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I'll also note a few daygame miletones I have achieved here, that can only happen in Colombia:
- Approached a two-set yesterday and got both of their numbers. Both numbers pinged me back. I have never done this before.
- Approached a cutie today who within 30 minutes was enthusiastically texting me back with pics of her and thanking me for approaching her and complementing her.
- Approached a two-set yesterday and got both of their numbers. Both numbers pinged me back. I have never done this before.
- Approached a cutie today who within 30 minutes was enthusiastically texting me back with pics of her and thanking me for approaching her and complementing her.
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More Post Date Analysis
I've been thinking more about my date last night and can only conclude that this was simply a case of me burning the house down by escalating far too fast without building sufficient comfort.
What threw me off was her highly sexual nature, since she is Colombian and she loved to make her interest known. However, this does not mean I can pull right away within 30 minutes of meeting her, since she did make it clear (mostly verbally, though there was a slight shift in her body language) that she wasn't comfortable enough yet. In fact she told me that in those exact words once back in my room, that she was not comfortable enough yet.
In hindsight, I could have taken her to another venue across the street once she stated her verbal objection to coming back to my room, and built more comfort there before pulling, and problably would have had it in the bag.
More Colombia musings.
Another observation I will note here is that Colombian women can be quite flaky. I just had my fourth flake of the trip (and problably soon to be fifth) and I haven't even been here four full days yet. This is why it's best to stack multiple dates on top of each other if you want to make sure something happens, even though it may lead to the unfortunate circumstance of you having to flake on women yourself (which I hate doing personally).
There may be other strategies to reduce the flake rate I will experiment with, including using voice notes for online leads or going for instant dates for daygame leads.
Today though, I am happy to be dateless and take a break since I have been drinking far too much alcohol!!
Speaking of daygame leads - I am still flaggergasted by the night and day difference between this place and my normal turf. Not only is the rate of positive responses to approaches on the street far higher, the daygame leads I get here are far, far less flaky - I get a number in the field here, and it seems highly likely she will text back. Unlike in DC where the numbers I get hardly text back at all.
This means that perhaps that daygame results are really, truly geography dependent to a large extent. If I approach in the USA or Europe, I get a lot of flakes and blowouts vs. here it is far more fruitful. The West is hard mode, Colombia is easy mode.
I've been thinking more about my date last night and can only conclude that this was simply a case of me burning the house down by escalating far too fast without building sufficient comfort.
What threw me off was her highly sexual nature, since she is Colombian and she loved to make her interest known. However, this does not mean I can pull right away within 30 minutes of meeting her, since she did make it clear (mostly verbally, though there was a slight shift in her body language) that she wasn't comfortable enough yet. In fact she told me that in those exact words once back in my room, that she was not comfortable enough yet.
In hindsight, I could have taken her to another venue across the street once she stated her verbal objection to coming back to my room, and built more comfort there before pulling, and problably would have had it in the bag.
More Colombia musings.
Another observation I will note here is that Colombian women can be quite flaky. I just had my fourth flake of the trip (and problably soon to be fifth) and I haven't even been here four full days yet. This is why it's best to stack multiple dates on top of each other if you want to make sure something happens, even though it may lead to the unfortunate circumstance of you having to flake on women yourself (which I hate doing personally).
There may be other strategies to reduce the flake rate I will experiment with, including using voice notes for online leads or going for instant dates for daygame leads.
Today though, I am happy to be dateless and take a break since I have been drinking far too much alcohol!!
Speaking of daygame leads - I am still flaggergasted by the night and day difference between this place and my normal turf. Not only is the rate of positive responses to approaches on the street far higher, the daygame leads I get here are far, far less flaky - I get a number in the field here, and it seems highly likely she will text back. Unlike in DC where the numbers I get hardly text back at all.
This means that perhaps that daygame results are really, truly geography dependent to a large extent. If I approach in the USA or Europe, I get a lot of flakes and blowouts vs. here it is far more fruitful. The West is hard mode, Colombia is easy mode.
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Colombia Update
Mistakes Were Made
Well, after my last post, the story takes a turn for the worst.
I had matched with this chica on Tinder that I went on a date with on August 13th, the day after I posted the last update. Little did I know that this chica had more nefarious intentions.
You hear stories about guys getting robbed in Colombia. I am Puerto Rican, I speak the language, and I connect well with latino culture with people in countries all over LatAm. I felt I would be able to detect fraudsters that intended to rob me pretty quickly.
But, I was wrong. This particular girl did a good job vibing with me over music, and we even shared stories about how Colombia is dangerous (I know of a guy - more a friend of a friend - that got robbed by two girls in Cali, and there are dozens of videos of such testimony you can find on youtube). She had her own stories to share. I felt I could trust her, despite the red flags, which included her clearly trying to get me drunk by ordering repeated shots of Tequila. I thought it was all in good fun.
In short, my mistake was letting my guard down quickly with this girl. You think it isn't going to happen to you - until it does, and then you make it easy for the person trying to take advantage of you. Once back in my hotel room, I am nearly certain she slipped some Scopolamine into my drink, which is the drug now famously used in Colombia to drug and rob tourists. Drunk and stupid, I had opened the hotel safe with all my valuable stuff in it and failed to close it properly.
I woke up with my computer, iPhone 12, and wallet with all my credit cards and cash gone. She also stole one of my favorite light jackets that I had bought in my Guadalajara trip 3 years ago. She decided to leave me my passport, which enabled me to fly back to the US pretty quickly the next day, after I convinced a good taxi driver to drive me to the airport for free.
Once back in the US, I replaced my phone and credit cards, and changed my financial information to make it more difficult for her gang to take advantage of my info. I was also fairly pissed off since I had so many other leads that wouldn't pan out now. However, I wasn't about to end my trip early. I took some time to reflect on my security protocols when on dates with women in Colombia. Then I planned my return to Bogotá.
Return
I returned to Bogotá on the 24th of August, with some additional motives this time other than dating hot Colombianas. First, I had contacted the same cab driver that drove me to the airport for free and compensated him properly. Then, it was my intention to go to the police station so I could file a formal police report for the crime, so I could show it to my travel insurance to try to recoup some of the money this girl stole.
On the night of the 24th of August, I had a date with a cutie I had been talking to from Bumble. I will do a more detailed write up later. Two venues, by the second venue with semi-live salsa music it was very on, and once back at the new hotel sex was happening almost immediately. The sex was incredible, and the girl stayed the night and left the next morning after I lovingly brought her some breakfast from the hotel. Thus I was very fortunate the first night back.
The following Monday, on the 26th I went to the police station in Bogotá and got the document I wanted for the insurance.
Then, until I left early morning on the 1st of September (spending the last night with the girl I met on Aug 24th), I went on 5 other dates, closing one other insatiable Venezuelan shorty with a big booty. Another incredible session. And one close call with a beautiful vegetarian chef.
Moral of the story - be careful when traveling in Colombia and take the warnings seriously. There are girls looking to rob you. And they can be smart about it.
Back in the states now starting my new job, in a job I plan to be for the next 3-5 years. So once again time to get back in Hustle mode after all this travel. At least until early-mid 2025. But thankfully, this role involves travel down to Florida and other states in the southeast which I will undoubtedly enjoy.
