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I keep meaning to write LRs but then get lazy lol. I thought I could write this one down now that I’m feeling like it and perhaps other recent ones too.
NOTICING HER & THE APPROACH
So I noticed this chick when I was out with a friend. She was walking slowly down the street and I checked her out peripherally. I didn’t get a clear view of how her face looked like but I knew that she was a girl I had to meet. Once she was past us, our eyes followed her as she sashayed her hips down the street. My friend then blurts, “That chick is hot” .I smile to the side and nod but I’d rather not talk about pickup with him. I file her away and promise myself that I’ll go meet her if I happen to see her again lest it haunts me.
That has helped me a lot when my inner voice has talked me out of meeting girls in the past.I kept my promise… and that’s why you are reading this right now
I parted ways with my friend 30 mins later and went back to mine. Got bored and decided to go do some approaches. I went to the same spot we were before with my friend then walked from there to see if there were any girls I’d like to meet. As I’m walking I see the girl from before again but she’s far far far ahead of me.
Some could have talked themselves out of it but that’s not an excuse in my book, if you can walk up to her strategically.I walk swiftly while still keeping my walk sexy . Lucky me, she wasn’t walking fast which made it easier to get close to her. The street was busy at this time and there was a group of three chicks behind her. I start having thoughts of what will people think of me and what if I get rejected in front of the three chicks. These get shut down the moment they come up.
I am on my phone playing some music to come across as casual as possible and just going about my day .You wouldn’t tell I had been following her.My heart starts racing and I take 3 deep inhales and exhales. And just like that my heartbeat slows down and goes back to normal.I tell myself I got this and open her from the side.
While I’m singing along to the music playing ,I do the double take on her and then tell her she reminds me of someone (homage paid).She keeps walking looking straight ahead.I give her the benefit of doubt and thought maybe she didn’t hear me. So I say hey in an authoritative manner and this time she looks at me.I tell her she looks familiar and she looks down smiling.She doesn’t say anything nor does she give me anything to work with at all.Off a quick read, I can tell she’s somewhere in the middle between being shy quiet,and shy excited .
I calibrate my game moving forward after realizing this. Most guys have this one-size-fits-all approach in how they meet and game girls yet the girls you’ll be meeting will be different from each other in one way or another. It’s always best if you can be flexible.
I then asked her if I seemed familiar just to keep moving things forward(yeah my opener was this standard). Of course, she says no since she doesn’t know me.I introduce myself with a handclasp and then ask her how her day is going. Basically small talk,cold read,some little banter and a little deep talk was what I did for the next 7 mins or so .She’s now engaged and the three chicks behind us are giggling …I pick up some positive vibes from them that they want the best for me. Honestly,to an outsider it just seems like two people who know each other catching up.
I could have kept it going and go together with her to hers but I got to know that she has a roommate. And honestly, she hadn’t shown enough interest to go for a SDL.As we are vibing on what songs we like I tell her she seems fun and we should meet up sometime (homage paid).She doesn’t say anything but I assume attraction, take out my phone, and have her put her name and digits in.
We talk some after and I bid her goodbye talking of a friend I was going to meet. Lol I wasn’t going to meet anyone …we were just heading in different directions.
TEXTING
I send her an ice-breaker text an hour later ,chat a lil the next day then ask her out . She tells me she has a tight schedule and I send her the no worries text.
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Met other chicks in the meantime …
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Four days later I hit her up with an impulse text and she tells me what days she’s available. We agreed on what time and date we’ll meet (next day).
The next day I got a text from her that she had something come up 3 hours before our date and asked me if we could reschedule.
“No worries. Let’s do it some other time.”
I get busy for a week or so then I hit her up again with a flake reversal text (Saturday). She tells me she will make time the “next” week.
“Cool no biggie…text me when you’re free then and we’ll set something up. Or else I may check in at some point”.Credit where credit is due.
She texts me two days later early morning letting me know that she’s free. We agree on meeting up later in the day.
MEET & THE PULL
We meet and I pull her back to my place. While it’s generally not good form to go for deep talk during the pull, I use that as an opportunity to deep dive her and set frames early in advance before we get to my place.
She wasn’t talking that much so I did most of the talking . She would open up a little but not launch into a long talk about stuff if you know what I mean. I run the good lover gambit on her and she agrees with what I’m saying when I ask to hear her thoughts on it.
We make it to mine(7-10 min walk from hers) and I pour us a glass of red wine. She is sitting on my revolving chair and I tell her to lay back on bed with me which she does immediately. We talk about what she does and whether she sees herself doing it forever, what her childhood was like,her passions, dreams, etc. Just basic stuff that I wouldn’t want to bore you with.
