Gameboy's Journal

[gameboy]

Background:

I'm 49, 6' tall, slim, European but not living in my native country. I do speak the local language relatively fluenty, but sometimes (not always) still have trouble understanding the natives. I am very much attracted to the girls of the country where I'm living, especially those in their 20s or 30s. Some older girls (I guess I should call them women?) can be very attractive as well, but I usually like the younger ones best.

I would love to be able to cold approach girls doing day game, but so far I haven't been able to do it (with very few minor exceptions that went nowhere). I did have some decent success with girls from club and social game in my life, and my "natural" lay count is somewehere between 20 and 25 I believe. However, since my last LTR ended several years ago, I haven't been able to get either a kiss or a lay with a girl without paying for it.

I feel this is kind of sad, since I don't want to grow old alone. And anyway, while paying girls for a service can be fun too, it's nothing compared to the "real thing" in my opionion.

In the city where I live, I see attractive girls every day, but for some reason I can virtually never make the approach. It's not even that I'm super anxious, it's more like I "don't fell allowed" to. I make internal excuses like "she is too young", "I don't want to startle her", or "she looks real good, there's no way she is single". I also fear that I wouldn't know what to say and that the interaction would be boring or fizzle out.

So here's today's OR:

I was wandering around the beach, as I usually do. I love the beach, and would probably also be wandering around there if there were no women at all there. Fortunately there almost always are Today, I saw two interesting and attractive girls, both of which I didn't approach.

NON-APPROACH #1

Girl #1 was sitting leaning against a tree, looking at the sea and/or her phone. Style-wise, she was very much my type, a bit young though, she looked like she was maybe in her early 20s. I wandered around nearby, hoping that she would notice me. When I turned towards her she seemed to be looking in my general direction, but there were lots of people in that area so I couldn't really tell.

After a while, the sun went down in that area and she left. So I walked down the beach a bit.

NON-APPROACH #2

A bit futher down the beach, I came across an attractive girl sitting there all by herself, with a sweater on and some mate tea like the Argentinians like to drink. So I figured she was probably Argentinian. I walked by close behind her (not really on purpose, that was just the trajectory I had when I noticed her) and she actually turned towards me when I was near. I smiled at her but kept walking. I only got a short glimpse of her face but she seemed quite good looking, with long dark hair.

I went to the seaside nearby and stood there for a while, taking in the beautiful scenery. I turned around to the girl a couple of times, and again I had the feeling that she was checking me out but quickly looked away whenever I turned to her. That happened a couple of times until I decided it was getting cold and left the beach. I remember thinking there is no way a girl that cute doesn't have a boyfriend.

Those where the two non-approaches I did today on the beach, ha. I do hope typing this out and posting it will help me do better next time. If I write Outing Reports every time something like this happens, maybe at some point I will be too ashamed to continue this pattern over and over (I've been doing this for a long time) and do something more constructive... like actually talk to some girls!

I'm kind of used to girls giving approach invitations. If for example a girl was blatantly staring at me, I wouldn't have a problem saying hi. However, this doesn't seem to happen anymore. It certainly did when I was 20 or 30, but not any more. Might be my age, even though I still consider myself a good looking guy.

- gameboy

BONUS NON-APPROACH

After the beach I went to a coffee shop, and I was standing in line behind a fairly attractive girl. She had long black hair, and a good body (she was wearing rather baggy trainer clothes, but her belly was free and it was absolutely flat). She looked like a dancer actually. While we were both waiting, I could have easily made some remark to her about how hot coffee is good for cold weather, something like that. But again I didn't. Tbh she wasn't perfectly my type, a bit too much makeup for my taste. And some strange tics in the face that I've seen before on people who do too much of a certain white powder... But she was definitely attractive and I should at least have said SOMETHING to break my spell of non-approaching.

So this is a typical day for me, unfortunately. I hope by getting this OR out there, I'll become more motivated to to better next time and to actually do at least one approach. And if anyone would like to chime in, feedback is obviously welcome!