And funny enough, less than 2 days after arriving back in the states, I went on a date with a freaky Mongolian Monday night who jerked me off. Not gonna lie, this girl is probably a 5 at best, but she makes up for it with her aggression and confidence. She wouldn't fuck saying she was on her period, but if we see each other again it's a certainly and she knows it, unless ASD gets her and she decides not to meet up. I don't really care either way - lol.
Mistakes Were Made
Well, after my last post, the story takes a turn for the worst.
I had matched with this chica on Tinder that I went on a date with on August 13th, the day after I posted the last update. Little did I know that this chica had more nefarious intentions.
You hear stories about guys getting robbed in Colombia. I am Puerto Rican, I speak the language, and I connect well with latino culture with people in countries all over LatAm. I felt I would be able to detect fraudsters that intended to rob me pretty quickly.
But, I was wrong. This particular girl did a good job vibing with me over music, and we even shared stories about how Colombia is dangerous (I know of a guy - more a friend of a friend - that got robbed by two girls in Cali, and there are dozens of videos of such testimony you can find on youtube). She had her own stories to share. I felt I could trust her, despite the red flags, which included her clearly trying to get me drunk by ordering repeated shots of Tequila. I thought it was all in good fun.
In short, my mistake was letting my guard down quickly with this girl. You think it isn't going to happen to you - until it does, and then you make it easy for the person trying to take advantage of you. Once back in my hotel room, I am nearly certain she slipped some Scopolamine into my drink, which is the drug now famously used in Colombia to drug and rob tourists. Drunk and stupid, I had opened the hotel safe with all my valuable stuff in it and failed to close it properly.
I woke up with my computer, iPhone 12, and wallet with all my credit cards and cash gone. She also stole one of my favorite light jackets that I had bought in my Guadalajara trip 3 years ago. She decided to leave me my passport, which enabled me to fly back to the US pretty quickly the next day, after I convinced a good taxi driver to drive me to the airport for free.
Once back in the US, I replaced my phone and credit cards, and changed my financial information to make it more difficult for her gang to take advantage of my info. I was also fairly pissed off since I had so many other leads that wouldn't pan out now. However, I wasn't about to end my trip early. I took some time to reflect on my security protocols when on dates with women in Colombia. Then I planned my return to Bogotá.
Return
I returned to Bogotá on the 24th of August, with some additional motives this time other than dating hot Colombianas. First, I had contacted the same cab driver that drove me to the airport for free and compensated him properly. Then, it was my intention to go to the police station so I could file a formal police report for the crime, so I could show it to my travel insurance to try to recoup some of the money this girl stole.
On the night of the 24th of August, I had a date with a cutie I had been talking to from Bumble. I will do a more detailed write up later. Two venues, by the second venue with semi-live salsa music it was very on, and once back at the new hotel sex was happening almost immediately. The sex was incredible, and the girl stayed the night and left the next morning after I lovingly brought her some breakfast from the hotel. Thus I was very fortunate the first night back.
The following Monday, on the 26th I went to the police station in Bogotá and got the document I wanted for the insurance.
Then, until I left early morning on the 1st of September (spending the last night with the girl I met on Aug 24th), I went on 5 other dates, closing one other insatiable Venezuelan shorty with a big booty. Another incredible session. And one close call with a beautiful vegetarian chef.
Moral of the story - be careful when traveling in Colombia and take the warnings seriously. There are girls looking to rob you. And they can be smart about it.
Back in the states now starting my new job, in a job I plan to be for the next 3-5 years. So once again time to get back in Hustle mode after all this travel. At least until early-mid 2025. But thankfully, this role involves travel down to Florida and other states in the southeast which I will undoubtedly enjoy.
And funny enough, less than 2 days after arriving back in the states, I went on a date with a freaky Mongolian Monday night who jerked me off. Not gonna lie, this girl is probably a 5 at best, but she makes up for it with her aggression and confidence. She wouldn't fuck saying she was on her period, but if we see each other again it's a certainly and she knows it, unless ASD gets her and she decides not to meet up. I don't really care either way - lol.
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Whoa. I am sorry to hear that happened to you. Impressive comeback.
Wise.com may be a good option for you while traveling in the future. It is a physical card.
Less useful, but perhaps worth mentioning is privacy.com
Wise.com may be a good option for you while traveling in the future. It is a physical card.
Less useful, but perhaps worth mentioning is privacy.com
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Enjoying your journal man. If I may ask, What would you use as a text here when canceling on a girl you double booked?
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Frankly, I do not remember for sure. I think I may have simply not reached out to the Peruvian the day of the date that we agreed to and just led the lead fall away. She didn't reach out that day and neither did I. I don't think I was too into her.
Women are funny like that.
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Thanks, that helps. I always had a feeling double booking is smart, and suspect women do it all the time. My logistics IQ is generally too low to try that and I also feel bad.
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After my travels in the last few months, I have had a recent revelation in the last days/weeks. Especially after Colombia. It isn't new information really, but it has come to the forefront of my mind.
The single most important factor that determines a man's success with quality women is location. It isn't game, looks, money, or status. These are important of course. But the single most important factor is location.
This explains why all these PUA gurus end up going to south america, eastern europe, or southeast asia. These are simply the most optimal markets where any educated western man with resources can get the most high quality pussy for the least amount of effort.
I believe the reasons for this are multi-factorial. It has to do with the lesser amount of high quality male competition in these markets, average female value in the population in these markets, and culture/lack of feminism.
I love the latinas, but I also get attention from the slavic girls too. Just yesterday I went back out to my usual social scene - many dance regulars, but there was one girl there who was pretty fresh off the plane from Ukraine. You could tell she wasn't from around here. She acted quite feminine, and receptive to me. After investigating a bit in conversation she told me she arrived in the United States three months ago. Figures.
In fact, when I was in Germany last a few months ago my best Tinder matches who were receptive and pinging back were hot Ukrainian or Russian girls.
Alas, I am stuck living in the states and spending the majority of my time here for the time being. I had a fully remote job recently in which I could have worked abroad for several months of the year, but I left because I did not like the company and how it was managed, and I was with my girlfriend at the time so I didn't see working abroad for seduction as much of an option. Hindsight is 20:20 - perhaps I would have made different choices there and stuck around longer with the perspective I have now.
But, no sense in moping about it. I am a totally free man now, and my current gig will allow some more travel to latin america on the side. Ultimately the goal should be to find some kind of role that will allow me to work abroad at least a few months in the year, like the job I had previously, and hopefully for a better company. I could probably achieve this in the next five years, assuming I do not get roped into a committed relationship in the meantime.
The single most important factor that determines a man's success with quality women is location. It isn't game, looks, money, or status. These are important of course. But the single most important factor is location.
This explains why all these PUA gurus end up going to south america, eastern europe, or southeast asia. These are simply the most optimal markets where any educated western man with resources can get the most high quality pussy for the least amount of effort.
I believe the reasons for this are multi-factorial. It has to do with the lesser amount of high quality male competition in these markets, average female value in the population in these markets, and culture/lack of feminism.
I love the latinas, but I also get attention from the slavic girls too. Just yesterday I went back out to my usual social scene - many dance regulars, but there was one girl there who was pretty fresh off the plane from Ukraine. You could tell she wasn't from around here. She acted quite feminine, and receptive to me. After investigating a bit in conversation she told me she arrived in the United States three months ago. Figures.
