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Went out to a couple of venues last night to work on pushing my interactions further. Ended up pulling a girl (and her roommate) back to their place.
Started the night by just being social, trying to get in a chatty mood. Finding parking ate up a bunch of my time, so I only had a couple of hours to work with.
First venue was dead, opened one girl with “how’s your night going?”, but I didn’t hook that one.
Switched venues and found one with a much better vibe. Dance floor was at least 2/3 full, three bars all packed with lots of people wandering around. Discovered a new “situational opener” I plan to keep using when the situation arises, as it worked really well.
Girl orders a vodka soda
Me: “hey, is that a vodka soda?”
Her: “yes”
Me: “what kind of soda do they put in there?”
The first girl I asked (who was gorgeous) actually got a bit flustered as she had no idea, and came to the conclusion that it was sparking water
I’m fairly certain that’s inaccurate, but we had a pretty decent interaction after. The opener worked like a charm.
A bit later on I see another pretty girl standing at the end of the bar by herself. I stand next to her and say “do you think we will ever get drinks down here?” She laughed and said “probably not”. Asked if she was enjoying her night, she said not really, her and her friend were stuck talking to some bachelor party group and all the guys were lame and kept following them around. Said I was glad she escaped and I told her a story of a time my buddy ran into his ex at the same bar, and she followed us around everywhere but eventually they ended up back together. True story. She is making really strong eye contact with me at this point and I am holding it right back. I gave her some very light kino on the arm a couple times during the story and it was met with no resistance.
At this point the bartender takes her order and what does she ask for? A vodka soda! I hit her with the same question “what kind of soda is in a vodka soda anyways?” and she laughs a bit and says “idk… toxic chemicals”. We get our drinks and I say “cheers to your toxic chemicals!”
She starts asking about me and what I do, I have a couple videos on my phone that showcase what I do, which led to some interesting conversation. Find out she just turned 23, I gave her a happy belated high five, but held on to her hand and interlocked fingers for just a bit. Again, no resistance. Pretty sure she was into me at this point.
Asked what her favorite place she ever travelled was and why, and we shared some stories of traveling to Europe and the west coast. At this point she points and says “there’s my friend and those guys from the bachelor party”. I see the friend start to walk over. This is the part I always fumble, and dammit I am not losing another girl to the group. I immediately put my hand out to the friend and introduce myself, then in a funny way turn back to my girl and say “I never introduced myself to you either”. She laughed and we made a formal introduction. I held her hand just a bit longer than usual, and again, no resistance.
I turn back to the other girl and say “your friend here is really cool! We’ve been talking about how much fun you must be having with the bachelor party group” then I immediately ask “what brings you guys out here tonight? Celebrating a belated birthday?” My idea was to solidify the fact that I was already in with the group dynamic, and try to build a friendly rapport with the friend. And it worked. I leaned back against the bar and just kinda bs’ed with both of them, found out where the friend went to school. I kept using light kino on the one I was interested in.
All of a sudden one of the bachelor party guys comes over and says to the girls “want to go to the dance floor?” I just ignore the question and say “what’s up man, I’m JT, who are you?” he replied and I’m like “cool man super nice to meet you” then just went back to talking to the girls. He hovered for a bit then asks again “you girls want to do to the dance floor?” I look at my girl, she looks back at me and says “not really” and I was like “yeah me neither”. Ignored the guy and at some point he slinks away. Felt bad blowing him out, but the last thing I wanted was to take them into a chaotic environment with more dudes in the mix. In hindsight maybe I should have pawned the friend off on him. Oh well.
Continue getting to know the girls and the friend decides to go mingle. By this point the lights are coming on and the bar staff are starting to herd people towards the door. I ask my girl “what are you guys doing after this?” She says “probably have a drink back at my place”. I said “that sounds like a lot of fun”, then stared at her like “you know what to do…” yep, sure as shit she says “want to come with us?” and of course I said yes. She said “let’s go get my friend” who I see is now talking to a different group of 4-5 guys.
