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Kvothe

Modern Human
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2018 was a shitty year for me in terms of actual successes pickup-wise. It was great for everything else. I went to Europe and in my week alone, I had almost 4 chances to get with a girl that I just wasn't able to seize. I graduated school and moved, with a job I like and a team that's great.

Lay Count 2018
New Lays: 0
Lifetime Count: 2
Total dates 2018: 1 or 2?

Top accomplishments
1. Move
2. Get my financial situation in order and have stability of money
3. Built a better fashion sense
4. Started coaching sessions for seduction

This year I want to focus on growth in my career and in pickup, nothing else.
1. At least 1 date/week with a new girl
2. Get above 190 lbs with around 10% body fat
3. Cold approach 5 girls a day
4. Improve fashion
 
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Spyce D

Tool-Bearing Hominid
Tool-Bearing Hominid
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2024 has been a great year learning-wise . But , not much lay wise . I have been paying my dues and going through the grinder.

Top 5 achievements


1. Got date with 4 different girls in February alone.
2. Actually built a social life ( with women ) other than daygame .
3. Cleared my exams . ( It was for a job )
4. Improved my fashion which lead to more women checking me out .
5. Learned the ability to control my emotional self ( but , still not complete)

Top 5 lessons

1. Social circle is a place filled with backstabbers . There are good people too but I don't know how to screen them .
2. Never ever be attached to a girl before date / sex .
3. If I just stay disciplined, results will come . Even though, I am playing this game on a nightmarish difficulty. And I am not even getting lucky like the normies. But , as I keep on pushing through... Results comd .
4. Never trust women to follow through with their word .
5. Over obsessing and over thinking only leads to miserable dating life.


Goals for 2025 .

WI'll post later after a bit of introspection.
 

James D

Modern Human
Modern Human
Joined
Jul 23, 2017
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Top 5 lessons

1. Social circle is a place filled with backstabbers . There are good people too but I don't know how to screen them .
2. Never ever be attached to a girl before date / sex .
3. If I just stay disciplined, results will come . Even though, I am playing this game on a nightmarish difficulty. And I am not even getting lucky like the normies. But , as I keep on pushing through... Results comd .
4. Never trust women to follow through with their word .
5. Over obsessing and over thinking only leads to miserable dating life.
Love these lessons.

On number 4, there's room for some nuance by coming to terms with the nature of women.

I think a better reframe would be "Don't expect women to follow through with their word the same way you'd expect a man to hold on to that masculine ideal."

May your 2025 be kickass. Cheers man!
 

Hue

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
Joined
Sep 21, 2016
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Lay Count (2024-2025)
New Lays: 18
Lifetime Count: Lost Count, I would guess somewhere in the 130-140 range
Total dates 2024: Oof. Idk Probably like 10-15?

Top accomplishments (seduction)
1. Lost and rebuilt a FB / MLTR pipeline 3 times (that shit is harder than I though to maintain and the lessons are valuable)
2. Fucked two different 9's (brunette, voluptuous, very pretty and very feminine)
3. Fucked new 3 girls 36-48 hrs apart from the first hello to the last goodbye
4. Both vacations to my hometown ended in lays (my system is locked in and down for that)
5. Inserted myself in two different social circles as a great fuck

Top accomplishments (life)
1. Found a career path I'm genuinely passionate about that doesn't have me sucking corporate dick
2. Held a decent job for over a year (lol -doesn't sound like much but I legitimately started from nothing in a hyper competitive city. I've had 6 different incomes since moving here)
3. Got in the best shape and physique of my life, HUGE improvement in fundamentals
4. After hitting a new rock bottom from the struggles of leaving my hometown, emotionally got back up again and again to find stability. My self-efficacy is at an all time high
5. Found a strong sense of identity and deep confidence in who I am as a person. I carry myself a lot differently
6. Paid off a shit town of debt and learned to improve my financial discipline (compared to my mid-twenties)

Seduction Goals (2025)
1. Bag a 9 from day game
2. EITHER get 3 MLTR's of 8+ quality OR bag and keep 1 OLTR for a longer relationship
3. Navigate to a upper echelon social circle with naturals who I actually like
4. Manage my reputation to burn 0 bridges while I continue to expand socially
5. Cold approach threesome with 2 8+ quality girls

Life Goals (2025)
1. Pay off ALL my debt
2. Invest 50K in crypto
3. Become an official (on paper) partner at my startup
4. Manage a team a of sales reps at my startup
5. Achieve an income that lets me rent my own place (have no roommates be an achievable goal in 2026 based on income)




This year was honestly a tough one. I fucked up in so many ways, I succeeded in so many ways, it's been a HUGE learning experience both about myself, life, and human nature. I feel so lucky to know that I survived when others didn't, and that I had communities, friends, and family that were there for me when I needed it.

As men we have to rely on ourselves, radically, even if that means jumping into the toughest waters and learning how to swim. And sometimes you ought to just do it if you really want to get great at swimming.

Stay up my brothas, see you on the other side.
 
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