Gentlemen,
There's a lot of variables when it comes to trying to put a "number" on success rate, and not all of it even comes down to how well you are executing. It might even come down to preference.
For example, you might be a guy who has close to zero approach anxiety whatsoever, so you're capable of approaching tons of women regardless of whether or not they've given you approach invitations. If you do this, your "hit" ratio with landing a woman will obviously go down: you're just approaching because you're maximizing your opportunities, but you're not necessarily waiting for
good opportunities.
I'm not a mass approach guy myself. I very,
very much apply
"sniper" style game, and I do so because I'm extremely effective at reading interest from women. I'm very capable of reading a woman's body language and knowing if she's going to be receptive to me or not. Some of that comes from my personal intuition, and the other part of it comes from experience. If you're extremely good at reading interest from a woman before you even approach her, then naturally your "hit" ratio is going to be much, much higher than most guys.
However, running sniper-style game might also mean that you're approaching a lot LESS women than the guy who mass approaches. While you both might ending up sleeping with a girl on a given day/night, the guy who's mass approaching might have had 50 approaches while the guy who's "sniping" girls based on approach invitations might only have 5 approaches. So you might ask yourself, "Who performed better that day?"
In my opinion, both guys performed equally well. They both got laid that day.
So this is why "numbers" isn't something you should completely rely on to judge how well you're doing. It may just be the case that one guy is very good at reading approach invitations, so while he may not approach very many women, the ones he
does approach usually respond warmly because he was able to read that she would be receptive before approaching. On the other hand, there might be a guy who has zero fear of approaching women, so while he maybe doesn't take the time to look for approach invitations, he approaches enough women in a small time period that he eventually gets one to hook.
If you feel like you're in the range of 50-100 approaches before you're able to sleep with a girl, then yeah, that's probably a good indicator that you have areas you can improve upon. Even if you're a "mass approach" type of guy, that number seems quite large to me. As I mentioned earlier, it could also be that you're just starting out and haven't really had enough experience yet to see more consistent results. Until you've gotten a few lays under your belt, then 50-100 approaches might be realistic at the very beginning.
When it comes to finding out where you need to improve,
that can only be done by analyzing all of your data and finding where you are getting stuck the most. Are you capable of getting phone numbers often but can't get dates? Are you capable of getting lots of dates but unable to get the girl home? Are you able to get lots of girls home but then unable to get them to sleep with you? Since there are so many areas a guy can easily get stuck (especially if he's new), it's difficult to give a "cure all" answer to these questions. However, Chase does have
a good article on helping you get past sticking points.
If you are constantly getting stifled at the same area of a seduction, then try to switch things up -- or come back to this website and search for an article that pertains to your sticking point. See if you can find something that might key you in on a specific area where you might be making mistakes, and then if you find something, go put it into practice.
And in the worst case scenario, if you just keep getting stuck and you aren't sure why, post questions/field reports on the boards so that others here can you help you. =)
- Franco
In business and with people. To create this perception, except it's very visible to "experts".