We go over there and right away I just start saying what’s up to the guys, being cool with them. I really don’t want them to derail my plans. Get the friend, we head downstairs so we can get an uber. Of course the guys show up, as well as the original dance floor guy, and they’re asking the girls to come back to some after party. I look at the friend and say “no, we’re ordering an uber right now. Take his number if you want.” See, I’m not evil, but it’s late, I’m old, and I don’t want to get roped into some sausage fest after party. And the girls had no intention of splitting up.
Finally get in the uber, I sat middle between the two, and the friend keeps talking to me, I think my girl was getting annoyed. I made a point to give her some attention and some more touches, and luckily it was a very quick ride.
Got back to their place, was poured a very strong drink (yuck, I don’t drink much), and got comfy on the couch with my girl. She asks if I’ve seen x movie, I say no, and she puts it on. Now I’ve got my arm around her, playing with her hair, she seems to be loving it. The roommate keeps coming out to see what we’re watching, and I wish she would just leave as she seems to be annoying my girl. Oh well. She finally does leave, so I start ramping up the physicality. No resistance until I go on for the kiss. She kisses back, but then pulls away and says “no you need to see this part”. She’s like… really into the movie, or maybe was nervous about kissing a strange guy in her living room. She was very comfortable talking about sex, so not sure about that.
This repeats itself a couple of times, very comfortable with touching but couldn’t get her to hard make out with me. I get up to take a dump and when I come back she is asleep. Dammit. Messed that one up big time. That’s that, figure I’ll just cuddle up with her and maybe we can bang in the morning. Problem is I have stuff to do in the morning, so when I woke up she was still asleep, and I couldn’t get her to wake up. She just mumbled stuff.
Left my gloves there (cheap $5 pair, don’t care if I never see them again) so I am going to message her tomorrow and see if I can come get them. If she replies I’ll just try and re-game her. If it was just meant to be a hookup and I botched it, so be it. Great learning experience and seems very repeatable. I should have asked if she had a tv in her room and said we should lay down and watch the movie in there. Then escalated hard. Won’t make that mistake twice.
Started the night by just being social, trying to get in a chatty mood. Finding parking ate up a bunch of my time, so I only had a couple of hours to work with.
First venue was dead, opened one girl with “how’s your night going?”, but I didn’t hook that one.
Switched venues and found one with a much better vibe. Dance floor was at least 2/3 full, three bars all packed with lots of people wandering around. Discovered a new “situational opener” I plan to keep using when the situation arises, as it worked really well.
Girl orders a vodka soda
Me: “hey, is that a vodka soda?”
Her: “yes”
Me: “what kind of soda do they put in there?”
The first girl I asked (who was gorgeous) actually got a bit flustered as she had no idea, and came to the conclusion that it was sparking water
I’m fairly certain that’s inaccurate, but we had a pretty decent interaction after. The opener worked like a charm.A bit later on I see another pretty girl standing at the end of the bar by herself. I stand next to her and say “do you think we will ever get drinks down here?” She laughed and said “probably not”. Asked if she was enjoying her night, she said not really, her and her friend were stuck talking to some bachelor party group and all the guys were lame and kept following them around. Said I was glad she escaped and I told her a story of a time my buddy ran into his ex at the same bar, and she followed us around everywhere but eventually they ended up back together. True story. She is making really strong eye contact with me at this point and I am holding it right back. I gave her some very light kino on the arm a couple times during the story and it was met with no resistance.
At this point the bartender takes her order and what does she ask for? A vodka soda! I hit her with the same question “what kind of soda is in a vodka soda anyways?” and she laughs a bit and says “idk… toxic chemicals”. We get our drinks and I say “cheers to your toxic chemicals!”
She starts asking about me and what I do, I have a couple videos on my phone that showcase what I do, which led to some interesting conversation. Find out she just turned 23, I gave her a happy belated high five, but held on to her hand and interlocked fingers for just a bit. Again, no resistance. Pretty sure she was into me at this point.
