What's a good way to respond to a cancelled date without seeming too easy?

[perpetualsun]

I've had a couple cases over the past few weeks where a girl cancelled a date on me last minute. It's usually along the lines of "too much work", "too sick", etc etc. I know that Chase, in one of his articles, suggest to make it seem like its no big deal. So usually what I've been texting back goes along the lines of:

Me: "Hey no worries, hope you feel better "/"Don't worry about it, we'll find another time"

Then after, I usually give a day's silence before texting back again to reschedule in order not to seem too eager.

However, I've always had a nagging feeling that something like "Hey no worries, hope you feel better " might make it seem like I'm too nice of a guy. Do you guys have any thoughts on this? What's a good strategy you have found to respond to last minute flakes while conveying 1) you're not a pushover, 2) you're a very confident guy who doesn't get affected by it?

Thanks!

 

[Estate]

This probably isn't a hard and fast rule but this is at least how I tend to work now.

If you get a cancellation, flake, delay, basically anything that's going to inconvenience your plan, obviously, don't act butthurt over it.... ever!
But don't be OVERLY nice about it either. To be honest, if a girl cancels, more times than not it's beacuse she's not interested enough. Sometimes she might be genuinely sick or busy, in which case girls tend to be a little more apologetic and offer an alternative...

... no alternative, no date.

Usually... I say usually because I know some guys will leave it a bit and text her again. I used to do that but I've kinda stopped. If someone cancels plans on me, then I take it they are not interested. If they are apologetic and/or offer an alternative I'll give someone the benefit of the doubt.

2 replies have worked best for me:
- No reply. She bailed. Whatever, delete her number.... 50/50 chance she'll text you in the next 2-3 weeks. Act cold at first.
- "No worries, take care." That's it. You acknowledge it, you're polite but it conveys you know she's bailed and are not butt hurt but neither are you interested in working out another plan. If a girl is actually disinterested and bails on plans, all the "Hope you're well... SMILEY FACE SMILEY FACE" in the world won't help you. Too nice. With this too, there's a 50/50 chance she contacts you at a later date.

I won't re-initiate contact. In my eyes, she passed up her opportunity.It's on her to reschedule if her excuse is genuine.

With all the above, I'm not saying that persistence won't ever get her to reschedule. Sometimes it will, sometimes it won't. But even if she does agree to reschedule later, I've found the actual date to a wet rag. So that's why I personally tend to just leave the ball in her court rather than persist.

 

[Skid]

Gonna agree with estate. If she doesn't offer an alternative in my experience its a lost cause - I'm currently experimenting with different things to see if I can change my results with girls that do this. Nothin so far. I've tried never texting the girl again , tried re initiating after a week or a couple of weeks. Even tried cancelling pre-preemptively when it seems like the girl is a no show. Also agree with the smiley faces - made a personal rule never to send girls smiley faces : I just think they are too approval seeking.

So general rules when she cancels don't reply or reply with something neutral like no worries. Then follow up 2 days later at the earliest - 7 days at the latest. You may want to experiment with phone calls as well. I for one have definitely avoided calling girls due to nerves and I plan to give a shot with the next couple of girls :

https://www.girlschase.com/content/tacti ... -t-pan-out