We talk about travel and adventure which I qualify her on then ask her if she’s spontaneous. She says she doesn’t think of herself as such. I could have disqualified her with a ‘that’s sad and all’ but instead I got her to qualify by telling her that I bet she has a spontaneous side and talked about how most people who are adventurous are also spontaneous. She now agrees that she’s indeed spontaneous.
We talk about games too which she’s a big fan of. I actually got her to play a challenging one on her phone for a change in the seduction. I just couldn’t keep talking and talking about sex all the time or that would have inflated its power nor was I going to keep asking her questions every time which would just have bored us out.I reward her while she’s at it(she’s that good at it). Overall, this was good for compliance if you ask me. If she did it herself and got distracted, that would have been bad for the seduction (most of the time when she can’t put her phone down it is)
She plays it for a while laying on me, as I touch her now and then. Fluff talk a bit before I have her get off me.I then run the secret house gambit on her and talk about the sexy hot guy in the closed room towards the end. I have her imagine the guy being one that she liked from a romance movie…describe to her that he’s everything she has always wanted in a guy lol while stressing discretion,non-judgmental,low-keyness, and liberation frames.
She says she would have done nothing and walked out of the room as much as I had stressed consent(not a good sign). I get curious as to why and she says she would have flown back to her country (had set up the isolated house in her dreamplace)... since the guy won’t care about her and they don’t even know each other. I reframe that with what if she connected with the guy before/ afterward on a deeper level and that the guy flew her out, or paid her a visit if she wanted to see him again. This time she agrees and says she would have gone for it.GREAT!
I then fractionate out with talk about the weather and other topics then circle back to the secret house gambit just to set the frame harder in her mind that I get where she’s coming from with not hooking up with the sexy hot guy in the closed room.I do this by cold reading that she values trust and comfort and then running the trust and comfort gambit on her.
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So far I have done a good job of making her feel allowed now I need to build her desire.
At some point during our convo, she talked about her life being boring( can't recall what I asked her for her to say that) and I used the prove-it frame buster…turns out she actually does fun things. I agreed with her though that life can be boring at times and do a short version of this. That’s not a gambit… I just wanted to get to the sexual frustration gambit seamlessly by bringing up women's sexual lives while I was at it.Helps avoid her thinking I'm following a script by dropping gems about sex and all continuously lol.I then transitioned to the gambit fully by telling her I had a chat with a friend, Diana, about how most women are bored and frustrated with their sex lives. Then get her curious as to why I think how women will be always sexually frustrated.
I take my time contrasting the good lover with the bad lover . I build up the good lover more and more as I describe him as having self-control and being in control of her orgasm. I also talk of how bad the sex can be with the bad lover (good lover was the second to talk about). Cap it off in the end with sex with the good lover is always preferable as much as she may be frustrated that he can’t keep going on and on and on. Also talk about orgasms too when I get her curious about the 8 orgasms which she wasn’t aware of(most chicks aren't). I run the gambit on her while having her count them with her fingers. Compliance
Now one may wonder why all these gambits and I’ll say it’s better to prime her for what’s to come later from the start and preempt LMR rather than having to deal with it later during the seduction.
Credit to Alek btw for all the sex talk gambits I used.Your stuff rocks, man.
ESCALATION
So far I haven’t picked up any hookup signals off of her but I had a gut instinct she was already sold on me and we didn’t need any further talk .I put on a flick and we go under the covers …don’t think I watched the flick that much cause I was running my hands up all over her body at the time, getting her all ready and used to my touch. I broke the escalation at some point and go use the washroom.
I come back and act like nothing happened. I run my hands over her upper body then switch to her pussy. No resistance whatsoever so I take her pants off.
POST-SEX
I was gentle with her throughout.While she didn’t resist at all I could tell that she’s been with a few lovers.She seemed quiet post sex and I reassured her that I’m the last guy that would think of her as easy or slutty just because we got together that fast(we got together an hour and 40 mins later after getting to my place).I in fact I respect it that she would go for a guy like me, I tell her so.
I then set a serious verbal expectation since she makes for a good gf . She will have to undergo some passive screening nonetheless.I also get that she has been with two lovers post coitus …my guess was right.We go for another round, cuddle some after …then she leaves.
Sent her an after-sex text almost an hour later after we parted ways.Will get her out again soon …see how this goes.
She seems already comfortable around me and I chuckled and asked her about it when escorting her back to her apartment building.She said that there are strangers you can trust and feel comfortable around even after having met them while there are strangers you can't which was what I had told her when reframing the sexy hot guy. Funny how girls just link the lover traits to you when you are doing a good job with the gambits .Not to brag but I've had girls say they would want to be with me in a red sensual room or ask me if I would desire being in one.
This far though I believe if you have worked yourself into being a good lover overall what you are really doing with the gambits is describing yourself.
LESSONS/OBSERVATIONS
...
