Here's my latest field report: FR: Multiple Acceptance. It's good to know I'm making progress. Ree pardon me. I'm yet to send you a PM. I'll do that soon enough.
Making Some Progress?
I haven't been keeping my journal up to date with the happenings in my life and so I apologize to all those who have, in the past and are still readers of this journal. I also apologize to myself (or my ego perhaps) for not following through with my plans when I started this journal. I've been occupied with school work and other happening in my life. All throughout this time, one thing never changed: approaching girls. Here's my report for yesterday
Before The Approach
I woke up thinking I wouldn't be going to school as we were supposed to have a lecture free day. Some misinformed person posts up in our whatsapp group that we'll be having classes. I later got to find out that we'll have no classes. I had it in mind to meet up with two people: a friend who planned on having a little celebration of sorts for his birthday (that was the previous day) and to make some inquiries from another friend. I didn't meditate. Once I arrive school, it's a bit scanty coz it's Friday and most people go outta school to spend their weekend. The only good thing is that most girls you'll see will be alone and not in groups. Also they'll be less in a hurry. My memory is blurry of the approaches I made probably because they didn't go well and other interesting things happened that blocked out the memory of the blow outs.
The approach
My approaches were not smooth. The first girl I approached was walking same path with me. I complimented her on her dress and tried to continue the conversation but she didn't seem interested so I move on. I sit at a restaurant outside and I watch as beautiful girls walk in and out and hover around but I couldn't think of a way to open them without it being forced or incongruent with my state which was low energy. Next time I'll just suck it up. Day game street pick up requires high energy and I wasn't in that state. I found out that when I meditate, even though I'm not in a high energy state, I still do well when I approach girls. But if I'm low energy and I didn't meditate; it fucks up my approaches. I open another girl and not too long into our interaction, she indicates she'd like to branch into her faculty. I should have persisted. Throughout the day, I lost some girls due to my lack of persistence and dominance. I need to work on that. I have also began to be emotionally detached to blow outs. They don't affect me that much again. Hurray!
Eyes that draw: mastering eye contact
So I've been trying to master eye contact. I use it well with girls I already know or a girl I'm already in an interaction with. But I can't seem to use it effectively with a girl I'm yet to open. I read in field reports where the guy looks at a girl and then smiles and she smiles back or she even opens him. I haven't had luck with this up until yesterday. I headed to another faculty to see a friend. After discussing with him I sit outside a class. Pretty girls keep on walking around and it was still a problem to approach just like when I was in the restaurant. But I practice my eye contact with the girls walking around. I hold eye contact with a girl coming towards the class. She takes her eyes away and brings it back only to find out I was still looking at her. She gives me a facial expression I can't explain with words. I say hello to her and she responds only to go greet her male friend and they both head into the class. I should signalled to her to come over and say something like "Hey, let's talk for a second" or when she went in maybe I should have followed. Sounds like a bad idea though coz she'd have been surrounded by her friends. This kinda situation is my first so I should handle it better next time.