In fact, when I was in Germany last a few months ago my best Tinder matches who were receptive and pinging back were hot Ukrainian or Russian girls.
Alas, I am stuck living in the states and spending the majority of my time here for the time being. I had a fully remote job recently in which I could have worked abroad for several months of the year, but I left because I did not like the company and how it was managed, and I was with my girlfriend at the time so I didn't see working abroad for seduction as much of an option. Hindsight is 20:20 - perhaps I would have made different choices there and stuck around longer with the perspective I have now.
But, no sense in moping about it. I am a totally free man now, and my current gig will allow some more travel to latin america on the side. Ultimately the goal should be to find some kind of role that will allow me to work abroad at least a few months in the year, like the job I had previously, and hopefully for a better company. I could probably achieve this in the next five years, assuming I do not get roped into a committed relationship in the meantime.
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Don't you want to level up and beat your competition here in the states?
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That's one way of looking at it, and yes the goal is to level up as a man to be the most competitive as possible in any market.
But really, as a man why wouldn't you go to where conditions are best for you to find quality women. There is no rule that says you have to stay in your home city or home country. We create our own rules, and when it comes to game travel is one of the best hacks available to leverage your circumstances in your favor.
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Need to take some steps to look after my mental health. Every time I come back from a trip there is a little bit of post-travel depression, but this weekend was particularly rough.
With the weather turning, no more girlfriend to provide me with support, and no more big international travel immediately on the horizon - I need to make sure I don't go to a dark place.
Laying off the cannabis for a while and taking steps to be more social to fill the void left by my girl should help.
With the weather turning, no more girlfriend to provide me with support, and no more big international travel immediately on the horizon - I need to make sure I don't go to a dark place.
Laying off the cannabis for a while and taking steps to be more social to fill the void left by my girl should help.
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There you go, a major downside to travel. I've been avoiding it, one of my major sticking points is lacking stability- whenever things just start to get good, I move or travel...etc.
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The US Dating Marketplace is Suboptimal
The other problem with dating in the USA is not just the competition (taller men, men with more $$$).
It is also the women. This is the primary problem. Women in the USA (in general) are:
1.) More overweight.
2.) Less feminine/more combative.
3.) Have a generic distrust of men.
All of these factors make them more unpleasant to deal with. There are exceptions of course. But if one goes abroad to LatAm and then comes back to the US, one can clearly see and appreciate this difference. This is why ultimately LatAm is the place to be for dating IMO.
Yesterday I approached a hot Ukrainian chick on the street in my local neighborhood. The conversation was awkward initially, probably because my vibe was a little off since I had already smoked some cannabis but couldn't resist approaching anyway. She told me she was married (who knows if that is really the case), but then the conversation was grounded a bit and we discussed travel and languages. I got her Instagram anyway, and then she told me about a running club that meets in the neighborhood every Monday.
Today I decided to show up - there were easily 200+ people there. And guess what? Most of the women simply were not my type. Again, this would never happen in Colombia.
I hate to bitch and complain, but this is part of the reason I felt so depressed last night. This is probably the last time I will devote too much space to this topic in my journal since I have beaten it to death. I will make the best of things while I am here - and my new job will undoubtedly be fun with all the travel within the US racking up my hotel and airline points.
Ultimately though, the plan is to go back to LatAm for longer stints. Have to figure out the best way to make that happen.
Mongolian
This Mongolian girl has surprised me. She is in her 30's, a few years younger than me. She has a small, petite body, which is typically my type but unfortunately her face is lacking in the looks department - that is why I give her a 5, maybe a 6 if she puts on makeup and does her hair properly. On the apps she looks like a 7 due to her filters/angles.
However, this is an example of good female game. She found me on a dating app and has been persistent ever since. She even called me about 4 hours before the first date, which is uncharacteristic for a girl.
On Friday we had another date and we banged. The sex was good as she is quite sensual. Then we smoked weed and went out to some local neighborhood bars together. We had a great time.
She revealed she is bisexual and would be open to having threesomes with other girls, which has me planning/orchestrating how I could make that happen. She will probably be my first experiment with a joint profile on places like Feeld or Bumble.
The other problem with dating in the USA is not just the competition (taller men, men with more $$$).
It is also the women. This is the primary problem. Women in the USA (in general) are:
1.) More overweight.
2.) Less feminine/more combative.
3.) Have a generic distrust of men.
All of these factors make them more unpleasant to deal with. There are exceptions of course. But if one goes abroad to LatAm and then comes back to the US, one can clearly see and appreciate this difference. This is why ultimately LatAm is the place to be for dating IMO.
Yesterday I approached a hot Ukrainian chick on the street in my local neighborhood. The conversation was awkward initially, probably because my vibe was a little off since I had already smoked some cannabis but couldn't resist approaching anyway. She told me she was married (who knows if that is really the case), but then the conversation was grounded a bit and we discussed travel and languages. I got her Instagram anyway, and then she told me about a running club that meets in the neighborhood every Monday.
Today I decided to show up - there were easily 200+ people there. And guess what? Most of the women simply were not my type. Again, this would never happen in Colombia.
I hate to bitch and complain, but this is part of the reason I felt so depressed last night. This is probably the last time I will devote too much space to this topic in my journal since I have beaten it to death. I will make the best of things while I am here - and my new job will undoubtedly be fun with all the travel within the US racking up my hotel and airline points.
Ultimately though, the plan is to go back to LatAm for longer stints. Have to figure out the best way to make that happen.
Mongolian
This Mongolian girl has surprised me. She is in her 30's, a few years younger than me. She has a small, petite body, which is typically my type but unfortunately her face is lacking in the looks department - that is why I give her a 5, maybe a 6 if she puts on makeup and does her hair properly. On the apps she looks like a 7 due to her filters/angles.
However, this is an example of good female game. She found me on a dating app and has been persistent ever since. She even called me about 4 hours before the first date, which is uncharacteristic for a girl.
On Friday we had another date and we banged. The sex was good as she is quite sensual. Then we smoked weed and went out to some local neighborhood bars together. We had a great time.
She revealed she is bisexual and would be open to having threesomes with other girls, which has me planning/orchestrating how I could make that happen. She will probably be my first experiment with a joint profile on places like Feeld or Bumble.
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Haven't updated now in over a month, and that's because things have been going quite well. My new job is great in the sense that it almost doesn't feel like work - I have happy customers, great products and I am traveling for business quite often around the eastern half of the US, which helps build my airline and hotel points and reduce my overall expenses re: food.
Cold approach volume is generally low but I get at least a few in per week here and there. That's because my overall dating volume is sufficient right now at 1-2 dates per week from various sources, either cold approach, meetups, online or dancing, although I could probably increase the quality of the girls that I go on dates with with a little bit more effort in the field. Below I will recap some things that have happened:
Threesome with Mongolian and Kinky Black Girl, Mongolian ghosts afterwards
My experiment with making a joint profile with the Mongolian girl from September was overall very successful. Like I stated before, this small Mongolian girl isn't the most amazing in the looks department, but I used some AI apps to upgrade her slightly in the pics and then made us a joint 'couples' profile in a certain kinky dating app, stating we were looking for another female.