I'd love to be posting FRs and LRs here some time soon

 

[Gram]

Good work starting...even the realizations you are having are a good first step.

Think about starting small like the Newbie Assignment. There is nothing wrong or out of place to say "Hi." to a stranger, even if she is a beautiful woman. Do that ten times. And then you'll realize there is nothing wrong asking, "How is your day going?" Do that ten times...

Don't think of your ,"Hi." as a marriage proposal or asking her to go to your place. Just think of it as being friendly, which it is. Then start to layer some fundamentals (eye contact, smile, voice, walk) and see how she responds. Have fun, dude! You've got a foreign land with a beach! Life is good!

 

[gameboy]

Thanks Gram, that really helped! I did another outing today running some errands near my place, and decided to say "Hello" to any attractive girls I come across. I did feel a bit creepy doing that, because in the country I live, in my experience people who approach you on the street usually either want money (for drugs), or they want to sell you something... so I personally hate it when a stranger says hi to me on the street. It's just never a productive interaction, they just want to leech something off you one way or the other.

But today I plowed through it and here's how that went:

Girl #1

She was standing outside of a restaurant, clearly a PR person trying to capture customers. Those are usually easy as they have to talk to people all day. I also liked her style, tight black jeans and sneakers, looked good to me. So I said "hi" as I walked by in front of her.

Her reaction: Negative. I feel like I came across like a bum. She took a split second too long to react, signaling disapproval. Then looked at me from the corner of her eye, and said hi back. Well, at least she was being polite. I kept walking.

Girl #2

Blonde girl who was walking in the opposite direction as I walked up a street. I said "hi" when she was close enough. She looked me in the eyes, but didn't say anything. Then we were already past each other. I remember her eyes were blue, quite beautiful. She probably thought "Why is this guy saying hi? Do I know him?" I didn't turn around to look after her.

Girl #3

A cute waiter from a coffee shop I sometimes go to. Hadn't seen her in a while. She was walking by at some distance, but I recognized her and kind of shouted "hello" at her. She didn't even react, probably didn't recognize me or maybe didn't even notice that I was talking to her (there were several people standing behind her).

Inner Game

At this point I felt like I was giving off some creepy vibes as I had 0 positive reactions from these 3 girls. I went home to meditate or 5 minutes, then went out to the supermarket with the intention of getting some more "Hi"s in.

Girl #4

She was standing at a shop that was open to the street, waiting to be attended. As I walked by the shop I noticed her and thought she looked nice. I said "Hello" and she actually looked at me and smiled! She had a nose piercing, the kind that's in the middle, like a nose ring but open below. I find those kind of attractive even though I'm not into most other types o piercings.

That smile made me feel really good! The exercise is starting to pay off

Gil #5a

Coming out of the super market I walked by a bar and a woman I sort of know from social circle was just walking out. I think I talked to her at some occasion but didn't know her name or anything, also she isn't very attractive to me. I said "What's up?" and she said hi back and waved at me. I guess this doesn't really count as an "approach" coz I knew her and anyway wasn't interested.

Girl #5b

A girl that I often see at the beach playing football. She isn't really my type and we never talked, but now I saw her in the street. I turned to her and said "hello" but she didn't react, just kept walking. I then saw that she had earbuds in and maybe didn't even hear me, so I just kept walking.

Summary:

I was kind of disappointed by the first 3 reactions but that genuine smile from girl #4 really made up for it all! Gonna keep going, this is actually starting to get fun Thanks again @Gram for your suggestion to do this exercise!!

 

[Gram]

Right on... yeah, if you really break it into micro steps after you see someone, if you make eye contact, as you connect eyes then a small friendly grin, and say "Hi" (almost as a verbal extension of the grin). Nothing more than that...just an acknowledgement of their presence and a friendly hi. And then look at the birds and the trees because life is great.