The date
While in school I sent out messages to about four girls who I had gotten numbers from but hadn't been on a date with. The message was to find out if they were in school so I could meet up with them. One of the girls was a girl I had never met but chatted with her because she liked my poem. I joined a writing club in school (I've only attended on meeting) and I was added to their whatsapp group. They share their writings. I posted a poem of mine which had a sexual undertone to it. She specifically commented that she liked the sexual part. I sent her a PM we started talking. All this happened about three day ago. She was the one available to meet up. She said we should meet in an hour time but we eventually she delayed and we met two hours and some minutes later. She's upbeat and fun and she talks a lot. As we meet up she apologizes for keeping me waiting and I brush it off as no big deal non verbally. Next time I should respond skeptically and playfully with
Her: I'm sorry I came late
Me: (playfully with an exaggerated undertone) Yea you're such a bad girl. How can I forgive you
Well there's always a next time. We sit and she shows me a write up of hers. I just glance through it. We talk for a few minutes and I tell her I'd like to get a drink and she can get one too. She says OK but I should give her a few minutes to print out her writing. We were both sitting at a relaxation spot in our faculty. She spends about 15 minutes and comes back apologizing. I reply with
Me: you're late again. I'm trying to think of the appropriate punishment for you
Her: pls don't punish me (god! this girl is so cute and fun)
Me: you know...you're not too old to be spanked
Her: Pls don't spank me, I'll cry (with a mock child like and cute facial expression). We both walk and she doesn't have a problem talking about herself. I was gonna have us sit at a lounge but it turned out to be in a mess. We leave and I get a drink. I ask her to get something too. I pay for both of us. Next time I won't pay for a girl's drink. I need to create a more assholish character for myself. The next time we meet I'll make sure she pays for both of us. We walk and she suggests we sit at a particular spot. I agree coz it's much better than where we were headed to. We sit and talk some more and she tells me about the naughty things she did when she was younger. Conducting sex education for her classmates and drawing lewd diagrams when her teacher was not in class and also watching porn with her male classmates. Interesting! At first when mentioning them, she felt a bit self conscious. But once she saw I was non judgemental and rather I encouraged her, she felt more relaxed. I do lots of touches. I tell her to follow me and she immediately complies. Wow! We head to an underground place where we sit. A handful of people walk past us as we sit and talk. I should have kissed her but I chickened out. If logistics was set I could have easily pulled her. But here's the issue; if I can't kiss her (or physically escalate) then what's the use pulling her to the seduction location only to not kiss her at all. So I need to work on kissing girls and being comfortable with escalating physically. That's my newest assignment: kiss girls! Before she gets bored or the excitement vanishes forever, I tell her let's go. She says she needs to get back to the faculty and I tell her I'm going (home) too. As we walk back I tell her I like doing inappropriate things and I throw an empty bottle on the floor. Before parting ways I give her a bear hug and we had this playful vibe where she was trying to wriggle herself free. The End. Well not really coz I think I fucked it up through my text exchange with her when I got home. When I was in the bus she called asking if I had reached home. She also asked if she dropped her ear piece with me to which I say no. So I decide to reward her effort through a message on whatsapp. Well I think shot myself on the foot. My text was fucked up. But I definitely believe I'll be seeing her again. I need to work on my texting game.
Lessons learnt
1. I need to be more persistent and dominant with girls I open
2. Meditate daily
3. I need to push through awkward situations and still talk to girls (e.g I'm sitting and she's standing or walking)
4. Being gamey with texts fucks things up
What I need to work on
1. Kissing girls and physical escalation
2. Becoming more of an asshole (e.g not paying for her drink)
Until next time homies.
Edit: I typed this up since Saturday. I've been trying to post it up to no avail. I couldn't figure out why my attempts to update my journal was unsuccessful. Gotta go type up my experiences today.
I haven't been keeping my journal up to date with the happenings in my life and so I apologize to all those who have, in the past and are still readers of this journal. I also apologize to myself (or my ego perhaps) for not following through with my plans when I started this journal. I've been occupied with school work and other happening in my life. All throughout this time, one thing never changed: approaching girls. Here's my report for yesterday
Before The Approach
I woke up thinking I wouldn't be going to school as we were supposed to have a lecture free day. Some misinformed person posts up in our whatsapp group that we'll be having classes. I later got to find out that we'll have no classes. I had it in mind to meet up with two people: a friend who planned on having a little celebration of sorts for his birthday (that was the previous day) and to make some inquiries from another friend. I didn't meditate. Once I arrive school, it's a bit scanty coz it's Friday and most people go outta school to spend their weekend. The only good thing is that most girls you'll see will be alone and not in groups. Also they'll be less in a hurry. My memory is blurry of the approaches I made probably because they didn't go well and other interesting things happened that blocked out the memory of the blow outs.