We got a few matches, including one hot female-female couple (!) from a few states over (while I was traveling through) that unfortunately we never got to meet up with due to the distance. One local match we did get, a cute black girl that said she was interested in meeting couples, I made a group chat with and the three of us met at one of my favorite local venues close to my apartment.
The date itself was easy since a sexual frame was already set from the app itself. Mongolian was quiet during the beginning but eventually she opened up, I led the conversation with the new girl for the most part and she had stories to tell about how she had hooked up with other couples before. I pulled them both back to my place after two rounds of drinks and the sex was on pretty quickly. It was fun and sensual, both girls seemed to enjoy each other which was quite nice!
We then went out again to some dance bars/clubs nearby, had more drinks, and then I pulled them both back again for more sex - this is when problems began. Black girl was keen to bang some more, but Mongolian randomly said she was getting cramps and her period was coming on, and she refused to join in at all - and I didn't properly understand what was happening, so I was a bit frustrated. Eventually I walked the black girl out and got her in an Uber, then went back to the Mongolian and drove her home.
There was some chat chit back and forth with me and the Mongolian like normal for several days afterwards, until one day she simply stopped responding to me and ghosted me completely. I have heard of this kind of drama happening after threesomes but never experienced it myself. Slightly weird but at this point I am just laughing about it - this girl was never going to be more than a means to an end (group sex), which I got, and although it never realized it's full potential it was a fun experience and I learned a lot from it.
Girl with massive tits LR
Last week I went on another first date with a girl I found on Facebook dating. This one is short, under 5 ft, and has some of the most massive tits I have ever seen.
She arrived early in the first venue and picked a table with suboptimal seating (across from each other interview style, far away), so I had to move us after one drink to a different location quickly. It took three venues close to my place, one drink each, to build sufficient comfort before pulling back to my rooftop and finally to my apartment. Kissed in the rooftop before going back to my apartment, once there clothes came off and there was no LMR.
These tits were really fun to play with, all natural, and she got me to cum many times. Some post sex cuddling/napping before I told her she had to leave around 2 am.
Interestingly, I saw this girl again on Saturday on her turf and she wouldn't pull back to her place for more sex. I have a feeling she is now trying to see if she can put me in a 'boyfriend' box, or perhaps she just didn't want me to see her place, or some combination. We will see if I can lay her again.
Date Chinese Cutie from Vegan Meetup
Another date of note to discuss here is the one that just occurred last night. This girl I found at a meetup event for vegans - I have been vegan for almost 9 years now, and meetups with other vegans could be a good (largely untapped) source of women for me.
Sometime in September, I went to a vegan meetup at a small vegan food joint with limited seating, and while people were inside ordering at the counter in walks in this really cute Chinese girl. I open her pretty quickly and we chit chat inside the venue. She said she was not vegan but vegan-curious. She was easily the most attractive girl there, and the danger that can occur with meetups is male competition also running their game on the most attractive girls - thankfully here this was not the case.
I don't remember too many details about the conversation. What I do remember is that I knew I had to number close quickly since people were crowding outside the venue and trying to put tables together so everyone could sit together, and inside the venue it was much less dense and it was me and her talking with few others around for a moment. So this is the moment where I went for it and number closed her successfully, before we both went outside with the rest of the group and got distracted with conversations with others. She stepped out eventually and I just waved her goodbye since I already had her number.
Getting her out on the date took a few weeks. She was testing my frame, asking why I got her number, and I kept it nonchalant and just said she had a potential as a "cute aspiring vegan" and wanted to ask her for drinks. She then said she doesn't drink so I suggested a vegan restaurant (breaking my rules about dinner as a first date). She then initially said she had some issues going on in her life and couldn't go out right now, but then about 2 weeks later reached out and was keen to meet up.
When she shows up on the dinner date last night (Sunday) I was floored. She had really dolled herself up with an elegant turquoise dress, make up and a fascinator head piece with a mesh that was over part of her face.
This particular vegan restaurant I like because there is optimal date seating arrangements with perpendicular seating in corner tables. She first walks in and takes a seat parallel to me, interview style, and I tell her not to sit there and sit next to me instead perpendicularly because it "feels too much like an interview".
She was happy I did this, tells me she likes sitting next to her dates, (establishing this as a DATE quickly), and then rewards me by touching my leg with her hand quite early in the conversation. This leads to hand holding very early in the date.
I run most of my standard date material. One interesting thing that occurred sometime mid-conversation was she got cold, looked like she was thinking a lot and apprehensive, and started to shit test about her looking to settle down and me maybe not being her type. She started talking about how it's easier for her to date other asian guys because there is cultural understanding. I think other guys could easily get tripped up here - but I believe I passed by just agreeing with her and saying "yeah, maybe we won't get along at all, especially if you can't dance maybe we will hate each other" and staying on that for a bit, and making it lighthearted by saying "I feel like I am talking to my future ex-wife!" I also accused her of secretly swiping right on Asian guys on Tinder while working.
That passed and she warmed up again. I went for a kiss first inside the restaurant before we even left at an opportune moment, she turned her head and I just kissed her forehead. We got dessert and it was still not even 9 pm so I knew the date could not end there, but she was also not ready to be pulled and the logistics sucked anyway. So I found another bar and started walking her there.
When we walk out of the restaurant, she did the thing where she slips her hand in between my torso and arm and held me tightly as we were walking. I really enjoyed that.
The next venue was fun and I discovered her spanish was legitimately pretty good and the conversation went 50% english/50% spanish. I floated the possibility of dancing in my rooftop and she seemed to consider it, but ultimately said no and I was also fine with leaving it to another date and I felt she still needed more comfort before too much sexual escalation. Inside the second venue, a mostly empty bar/restaurant, I went for the kiss again and got it.
Then, I just had her drive me home (she drove, I took public transport), dropped me off, and I told her to text me when she got back which she did. Overall a fantastic girl that I hope I can see again soon.
Colombia Planning
Planning to go back to Colombia in December/January. Not only is the plan to see the two girls I banged in Bogota again, but ALSO to see a girl in Medellin that I approached/instant dated in Boston all the way back in JANUARY 2019. I messaged her on WhatsApp recently and she is still keen to meet, as can happen with latina girls with long retention. I think I have a post about that experience on this board somewhere, since it demonstrated to me the power of cold approach pickup back then.
Needless to say, it will break records if I can successfully close a girl that I approached 6 years prior. I look forward to meeting her again.
Cold approach volume is generally low but I get at least a few in per week here and there. That's because my overall dating volume is sufficient right now at 1-2 dates per week from various sources, either cold approach, meetups, online or dancing, although I could probably increase the quality of the girls that I go on dates with with a little bit more effort in the field. Below I will recap some things that have happened:
Threesome with Mongolian and Kinky Black Girl, Mongolian ghosts afterwards
My experiment with making a joint profile with the Mongolian girl from September was overall very successful. Like I stated before, this small Mongolian girl isn't the most amazing in the looks department, but I used some AI apps to upgrade her slightly in the pics and then made us a joint 'couples' profile in a certain kinky dating app, stating we were looking for another female.
We got a few matches, including one hot female-female couple (!) from a few states over (while I was traveling through) that unfortunately we never got to meet up with due to the distance. One local match we did get, a cute black girl that said she was interested in meeting couples, I made a group chat with and the three of us met at one of my favorite local venues close to my apartment.