 

[gameboy]

Right on... yeah, if you really break it into micro steps after you see someone, if you make eye contact, as you connect eyes then a small friendly grin, and say "Hi" (almost as a verbal extension of the grin). Nothing more than that...just an acknowledgement of their presence and a friendly hi. And then look at the birds and the trees because life is great.

The thing is, where I live most women won't even make eye contact with you. It's really not easy.

In my second outing today, I said hi to everyone and their mom walking by basically, but I got zero reactions. I even said hi to some homeless guys sitting on the curb, the first one asked me what time it was and the second one actually seemed scared. Maybe I give of a scary vibe? It could be, I was dressed mainly in black today. Gotta try to fix that somehow.

I also gave a compliment (while walking by) to a girl who looked really smoking hot from behind. She was standing there with two other girls, wearing a white, short dress, and black thigh-high boots. Very slim body and long hair. So I said "nice dress" to her while walking by, giving her a thumbs up. From up front she didn't look that great though. Her reaction: A half-nod, but then she quickly looked away to the side. I believe she heard the compliment, then saw me and didn't want to appear easy before her friends, or maybe didn't like me.

I said "hi" to a few more women walking around, but didn't get any reactions otherwise. They just stare the other way and pretend not to notice me.

Maybe it's a cultural thing? I've been in America (decades ago) and noticed that people there are much more open to just say hi to random strangers on the street than us here in Europe...

 

[Gram]

Yeah I get it.

There are probably articles on GC about this and for sure other GC members who have more global experience than me, but this post may help:

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Remember at this stage you are just getting comfortable being friendly to people.That friendly energy will be infectious at some point!

To get more interaction you may need to modify your game...where are places where an interaction is more natural. Thinking about that PR girl...her job was to talk to folks...swing by there again and just talk... but yeah you may need to adjust your cold approach game.

I'd suggest a new post in beginner titled something like "Meeting girls in conservative countries." or similar...

 

[gameboy]

Yeah maybe if I get really stuck, I will open a thread somewhere else. But for now I think it might be my vibe, and fixing that is probably a matter of trial and error, and experience.

Anyway I had quite a bit of fun saying hi to people, I will just keep doing it and see how it goes. Have to start somewhere!

 

[gameboy]

Had some great outings today, continuing with the Newbie Challenge. Today went much better than yesterday. I looked for girls I found attractive to say "hello" to, and today I didn't care if they were by themselves or 2-sets. I actually approached (if you can call it that) mostly 2-sets of girls today.

2-SET #1: Hot Ukrainian and her friend

Right after I came out of my house, I crossed the street and a dark-haired girl caught my eye, dressed in a sexy black miniskirt and boots. She was walking down my street with a blonde friend. So I looked her in the eye and said "hello" when they were close enough. I noticed they were speaking in a language that sounded like Russian, so I figured they were probably Ukrainians. (There are quite a lot of Ukrainian refugees here, as in all of western Europe I suppose.)

They actually stopped talking when I said hello. I walked by so I didn't see their reaction, but I figured they were probably wondering "who is that guy, why did he say hello?"... I didn't really give them a chance to react. In my defense, I was just warming up coming out of the house.

2-SET #2: Asian girls on the beach

Later that day I was at the beach again, walking around, enjoying the sand unde my bare feet, and looking for girls to practice saying "hi" to (It may sound silly but I'm really enjoing this!) I spotted two cuties walking towards me, so I turned towards them when they were just close enough and noticed they were both Asian.

Asians usually aren't my type, but they were still attractive enough so I said "hello". (I make a point of only doing this challenge with girls I find attactive.)

The one I was mainly looking at actually said "hello" back! This was the first girl who greeted me back doing this challenge. I thought to myself, "Asians are polite, you have to give them that!"

2-SET #3: 2 really cute girls sitting on the beach

As I walked along the beach, I spotted two young girls sitting on the beach, with hoods on as it was getting chilly. They were very attractive, so I smiled at them (well, actually at one of them, the one I found prettier) as I walked by. When I was close enough, I said "hello".