The approach
My approaches were not smooth. The first girl I approached was walking same path with me. I complimented her on her dress and tried to continue the conversation but she didn't seem interested so I move on. I sit at a restaurant outside and I watch as beautiful girls walk in and out and hover around but I couldn't think of a way to open them without it being forced or incongruent with my state which was low energy. Next time I'll just suck it up. Day game street pick up requires high energy and I wasn't in that state. I found out that when I meditate, even though I'm not in a high energy state, I still do well when I approach girls. But if I'm low energy and I didn't meditate; it fucks up my approaches. I open another girl and not too long into our interaction, she indicates she'd like to branch into her faculty. I should have persisted. Throughout the day, I lost some girls due to my lack of persistence and dominance. I need to work on that. I have also began to be emotionally detached to blow outs. They don't affect me that much again. Hurray!
Eyes that draw: mastering eye contact
So I've been trying to master eye contact. I use it well with girls I already know or a girl I'm already in an interaction with. But I can't seem to use it effectively with a girl I'm yet to open. I read in field reports where the guy looks at a girl and then smiles and she smiles back or she even opens him. I haven't had luck with this up until yesterday. I headed to another faculty to see a friend. After discussing with him I sit outside a class. Pretty girls keep on walking around and it was still a problem to approach just like when I was in the restaurant. But I practice my eye contact with the girls walking around. I hold eye contact with a girl coming towards the class. She takes her eyes away and brings it back only to find out I was still looking at her. She gives me a facial expression I can't explain with words. I say hello to her and she responds only to go greet her male friend and they both head into the class. I should signalled to her to come over and say something like "Hey, let's talk for a second" or when she went in maybe I should have followed. Sounds like a bad idea though coz she'd have been surrounded by her friends. This kinda situation is my first so I should handle it better next time.
The date
While in school I sent out messages to about four girls who I had gotten numbers from but hadn't been on a date with. The message was to find out if they were in school so I could meet up with them. One of the girls was a girl I had never met but chatted with her because she liked my poem. I joined a writing club in school (I've only attended on meeting) and I was added to their whatsapp group. They share their writings. I posted a poem of mine which had a sexual undertone to it. She specifically commented that she liked the sexual part. I sent her a PM we started talking. All this happened about three day ago. She was the one available to meet up. She said we should meet in an hour time but we eventually she delayed and we met two hours and some minutes later. She's upbeat and fun and she talks a lot. As we meet up she apologizes for keeping me waiting and I brush it off as no big deal non verbally. Next time I should respond skeptically and playfully with
Her: I'm sorry I came late
Me: (playfully with an exaggerated undertone) Yea you're such a bad girl. How can I forgive you
Well there's always a next time. We sit and she shows me a write up of hers. I just glance through it. We talk for a few minutes and I tell her I'd like to get a drink and she can get one too. She says OK but I should give her a few minutes to print out her writing. We were both sitting at a relaxation spot in our faculty. She spends about 15 minutes and comes back apologizing. I reply with
Me: you're late again. I'm trying to think of the appropriate punishment for you
Her: pls don't punish me (god! this girl is so cute and fun)
Me: you know...you're not too old to be spanked
Her: Pls don't spank me, I'll cry (with a mock child like and cute facial expression). We both walk and she doesn't have a problem talking about herself. I was gonna have us sit at a lounge but it turned out to be in a mess. We leave and I get a drink. I ask her to get something too. I pay for both of us. Next time I won't pay for a girl's drink. I need to create a more assholish character for myself. The next time we meet I'll make sure she pays for both of us. We walk and she suggests we sit at a particular spot. I agree coz it's much better than where we were headed to. We sit and talk some more and she tells me about the naughty things she did when she was younger. Conducting sex education for her classmates and drawing lewd diagrams when her teacher was not in class and also watching porn with her male classmates. Interesting! At first when mentioning them, she felt a bit self conscious. But once she saw I was non judgemental and rather I encouraged her, she felt more relaxed. I do lots of touches. I tell her to follow me and she immediately complies. Wow! We head to an underground place where we sit. A handful of people walk past us as we sit and talk. I should have kissed her but I chickened out. If logistics was set I could have easily pulled her. But here's the issue; if I can't kiss her (or physically escalate) then what's the use pulling her to the seduction location only to not kiss her at all. So I need to work on kissing girls and being comfortable with escalating physically. That's my newest assignment: kiss girls! Before she gets bored or the excitement vanishes forever, I tell her let's go. She says she needs to get back to the faculty and I tell her I'm going (home) too. As we walk back I tell her I like doing inappropriate things and I throw an empty bottle on the floor. Before parting ways I give her a bear hug and we had this playful vibe where she was trying to wriggle herself free. The End. Well not really coz I think I fucked it up through my text exchange with her when I got home. When I was in the bus she called asking if I had reached home. She also asked if she dropped her ear piece with me to which I say no. So I decide to reward her effort through a message on whatsapp. Well I think shot myself on the foot. My text was fucked up. But I definitely believe I'll be seeing her again. I need to work on my texting game.
