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I feel compelled to bring an opinion that is contrarian to this thread for the purpose of balance.
While I agree that in general, when you judge someone harshly, you are reflecting on your own imperfect value system And sometimes your own shortcomings... I also think that most people either go to extreme ways: 1) Being extremely judgmental (bad), 2) Not judging at all (much better but still imperfect in my opinion).
I feel that the equality and shaming culture makes people (especially men) afraid to judge even when it would be beneficial to the involved.
So I think you should give yourself permission to judge... to define firmly what you think is pointless or insufferable.
Keep in mind, though, that expressing it will have bad social consequences 95% of the time so also be intelligent when to express it and when not to.
I heard a guy say once that you do not have to criticize people but you can still cut them of your life if they don’t meet your standards.
That’s probably a good example of what I am trying to convey.
Don't be afraid to judge, as men and seducers we should strive to be leaders and have standards.
Be intelligent, thought, on how and when to express it (if even) and also be smart to recognize why some things of other people bother you.
While I agree that in general, when you judge someone harshly, you are reflecting on your own imperfect value system And sometimes your own shortcomings... I also think that most people either go to extreme ways: 1) Being extremely judgmental (bad), 2) Not judging at all (much better but still imperfect in my opinion).
I feel that the equality and shaming culture makes people (especially men) afraid to judge even when it would be beneficial to the involved.
So I think you should give yourself permission to judge... to define firmly what you think is pointless or insufferable.
Keep in mind, though, that expressing it will have bad social consequences 95% of the time so also be intelligent when to express it and when not to.
I heard a guy say once that you do not have to criticize people but you can still cut them of your life if they don’t meet your standards.
That’s probably a good example of what I am trying to convey.
Don't be afraid to judge, as men and seducers we should strive to be leaders and have standards.
Be intelligent, thought, on how and when to express it (if even) and also be smart to recognize why some things of other people bother you.
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