There was no reaction. She just stared at me. I though I could read her thoughts... "Who is he? What does he want?" I said nothing more, just smiled at her and held her gaze while slowly walking by in front of the two. After a second or two I had to burst out laughing. She had to laugh too. I kept walking but it was a beautiful interaction!

SINGLE GIRL

I reached a part of the beach were the sun was still up, but just setting. The scenery was wonderful. I enjoyed the sunset for a while, then slowly made my way back. I came across a girl that was taking pictures of the sunset. While I was walking by we actually smiled at each other. I said "hello", she said "hello" back. It felt like the most natural thing of the world.

LESSONS LEARNED

I feel I had a better vibe today than yesterday when I first started doing this challenge. It was good to finally get reactions out of (most of) the girls.

It felt like the girls on the beach were in more of a relaxed state than the ones in the city center, making them more receptive. This makes sense beacuse the center is quite crowded, while the beach is peaceful at this time of year.

As I noticed especially with the Ukrainian duo, it would be great to give the girls a chance to react. Of course they might not react because they don't know me, so it would be cool to have a follow-up prepared in case they actually stop and are receptive for an interaction. I could maybe tell them "I think you look really cute/hot/attractive in that skirt" or something like that. For warming up, it's good to just say hi and keep walking, but it isn't really productive.

When they stare at me like the sitting girl on the beach did, what do I do? She was really really atrractive, easily a 10 in my book. I actually saw those two girls again from some distance a bit later later, when I was heading back home. I didn't re-engage them though.

 

[gameboy]

Toady's outing: Got even better reactions from the girls.

INTERACTION #1: 2-set of young girls

Walking down a street I spotted 2 reasonably cute girls walking towards me. They looked young, probably students. I smiled at them, said "hello", and one (or maybe both, I can't really tell) of them said "hello" back. They were also laughing at something at the time, but it did feel like a warm reaction. Pretty cool!

INTERACTION #2: Hot coffee girl

I walked by a bar, and saw a really hot girl with big boobs, long red-dyed hair, and a tight sweater that accentuated her breasts in a really nice way. She was standing next to the terrace of the bar, holding a cardboard cup of coffee. This was the type of girl I would probably have considered out of my league just a couple of days ago.

As I got closer, I looked her in the eye from the right distance and said "hello". She instantly, warmly said "hello" back. She was almost too receptive! If I had stopped to talk to her, who knows what else could have happened.

INTERACTION #3: Eye-flirt with phone girl

After going for a coffee myself, I was walking over a square when I spotted this cute young girl sitting on a bench, talking on the phone. I locked eyes with her while walking by, smiling. She looked back at me, but continued to talk on the phone. After a second or so, I raised an eyebrow in a flirty way, approving of her beauty. She reacted with a cute half-smile, while still talking on the phone.

This exercise is so awesome, I almost don't want to proceed to the next level haha. I feel like I'm unlocking some powerful stuff here. Gotta get some real approaches in soon! As in, actually having a conversation with the ladies instead of just saying hi.

 

[gameboy]

Wasn't in state at all today, and it totally got reflected in the reactions of the girls I "hello"ed.

Didnt get enough sleep last night, and additionally had shoulder pain all day. As a result i didnt feel much like doing the challenge, but forced myself to say " hi" to several cute girls anyway. Today I only got bewildered eye-roll kind of reactions.

 

[gameboy]

Today my only interaction (with strangers) was with a couple that I opened in a coffee shop. They were sitting at the table next to mine, and I heard them speaking in my native language. I chatted them up starting with "Excuse me, I heard you are from xxxx..." and we had a nice conversation. They were visiting and it was their last day in town. Chatting people up is so much easier in your mother tongue!

It's also great to increase social momentum. I learned this from reading the journals here. It probably wouldn't have occurred to me otherwise to engage a couple.

! I like how I am becoming a more social person doing the newbie assignment.

