@Starboy
Why is learning to fight a big deal for you? I understand being afraid of confrontation but you don't have to train MMA just to get over the fear. Just be willing to call people out and cut people off if they don't live up to your standards. You don't have to physically tango with someone. A guy I know that doesn't take any bullshit is a skinny Belgian dude, he calls people out and isn't afraid to be angry. He could probably get beaten up but he's never been. If you want to train MMA, do it man! Exercise is always good but do it for the right reasons you know. Knowing MMA will help in a one on one physical fight but it won't help if the other guy has a gun or against a group of people you know.
I guess with fights, it's just I very rarely get into loud arguments or even confrontations with people in daily life. I probably get into more arguments online than I do in real life tbh.
Sure, if you are going to fight you MUST be willing to go ALL OUT. You gotta have the attitude, if I get beat up then it is what it is, but I'm going to put myself fully on the line here.
Will I fight with a homeless guy that verbally assaults me? Lol no
What will I gain from that?
Will I fight with a random stranger when my life is not physically in danger? Most likely not.
Will I fight someone that's making my life difficult at my workplace who I have to see regularly? I won't fight but I will confront them. Will it lead to a physical fight? I hope not but if it does then I guess it happens.
It's just getting into a physical fight with a random stranger when your physical safety isn't under threat, is just such a waste of time and energy and I struggle to see how it would be worth it.
Not to even mention the amount of concealed carriers out there who are just itching to pull their gun out. But honestly I have never been in a situation when I'm with a girl and a guy has tried to fight me physically or directly confront me.
If it does happen then sure, be willing to fight but it's just so rare and direct physical confrontations could usually have been avoided earlier.
Actually I just remembered, there was a guy I knew that got into fights a lot. He would go to the most ghetto clubs in Memphis. I went to one of these clubs ONCE, it was full of thugs and drug dealers. Guys would get bottled and fights were a regular occurrence. The bouncers would just watch and wait for it to calm down because they didn't want to risk making one of the local drug dealers their enemy. Those kind of clubs are full of Tricky Daddy's and Pooh Shiestys. The club is actually closed down now because of a shooting that happened.
Venue selection is also a big reason why I guess fights are rare. If you go to a ghetto club with a bunch of thugs by yourself and try to talk to girls in a socially uncalibrated way (or even in a smooth way but a guy gets jealous) then yes you might catch a beatdown and you should be prepared to defend yourself.