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[bobbyb112]

I had a business idea for an enterprising person related to dating.

App dating manager. Basically, you charge a client $1k per month, and you manage everything about swiping, messaging, and scheduling dates for the guy through the apps. You could log into their tinder/ bumble/ hinge profile on a computer (as opposed to phone), message them according to time rules and messaging (unique to the client so that you don't get flagged as copying each other), you schedule the dates through a google voice number (so you can manage it on a computer, as opposed to the phone). You set up dates for the guy at the spot of his choice.

If you do this for 10 guys at a time, that's $10k per month, which is $120k per year. You automate a large part of this, because most of it is systematic and formulaic. And the result is that the guy has a date every day of the week. (You could also help him get good pictures through a dating picture photographer). And he doesn't have to spend time swiping/ messaging/ scheduling.

It's genius! Is anyone doing this? I would love to pay for this service. I have a profile that can get matches, I just don't want to spend time swiping, messaging, and schedule. (Have I ascended into new realms of lazy, where I don't even want to spend time on apps to get dates? Lol). The point is, that time is better spent by me on work and making money. And I'd be glad to outsource my app dating process (which is 95% formulaic) to someone else. Someone should provide this service!

On a similar note...

Someone should approach girls on the street on my behalf. They open, and show a picture of me, and talk me up. Then, set the girl up on a date with me. They schedule it for a later evening. And I show up for the date. I pay him based on dates held, or some such other metric. And my time is spent on making money, while dates are set up for me. This seems like a perfect plan. Who wants to be my date-getter? How much would it be worth to have a date set up? $100? $1k? The problem here is, the guy would probably just keep the date for himself. I'd have to pay him a lot to pass the date on to me, rather than him just going on it himself.

 

[bobbyb112]

I had a successful night.

Last night I had a girl over for the second time. The first date, we had sex at my place. It was like 2 or 3 weeks since then, and we had texted to meet up before, but circumstances kept coming up. But she still said she wanted to meet, so we finally made it happen. I feel like when meeting with a girl for the second time, often she is kind of hesitant. It's has been hard to just set a day and time, and have her come. Nevertheless, she came, and she came.

She asked if I would date (her age) girls. I gave a joke answer, then said girls of all ages have their benefits. It seems like she is feeling out a potential relationship. I said I didn't want anything super serious, and said that again. I asked what she wanted, and she said just going with the flow.

What was really good about this session meeting up was, I decided to smile. Not in a broad, goofy way, but in a mouth closed, like you are about to break into a smile way. With some open-mouth smiles along the way. The point is, I decided to smile. And this put me in a way better mood, and therefore her too. Moreover, I was able to really be in the moment, and appreciate her beauty, as a girl, in front of me.

This is great, because in some conversations, I come across as abrasive or too much teasing and busting stones. I sort of did that with this girl when we first got together. Then again, the flip side is that maybe you need to be more "abrasive" to get to sex, because you have to avoid nice guy territory. The flip side of that is, maybe this is just part of my journey from nice guy to jerk to genuine guy. In any case, I like this smiling way of being, because it makes me happier, which makes the people, and girls, around me in a better mood.

This goes along with a lot of stuff I have been writing lately about. Like bunching your upper lip. It is basically just smiling. Isn't smiling a better way to go through life? If you look at Chase and Hector in the One Date trailer 6 minute video, both seem like they are close to smiling, even though they are in control and not "goofy". This is the way you want to be. Bringing the good vibes, without being goofy or an entertainer. This is what I strive to model.

Another successful aspect of this night was, even though I didn't socialize much during the day, at night, I was able to be in a good mood, happy, loose, and fun with her. This is good. I've been having trouble with that. Maybe you could call this social momentum? After work, before she came, I went on a long walk outside, and I exercised at an outdoor park. This definitely helps put you in a good mood. Before, I was staying in my apartment after work, before the date, because it was cold out. But now as spring comes, it is easier to get outside. Which is great for my mood. So that is good.