Honestly , the articles are lessons themselves. Check them out
Chad Tyrone
NOTICING HER & THE APPROACH
So I noticed this chick when I was out with a friend. She was walking slowly down the street and I checked her out peripherally. I didn’t get a clear view of how her face looked like but I knew that she was a girl I had to meet. Once she was past us, our eyes followed her as she sashayed her hips down the street. My friend then blurts, “That chick is hot” .I smile to the side and nod but I’d rather not talk about pickup with him. I file her away and promise myself that I’ll go meet her if I happen to see her again lest it haunts me.
That has helped me a lot when my inner voice has talked me out of meeting girls in the past.I kept my promise… and that’s why you are reading this right now
I parted ways with my friend 30 mins later and went back to mine. Got bored and decided to go do some approaches. I went to the same spot we were before with my friend then walked from there to see if there were any girls I’d like to meet. As I’m walking I see the girl from before again but she’s far far far ahead of me.
Some could have talked themselves out of it but that’s not an excuse in my book, if you can walk up to her strategically.I walk swiftly while still keeping my walk sexy . Lucky me, she wasn’t walking fast which made it easier to get close to her. The street was busy at this time and there was a group of three chicks behind her. I start having thoughts of what will people think of me and what if I get rejected in front of the three chicks. These get shut down the moment they come up.
I am on my phone playing some music to come across as casual as possible and just going about my day .You wouldn’t tell I had been following her
.My heart starts racing and I take 3 deep inhales and exhales. And just like that my heartbeat slows down and goes back to normal.I tell myself I got this and open her from the side.While I’m singing along to the music playing ,I do the double take on her and then tell her she reminds me of someone (homage paid).She keeps walking looking straight ahead.I give her the benefit of doubt and thought maybe she didn’t hear me. So I say hey in an authoritative manner and this time she looks at me.I tell her she looks familiar and she looks down smiling.She doesn’t say anything nor does she give me anything to work with at all.Off a quick read, I can tell she’s somewhere in the middle between being shy quiet,and shy excited .
I calibrate my game moving forward after realizing this. Most guys have this one-size-fits-all approach in how they meet and game girls yet the girls you’ll be meeting will be different from each other in one way or another. It’s always best if you can be flexible.
I then asked her if I seemed familiar just to keep moving things forward(yeah my opener was this standard). Of course, she says no since she doesn’t know me.I introduce myself with a handclasp and then ask her how her day is going. Basically small talk,cold read,some little banter and a little deep talk was what I did for the next 7 mins or so .She’s now engaged and the three chicks behind us are giggling …I pick up some positive vibes from them that they want the best for me. Honestly,to an outsider it just seems like two people who know each other catching up.
I could have kept it going and go together with her to hers but I got to know that she has a roommate. And honestly, she hadn’t shown enough interest to go for a SDL.As we are vibing on what songs we like I tell her she seems fun and we should meet up sometime (homage paid).She doesn’t say anything but I assume attraction, take out my phone, and have her put her name and digits in.
We talk some after and I bid her goodbye talking of a friend I was going to meet. Lol I wasn’t going to meet anyone …we were just heading in different directions.
TEXTING
I send her an ice-breaker text an hour later ,chat a lil the next day then ask her out . She tells me she has a tight schedule and I send her the no worries text.
-------------------------------------
Met other chicks in the meantime …
------------------------------------------
Four days later I hit her up with an impulse text and she tells me what days she’s available. We agreed on what time and date we’ll meet (next day).
The next day I got a text from her that she had something come up 3 hours before our date and asked me if we could reschedule.
“No worries. Let’s do it some other time.”
I get busy for a week or so then I hit her up again with a flake reversal text (Saturday). She tells me she will make time the “next” week.
“Cool no biggie…text me when you’re free then and we’ll set something up. Or else I may check in at some point”.Credit where credit is due.
She texts me two days later early morning letting me know that she’s free. We agree on meeting up later in the day.
MEET & THE PULL
We meet and I pull her back to my place. While it’s generally not good form to go for deep talk during the pull, I use that as an opportunity to deep dive her and set frames early in advance before we get to my place.
She wasn’t talking that much so I did most of the talking . She would open up a little but not launch into a long talk about stuff if you know what I mean. I run the good lover gambit on her and she agrees with what I’m saying when I ask to hear her thoughts on it.
We make it to mine(7-10 min walk from hers) and I pour us a glass of red wine. She is sitting on my revolving chair and I tell her to lay back on bed with me which she does immediately. We talk about what she does and whether she sees herself doing it forever, what her childhood was like,her passions, dreams, etc. Just basic stuff that I wouldn’t want to bore you with.
We talk about travel and adventure which I qualify her on then ask her if she’s spontaneous. She says she doesn’t think of herself as such. I could have disqualified her with a ‘that’s sad and all’ but instead I got her to qualify by telling her that I bet she has a spontaneous side and talked about how most people who are adventurous are also spontaneous. She now agrees that she’s indeed spontaneous.
