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Okay, here's a weird question for y'all.
At my martial arts class there's this woman who is giving me some super obvious IOIs. She smiles in my direction, makes eye contact several times (and from my peripheral vision I sometimes notice her staring in my direction). When I made an offhand comment that she did a particular exercise correctly, she almost fell over herself thanking me. And today while I was waiting in line for the bathroom she walked past me and said "have a nice evening" in a way that communicates that she's interested, and she flipped her pony tail while doing so with a smile. I mean, if that's not obvious, I don't know what is.
This has been going on for a few weeks and I'm beginning to think this is a bit awkward, so I'm thinking maybe I should ask her out for a drink and attempt to get rid of my V-card with this woman. But, she's always gone really quickly after training. As far as I know, women who like you are supposedly going to make themselves available, but putting themselves in your vicinity and whatnot.
Now, she's a little stodgy and doesn't have great teeth. I would be charitable to classify her as a 6. I am tall, thin (I've been told I am too thin by at least one woman) and have pronounced biceps. I also come across as intelligent to most people (I do indeed have a master's degree). So, could this be an attainability issue? What would be a good way to approach this? I don't want to make too much of an effort, because on one hand I'm not that into her, but I find the idea of having a woman who is really into me kind of hot (and will help me get the experience I crave). On the other hand, I feel that if I do try hard to run after her, I'm chasing too hard which may cause her opinion to flip around and believe I have no value.
Oh yeah, finally: I don't want to make a mistake because this is in my social circle. I don't mind screwing up as much with some random chick I meet on the street, but if I screw up in my social circle it could give me a bad reputation and fuck up future chances with other hot chicks that may join class (there's a nice degree of turnaround, where new people come in about once every two months or so).
At my martial arts class there's this woman who is giving me some super obvious IOIs. She smiles in my direction, makes eye contact several times (and from my peripheral vision I sometimes notice her staring in my direction). When I made an offhand comment that she did a particular exercise correctly, she almost fell over herself thanking me. And today while I was waiting in line for the bathroom she walked past me and said "have a nice evening" in a way that communicates that she's interested, and she flipped her pony tail while doing so with a smile. I mean, if that's not obvious, I don't know what is.
This has been going on for a few weeks and I'm beginning to think this is a bit awkward, so I'm thinking maybe I should ask her out for a drink and attempt to get rid of my V-card with this woman. But, she's always gone really quickly after training. As far as I know, women who like you are supposedly going to make themselves available, but putting themselves in your vicinity and whatnot.
Now, she's a little stodgy and doesn't have great teeth. I would be charitable to classify her as a 6. I am tall, thin (I've been told I am too thin by at least one woman) and have pronounced biceps. I also come across as intelligent to most people (I do indeed have a master's degree). So, could this be an attainability issue? What would be a good way to approach this? I don't want to make too much of an effort, because on one hand I'm not that into her, but I find the idea of having a woman who is really into me kind of hot (and will help me get the experience I crave). On the other hand, I feel that if I do try hard to run after her, I'm chasing too hard which may cause her opinion to flip around and believe I have no value.
Oh yeah, finally: I don't want to make a mistake because this is in my social circle. I don't mind screwing up as much with some random chick I meet on the street, but if I screw up in my social circle it could give me a bad reputation and fuck up future chances with other hot chicks that may join class (there's a nice degree of turnaround, where new people come in about once every two months or so).
While listening to the teacher, she touched me on the arm once or twice (in other words it was completely unnecessary, it could not even remotely be construed as part of the sparring).