Casual/FWB Beautiful autistic weirdo

[empath]

I think it’s in our heads. At the end of the day we choose to act on them. Nothing moves our hands or mouths but us..
I’m not talking for lack of experience.

I highly respect Chase and the others, and I do agree that there are breakthrough girls, chicks that raise your standards and unlock certain peak experiences. But i disagree that lack of composure or oneitis with them is inevitable.

I just think it’s a boogie man we let haunt us. I used to think it too till i pushed my limits with a few ‘breakthrough chicks’ and found after everything i was fine. I think we believe oneitis is supposed to come with the “better ones” and start panicking when we feel butterflies

Oneitis is a choice. We’re in control.

I think its a learned response.

Once you go through few oneitis and learn that neediness does not work and you have better shot by trying to re-game her you will just learn to act clam even if you are feeling a strom inside you.

Also, having few positive experience of turning around oneitis again done.

Itiching to text her call her well I will have a smoke. Forget it and get on to something and she might end up texting herself.

After few days it goes aways and you end up gaming other girls.

 

[Swati]

swati it seems you like this girl, you have 2 choices move on like chase says "i don't chase i replace" or ping and re game again like nothing happen, even though you will lose frame.... those are the only 2 choices.... I had a girls like that had to drive 3 hours to see me, and 3 hours to go back that is 6 hours, yours is 4 hours, same situation... I personally just let her be, and moved on, but i know i can get her..... I had another one that cross the line cause she was soooo pissed i flaked on her, and told me to fuck off, and then she pinged me and i ghosted.... i really liked her, but i have not re engage, cause she crossed the line and she was annoying as hell.... But i am me and you are you is what are you willing to deal with and tolerate (it is a balance between you and what you are ready to deal with, risk reward, but is extremely personal, i don't advice on people doing other guys lifestyles but their own same with risk levels of tolerance).... do you want this girl back, you can get her, but she is annoying and you will lose a bit of frame for a while till you get her again (by pinging and gaming her again) or you can move on.... done!

she said she'll come see me april, so the ball is in her court now.

 

[Skills]

she said she'll come see me april, so the ball is in her court now.

if you don't talk her at all she is going to flake...

 

[Swati]

if you don't talk her at all she is going to flake...

Don't care

 

[Skills]

Don't care

understand, i did the same lol!She flaked

 

[KJ Francis]

With mine, the amount of times I've fucked I did that on purpose and out of liking her a lot, is not common for me to be able to fuck and spend that much time, without wanting leave and losing interest. So I have a much stronger hook and impact.

Yeah my other examples were like that though... Spent tons of time together over a year. One once sang a song in bed in her native language I asked what it meant she said "be mine".

I was as upfront as possible with her to manage expectations, but she would tease me all the time about my "other girls", then complaining about me not texting her and such kept growing. She said she just wanted to know I was thinking about her when she wasn't around. In other words she wanted to know she had a shot in taming my heart. When she finally realized she didn't, I think she just cut her losses after returning from a family trip.

If it's not a problem with you own value, I think it's got to he attainability of relationship progression. If she spent all that time with you, she must have really liked you too.

 

[KJ Francis]

oh! i missed the 2 hours drive, excellent point... Those women using "death" a lit of weird.... Are you sure is not legit! the only time a girl told me her "dad died" was a hail marry post break up.... is this like a new trend?? are you guys sure is not real...

Mine turned out real 100%. I figured though since she asked if we could reschedule at the time of the flake. I usually go by that to guess if flakes are real or not.

 

[Skills]

Yeah my other examples were like that though... Spent tons of time together over a year. One once sang a song in bed in her native language I asked what it meant she said "be mine".

I was as upfront as possible with her to manage expectations, but she would tease me all the time about my "other girls", then complaining about me not texting her and such kept growing. She said she just wanted to know I was thinking about her when she wasn't around. In other words she wanted to know she had a shot in taming my heart. When she finally realized she didn't, I think she just cut her losses after returning from a family trip.

If it's not a problem with you own value, I think it's got to he attainability of relationship progression. If she spent all that time with you, she must have really liked you too.

Again all that happened to him totally normal as it happens to everyone but in the op he is doing causation correlation blaming it on red flags... When has nothing to do with red flags has to do with a girl falling getting too attached and seeing is not gonna go anywhere...