Who am I

[TheBrian]

Hello guys

I am not the one to write a wall of text but I've only now come across this board and decided to join since i have been on imageboard detox for about a year now and this is board is about something i actively try to achieve offline anyway, but nevermind all this, my real question is, in what position i truly stand in this whole concept?, the thing is I have recently become quite attractive, women seem to adore me often times but i never had the chance to actually achieve anything by it, mostly due to stressfull life circumstances, and now they have changed, I am free to become what this board is made for, I am a well built, 5,7 ft, very attractive face, great education and work potencial (i.e somewhat well off finacially), soon will get a noice car, couple of days ago was awkwardly described as an "intellgent alpha" by a friend, don't get me wrong I do not at all describe myself as such, not to people that is, at heart that is what I truly feel however and this is not something other such "alpha" males would describe me, speaking from past conversations with aquitancies of that type that is, my most devastating downfalls are very difficult to overcome however, a year ago I have conquered depression, obesity and most of all, fear of women, thanks to a lengthy period in millitary, thank god for all of this but where do I go from here? i have approcahed countless women in millitary (around 40) no kidding, one way or the other, that is not full on obvious but many where and many where under different techniques, i went from a desperate naïve fatso to a well defined "fuckboi" all in that span of time, women always liked me, one even fell in love with me whilst i only started, other flirted for lengthy periods of time, slowly climbing the ladder I had the hottest girl in my deparment have wierd sex tenions battles with me, even some actual deep conversations in messaging on a couple of occasions, but she knew i was broke and lived far from her and she couldnt accept it, I am not short on experience you see but i only now entered this world of actually being desired by women , i am still a kissless virgin, which is fine by me but it just means how little i truly know, What are your thoughts on my situation and what should i add to my routine and so forth?

 

[Toby2030]

As far as I understand on what you wrote, you don't get results?
Getting great results is hard. A lot of people talk about being outcome independent, but it's a waste of time. You have to become result-oriented. Fuck your past the reason why it's hard to change is that the human body hates change. People don't care about your past they care about how you behave right now. I like how you ask "Who am I". The funny thing is, that you are who you behave as. It's your ego that try to assign you as a "solid" and permanent thing that won't change. Act like a rockstar, get treated like a rockstar really makes sense.

There's two things that come to mind when I read this.
1. When you talk to girls in the future you should always be closing. When you approach on the street go for an instant date, if she's not ready for that take the number. You should work on handling numbers, setting up dates. More or less, the bigger the quantity the larger chance you have for a result. Seed the pull idea, frame it as awesome, qualify her on the idea, lead hard, and babystep towards somewhere you can close. You should ALWAYS be closing and moving the conversation forward.
2. Escalate, escalate, escalate. This might probably be your biggest sticking point. You should always aim to escalate the vibe and create as much sexual tension as possible. Stop apologizing for being a man and OWN the tension and your intent. Create a physical stack that can make you learn to escalate physically in small steps. Misinterpret shit sexually, create a "we" frame and escalate it, talk about sexual topics. Slow down the rhythm, hold eye contact with "fuck me eyes" with close proximity, lips on her ear etc. You have to work on raising the sexual tension between the two of you. That's the goal of every single escalation move you make.

You will get rejected but it's a big part of this, and it doesn't matter. About a month ago, I approached a girl, got harshly rejected, approached her later the same night and pulled her. Rejection doesn't matter.