I walked around in the center afterwards but seriously didn't see any girls I found attractive today. Later I was on the beach, but I had lost my momentum already.

In the evening, after sunset, there were several girls sitting by themselves watching the sea or whatever they were doing. I completely chickened out of talking to them unfortunately.

 

[gameboy]

Today I still had shoulder pain, but managed to be in a fairly positive state in spite of it. I did several "hello"-approaches and got my first (if awkward) indirect approach in.

SET #1: 2 girls

I really had to force myself to continue with the exercise, but it paid of. First set I "hello"-ed was a 2-set of girls, fairly attractive, both dressed all black, walking in the city center. As I crossed their path, first one of them looked at me, then the other. I said "hello" when the second one was looking, and she said "hello" back even though I wasn't really expecting a response at all. Lifted my morale considerably!

SINGLE HOT GIRL

The next girl looked pretty hot. She was leaning against some fence and checking her phone. I couldn't see her face though, as she was looking down and her hair was in the way. Her hair was dark, partly tainted purple. I said "hello" walking by, but didn't get a response.

SINGLE YOUNG GIRL

My next "target" was a young girl, sitting down, leaning against a well on a square. I said "hello", smiling, and she said hello back. I said "how are you?" smiling, but didn't stop to wait for an answer. She looked a bit too young actually. (But maybe that's an excuse not to continue the interaction.)

FIRST INDIRECT OPENER: 3 tall tourist girls

Standing at a traffic light, I noticed 3 girls that looked like tourists. They seemed to be debating where to go, so I moved over closer to them and asked them "Are you looking for something?". They formed a closed circle, with the nearest girl turning her back towards me, and didn't reply. All three of them were taller than me actually, but I insisted: "Sorry... are you looking for something?" One of the girls shook her head, smiling at me. I was like "ok" and continued on my way.

I was quite proud of myself how I approached these girls, even if it completely fizzled. Without the "hello" exercise, I probably wouldn't have approached them. But the exercise is sharpening my "killer instinct", so to speak, to look for hot girls and actually open them.

I had a few more interactions were girls were smiling at me, no doubt reflecting my own positive energy back at me. This is awesome! Even though I have this medical issue that I almost used as an excuse to take a break, I'm glad I continued with the assignment.

 

[Skills]

Background:

I'm 49, 6' tall, slim, European but not living in my native country. I do speak the local language relatively fluenty, but sometimes (not always) still have trouble understanding the natives. I am very much attracted to the girls of the country where I'm living, especially those in their 20s or 30s. Some older girls (I guess I should call them women?) can be very attractive as well, but I usually like the younger ones best.

I would love to be able to cold approach girls doing day game, but so far I haven't been able to do it (with very few minor exceptions that went nowhere). I did have some decent success with girls from club and social game in my life, and my "natural" lay count is somewehere between 20 and 25 I believe. However, since my last LTR ended several years ago, I haven't been able to get either a kiss or a lay with a girl without paying for it.

I feel this is kind of sad, since I don't want to grow old alone. And anyway, while paying girls for a service can be fun too, it's nothing compared to the "real thing" in my opionion.

In the city where I live, I see attractive girls every day, but for some reason I can virtually never make the approach. It's not even that I'm super anxious, it's more like I "don't fell allowed" to. I make internal excuses like "she is too young", "I don't want to startle her", or "she looks real good, there's no way she is single". I also fear that I wouldn't know what to say and that the interaction would be boring or fizzle out.

So here's today's OR:

I was wandering around the beach, as I usually do. I love the beach, and would probably also be wandering around there if there were no women at all there. Fortunately there almost always are Today, I saw two interesting and attractive girls, both of which I didn't approach.

NON-APPROACH #1

Girl #1 was sitting leaning against a tree, looking at the sea and/or her phone. Style-wise, she was very much my type, a bit young though, she looked like she was maybe in her early 20s. I wandered around nearby, hoping that she would notice me. When I turned towards her she seemed to be looking in my general direction, but there were lots of people in that area so I couldn't really tell.