Lessons learnt
1. I need to be more persistent and dominant with girls I open
2. Meditate daily
3. I need to push through awkward situations and still talk to girls (e.g I'm sitting and she's standing or walking)
4. Being gamey with texts fucks things up
What I need to work on
1. Kissing girls and physical escalation
2. Becoming more of an asshole (e.g not paying for her drink)
Until next time homies.
Edit: I typed this up since Saturday. I've been trying to post it up to no avail. I couldn't figure out why my attempts to update my journal was unsuccessful. Gotta go type up my experiences today.
Just Another Day
I woke up today and did some meditation for more than 10 minutes. While in the bus on my way to school I go through GC boards and then read up for my test. I was meant to have a test that morning but I wasn't prepared for it plus the lecturer is a sadist who sets impossible standards for students to keep up with to pass. It really affected me that morning as I got opened by girls but didn't even say nothing yo them. Note I said "open" not "approach" meaning a girl almost bumped into me and she says "I'm sorry". I could have started a conversation. Similar situations happened that morning before I arrived for class. Turns out the bastard lecturer was not gonna give us a test and I had managed to psych myself out. After the class I walk around with my friend and I do no approach. I decide to postpone it until after lectures that day (bad idea!). After the second class it was the same thing. I had waited till evening to do proper approaching but since I hadn't been approaching since morning, I couldn't. When I entered my first bus back home, I sat beside a cute girl. Immediately we entered, I told her I was glad she wasn't fat cow it would have been uncomfortable for me. She doesn't really respond well and is closed off. I let it die and wait for some minutes (which felt like forever) before I complimented her on her hair. She's still not into it. I wait a few minutes and reengage. I introduce myself and ask for her name. She asked why do I want to know her name. Wtf! I gave up. In my second bus I compliment the girl beside me on her fashion. She doesn't respond well. I ask for her name and shake hands. The conversation becomes awkward. I try to reengage and she pretends she doesn't hear me. I ended up feeling like shit. Bus pick up was supposed to be my thing!
I return home and my brother pisses me up, adding to my already upset mood.
Lessons Learnt
1. I need to walk alone for pick up
2. Always approach from early into the day
3. Be social and talk to everyone I see (including strangers) to put me in the mood of cold approaching.
4. I need to walk on my opening body language and voice. It should be bold and assured.
5. Update my journal daily, even in days I fail.
I woke up today and did some meditation for more than 10 minutes. While in the bus on my way to school I go through GC boards and then read up for my test. I was meant to have a test that morning but I wasn't prepared for it plus the lecturer is a sadist who sets impossible standards for students to keep up with to pass. It really affected me that morning as I got opened by girls but didn't even say nothing yo them. Note I said "open" not "approach" meaning a girl almost bumped into me and she says "I'm sorry". I could have started a conversation. Similar situations happened that morning before I arrived for class. Turns out the bastard lecturer was not gonna give us a test and I had managed to psych myself out. After the class I walk around with my friend and I do no approach. I decide to postpone it until after lectures that day (bad idea!). After the second class it was the same thing. I had waited till evening to do proper approaching but since I hadn't been approaching since morning, I couldn't. When I entered my first bus back home, I sat beside a cute girl. Immediately we entered, I told her I was glad she wasn't fat cow it would have been uncomfortable for me. She doesn't really respond well and is closed off. I let it die and wait for some minutes (which felt like forever) before I complimented her on her hair. She's still not into it. I wait a few minutes and reengage. I introduce myself and ask for her name. She asked why do I want to know her name. Wtf! I gave up. In my second bus I compliment the girl beside me on her fashion. She doesn't respond well. I ask for her name and shake hands. The conversation becomes awkward. I try to reengage and she pretends she doesn't hear me. I ended up feeling like shit. Bus pick up was supposed to be my thing!
