't want to be Touch no more. She doesn't even want a hand shake. I though that she might not like me more but she still comfortable enough to talk to me at least.

I'm trying to understand this because this is the second time that has happen to me

the first time I was in another production with another girl. She was comfortable with my touch. But after she rejected me when I ask her out I thought we could at least remain friends at least. But once we were another play together I guess she saw me being touching with some other girl and decided to not ever shake my hand. (which is weird because their was this other girl in our play that I barley talk to just flat said to not touch her). And that whole situation got me little upset because they were acting like I'm some sort of sexual deviant.

that one of the reason why I'm a little hesitant to be touchy with a girl. Don't get me wrong most girls are comfortable when I get touchy with them. But for those select few I don't want to come across as some Sexual deviant and make them fell not at ease. I'm trying to come across as a guy comfortable with his sexuality.

So here are my Questions

1.Why do girls that are comfortable letting you touch them at first all of sudden just go cold on you and not even want a handshake? like what are some of the reasons?

2. Is there anyway to fix and/or prevent it?

3. For the future, How do I tell the differences from a girl that want to be touch vs a girl that doesn't?
 

Fuck This

Cro-Magnon Man
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I'm finding the opposite. More women hug me now than 20 years ago.

I think it has to do with the confident or Nervous vibe you give off...

Now these girls may be cautious about being attracted to you, or your level of touch is Needy. If you groped one of their friends, they may be cautious...if you had an unsuccessful escalation they will be cooler. Maybe you are pro longing the hugs too long...maybe you are hugging to much. Hard to say...

I have a social circle with a lot of platonic female friends. When new women come into the circle they see these women giving me hugs, and seem to fall in line. The latest is a new Physical Therapist 15 years younger than I with a boyfriend. When I am feeling cocky and confident and DILLIGAF, and greet them enthusiastically, they seem to initiate the hugs.

Truth is the less of a big deal it is to you the less of a big deal it is to women. I usually extend an arm that would allow a side-hug and many women go for the double grab and bury their face in my chest. (touch of deodorant or shave oil helps, but not too much)
 

zeroman2

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Fuck This said:
I think it has to do with the confident or Nervous vibe you give off...

Now these girls may be cautious about being attracted to you, or your level of touch is Needy. If you groped one of their friends, they may be cautious...if you had an unsuccessful escalation they will be cooler. Maybe you are pro longing the hugs too long...maybe you are hugging to much. Hard to say...

Let's say the problem it's with the confident vibe that I'm giving or lacking. How do I correct that?

Also let's say as I'm coming across as needy. How do I correct that in the a future?
 
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