After a while, the sun went down in that area and she left. So I walked down the beach a bit.

NON-APPROACH #2

A bit futher down the beach, I came across an attractive girl sitting there all by herself, with a sweater on and some mate tea like the Argentinians like to drink. So I figured she was probably Argentinian. I walked by close behind her (not really on purpose, that was just the trajectory I had when I noticed her) and she actually turned towards me when I was near. I smiled at her but kept walking. I only got a short glimpse of her face but she seemed quite good looking, with long dark hair.

I went to the seaside nearby and stood there for a while, taking in the beautiful scenery. I turned around to the girl a couple of times, and again I had the feeling that she was checking me out but quickly looked away whenever I turned to her. That happened a couple of times until I decided it was getting cold and left the beach. I remember thinking there is no way a girl that cute doesn't have a boyfriend.

Those where the two non-approaches I did today on the beach, ha. I do hope typing this out and posting it will help me do better next time. If I write Outing Reports every time something like this happens, maybe at some point I will be too ashamed to continue this pattern over and over (I've been doing this for a long time) and do something more constructive... like actually talk to some girls!

I'm kind of used to girls giving approach invitations. If for example a girl was blatantly staring at me, I wouldn't have a problem saying hi. However, this doesn't seem to happen anymore. It certainly did when I was 20 or 30, but not any more. Might be my age, even though I still consider myself a good looking guy.

- gameboy

BONUS NON-APPROACH

After the beach I went to a coffee shop, and I was standing in line behind a fairly attractive girl. She had long black hair, and a good body (she was wearing rather baggy trainer clothes, but her belly was free and it was absolutely flat). She looked like a dancer actually. While we were both waiting, I could have easily made some remark to her about how hot coffee is good for cold weather, something like that. But again I didn't. Tbh she wasn't perfectly my type, a bit too much makeup for my taste. And some strange tics in the face that I've seen before on people who do too much of a certain white powder... But she was definitely attractive and I should at least have said SOMETHING to break my spell of non-approaching.

So this is a typical day for me, unfortunately. I hope by getting this OR out there, I'll become more motivated to to better next time and to actually do at least one approach. And if anyone would like to chime in, feedback is obviously welcome!

I'd love to be posting FRs and LRs here some time soon

Start by doing the approach anxiety drills... Then create a journal you are rusty post ltr... what is happening to you is normal...

 

[gameboy]

Start by doing the approach anxiety drills... Then create a journal you are rusty post ltr... what is happening to you is normal...

Thanks for weighing in! What are the approach anxiety drills? I've searched the forums and GC site, but didn't find anything.

 

[gameboy]

OPENED A CUTE GIRL ON THE BEACH FOR THE FIRST TIME

Summary: Today I finally went past saying hello. Did a situational opener on a real cutie on the beach, but then bailed quickly.

WARMUP

In the morning I walked around the center a bit, saying hi to 3 girls in total. Only one of them said hi back. She was a cute petite brunette in a short dress that looked at me while I crossed her way. I looked her in the eye, saw she was attractive, and said "hello". She said "hello" back in a quiet voice, almost in a submissive way.

The 2 girls who didn't say anything back... well, who cares? Lol... Ok just for the sake of completeness: #1 was sitting on a bench and glanced at me as I walked by. I said hello, but no reply. To be fair, it was a square that's usually full of drug dealers trying to chat you up so I can't really blame her.

And #2 was a tall touristy-looking girl walking by, I said hi just in case but no reply.

I was feeling that I should proceed to the next challenge of the newbie assignment, which is asking a girl how her day's going. I do this routinely with waiters in cafes and store clerks, with great results, but I don't feel that really counts. So I decided to try this with a random cute girl in the field.