I return home and my brother pisses me up, adding to my already upset mood.
Lessons Learnt
1. I need to walk alone for pick up
2. Always approach from early into the day
3. Be social and talk to everyone I see (including strangers) to put me in the mood of cold approaching.
4. I need to walk on my opening body language and voice. It should be bold and assured.
5. Update my journal daily, even in days I fail.
On a Tuesday
I wake up late today and I couldn't meditate because I didn't want to miss my morning class. I head to school. Once I alight the bus, on my way into school I notice a cute girl with a pink top. I hesitate a bit and just make sure she's ahead of me. Then I open her with "Hello (she says 'hi'), that's a nice pink top you got". He she doesn't seem interested as she looks back straight ahead and mumbles a reply which I didn't hear. "It was just a compliment", I said to her. She responds rather defensively, "I said thanks" Lol. The interaction wasn't going anywhere so I bailed. I was late for class so I rush off doing no approaches. I was too late for the class so I didn't attend. I head off to go meet my pal. There were few girls in school today (or so it seemed) and many we're talking to a friend or in cliques (or I'm just giving stupid excuses) and so there wasn't much girls to approach. I chickened out of several approaches too. I decide to walk alone and so far I had no result (result here meaning approaching girls). So I head into the library. I see a cute girl with big nerdy glasses browsing through the racks under HSS (History and Strategic Studies). I open situationally, "Can you recommend a book on American history for me?" She tells me she's not sure and we start talking. I ask her what book she's looking for and she says a book about the history of Ghana. I deep dive her on her course and there's some playful banter going on. The interaction didn't go too smooth but it's a big improvement on my two earlier library approaches. I delayed my closing and I was doubting if my number close would work so it was kinda sloppy. I tell he'd to give me her number and she hesitates a bit. I tell her I find her interesting and I'd like to text her. As she begins typing the number I ask her if it'll be cool to grab a drink together and she says yes (or nods her head, I can't remember which). I really doubt that this number is solid. I later head back to chill with my pals. We all head together for the next class which is an elective taken in another faculty. I didn't approach any girl again. I didn't accomplish my mission today which was to practice dominance with girls and stay very long into interaction with girls, getting lots of compliance along the way. Shit happens! Tomorrow should be better.
I wake up late today and I couldn't meditate because I didn't want to miss my morning class. I head to school. Once I alight the bus, on my way into school I notice a cute girl with a pink top. I hesitate a bit and just make sure she's ahead of me. Then I open her with "Hello (she says 'hi'), that's a nice pink top you got". He she doesn't seem interested as she looks back straight ahead and mumbles a reply which I didn't hear. "It was just a compliment", I said to her. She responds rather defensively, "I said thanks" Lol. The interaction wasn't going anywhere so I bailed. I was late for class so I rush off doing no approaches. I was too late for the class so I didn't attend. I head off to go meet my pal. There were few girls in school today (or so it seemed) and many we're talking to a friend or in cliques (or I'm just giving stupid excuses) and so there wasn't much girls to approach. I chickened out of several approaches too. I decide to walk alone and so far I had no result (result here meaning approaching girls). So I head into the library. I see a cute girl with big nerdy glasses browsing through the racks under HSS (History and Strategic Studies). I open situationally, "Can you recommend a book on American history for me?" She tells me she's not sure and we start talking. I ask her what book she's looking for and she says a book about the history of Ghana. I deep dive her on her course and there's some playful banter going on. The interaction didn't go too smooth but it's a big improvement on my two earlier library approaches. I delayed my closing and I was doubting if my number close would work so it was kinda sloppy. I tell he'd to give me her number and she hesitates a bit. I tell her I find her interesting and I'd like to text her. As she begins typing the number I ask her if it'll be cool to grab a drink together and she says yes (or nods her head, I can't remember which). I really doubt that this number is solid. I later head back to chill with my pals. We all head together for the next class which is an elective taken in another faculty. I didn't approach any girl again. I didn't accomplish my mission today which was to practice dominance with girls and stay very long into interaction with girls, getting lots of compliance along the way. Shit happens! Tomorrow should be better.