Asked what her favorite place she ever travelled was and why, and we shared some stories of traveling to Europe and the west coast. At this point she points and says “there’s my friend and those guys from the bachelor party”. I see the friend start to walk over. This is the part I always fumble, and dammit I am not losing another girl to the group. I immediately put my hand out to the friend and introduce myself, then in a funny way turn back to my girl and say “I never introduced myself to you either”. She laughed and we made a formal introduction. I held her hand just a bit longer than usual, and again, no resistance.
I turn back to the other girl and say “your friend here is really cool! We’ve been talking about how much fun you must be having with the bachelor party group” then I immediately ask “what brings you guys out here tonight? Celebrating a belated birthday?” My idea was to solidify the fact that I was already in with the group dynamic, and try to build a friendly rapport with the friend. And it worked. I leaned back against the bar and just kinda bs’ed with both of them, found out where the friend went to school. I kept using light kino on the one I was interested in.
All of a sudden one of the bachelor party guys comes over and says to the girls “want to go to the dance floor?” I just ignore the question and say “what’s up man, I’m JT, who are you?” he replied and I’m like “cool man super nice to meet you” then just went back to talking to the girls. He hovered for a bit then asks again “you girls want to do to the dance floor?” I look at my girl, she looks back at me and says “not really” and I was like “yeah me neither”. Ignored the guy and at some point he slinks away. Felt bad blowing him out, but the last thing I wanted was to take them into a chaotic environment with more dudes in the mix. In hindsight maybe I should have pawned the friend off on him. Oh well.
Continue getting to know the girls and the friend decides to go mingle. By this point the lights are coming on and the bar staff are starting to herd people towards the door. I ask my girl “what are you guys doing after this?” She says “probably have a drink back at my place”. I said “that sounds like a lot of fun”, then stared at her like “you know what to do…” yep, sure as shit she says “want to come with us?” and of course I said yes. She said “let’s go get my friend” who I see is now talking to a different group of 4-5 guys.
We go over there and right away I just start saying what’s up to the guys, being cool with them. I really don’t want them to derail my plans. Get the friend, we head downstairs so we can get an uber. Of course the guys show up, as well as the original dance floor guy, and they’re asking the girls to come back to some after party. I look at the friend and say “no, we’re ordering an uber right now. Take his number if you want.” See, I’m not evil, but it’s late, I’m old, and I don’t want to get roped into some sausage fest after party. And the girls had no intention of splitting up.
Finally get in the uber, I sat middle between the two, and the friend keeps talking to me, I think my girl was getting annoyed. I made a point to give her some attention and some more touches, and luckily it was a very quick ride.
Got back to their place, was poured a very strong drink (yuck, I don’t drink much), and got comfy on the couch with my girl. She asks if I’ve seen x movie, I say no, and she puts it on. Now I’ve got my arm around her, playing with her hair, she seems to be loving it. The roommate keeps coming out to see what we’re watching, and I wish she would just leave as she seems to be annoying my girl. Oh well. She finally does leave, so I start ramping up the physicality. No resistance until I go on for the kiss. She kisses back, but then pulls away and says “no you need to see this part”. She’s like… really into the movie, or maybe was nervous about kissing a strange guy in her living room. She was very comfortable talking about sex, so not sure about that.
This repeats itself a couple of times, very comfortable with touching but couldn’t get her to hard make out with me. I get up to take a dump and when I come back she is asleep. Dammit. Messed that one up big time. That’s that, figure I’ll just cuddle up with her and maybe we can bang in the morning. Problem is I have stuff to do in the morning, so when I woke up she was still asleep, and I couldn’t get her to wake up. She just mumbled stuff.
Left my gloves there (cheap $5 pair, don’t care if I never see them again) so I am going to message her tomorrow and see if I can come get them. If she replies I’ll just try and re-game her. If it was just meant to be a hookup and I botched it, so be it. Great learning experience and seems very repeatable. I should have asked if she had a tv in her room and said we should lay down and watch the movie in there. Then escalated hard. Won’t make that mistake twice.
