Hey there fellas,
Excited to be on the forum and have been meaning to make my first post for a while. Have a few thoughts I’ve been wanting to express, and perhaps this post is more for me than anyone else. But if you’re interested to keep reading then feel free to say hello or share any thoughts.
While I first read The Game about a decade ago it wasn’t until late 2013 that I began actively studying and learning how to get better with women. I remember first reading the game and being turned off at how some of the guys seemed a bit manipulative. Although after leaving corporate America in 2012 and getting involved in a lot of “universe”/change programs I was excited to see someone was actually teaching people how to get better with women.
I’ve always had the advantage of being naturally physically good looking, which often made it even more confusing why I didn’t seem to do so well with girls. Having since had more success, I can affirm first hand that game and the ability to communicate is far more important in my opinion.
Have studied several teachers over the year before finding Chase, and signed up for Chase’s Mastery program at the beginning of this year. I enjoy learning from many different teachers and like that they have all had good information to share, although have been particularly impressed by Chase and have enjoyed studying and applying his content. Have made a lot of progress, and still have a lot of room to grow, but excited about what I’m learning and my persistence in putting it into action.
I like how Chase breaks things down into parts, and perhaps this is a good time to take stock of where I’m at.
The Pros:
I’m fortunate to have a good build and facial features, and have gotten a lot of my other fundamentals in place. Not sure that GQ is going to be calling me for a cover shoot, although I’ve developed my own style (clothing-wise) that goes over well, and especially on nights where I’m feeling confident and really displaying good posture/body language I get a lot of girls looking at me and making eye contact.
I also do a lot of meditation/breathing/and spiritual work, which at times really has a powerful impact. While I’d like to be able to go out, meet, and pull more often, I have noticed this year that once I do meet girls and start dating them, they really like me.
Have worked a lot on my personality and how I interact with people these past few years, and I’ve been finding that especially once I sleep with a girl, lately they really want more and several have wanted me just exclusively.
While I spent most of my life thinking of myself as a rather heavily depressed introvert, I made a commitment about a month and a half ago to go out and do something social at least once per day, and during that time I’ve gotten a lot better at approaching.
Suppose I’ve been informally doing the Newbie exercise, and when I actually think back about where I was 2 months ago, I have made a lot of progress. For the most part at this point, if I see a girl I think is cute I usually find a way to at least go up and talk to her. Which sometimes is more smooth than others, but I figure at least any time I approach on some level I’m getting better.
The Challenges
Like mentioned before, depression is something I’ve struggled with in the past. Fortunately I’ve made conquering this the focus of my life, and I think my plan of going out at least once per day does help with this a lot (as opposed to just isolating myself when I used to feel down).
At least when I go out it forces me to get out of my head, and I’ve seen that even when I’m not in the best mood, once I get somewhere I’m getting pretty good at being able to let go of whatever’s been on my mind and be present. Also appreciated hearing about how Chase used to face this same issue and overcame it, and think about that often.
Based on all of the above, I feel like my current area of focus is a combination of continuing to just learn how to feel good each day, and then getting better at the conversion between the approach and pulling. Again, feel like I’m getting better at approaching, and once I have them hooked they really like me, so bridging that gap and building the attraction is what I’m currently focused on getting better at.
In terms of a plan of how to get there, I am continuing to go out each day, and I also spend about an hour a day going thru Chase (or related) material. Have also met a few other folks on the board who are here in Denver, and it’s been helpful to have someone to discuss things with.
Sometimes I get a bit frustrated because I want to be farther along than I am. I can see the good parts happening, and when I’m really on I can be quite charismatic. So perhaps patience is going to be more helpful than anything else. I’m sleeping with a girl I met at a swinger party who’s also cool with me picking up other chicks even when she’s there (was close to converting a 3some last week - at least I invited the other girl to join us even if she declined
so there are good things happening.
Anyway, appreciate this board, appreciate chase, and appreciate all of the other folks on here. Hope you’re having a good journey and I am looking forward to being more involved here, and learning and sharing with everyone.
If you got this far, thanks for reading. And if you have any feedback or thoughts I’d love to hear from you.
