Way too gun shy: miss my chance with two girls

[zeroman2]

Hi beginner here

So I have a female friend (the girl that got me started on Girl Chase but I have since moved on). Asked me to be a scene partner for acting and I agree.

We went to rehearse our scene at a community center on Friday. In a private room (which I believe is a dance studio). We hug quite a bit nothing special. Until brief moment, were I hugging from behind. I touched her stomach and a little bit of her breast. She moan, laid her head back against my chest. Me being gun shy at the peak of our sexual tension I break it by saying that we should keep going over our scene. Reason why I was kind of overthinking it. I was Saying to myself this room might have cameras. (Also she has a boyfriend who I don't care about). Since then she wanted to something else and said that we could do our scene next year.

Just the next day. I was doing acting gig where I met up with another girl. We met two times prior it was short but we always hit it off. This time on my third meeting we really hit it off. I deep dive like crazy. We both said we make a great team. We even took a picture together. she said we look cute. I even told her what she was doing that night she said she was doing nothing.

When we were leaving she offered me a ride to my place. I knew this might be an escalation window. But I was thinking to myself my house is a mess and did I build up enough sexual tension. With that I didn't pull the trigger and told her it was fun talking to her. (She also has a boyfriend but it's a long distance relationship so I don't count it).

Point is even if I was justified not pulling the trigger I was still gun shy. This would have been the forth time of my life where I knew I had a chance but didn't pull the trigger. I told you two of them above the other two times.

1. Girl drop me off after dinner and a movie I didn't pull the trigger because at the time I didn't have a bed and I didn't want to have sex in my parents bed.

2. A girl I met at the bar being real flirty. Said she broke up with a boyfriend. I hesitate to move forward because I didn't have a condom at the time. (I always have condoms after that. I went into much detail on my field report)

When it comes to times of the moment of Truth I overthink things. Always thinking things need to be maybe not perfect by at least somewhat ideal.

My question is
1. How do I overcome this mindset of being gun shy and overthinking things.

2. Just for extra should I message girl #2. The one that drop me off.

 

[ElderPrice]

Sounds like you don't have a plan and you don't exert much effort to take control of these situations, or your life in general. What are you after? Sex with your female friends here? What's your plan on making that happen? Where do you want the sex to happen? How are you two going to get there? Are you meeting there or meeting somewhere else first? How are you getting to and from places? Are you leading these girls during these interactions?

Build a simple base plan for how you want to reach your goal, then do it. Read up on Chase's date templates.

 

[Fuck This]

Basically you are worried about the consequences of failing.

Let me clue you in....These women KNOW you have a hard on for them. Sorry you aren't that good at hiding it. So own it, and express it.

Here is the thing....If you try and fail, you will have the same personal outcome as you have now. Blue balls and disappointment. BUT you know where she stands and you don't have to wonder like you are doing now.

Some times it just takes saying "Fuck it" a few times and going for it, accepting that it is ok to fail. Don't be surprised when a girl reacts positively to your approach. I know it will surprise you but just keep rolling.

 

[zeroman2]

Basically you are worried about the consequences of failing.

Let me clue you in....These women KNOW you have a hard on for them. Sorry you aren't that good at hiding it. So own it, and express it.

Here is the thing....If you try and fail, you will have the same personal outcome as you have now. Blue balls and disappointment. BUT you know where she stands and you don't have to wonder like you are doing now.

Some times it just takes saying "Fuck it" a few times and going for it, accepting that it is ok to fail. Don't be surprised when a girl reacts positively to your approach. I know it will surprise you but just keep rolling.

Thank you fuck this. I promise myself the next time it happens I won't think about the consequences.