How to ball in the court text a girl that doesn't say yes or no to a date?

[perpetualsun]

I've been going out with a girl who is a few years younger and in college still. It's been more than a month since I first started seeing her, and was able to get her to bed only after the 5th date. Right before that, she kept telling me how she wasn't looking for anything serious and that she might get too busy as the semester went on. She also said that she wasn't looking for a relationship and wanted to play things by ear, etc. She normally responds back to texts anywhere between a few hours and a day or two. My impression is that she might have either lost interest or is seeing other people at the same time.

Recently, I tried to see if she was free to meet and she texted back saying she was busy without offering an alternative time.

Since shes been rather flakey I waited a whole week before messaging her again. I told her I've been busy/traveling and so forth and if she'd be free to meet sometime. She responded:

"hey welcome back!!! how was traveling! sorry to hear things have been getting the best of ya. work and things?"

It was quite clear that since she didn't even address whether she'd be free to meet, she probably isn't very interested at this point. However, I am hoping to send off a last text so as to leave it in a ball-in-your-court scenario. The problem is, she never said yes or no, so I am not sure how to proceed. Would sending:

"Hey traveling was fun, been busy with projects at work. Seems ur pretty busy, why dont you let me know when things free up, etc" work?

I feel that since she never said yes/no, it might seem a bit passive aggressive to go that route. Any ideas would be appreciated. Thanks!

 

[Hiya1]

Could you describe more about the girl and how you came into the position of asking her out? How did the intial attraction start? Was she flirting etc? Do many people seem to flirt with her? Hot and cold?

The reason I ask, is it's clear she likes you, but she may be judging how long you'll hang on. Also dont validate her, if you keep asking her when, she will mess about.

I'm currently seeing a women like this, now what I've noticed is, if I show high interest she backs off barely texting.

However, if I dont text her, post photos of me out on social media which leaves the mind to wonder bang shes hitting me up asking me what I'm up to, I assume this is because of jelously. The more I evoke in her the further she seem to go.

Furthermore she will give me two days or even three for dates, this is a trick, she is trying to stop me planning to go out those days lol, I know crazy... I just ignore that and say I'm free Friday, I'll see you then, late on the night so she wakes up to it.

She use to give me the whole maybe thing also, so we had an argument and I found no contact only in person at social gatherings really worked, with negative or indifferent body language. Always framing myself as the prize.

Mid-way through conversations, I'll just dart out of it, like what shes said isnt important, this lowers her value and increases mine. Then I'll text her on the night just saying, have a good sleep.

Anyway I dont know how much this applies to your situation, if she feels like shes teasing you all the time, hot and cold, then take my advice.