We talk about games too which she’s a big fan of. I actually got her to play a challenging one on her phone for a change in the seduction. I just couldn’t keep talking and talking about sex all the time or that would have inflated its power nor was I going to keep asking her questions every time which would just have bored us out.I reward her while she’s at it(she’s that good at it). Overall, this was good for compliance if you ask me. If she did it herself and got distracted, that would have been bad for the seduction (most of the time when she can’t put her phone down it is)
She plays it for a while laying on me, as I touch her now and then. Fluff talk a bit before I have her get off me.I then run the secret house gambit on her and talk about the sexy hot guy in the closed room towards the end. I have her imagine the guy being one that she liked from a romance movie…describe to her that he’s everything she has always wanted in a guy lol while stressing discretion,non-judgmental,low-keyness, and liberation frames.
She says she would have done nothing and walked out of the room as much as I had stressed consent(not a good sign). I get curious as to why and she says she would have flown back to her country (had set up the isolated house in her dreamplace)... since the guy won’t care about her and they don’t even know each other. I reframe that with what if she connected with the guy before/ afterward on a deeper level and that the guy flew her out, or paid her a visit if she wanted to see him again. This time she agrees and says she would have gone for it.GREAT!
I then fractionate out with talk about the weather and other topics then circle back to the secret house gambit just to set the frame harder in her mind that I get where she’s coming from with not hooking up with the sexy hot guy in the closed room.I do this by cold reading that she values trust and comfort and then running the trust and comfort gambit on her.
-----------------------------------------
So far I have done a good job of making her feel allowed now I need to build her desire.
At some point during our convo, she talked about her life being boring( can't recall what I asked her for her to say that) and I used the prove-it frame buster…turns out she actually does fun things. I agreed with her though that life can be boring at times and do a short version of this. That’s not a gambit… I just wanted to get to the sexual frustration gambit seamlessly by bringing up women's sexual lives while I was at it.Helps avoid her thinking I'm following a script by dropping gems about sex and all continuously lol.I then transitioned to the gambit fully by telling her I had a chat with a friend, Diana, about how most women are bored and frustrated with their sex lives. Then get her curious as to why I think how women will be always sexually frustrated.
I take my time contrasting the good lover with the bad lover . I build up the good lover more and more as I describe him as having self-control and being in control of her orgasm. I also talk of how bad the sex can be with the bad lover (good lover was the second to talk about). Cap it off in the end with sex with the good lover is always preferable as much as she may be frustrated that he can’t keep going on and on and on. Also talk about orgasms too when I get her curious about the 8 orgasms which she wasn’t aware of(most chicks aren't). I run the gambit on her while having her count them with her fingers. Compliance
Now one may wonder why all these gambits and I’ll say it’s better to prime her for what’s to come later from the start and preempt LMR rather than having to deal with it later during the seduction.
Credit to Alek btw for all the sex talk gambits I used.Your stuff rocks, man.
ESCALATION
So far I haven’t picked up any hookup signals off of her but I had a gut instinct she was already sold on me and we didn’t need any further talk .I put on a flick and we go under the covers …don’t think I watched the flick that much cause I was running my hands up all over her body at the time, getting her all ready and used to my touch. I broke the escalation at some point and go use the washroom.
I come back and act like nothing happened. I run my hands over her upper body then switch to her pussy. No resistance whatsoever so I take her pants off.
POST-SEX
I was gentle with her throughout.While she didn’t resist at all I could tell that she’s been with a few lovers.She seemed quiet post sex and I reassured her that I’m the last guy that would think of her as easy or slutty just because we got together that fast(we got together an hour and 40 mins later after getting to my place).I in fact I respect it that she would go for a guy like me, I tell her so.
I then set a serious verbal expectation since she makes for a good gf . She will have to undergo some passive screening nonetheless.I also get that she has been with two lovers post coitus …my guess was right.We go for another round, cuddle some after …then she leaves.
Sent her an after-sex text almost an hour later after we parted ways.Will get her out again soon …see how this goes.
She seems already comfortable around me and I chuckled and asked her about it when escorting her back to her apartment building.She said that there are strangers you can trust and feel comfortable around even after having met them while there are strangers you can't which was what I had told her when reframing the sexy hot guy. Funny how girls just link the lover traits to you when you are doing a good job with the gambits .Not to brag but I've had girls say they would want to be with me in a red sensual room or ask me if I would desire being in one.
This far though I believe if you have worked yourself into being a good lover overall what you are really doing with the gambits is describing yourself.
LESSONS/OBSERVATIONS
...
Honestly , the articles are lessons themselves. Check them out
Chad Tyrone
I balance that with similarity and compliance
.Most of the girls I've gotten together with I focused mostly on arousal while adding in some similarity and compliance tech for good measure .