"Because" for Connection Building

[Richard]

Sup fellas,

A quick trick to building more connection with a woman is utilizing this one word "because."

I've seen a couple guys on the site, as well as new PUA try to relate to women by saying "I like that," or "I understand" without offering any sort of relation at for women it's superficial. Sure, you're saying you understand her but not actually "building" any sort of connection.

Let's take a look:

Her: "Yup, when I was younger I had a lot of free time and my parents didn't trust me outside by myself so I played pool in the basement, it became a part of my life ever since."
Me: "I completely understand."

Okay, you completely understand, but how is she supposed to know that? Take you at your word... pfff.... that'll work some times, but it's much better to actually show her that you understand. When you include "because" it forces you to connect with her. The "because" portion of the sentence doesn't even make sense unless you relate it back to what she said.

Her: "Yup, when I was younger I had a lot of free time and my parents didn't trust me outside by myself so I played pool in the basement, it became a part of my life ever since."
Me: "I completely understand because pool became my outlet after my parents divorced, and I, like you, played a lot and now it's just a part of who I am."

Anyway, for newer guys, or for you guys who only say "I like that," include the word "because" to force yourself to connect with her.

SIDE NOTE: As you get more advanced and have control of your fundamentals, you won't have to do this to make connections, it's just a great little trick for beginners.

-Richard

 

[Whizzy]

I like that strategy and use it without even thinking. Removing because and a few other words from the sentence makes the statement more unique once you get the general idea down pat

 

[trashKENNUT]

Z,

I use this way too many times and i don't know it. This helps a lot. I hope people read this.

Zac

 

[Dern]

I sometimes find relating to girls a struggle.

This is awesome for being able to relate better because it forces you to think "why?"

Great way to further a deep dive.

 

[Doctor]

Brilliant tip!

One of my biggest problems is not relating well enough to girls right now so I will definitely try this one out very soon and let you know how it goes!

 

[NBoxa]

This connection things confuses me. I don't need a connection to have sex with a woman, i would like it but its not necessary. I can do the "because" thing its common sense, its conversation.

What im getting at, can it be just the woman who has the connection?

Yes im aware of the definition of connection.

 

[Richard]

This connection things confuses me. I don't need a connection to have sex with a woman, i would like it but its not necessary. I can do the "because" thing its common sense, its conversation.

What im getting at, can it be just the woman who has the connection?

Yes im aware of the definition of connection.

Of course this can happen but I don't think it's optimal by any means. More often than not it leads to broken hearts and resentment and that's something I like to avoid putting a girl through. But yeah, you don't need a connection to fuck a chick but it's a rough situation to be in and you either need a lot of experience or have little-to-no moral compass; when you're experienced you can set the expectations early on that it's just sex so she knows what she's getting herself in to (which spares her from suffering a broken heart, resentment, etc).

Anyway, if all you're looking for is sex then I wouldn't focus on trying to make the girl feel like she has a connection with you, I'd approach it as you just wanting to fuck and seeing if that's also what she's looking for.

-Richard