Just a quick update. I feel really Zen right now and am noticing a lot more attention from more women. And I'm not even doing anything, really! I'm just not trying so hard anymore, and I think it really helps that women see another woman be touchy-feely with me. That oh so elusive social proof.
I went to my training again today. As I biked into the street, I noticed another woman biking (call her A), and I thought I recognised her but then I thought maybe not, so I just ignored her and kept biking. As I pulled up to the parking lot, she said hi to me (or something) and I said hi back. Then as we walked in I told her about my little accident which caused last week's absense. I think girl A is cool. She's a tough girl, but not exactly pretty or feminine. Mostly because she's thin and bony and a bit of an old face. And I have a hunch she may be gay or bisexual. But I'd still probably do her because I like her attitude
Then I walked in and the married woman (call her B) was there. She looked and smiled at me and then I noticed that she was actually looking next to her to see if there was a spot, which there was. So I put my bag down and stood next to her. She then asked "did you forget?" (about our agreement to spar last Monday). I said I didn't forget and explained the accident. Nothing fancy. She also mentioned that she was going on vacation in two weeks (which she'd told me before). I stupidly asked "oh, where?" and she said the country and said "I already told you". I simply said I forgot (but not in an overly apologetic way). There was another girl (call her C) standing next to her on the other side, who was talking to her a bit and later I joined in on the conversation in a natural way.
When the training started we had to pick a partner and I looked at B and asked her "we?". She looked at some other guy who was asking her to join him already, and then back at me. I motioned her to come and she did. She visibly enjoyed the attention from two men, and she made some comment I didn't quite catch to that effect. The guy ended up with girl C (who is cute, by the way).
Married woman B wasn't very touchy feely today and she spent the first ten or fifteen minutes being distracted by looking at the guy. I ignored it and focused on my training with her. I decided to hang back. I'm not about to chase this woman, goddammit! Besides, simply by standing next to her at the start is enough chasing for one day. She was cold and standoffish. I think it was a physical shit test. I simply remained calm and did not get physical besides what's necessary for the training. Then in the last fifteen minutes or so she started to become physical again. At one point, she hung on my shoulder, remaining in constant contact with me as she walked around me. Crazy! I reciprocated a little bit at one or two points to encourage her, but I hung back for the most part.
When the training ended and we stood in line she whispered / talked to me softly asking if we can spar on Wednesday as well. I said "sure". I could've done that better by making her work for it a bit, or setting a chase frame. But the implicit chase frame I've established today is good already.
I've biked home a few times before with girl C, but today she left without waiting for me. I noted it in my mind, but didn't really get too sad about it. I know she has a new boyfriend anyway, so she's probably not that interested.
While we were putting on shoes and such, girl A (from the beginning) was talking to another woman, and saying that her physical therapist told her that she got ripped in the half year since she's doing this sport (trying to show value, because she knew I was present?). I made a joke to the older woman that girl A "looked like a cute little girl, but she can be mean". In a very nonchalant way. I left, and the other two were ready as well and walked behind me (great subliminal chase frame). As the older woman was talking with girl A, I walked through the door. I thought they were gonna stay, so I let the door fall shut. Almost right in girl A's face, I think (I didn't look back, but I heard her tell the woman she was gonna go, just as the door was about to close). I walked to my bike at a leasurely pace and as I biked off, girl A caught up with me. She asked me about my injury, and I said it was okay. I asked which way she had to go and I said I could go that way as well (which is slightly roundabout, but not so much to make it inconvenient for me). We talked a bit and she told me about her work and her three burnouts "well, not exactly, but something like it". I told her she could tell me more about it later (setting up a future frame). We talked a bit and then we reached a crossing and I said "bye" during what I thought was a pause, but she kept talking. And I said "sorry" (but not in a supplicating way) as I biked off. She trailed like "see you Wednesday!"
Another fun thing is that a girl from work said she was interested in my sport (she's looking for some kind of martial arts as well), and she may try it out. If she's here on Wednesday she'll witness married woman B being all over me, which might carry over into work as well. I've already been slowly getting the reputation of being at least somewhat charming around women, even though this doesn't appear at first sight.
If I keep this up I'll have girls chasing me left and right... Jesus, this is insane. To think that only last week I was still despairing about never getting a girl and then I got invited to this social event by a female colleague, now this. Small things, but they're concrete positive improvements. Baby steps!