MINI FIELD REPORT: MY FIRST EVER "REAL" COLD APPROACH

In the afternoon I was on the beach again, walking around but not having the guts to actually open a girl. I saw one cute blondie standing nearby taking pictures, but when she walked away she wouldn't even make eye contact so I passed. Then I spotted a brunette girl with a tablet, who looked like she was studying. She was wearing short jeans and had beautiful legs. I walked by slowly, but couldn't bring myself to talk to her. I went to the seaside and looked at the sea for a bit, actually talking to myself beating myself up for chickening out. I've been dreaming for years to be able to chat up girls on the beach, and I've seen countless guys do it. I've always been jealous of them. So why couldn't I do it?

I walked back close to the brunette girl, she glanced at me and I said "hello". No reply, but she kept looking at me. She was really cute. I almost asked "How's your day going?" but found it kind of dumb to ask that. Instead, I asked "Are you studying?" which was what I was actually wondering about her. She was like "what?" so I moved a bit closer and repeatd the question. She nodded. I said "Don't you get detracted by the scenery and the people?" She answered "I like it", smiling at me. From where she was sitting, she was kind of looking up at me in a shy/submisse kind of way.-

I said "Well, it's beautiful for sure, but I don't think I could do that", laughing. Then I bailed, wishing her a nice day. I just couldn't continue any more...

I basically smiled my way back home after that. This is a huge breakthrough for me. She actually smiled when I talked to her! I couldn't believe it. Now I know I should have stayed in there longer, hopefully managing an enticing conversation. I have no clue how to do that though. Of course I could have asked her "So what are you studying?" and then tried to relate to whatever her answer was. Next time for sure!

- gameboy

 

[gameboy]

TWO MORE BEACH APPROACHES

Today I didn't get any warmups in in the city center, because I didn't see any attractive girls around that looked approachable. (Only with bf, distracted on the phone, and the like). So I went to the beach to see how the situation was there.

ORANGE-HAIRED TOPLESS GIRL APPEARS BEHIND ME

At first I didn't see any girls there either that were good looking. So I posted myself on the waterfront to enjoy the sun and chill for a while before walking around. While I was looking at the sea, some girl decided to lay down like 3-4 meters behind me, really close given that the beach was almost empty at this time of the year.

I didn't notice until I turned around and saw her lying there, sunbathing toplessly. I checked her out for a bit. She had an OK body, but when she sat up, I noticed that her hair was dyed orange and her face wasn't all that pretty. She wouldn't look at me either. I didn't open her.

WARM-UP: Slim cutie lying on the beach

Walking around for a bit, I finally came across a slim girl that seemed to be quite attractive. I decided to do my "warm-up" approach on her. I looked at her smiling as I walked slowly by in front of her, and when she looked me in the eye I said "Hello". I can't quite remember if she answered, but she was smiling back warmly. I said "How are you?" and she said "Good", smiling. I gave her a thumbs up and kept walking.

I saw her again later when walking back, and she was just getting up to put on a sweater. I saw that she had a REALLY good body.

APPROACH (actually, more of a walk-by, I don't really feel like I'm full scale "approaching" yet) #2

Just a bit further down the beach, I spotted a girl with long straight black hair sitting, her back turned to me. I couldn't see her face, so I made sure to walk by slowly in front of her and look at her. When she turned around, I saw that she was actually quite beautiful! So I smiled at her and said "hello". She said "hello" back, quite eagerly! This was one of the warmest reactions I've got so far from just saying "hello", comparable only with "Hot Coffee Girl" a couple of posts back.

I noticed she was eating, so I said "Enjoy your meal!" to her. She said "Thanks" back, smiling warmly. I gave her another smile, then continued on my way.

A couple steps down the beach, I stopped, looked at the sea first, then turned around for another glimpse of this girl. She was looking at me, beaming.

TAKEAWAY

I can't believe I'm getting such warm reactions from just saying hi to girls on the beach. I feel like I'm unlocking a superpower!

Next step will be to get a converstaion going. That really feels quite intimidating to me still. What the hell am I going to say?? But then again, a week ago I couldn't even say "hi" to random hot girls on the street, so I know I'll get this figured out too.