Chris
Excited to be on the forum and have been meaning to make my first post for a while. Have a few thoughts I’ve been wanting to express, and perhaps this post is more for me than anyone else. But if you’re interested to keep reading then feel free to say hello or share any thoughts.
While I first read The Game about a decade ago it wasn’t until late 2013 that I began actively studying and learning how to get better with women. I remember first reading the game and being turned off at how some of the guys seemed a bit manipulative. Although after leaving corporate America in 2012 and getting involved in a lot of “universe”/change programs I was excited to see someone was actually teaching people how to get better with women.
I’ve always had the advantage of being naturally physically good looking, which often made it even more confusing why I didn’t seem to do so well with girls. Having since had more success, I can affirm first hand that game and the ability to communicate is far more important in my opinion.
Have studied several teachers over the year before finding Chase, and signed up for Chase’s Mastery program at the beginning of this year. I enjoy learning from many different teachers and like that they have all had good information to share, although have been particularly impressed by Chase and have enjoyed studying and applying his content. Have made a lot of progress, and still have a lot of room to grow, but excited about what I’m learning and my persistence in putting it into action.
I like how Chase breaks things down into parts, and perhaps this is a good time to take stock of where I’m at.
The Pros:
I’m fortunate to have a good build and facial features, and have gotten a lot of my other fundamentals in place. Not sure that GQ is going to be calling me for a cover shoot, although I’ve developed my own style (clothing-wise) that goes over well, and especially on nights where I’m feeling confident and really displaying good posture/body language I get a lot of girls looking at me and making eye contact.
I also do a lot of meditation/breathing/and spiritual work, which at times really has a powerful impact. While I’d like to be able to go out, meet, and pull more often, I have noticed this year that once I do meet girls and start dating them, they really like me.
Have worked a lot on my personality and how I interact with people these past few years, and I’ve been finding that especially once I sleep with a girl, lately they really want more and several have wanted me just exclusively.
While I spent most of my life thinking of myself as a rather heavily depressed introvert, I made a commitment about a month and a half ago to go out and do something social at least once per day, and during that time I’ve gotten a lot better at approaching.
Suppose I’ve been informally doing the Newbie exercise, and when I actually think back about where I was 2 months ago, I have made a lot of progress. For the most part at this point, if I see a girl I think is cute I usually find a way to at least go up and talk to her. Which sometimes is more smooth than others, but I figure at least any time I approach on some level I’m getting better.
The Challenges
Like mentioned before, depression is something I’ve struggled with in the past. Fortunately I’ve made conquering this the focus of my life, and I think my plan of going out at least once per day does help with this a lot (as opposed to just isolating myself when I used to feel down).
At least when I go out it forces me to get out of my head, and I’ve seen that even when I’m not in the best mood, once I get somewhere I’m getting pretty good at being able to let go of whatever’s been on my mind and be present. Also appreciated hearing about how Chase used to face this same issue and overcame it, and think about that often.
Based on all of the above, I feel like my current area of focus is a combination of continuing to just learn how to feel good each day, and then getting better at the conversion between the approach and pulling. Again, feel like I’m getting better at approaching, and once I have them hooked they really like me, so bridging that gap and building the attraction is what I’m currently focused on getting better at.
In terms of a plan of how to get there, I am continuing to go out each day, and I also spend about an hour a day going thru Chase (or related) material. Have also met a few other folks on the board who are here in Denver, and it’s been helpful to have someone to discuss things with.
Sometimes I get a bit frustrated because I want to be farther along than I am. I can see the good parts happening, and when I’m really on I can be quite charismatic. So perhaps patience is going to be more helpful than anything else. I’m sleeping with a girl I met at a swinger party who’s also cool with me picking up other chicks even when she’s there (was close to converting a 3some last week - at least I invited the other girl to join us even if she declined
so there are good things happening.Anyway, appreciate this board, appreciate chase, and appreciate all of the other folks on here. Hope you’re having a good journey and I am looking forward to being more involved here, and learning and sharing with everyone.
If you got this far, thanks for reading. And if you have any feedback or thoughts I’d love to hear from you.
Chris
