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"What are you doing? We are just friends" -> What are your thoughts on the options you have to say?

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Space Monkey
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I imagine most likely this means you screwed up earlier and didn't move fast enough or screen her better to know this would happen beforehand. I also imagine, you are basically screwed at this point.

But just as a thought experiment, let's say you got to this point anyway.


Him: Tries to kiss her, she pulls, and then he tries manhandle kissing her
Her: Physically pulls away anyway. "What are you doing? we're just friends"

Some options I thought off:
a. Laughing and then going back to the conversation
b. Going back to the conversation as if nothing happened without acknowledging what happened
c. Manhandle kiss harder originally to get a kiss the first time you did it and then go back to the conversation
d. asking her what she is thinking now

1. What option (especially one not listed above) would you go for? What did you say the last time a woman told you this and what did you say? I think the chase amante article recommended trying to kiss her no matter what with manhandling and then going back to the conversation. But let's say you didn't do that (didn't have Chase's nerves or were too afraid of legal consequences)- now what?

2. I think 60 years of challenge recommended stuff like telling her you jerked off to her and then jerking off there. Maybe with enough alcohol, I could do that, but my instinct is that I would not be able to do something like that in a real situation. Unless the vibe was very sexual, I'd be too afraid of a sexual harassment charge or her telling people how weird it was. Have you ever tried what 60 years of challenge said?
 

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Cro-Magnon Man
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1. Take a step back
2. Statement of empathy
3. Change the topic
4. Try again later when you have escalated the vibe
No one have better advice here than good old Julien

However, I would already have done that after the first rejection. She wasn't ready for the kiss but you still tried to force it.
Another thing set a sexual frame. You have failed at that since she says that you guys are just friends.
 

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Cro-Magnon Man
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No one has ever changed a woman's mind who utters the words "No, we are just friends" . If there is EVER a case for sexualizing your interaction it is this one where you are sure she wants you to come in out of the friendzone. First things first don't ever attempt a kiss that could be rejected. Basically build up and build up the sexual tension so she is aching to "just kiss you dammit..."

Through
Abundant Nonsexual Kino with brief flitting forays into more erogenous touching but not grossly inappropriate.
Eye contact I mean right into her SOUL....
Breathing in synch
words spoken close to her ear that evoke emotion

This is one of those times I agree with the "don't kiss until you are at the sex spot." because she needs to accept that first kiss and be hungry for more and more. Nothing is worse than having that kiss she has been aching for and then have to return to the public image and the feeling fades away...

If there is any discomfort on her part in the lead up she's not ready. I mean you are friends. You can tell each other anything...
 
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