The date itself was easy since a sexual frame was already set from the app itself. Mongolian was quiet during the beginning but eventually she opened up, I led the conversation with the new girl for the most part and she had stories to tell about how she had hooked up with other couples before. I pulled them both back to my place after two rounds of drinks and the sex was on pretty quickly. It was fun and sensual, both girls seemed to enjoy each other which was quite nice!
We then went out again to some dance bars/clubs nearby, had more drinks, and then I pulled them both back again for more sex - this is when problems began. Black girl was keen to bang some more, but Mongolian randomly said she was getting cramps and her period was coming on, and she refused to join in at all - and I didn't properly understand what was happening, so I was a bit frustrated. Eventually I walked the black girl out and got her in an Uber, then went back to the Mongolian and drove her home.
There was some chat chit back and forth with me and the Mongolian like normal for several days afterwards, until one day she simply stopped responding to me and ghosted me completely. I have heard of this kind of drama happening after threesomes but never experienced it myself. Slightly weird but at this point I am just laughing about it - this girl was never going to be more than a means to an end (group sex), which I got, and although it never realized it's full potential it was a fun experience and I learned a lot from it.
Girl with massive tits LR
Last week I went on another first date with a girl I found on Facebook dating. This one is short, under 5 ft, and has some of the most massive tits I have ever seen.
She arrived early in the first venue and picked a table with suboptimal seating (across from each other interview style, far away), so I had to move us after one drink to a different location quickly. It took three venues close to my place, one drink each, to build sufficient comfort before pulling back to my rooftop and finally to my apartment. Kissed in the rooftop before going back to my apartment, once there clothes came off and there was no LMR.
These tits were really fun to play with, all natural, and she got me to cum many times. Some post sex cuddling/napping before I told her she had to leave around 2 am.
Interestingly, I saw this girl again on Saturday on her turf and she wouldn't pull back to her place for more sex. I have a feeling she is now trying to see if she can put me in a 'boyfriend' box, or perhaps she just didn't want me to see her place, or some combination. We will see if I can lay her again.
Date Chinese Cutie from Vegan Meetup
Another date of note to discuss here is the one that just occurred last night. This girl I found at a meetup event for vegans - I have been vegan for almost 9 years now, and meetups with other vegans could be a good (largely untapped) source of women for me.
Sometime in September, I went to a vegan meetup at a small vegan food joint with limited seating, and while people were inside ordering at the counter in walks in this really cute Chinese girl. I open her pretty quickly and we chit chat inside the venue. She said she was not vegan but vegan-curious. She was easily the most attractive girl there, and the danger that can occur with meetups is male competition also running their game on the most attractive girls - thankfully here this was not the case.
I don't remember too many details about the conversation. What I do remember is that I knew I had to number close quickly since people were crowding outside the venue and trying to put tables together so everyone could sit together, and inside the venue it was much less dense and it was me and her talking with few others around for a moment. So this is the moment where I went for it and number closed her successfully, before we both went outside with the rest of the group and got distracted with conversations with others. She stepped out eventually and I just waved her goodbye since I already had her number.
Getting her out on the date took a few weeks. She was testing my frame, asking why I got her number, and I kept it nonchalant and just said she had a potential as a "cute aspiring vegan" and wanted to ask her for drinks. She then said she doesn't drink so I suggested a vegan restaurant (breaking my rules about dinner as a first date). She then initially said she had some issues going on in her life and couldn't go out right now, but then about 2 weeks later reached out and was keen to meet up.
When she shows up on the dinner date last night (Sunday) I was floored. She had really dolled herself up with an elegant turquoise dress, make up and a fascinator head piece with a mesh that was over part of her face.
This particular vegan restaurant I like because there is optimal date seating arrangements with perpendicular seating in corner tables. She first walks in and takes a seat parallel to me, interview style, and I tell her not to sit there and sit next to me instead perpendicularly because it "feels too much like an interview".
She was happy I did this, tells me she likes sitting next to her dates, (establishing this as a DATE quickly), and then rewards me by touching my leg with her hand quite early in the conversation. This leads to hand holding very early in the date.
I run most of my standard date material. One interesting thing that occurred sometime mid-conversation was she got cold, looked like she was thinking a lot and apprehensive, and started to shit test about her looking to settle down and me maybe not being her type. She started talking about how it's easier for her to date other asian guys because there is cultural understanding. I think other guys could easily get tripped up here - but I believe I passed by just agreeing with her and saying "yeah, maybe we won't get along at all, especially if you can't dance maybe we will hate each other" and staying on that for a bit, and making it lighthearted by saying "I feel like I am talking to my future ex-wife!" I also accused her of secretly swiping right on Asian guys on Tinder while working.
That passed and she warmed up again. I went for a kiss first inside the restaurant before we even left at an opportune moment, she turned her head and I just kissed her forehead. We got dessert and it was still not even 9 pm so I knew the date could not end there, but she was also not ready to be pulled and the logistics sucked anyway. So I found another bar and started walking her there.
When we walk out of the restaurant, she did the thing where she slips her hand in between my torso and arm and held me tightly as we were walking. I really enjoyed that.
The next venue was fun and I discovered her spanish was legitimately pretty good and the conversation went 50% english/50% spanish. I floated the possibility of dancing in my rooftop and she seemed to consider it, but ultimately said no and I was also fine with leaving it to another date and I felt she still needed more comfort before too much sexual escalation. Inside the second venue, a mostly empty bar/restaurant, I went for the kiss again and got it.
Then, I just had her drive me home (she drove, I took public transport), dropped me off, and I told her to text me when she got back which she did. Overall a fantastic girl that I hope I can see again soon.
Colombia Planning
Planning to go back to Colombia in December/January. Not only is the plan to see the two girls I banged in Bogota again, but ALSO to see a girl in Medellin that I approached/instant dated in Boston all the way back in JANUARY 2019. I messaged her on WhatsApp recently and she is still keen to meet, as can happen with latina girls with long retention. I think I have a post about that experience on this board somewhere, since it demonstrated to me the power of cold approach pickup back then.
Needless to say, it will break records if I can successfully close a girl that I approached 6 years prior. I look forward to meeting her again.
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Sometimes, when it rains it pours. I've had two leads fall away this week in quick succession.
Chinese Cutie bails
The first is the Chinese cutie from the last post. After some post-date back and forth, she hits me with a "I think you're great but I think we are looking for different things" closing text.
This happens to me most consistently when I intentionally try to play a longer game and set up a date with bad logistics and do not pull on the first date. I think it's a weakness in my game, maybe I give off too many player vibes and it's incongruent with the longer strategy, or maybe there is something else I do not understand. Same thing happened with Pacific Islander girl from back in July.
Regardless, this is exactly the reason why I do dinner dates so sparingly these days. She was an exception because she does not drink and because she had many qualities I liked.
Polish/American Follow Up Date ends with Blue Balls
I wrote about this girl back in August when we had date #1. After I got back from Colombia, she fell away saying she was in a relationship and hoped to see me out at dance socials.
Then, about a month later she texts me saying she is single again. Okay. Game on.
I invite her back to my place for a straight-to-the-apartment dinner date. I cooked for her.
These dates tend to be good #2s because again there is plausible deniability but you are already at the sex location.
But, no dice again. She told me explicitly that she wants to keep waiting before sex. Said "I'm worth it".
