Expectations Will a girl take care of a guy when his health fails?

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Most of us will get old, and that usually means eventually becoming less independent. Do you worry about having a girl around to take care of you when that happens?

My parents married close to a century ago, and in their final days, the more able one looked after the other. This is to me one important benefit of monogamy.

Suppose now an able-bodied guy in his 80s gets himself a girlfriend who is his junior by, say, 20 years. There's a good chance his health fails before hers and that he'll need someone to look after him in various ways.

Maybe it's just errands or chores, but at worst if he's totally disabled or out of it, it could get pretty laborious. But I guess it helps if she's got healthcare experience!

I would expect that since they are in love, they would take care of each other to the end no matter what. But I've been asked, how do I really know?

So, do you guys think it would work the same even for a couple that has not been together most of their lives? Where the woman had been married before?

Let's say this is the first and only girl he's been intimate with in over 35 years, and he's monogamous to her. Does that help make her more likely to be devoted in the long run?

 

[empath]

Most of us will get old, and that usually means eventually becoming less independent. Do you worry about having a girl around to take care of you when that happens?

My parents married close to a century ago, and in their final days, the more able one looked after the other. This is to me one important benefit of monogamy.

Suppose now an able-bodied guy in his 80s gets himself a girlfriend who is his junior by, say, 20 years. There's a good chance his health fails before hers and that he'll need someone to look after him in various ways.

Maybe it's just errands or chores, but at worst if he's totally disabled or out of it, it could get pretty laborious. But I guess it helps if she's got healthcare experience!

I would expect that since they are in love, they would take care of each other to the end no matter what. But I've been asked, how do I really know?

So, do you guys think it would work the same even for a couple that has not been together most of their lives? Where the woman had been married before?

Let's say this is the first and only girl he's been intimate with in over 35 years, and he's monogamous to her. Does that help make her more likely to be devoted in the long run?

Lot of variables, and the answer is it depends on the girl.

My 2 girlfriends took very good care of me while I was sick on multiple occasions, even though they knew I might leave them.

They scored quite high on conscientious (specifically, dutifulness, self dicipline) of big 5 personlity trait.

There is one more thing though how in love is girl with you.

If both are there you need not to worry.

My mom is same, even if my dad is neglectful of her but she will take care of him.

So, I would rather not worry about it, screen my girlfriend/wife for these factors and caring nature and giving personlity.

Also, dont go for more wild girls, girls who are self centered etc.

Also, they will expect you to take care in similar fashion.

 

[KJ Francis]

I would expect that since they are in love, they would take care of each other to the end no matter what.

Keep in mind a lot of us are in our 20s and 30s here. The guys whose profiles say "tribal elder" or have the red icon are typically older and have the most experience from their own lives and knowing relatively more seducers with more life experience.

But from my perspective between seeing how attachments form, vs. knowing family and such, there is a big difference between "love" and being "in love". The latter is a fleeting thing discussed in a book called The Passion Trap. I don't see how you could really have a woman truly love you to the extent that she would care for you in a way that doesn't come with a payoff through your will unless you had built up far more emotional investment in each other through an actual long life together that was formed by sexual connection in the beginning and was a shared journey of your declining sex drives and health.

I do believe in love. My grandmother would stop at my grandfather's photo every time she passed it in the hallway. She believed she would see him in heaven and would pray/speak to him every single night. He provided for her because they had the shared mission of raising a large family. If you do not have the certainty in your heart that she is with you for your love and are posting on a forum out of doubt, I think you already know your answer deep down.

To me, the answer is to pay a psw.

Let's say this is the first and only girl he's been intimate with in over 35 years, and he's monogamous to her. Does that help make her more likely to be devoted in the long run?

Absolutely not.

 

[Warped Mindless]

If the nurse you pay for is a woman.

But seriously, it should be a goal of yours to make enough money in that such a situation you will always be taken care of. Even if you have a woman who deeply loves you and wants to take care of you, that doesn’t mean she’s fully qualified to do what needs done.