Today I went to a nightclub that opens every monday from 10 30 till 6am. This is great bc I didnt have any place to go out on mondays.
I went with the idea to talk to as many ppl as possible, and I kinda did. I talked to some random guy that had gone alone and later a trans girl joined us (who was also alone). They ended up being my "base" for the entire night which was good for morale but they werent exceptionally social ppl and they were also kinda weird. I dont mind tho bc im also weird and autistic.
I talked to a couple of other guys but I mostly felt like I got bad responses, I feel like I am in the "meh" stage of Socially hopeless. I tried learning some social rules additional but there was so much going on that I dont think I was able to pay much attention. I mostly focused on the venues and trying to watch as many interesting interactions as possible.
I noted that a lot of guys were much more aggressive and even some girls were pretty bold with guys they liked.
I thinkkk that a couple of girls gave me approach invitations but im not entirely sure. Both because I lack experience in the technical aspect but also because I dont have the highest self esteem yet. Let me give you some examples:
- A girl dancing on a set was literally bumping her back and her ass on my side quite a lot of times. The part of me that thought that this was just on accident and not an approach invitation rationalized it as "she was dancing quite energetically and I was standing kinda weird so maybe it was just that". But I dont know, I would like to have the actual experience of knowing that this was an actual approach invitation and also the self esteem to just assume it but im still not quite there
- I approached a set of 2 guys and 1 girl but one of the guys brushed me off. Later on the girl from this set got very near me and I think that maybe she wanted me to approach her
- A set of 3 girls who were very cute but I hadnt interacted with them came veryyy close to me (and particularly one girl). Around this time the trans girl from my "base" came and started talking to me and immediately the 3set went away. I think that the girl that got very near me wanted me to approach her but after seeing me talking with the trans girl she lost interest.
One of the things that I learnt, not only today but also the past couple of outings, is that socially inept people sticking to you can fuck up your game. It is not the end of the world and you can mostly ignore them but it is important to have a base of somewhat decent people who arent gonna clumsily get between you and a girl
Another thing that bothers me which could be a limiting belief is that im quite short (around 165cm or 5′ 5'') and this nightclub was filled with fucking skycrapers of 1.8m+ (5' 11''+), I dont know if im just being a pussy making excuses or it is just a reality that im gonna have a harder time approaching in chaotic venues with tall AF guys.
Positive aspects:
- I went out for around 4 hours to a nightclub venue which I dont usually do
- I got to know the vibe of a new place I can go on mondays
- I actually talked to more people than the days before and it was in a nightclub which doesnt allow a lot of talking either
Negative aspects:
- I didnt approach any girl I liked, I just stood like a retard lmao
- I chose a poor base which fucked up an approach invitation from a very cute girl
- my ears are ringing from the loud music
I dont wanna make another social rule today, mostly because already having gone out and socializing was quite enough for me and besides, I think that I learnt a lot of social rules intuitively.
I went with the idea to talk to as many ppl as possible, and I kinda did. I talked to some random guy that had gone alone and later a trans girl joined us (who was also alone). They ended up being my "base" for the entire night which was good for morale but they werent exceptionally social ppl and they were also kinda weird. I dont mind tho bc im also weird and autistic.
I talked to a couple of other guys but I mostly felt like I got bad responses, I feel like I am in the "meh" stage of Socially hopeless. I tried learning some social rules additional but there was so much going on that I dont think I was able to pay much attention. I mostly focused on the venues and trying to watch as many interesting interactions as possible.
I noted that a lot of guys were much more aggressive and even some girls were pretty bold with guys they liked.
I thinkkk that a couple of girls gave me approach invitations but im not entirely sure. Both because I lack experience in the technical aspect but also because I dont have the highest self esteem yet. Let me give you some examples:
- A girl dancing on a set was literally bumping her back and her ass on my side quite a lot of times. The part of me that thought that this was just on accident and not an approach invitation rationalized it as "she was dancing quite energetically and I was standing kinda weird so maybe it was just that". But I dont know, I would like to have the actual experience of knowing that this was an actual approach invitation and also the self esteem to just assume it but im still not quite there
- I approached a set of 2 guys and 1 girl but one of the guys brushed me off. Later on the girl from this set got very near me and I think that maybe she wanted me to approach her
- A set of 3 girls who were very cute but I hadnt interacted with them came veryyy close to me (and particularly one girl). Around this time the trans girl from my "base" came and started talking to me and immediately the 3set went away. I think that the girl that got very near me wanted me to approach her but after seeing me talking with the trans girl she lost interest.
One of the things that I learnt, not only today but also the past couple of outings, is that socially inept people sticking to you can fuck up your game. It is not the end of the world and you can mostly ignore them but it is important to have a base of somewhat decent people who arent gonna clumsily get between you and a girl
Another thing that bothers me which could be a limiting belief is that im quite short (around 165cm or 5′ 5'') and this nightclub was filled with fucking skycrapers of 1.8m+ (5' 11''+), I dont know if im just being a pussy making excuses or it is just a reality that im gonna have a harder time approaching in chaotic venues with tall AF guys.
Positive aspects:
- I went out for around 4 hours to a nightclub venue which I dont usually do
- I got to know the vibe of a new place I can go on mondays
- I actually talked to more people than the days before and it was in a nightclub which doesnt allow a lot of talking either
Negative aspects:
- I didnt approach any girl I liked, I just stood like a retard lmao
- I chose a poor base which fucked up an approach invitation from a very cute girl
- my ears are ringing from the loud music
I dont wanna make another social rule today, mostly because already having gone out and socializing was quite enough for me and besides, I think that I learnt a lot of social rules intuitively.