The whole thing was a disaster. I was way too much in her frame, I didn't even counter with the "I'm not looking for sex, I'm looking for good sex" line I learned from somewhere on GC, or any of the reframes I've written down over the years. I need to be more ready next time. Not even sure she liked my food.
Regardless, I'm not sure it would have mattered. The time to close fast with my typical game would have been date #1, and now she is trying to make me invest a lot before let's me put P in V.
Perhaps she does not understand she is pricing herself out of the market, because it's less work for me to simply find new leads. At this point unlikely I will pursue.
Cold Approach Volume Needs Work
Having a couple of frustrating experiences close to each other makes me want to increase my cold approach volume and simply get my mojo back when it comes to talking to women in seduction mode more on the regular.
Since I got back from Colombia and I have started my new job, I have been very much in work mode. Which is a good thing since I enjoy the work and times goes by fast, but I think it's causing some rust to form in my game. I haven't been approaching too much. Hence my lack of control last night with Polish/American.
It's time to channel this frustration I feel into more consistent approaches out in the field now. One thing I need to get over is this irrationality of me thinking people are watching or its inappropriate to front stop where I am on a medical school campus or something for work. A few aren't going to hurt, even though I am working.
Chinese Cutie bails
The first is the Chinese cutie from the last post. After some post-date back and forth, she hits me with a "I think you're great but I think we are looking for different things" closing text.
This happens to me most consistently when I intentionally try to play a longer game and set up a date with bad logistics and do not pull on the first date. I think it's a weakness in my game, maybe I give off too many player vibes and it's incongruent with the longer strategy, or maybe there is something else I do not understand. Same thing happened with Pacific Islander girl from back in July.
Regardless, this is exactly the reason why I do dinner dates so sparingly these days. She was an exception because she does not drink and because she had many qualities I liked.
Polish/American Follow Up Date ends with Blue Balls
I wrote about this girl back in August when we had date #1. After I got back from Colombia, she fell away saying she was in a relationship and hoped to see me out at dance socials.
Then, about a month later she texts me saying she is single again. Okay. Game on.
I invite her back to my place for a straight-to-the-apartment dinner date. I cooked for her.
These dates tend to be good #2s because again there is plausible deniability but you are already at the sex location.
But, no dice again. She told me explicitly that she wants to keep waiting before sex. Said "I'm worth it".
The whole thing was a disaster. I was way too much in her frame, I didn't even counter with the "I'm not looking for sex, I'm looking for good sex" line I learned from somewhere on GC, or any of the reframes I've written down over the years. I need to be more ready next time. Not even sure she liked my food.
Regardless, I'm not sure it would have mattered. The time to close fast with my typical game would have been date #1, and now she is trying to make me invest a lot before let's me put P in V.
Perhaps she does not understand she is pricing herself out of the market, because it's less work for me to simply find new leads. At this point unlikely I will pursue.
Cold Approach Volume Needs Work
Having a couple of frustrating experiences close to each other makes me want to increase my cold approach volume and simply get my mojo back when it comes to talking to women in seduction mode more on the regular.
Since I got back from Colombia and I have started my new job, I have been very much in work mode. Which is a good thing since I enjoy the work and times goes by fast, but I think it's causing some rust to form in my game. I haven't been approaching too much. Hence my lack of control last night with Polish/American.
It's time to channel this frustration I feel into more consistent approaches out in the field now. One thing I need to get over is this irrationality of me thinking people are watching or its inappropriate to front stop where I am on a medical school campus or something for work. A few aren't going to hurt, even though I am working.
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Channelled my frustration this morning and went outside to get some approaches in. Got out two sets.
One I saw immediately upon leaving the apartment. Cute girl with dirty blonde hair. Opened with the geography stack. She was cute and conversational, but not a stunner. Stopped her momentum, about a minute or two into the conversation she mentioned she had a boyfriend. I didn't push and wished her a good day.
Second approach was a blonde woman wearing some kind of fluffy jacket that made her look like a Siberian princess. I opened with that, she let me know she was on her way to a date. I asked if she met the guy on Tinder and she refused to tell me and started walking to leave the set.
Nothing spectacular, but at least I took some action today. Crucially, I miss my ex a lot less now. I think I am finally moving on from that experience. I remember the negatives more - how she was constantly trying to control me, how disagreeable and defensive she was, etc.
I've got no costume for Halloween parties tonight. The funny t-shirt I ordered didn't arrive! So not sure what to do.
One I saw immediately upon leaving the apartment. Cute girl with dirty blonde hair. Opened with the geography stack. She was cute and conversational, but not a stunner. Stopped her momentum, about a minute or two into the conversation she mentioned she had a boyfriend. I didn't push and wished her a good day.
Second approach was a blonde woman wearing some kind of fluffy jacket that made her look like a Siberian princess. I opened with that, she let me know she was on her way to a date. I asked if she met the guy on Tinder and she refused to tell me and started walking to leave the set.
Nothing spectacular, but at least I took some action today. Crucially, I miss my ex a lot less now. I think I am finally moving on from that experience. I remember the negatives more - how she was constantly trying to control me, how disagreeable and defensive she was, etc.
I've got no costume for Halloween parties tonight. The funny t-shirt I ordered didn't arrive! So not sure what to do.
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Been focusing on my work first and foremost, however I can feel the residual emotions from my relationship with my ex fading away a new sense of urgency/primal desire to pursue women taking hold. This is what I knew I was missing during the relationship.
However, the anti-approach weasel is still all too often rearing it's ugly head. "State" is a real thing in pick up - if I'm not in the "mood", it's hard to overcome the initial approach anxiety. Especially when it's on the street and/or there are perceived obstacles (other people around, it's dark, etc etc)
In general, I feel great after doing approaches. But that anti-social weasel is still causing me to lose way too many opportunities. There has to be some way to overcome it and 3-4x my approaches. I have to remember and TRULY internalize that all of this nonsense is just in my head.
Otherwise, the dating has been good overall, albeit I need to be more selective about who I invest my time in. I've had two dates in the past week where both girls I realized I didn't really like that much. I need to be true to myself and my standards, up the volume I am working with and be more selective with who I end up going out with. Questionable online leads in particular I should problably have some kind of process, maybe a quick 5 min facetime call, before committing to a date.
Not in any particular rush to find a new girlfriend anytime soon. Just enjoying the process and where it takes me.
However, the anti-approach weasel is still all too often rearing it's ugly head. "State" is a real thing in pick up - if I'm not in the "mood", it's hard to overcome the initial approach anxiety. Especially when it's on the street and/or there are perceived obstacles (other people around, it's dark, etc etc)
In general, I feel great after doing approaches. But that anti-social weasel is still causing me to lose way too many opportunities. There has to be some way to overcome it and 3-4x my approaches. I have to remember and TRULY internalize that all of this nonsense is just in my head.
Otherwise, the dating has been good overall, albeit I need to be more selective about who I invest my time in. I've had two dates in the past week where both girls I realized I didn't really like that much. I need to be true to myself and my standards, up the volume I am working with and be more selective with who I end up going out with. Questionable online leads in particular I should problably have some kind of process, maybe a quick 5 min facetime call, before committing to a date.
Not in any particular rush to find a new girlfriend anytime soon. Just enjoying the process and where it takes me.