I'm almost scared of the results I might get. I don't even want a girlfriend right now, I want to enjoy doing this for a bit longer

 

[gameboy]

Today I didn't see many attractive girls. In the center, I said hi to 2 or 3 girls, but they were mostly older women. #1 actually smiled at me first, I think she must have known me from somewhere I don't remember. #2 ignored me, and #3 was looking at me and gave me a big smile when I said hello.

No cuties on the beach today, so I didn't do any approaches there.

I had to shop for some clothes, so I used the occasion to try some mall game. Didn't like it there at all though. The light is too bright, and the girls all seemed either very young or not hot enough. I said hi to two girls anyway, the first one was one of the young ones and she gave me a nice smile while walking by. #2 ignored me.

That was it for today, not very eventful. I'm hoping to practice some compliment openers tomorrow, and actually stay in set long enough to give the interaction a chance to evolve into a conversation.

 

[gameboy]

I'm kind of frustrated with myself today. I seem to be stuck on the "Saying Hi" exercise. While this is greeat progress compared to what I did before (just look at girls without saying anything, basically), I really feel I need to get my act together and proceed beyond day 4 of the exercise.

For some reason saying "How's your day going?" to a stranger feels completely out of whack to me.

Anyway, here's today's report:

WARMUP

Walked around in the center, said "hi" to a few good-looking girls. I got a polite nod from one, then a polite "hi" back from another girl. No smiles or warm reactions today.

BEACH TIME

I went to the beach around mid-day. The weather was good today so I decided to take a swim even though teh water is quite cold. I put my towel next to the water and while I got undressed/putting my swimming shorts on I noticed a blonde girl lying close to me was checking me out. Now I don't have a gym body or anything, by any means. But still she was watching while I went into the sea and swam a bit. Then she went back to reading a book.

When I went back to my towel, I could see that her book was titled "Tantra". Holy Moly The girl was well built, quite slim, wearing black leggins and a white top. She turned the other way and I saw she had a nice ass too

Now I'm kicking myself that I didn't talk to her. All I managed to do was say "bye" to her when I left to look for other girls to practice opening on. She nodded to me, and said "bye" back but without smiling. She seemed a bit serious for my taste, but who knows. Maybe she was nervous, or even sad that I left?

In retrospect, I realize how dumb it is to walk away from an interesting girl that is lying right next to me, and that has been checking me out... in hopes of finding "hotter" girls.

I think I said hi to a few more girls on the beach, but don't even remember their reactions. Nothing of importance happened.

Finally I spotted a girl who's fashion I liked, sitting by herself. I sat close to her, but made the mistake of not saying anything to her as I arrived. She went to the water, I smiled at her but she just looked back at me in a serious way. Not sure if I creeped her out or what happened. She left shortly after.

CONCLUSION

So, today was a bit of a failure. I wonder how I'm going to bring myself to actually start conversations!

 

[Gram]

Don't ask how their day is going then. Instead practicing giving genuine compliments.

Basic: "Nice shoes!"
Advanced: "Can I compliment you on your style? Your shoes go really well with that ... Blah blah blah.."

Search for direct and indirect openers here and on GC. Practice those.

Note: You are likely to get more feedback if you move this over to Journals instead of field reports. Post a field report on a specific encounter where you want specific feedback.

 

[gameboy]

Don't ask how their day is going then. Instead practicing giving genuine compliments.

Basic: "Nice shoes!"
Advanced: "Can I compliment you on your style? Your shoes go really well with that ... Blah blah blah.."

Search for direct and indirect openers here and on GC. Practice those.

Yes, maybe I need more flexibility with the opener.

The main challenge is to open AT ALL. Saying "hi" is one thing, but actually stopping and initiating a conversation is harder.

Note: You are likely to get more feedback if you move this over to Journals instead of field reports. Post a field report on a specific encounter where you want specific feedback.

Looks like an admin moved the thread over to the Journals board, so that's all good.