What is your cold approach banter process?

[KJ Francis]

@KJ Francis (lol, "Keyboard Jockey" now, huh?),

HER: Marriage and kids have never been on my to do list... What about you?​

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YOU: Kids? Yeah maybe in 15 years. Marriage, maybe if it was 100 years ago ​

Then you shag her.

Then you set some open relationship expectations.

Relationship Expectations: Kill Some Impulsiveness and Set Some of These Instead

There's something in a normal relationship called the "honeymoon period." The honeymoon period is the period in the relationship where both parties are blissful and neither one feels the other can do any wrong and everything about one another seems special and amazing and great. Your girl thinks...

www.girlschase.com

e.g., post-sex, "It's really cool that we can just be together like this, without any kind of pressure or expectation about some kind of defined relationship or set of rules or anything."

At some point if she tries to define the relationship, you just frame everything as being about her: "Look, I don't want to put any restrictions on you. I want you to be free to see whomever you want, in whatever kind of capacity you want. Trying to control you or put limits on you is the last thing I want." She will understand from the subtext that what you are telling her applies to both of you.

Chase

I was always a KJ... Now just with a disclaimer haha. It's a good reminder to approach every time I get a failed login as Francis and have to add it in the username!

Thanks so much Chase. This has been really helpful.

At least I've got some chase framed callback humor in the back pocket should she ever reappear.

 

[Sidhrnsksijf]

I'm not an uber funny guy and I'm pretty new to teasing women.

I go for simple teases that I can use in alot of settings.

When I approach a girl that looks busy scrolling, studying, or working, I'll say "you looked so into it I practically had to drag you out of <what you were doing/your boring day>". It also sets the frame that this conversation is the highlight of her monotonous day that she shouldn't want to miss out on.

The seasons change alot here. I can say to any girl "Wearing <clothing item> this early, I wonder what got you ahead of schedule". She can laugh and justify herself, practically forcing her to contribute to the conversation and comply talking about herself.

The one I fall back on the most is this. I point out a decision she made, usually different from mine, and then say "humph, maybe you know something I don't". Ex: Drinking coffee at night, maybe you know something I don't.

 

[DonGately]

Ran into a very fit blonde girl, 5' 4", with her friend in a coffee shop yesterday. She was wearing a MLB hat of one of the local teams. So I asked her if she was a sports fan or was that just fashion/bad hair day. She laughed and said she was, in fact, a huge sports fan and showed me her phone screen of her on the beach with a future HOF football player. Her friend smiled at us and moved on to order while we chatted. Turns out she's 22, just moved back from college and still at home, clearly desperate [unspoken] to find a guy to take her out of her dreary life. She's also interested in fashion and we chatted about that very briefly.

Not wanting to stale the convo, I told her to put her number in my phone, 'and I'll text you after work.'

You don't have to be a texting master to succeed at this, I certainly am ~average at it:

'Hi, it's Don from the coffee shop'
-Hi! How was your day?

'I'm doing awesome thanks, on my way home from work, gotta walk my dog'
-Finished work here, just hanging with my family. I really do love local sports teams

'Who's your favorite team, and do you like mojitos?'
-My fave team is XYZ and I love mojitos

'Let's pick a night to meet for cocktails, when are you free'
-Gotta take my younger siblings out for Halloween tomorrow, I could do something friday if you're available'

'Friday night sounds perfect, let's meet in area A at Bar B [in well-known nice area] at 7pm'
-That is perfect, I'm putting this in my calendar right now.

I'll ping her tomorrow to confirm around 2pm or so, is my usual move esp for first meetups.

Older guys - young women do not care how old you are if you are smart/funny/can banter. This girl can tell I am at least 20+ years older than her even if I look younger than my age.

 

[KJ Francis]

Ran into a very fit blonde girl, 5' 4", with her friend in a coffee shop yesterday. She was wearing a MLB hat of one of the local teams. So I asked her if she was a sports fan or was that just fashion/bad hair day. She laughed and said she was, in fact, a huge sports fan and showed me her phone screen of her on the beach with a future HOF football player. Her friend smiled at us and moved on to order while we chatted. Turns out she's 22, just moved back from college and still at home, clearly desperate [unspoken] to find a guy to take her out of her dreary life. She's also interested in fashion and we chatted about that very briefly.

Not wanting to stale the convo, I told her to put her number in my phone, 'and I'll text you after work.'

You don't have to be a texting master to succeed at this, I certainly am ~average at it:

'Hi, it's Don from the coffee shop'
-Hi! How was your day?

'I'm doing awesome thanks, on my way home from work, gotta walk my dog'
-Finished work here, just hanging with my family. I really do love local sports teams

'Who's your favorite team, and do you like mojitos?'
-My fave team is XYZ and I love mojitos

'Let's pick a night to meet for cocktails, when are you free'
-Gotta take my younger siblings out for Halloween tomorrow, I could do something friday if you're available'

'Friday night sounds perfect, let's meet in area A at Bar B [in well-known nice area] at 7pm'
-That is perfect, I'm putting this in my calendar right now.

I'll ping her tomorrow to confirm around 2pm or so, is my usual move esp for first meetups.

Older guys - young women do not care how old you are if you are smart/funny/can banter. This girl can tell I am at least 20+ years older than her even if I look younger than my age.

Great tease! It's like inquisitive interest and a non-offensive tease neg all in one. Very efficient texting as well. Do you sometimes banter over text if attraction/compliance are lower than this case, or always text for logistics?

Were you in a suit and tie?

She's obviously really into you from that texting. Have fun running the bases to home plate then locking her in the batting cage or whatever kinky shit you've got in store haha