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We are already in December and as the year comes to a close and we are just passing the Thanksgiving holiday, I find am grateful for many things. My life is peaceful, free, and I am financially secure. Being single and late 30's with minimal responsibilities comes with many benefits, if you can deal with the demons in your head that sometimes punish you for bucking the trends of society and not doing what is supposed to be 'normal' - i.e., having the kids, SUV, dog, house, etc.
Memories and thoughts of the tumultuous relationship with my ex continue to haunt me - so much so that I have determined there are deeper issues at play than me simply missing her, and it is affecting my mentality and ability to connect with other women, thus I am looking into therapy to sort out these issues.
I believe my biggest problem at the moment is I need to continue to redefine myself and rediscover passions/hobbies that will bring me joy and set me apart from the sea of other men out there, especially here in the US. I problably need to get more seriously back into dance, which something I was doing back in 2021 before I met my ex. Or perhaps other things as well. My work schedule is the biggest obstacle to this but there are ways to work around it. 2025 will be the year in which I explore this further now without a relationship taking up the majority of my time.
My last lay with the huge tits girl was almost two months ago, thus I am dealing with a bit of a dry streak. I've had a few dates that were total busts, either because I didn't like the girl or because the girl didn't like me/we didn't connect. I've had a few more come home for my "let's cook at my place" date and not fuck - they want higher investment from me, which I probably won't give them (don't these girls understand they are pricing themselves out of the market?).
But, looking at the year overall, when it comes to seduction 2024 has been the most successful year I've had since 2021 when I was peaking before the relationship, and I have even surpassed the number of lays I got that year. And there is still one month left of the year.
Similar to 2021, I am also starting the process of looking into how I can improve my social media/dating apps. And more consistently approaching - I have more approaches in November than in September or October (still down from a high in August when I was in Colombia).
Speaking of Colombia, can't wait to go back soon!
I will continue to pursue the best version of myself and work on all aspects of my game.
Memories and thoughts of the tumultuous relationship with my ex continue to haunt me - so much so that I have determined there are deeper issues at play than me simply missing her, and it is affecting my mentality and ability to connect with other women, thus I am looking into therapy to sort out these issues.
I believe my biggest problem at the moment is I need to continue to redefine myself and rediscover passions/hobbies that will bring me joy and set me apart from the sea of other men out there, especially here in the US. I problably need to get more seriously back into dance, which something I was doing back in 2021 before I met my ex. Or perhaps other things as well. My work schedule is the biggest obstacle to this but there are ways to work around it. 2025 will be the year in which I explore this further now without a relationship taking up the majority of my time.
My last lay with the huge tits girl was almost two months ago, thus I am dealing with a bit of a dry streak. I've had a few dates that were total busts, either because I didn't like the girl or because the girl didn't like me/we didn't connect. I've had a few more come home for my "let's cook at my place" date and not fuck - they want higher investment from me, which I probably won't give them (don't these girls understand they are pricing themselves out of the market?).
But, looking at the year overall, when it comes to seduction 2024 has been the most successful year I've had since 2021 when I was peaking before the relationship, and I have even surpassed the number of lays I got that year. And there is still one month left of the year.
Similar to 2021, I am also starting the process of looking into how I can improve my social media/dating apps. And more consistently approaching - I have more approaches in November than in September or October (still down from a high in August when I was in Colombia).
Speaking of Colombia, can't wait to go back soon!
I will continue to pursue the best version of myself and work on all aspects of my game.
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Life continues and I'm in a pensive mood today.
Unresolved psychological issues
The truth is, I haven't been on top of my game lately and my mindset has been off. Like I stated in my last entry, for reasons I cannot discuss on this journal, it is clear to me that my tumultuous relationship with my ex left some deep psychological scars that continue to effect my mentality and my ability to connect and interact with others. This has been the case since the breakup over the summer. This problem is why I have decided to seek out some therapy to see if a professional can help right the ship.
I have been using cannabis way too much, potentially as an escape or distraction. The problem is, it makes me lazy and anti-social and even socially awkward. My social circle in this city has been completely wiped out by the relationship and I am having trouble building it back up again. I have little/no friends in this city. My motivation levels to actually deal with women are down, especially since it takes significantly more effort in the western dating market to score quality women. My standards are high. Thus, the cannabis often puts me in a mood where I can't even be bothered to interact with people.
I need to figure this out to be at 100%.
ATL Airport Blow Outs
The last few months, one thing that has been keeping me very busy (in a good way) is my new job. I am travelling a lot all over the southeast United States for work to see customers, often connecting at Atlanta airport between different destinations.
This week, I was coming home after visiting several destinations and connecting through ATL one last time. Imagine my surprise when I saw that they are now selling Delta-8 THC seltzer at a CBD shop on Concourse D. I purchased some and drank it to help pass the time between connections.
Unfortunately, like I say above, it also diminishes my ability to be social. Shortly after drinking the seltzer I see a red head cutie at the airport bar and since I had about 2 hours before my next flight, I sit down and open her with "Going anywhere exciting?"
She is an American coming from Italy and connecting to another destination in the southeast. It's a short conversation and I didn't get the sense that she wanted to chat too much, so it fizzled out after a few minutes. I finish my drink, pay and go to my gate.
There I actually see more girls I am attracted to than usual, and now and days people hardly chat with each other at airports but I decide to open this blonde cutie with empty seats next to her as I sit close. Just like the previous one at the bar, this is another short convo that fizzled out, problably at least partially due to the fact that I was feeling the cannabis more at that point and my eye contact and general calibration was lacking. Once on the plane, another cutie happens to have the seat next to me, and she is ice cold when I try to talk to her (I think because she was within earshot of my previous open).
Indeed, the only positive reaction from a woman I got the entire time I was at ATL this time was the Bolivian flight attendant who was super friendly and chatty when I opened her coming onto the plane. It's always the latinas with me.
I think the lesson here is I need to start making some changes in my cannabis use to be 100% when social interactions come up. There is a time and place for it, and being high while out in public is not doing me any favors. It's funny since one cold approach lay I had back in 2022 I was high when I opened her. But this kind of thing is the exception, not the rule.
Night Out Dancing
Last night I took myself out to a venue with a lot of local dancers. Breaking with my bad habit, I didn't take any edible or consume any THC before going out.
Glad I didn't since it was good night. Many of the regulars were out and I had some great interactions with women. The women I see at these events are often the same so I have to be careful about showing too much sexual or romantic intent with too many women lest I get a reputation for being 'that guy'. These women are less likely to be open to fast hookups with men they regularly see at these places since there are potential social consequences. It's more social circle game in the dance community. But this is what I need to keep leveraging to build my status and Instagram for the hyper-competitive dating market in the USA, since dancing is something I am good at. Part of what is on my agenda for 2025.
The highlight of the night was a little Peruvian girl out who is friends with some other people I know who I swear was looking at me like a juicy steak or something. Like I said, it always the latinas with me. I number closed her.
The Brutal Dating App Market in the West and the Rise of AI
Lately I have made a stunning discovery - it's quite easy to generate photoshoot quality images for dating apps using AI, at a fraction of the price of hiring a photographer. There is one app in particular (that I will not name here, but anyone reading this can problably find it with a little effort) that is able to generate very realistic-looking images of me next to private jets, luxury cars, on motorcycles, with dogs, at the beach, at a fancy lounge, etc etc. The technology is incredible and leaps and bounds ahead of where things were even a just few years ago when I was last putting in serious effort into my app profiles.
I predict it will only be a few years for this to be the final nail in the coffin that will diminish the returns on dating apps even more, especially in western countries like the USA and Europe. Many high-quality women (in the states) are already not on the apps, probably because they get overwhelmed and it's hard to sift through all the options they have. Men using fake AI photos that are easy and cheap to generate will destroy the trust they have in these apps even more and probably will further decrease the desire to use them.
So, if you are going to use AI photos, now is the time to use them. I've already incorporated a few of the high scoring ones into my profile along with the quality photoshoot pics I have just to see if it improves my results. However, I predict that long term Instagram game will become more important, along with cold approach, social circle/status game, etc.
The other problem I have is me being spoiled by travel. The dating market sucks in the US. I just can't repeat it enough. Not to say that it's impossible to get laid with quality women here, since it clearly is possible, but it takes significantly more effort here and a little bit more luck to find the right woman who doesn't have a bad or disagreeable attitude. At some point within the next 10 years, I hope to set myself up in LatAm at least part time to take full advantage of the far superior dating market. Until then, frequent travel is the answer. Only a few more weeks until I head back down to Colombia.
Date tonight with Bolivian
Finally, I will mention that in about two hours I am slated to pick up this little Bolivian that I found on Hinge. She isn't 100% my type, like I said my standards are high these days, but she showed some unusual initiative in calling me the other day while I was working and I had to call her back later.
The last girl that called me like this (the Mongolian a few months ago) was highly interested and we had sex pretty quick, so this is a good indicator that she may be a rock and roll girl. We will see how things go tonight.
Unresolved psychological issues
The truth is, I haven't been on top of my game lately and my mindset has been off. Like I stated in my last entry, for reasons I cannot discuss on this journal, it is clear to me that my tumultuous relationship with my ex left some deep psychological scars that continue to effect my mentality and my ability to connect and interact with others. This has been the case since the breakup over the summer. This problem is why I have decided to seek out some therapy to see if a professional can help right the ship.
I have been using cannabis way too much, potentially as an escape or distraction. The problem is, it makes me lazy and anti-social and even socially awkward. My social circle in this city has been completely wiped out by the relationship and I am having trouble building it back up again. I have little/no friends in this city. My motivation levels to actually deal with women are down, especially since it takes significantly more effort in the western dating market to score quality women. My standards are high. Thus, the cannabis often puts me in a mood where I can't even be bothered to interact with people.
I need to figure this out to be at 100%.
ATL Airport Blow Outs
The last few months, one thing that has been keeping me very busy (in a good way) is my new job. I am travelling a lot all over the southeast United States for work to see customers, often connecting at Atlanta airport between different destinations.
This week, I was coming home after visiting several destinations and connecting through ATL one last time. Imagine my surprise when I saw that they are now selling Delta-8 THC seltzer at a CBD shop on Concourse D. I purchased some and drank it to help pass the time between connections.
Unfortunately, like I say above, it also diminishes my ability to be social. Shortly after drinking the seltzer I see a red head cutie at the airport bar and since I had about 2 hours before my next flight, I sit down and open her with "Going anywhere exciting?"
She is an American coming from Italy and connecting to another destination in the southeast. It's a short conversation and I didn't get the sense that she wanted to chat too much, so it fizzled out after a few minutes. I finish my drink, pay and go to my gate.
There I actually see more girls I am attracted to than usual, and now and days people hardly chat with each other at airports but I decide to open this blonde cutie with empty seats next to her as I sit close. Just like the previous one at the bar, this is another short convo that fizzled out, problably at least partially due to the fact that I was feeling the cannabis more at that point and my eye contact and general calibration was lacking. Once on the plane, another cutie happens to have the seat next to me, and she is ice cold when I try to talk to her (I think because she was within earshot of my previous open).
Indeed, the only positive reaction from a woman I got the entire time I was at ATL this time was the Bolivian flight attendant who was super friendly and chatty when I opened her coming onto the plane. It's always the latinas with me.
I think the lesson here is I need to start making some changes in my cannabis use to be 100% when social interactions come up. There is a time and place for it, and being high while out in public is not doing me any favors. It's funny since one cold approach lay I had back in 2022 I was high when I opened her. But this kind of thing is the exception, not the rule.
Night Out Dancing
Last night I took myself out to a venue with a lot of local dancers. Breaking with my bad habit, I didn't take any edible or consume any THC before going out.
Glad I didn't since it was good night. Many of the regulars were out and I had some great interactions with women. The women I see at these events are often the same so I have to be careful about showing too much sexual or romantic intent with too many women lest I get a reputation for being 'that guy'. These women are less likely to be open to fast hookups with men they regularly see at these places since there are potential social consequences. It's more social circle game in the dance community. But this is what I need to keep leveraging to build my status and Instagram for the hyper-competitive dating market in the USA, since dancing is something I am good at. Part of what is on my agenda for 2025.
The highlight of the night was a little Peruvian girl out who is friends with some other people I know who I swear was looking at me like a juicy steak or something. Like I said, it always the latinas with me. I number closed her.
The Brutal Dating App Market in the West and the Rise of AI
Lately I have made a stunning discovery - it's quite easy to generate photoshoot quality images for dating apps using AI, at a fraction of the price of hiring a photographer. There is one app in particular (that I will not name here, but anyone reading this can problably find it with a little effort) that is able to generate very realistic-looking images of me next to private jets, luxury cars, on motorcycles, with dogs, at the beach, at a fancy lounge, etc etc. The technology is incredible and leaps and bounds ahead of where things were even a just few years ago when I was last putting in serious effort into my app profiles.
I predict it will only be a few years for this to be the final nail in the coffin that will diminish the returns on dating apps even more, especially in western countries like the USA and Europe. Many high-quality women (in the states) are already not on the apps, probably because they get overwhelmed and it's hard to sift through all the options they have. Men using fake AI photos that are easy and cheap to generate will destroy the trust they have in these apps even more and probably will further decrease the desire to use them.
So, if you are going to use AI photos, now is the time to use them. I've already incorporated a few of the high scoring ones into my profile along with the quality photoshoot pics I have just to see if it improves my results. However, I predict that long term Instagram game will become more important, along with cold approach, social circle/status game, etc.
The other problem I have is me being spoiled by travel. The dating market sucks in the US. I just can't repeat it enough. Not to say that it's impossible to get laid with quality women here, since it clearly is possible, but it takes significantly more effort here and a little bit more luck to find the right woman who doesn't have a bad or disagreeable attitude. At some point within the next 10 years, I hope to set myself up in LatAm at least part time to take full advantage of the far superior dating market. Until then, frequent travel is the answer. Only a few more weeks until I head back down to Colombia.
Date tonight with Bolivian
Finally, I will mention that in about two hours I am slated to pick up this little Bolivian that I found on Hinge. She isn't 100% my type, like I said my standards are high these days, but she showed some unusual initiative in calling me the other day while I was working and I had to call her back later.
The last girl that called me like this (the Mongolian a few months ago) was highly interested and we had sex pretty quick, so this is a good indicator that she may be a rock and roll girl. We will see how things go tonight.