Went on A Date
This is a report for yesterday. I got back home late and couldn't type it up coz I was exhausted. I didn't really approach. And I also observed I'm losing enthusiasm to approach which is also a form of AA. But I have no choice I must beat it. The girl I went on a date with was the girl I wrote about in an FR who I had less than a minute number close with. From the way she responded to my texts I knew she was really interested. I won't be writing much about the date because not specially really happened plus I've got no time. Here's the thing, I'm still struggling with getting physical with a new girl. A simple thing as kissing or making out is still an issue so I'm focusing on that right now. The date went OK and I forced a kiss twice on her. She told me how she was surprised I stopped her on the street and says "who does that" in a cute and attracted way. I should have used chase and sexual frames but I only got to use them after the date while we were walking. The walk was for some minutes. I texted her that night telling her I had a good time and she said she did too and asked if I got home early. I need to learn to be more sexual and turn girls on because my logistics is on the spot. Yea, I'm totally homeless
. Gotta go guys.
This is a report for yesterday. I got back home late and couldn't type it up coz I was exhausted. I didn't really approach. And I also observed I'm losing enthusiasm to approach which is also a form of AA. But I have no choice I must beat it. The girl I went on a date with was the girl I wrote about in an FR who I had less than a minute number close with. From the way she responded to my texts I knew she was really interested. I won't be writing much about the date because not specially really happened plus I've got no time. Here's the thing, I'm still struggling with getting physical with a new girl. A simple thing as kissing or making out is still an issue so I'm focusing on that right now. The date went OK and I forced a kiss twice on her. She told me how she was surprised I stopped her on the street and says "who does that" in a cute and attracted way. I should have used chase and sexual frames but I only got to use them after the date while we were walking. The walk was for some minutes. I texted her that night telling her I had a good time and she said she did too and asked if I got home early. I need to learn to be more sexual and turn girls on because my logistics is on the spot. Yea, I'm totally homeless
. Gotta go guys.Not Really a Productive Day
I woke up by 7am today (I need to be waking up by 6 daily) and I meditate for ten minutes. Somehow before I finished everything I still leave home by 9:30. Quite annoying. I decide while jumping buses (or rather sitting in the buses) to not look or read stuffs on my phone (even though they're GC materials) to help clear my head and make me more conscious of my environment. I didn't sit beside any pretty girl today so no bus pick up. Once I arrive school, I take a shuttle in which I engage a female law student. It didn't go anywhere. I could have done better here but nowadays I'm trying not to force rapport especially in situations where I'll be stuck with the girl for a while. It makes things feel awkward. I meet up with a friend who I take shopping (I had to show him places and choose quality stuffs for him as he's a noob in that department). After this I head home. I didn't do any real approaches because of this outing. It's annoying as the next two days are on the weekend which means no school = no approaches. I hate myself! I hope I'll be able to make my weekend productive by studying. Ciao amigos.
I woke up by 7am today (I need to be waking up by 6 daily) and I meditate for ten minutes. Somehow before I finished everything I still leave home by 9:30. Quite annoying. I decide while jumping buses (or rather sitting in the buses) to not look or read stuffs on my phone (even though they're GC materials) to help clear my head and make me more conscious of my environment. I didn't sit beside any pretty girl today so no bus pick up. Once I arrive school, I take a shuttle in which I engage a female law student. It didn't go anywhere. I could have done better here but nowadays I'm trying not to force rapport especially in situations where I'll be stuck with the girl for a while. It makes things feel awkward. I meet up with a friend who I take shopping (I had to show him places and choose quality stuffs for him as he's a noob in that department). After this I head home. I didn't do any real approaches because of this outing. It's annoying as the next two days are on the weekend which means no school = no approaches. I hate myself! I hope I'll be able to make my weekend productive by studying. Ciao amigos.
No Approaches Still
I started today hoping I'd do some approaches. Once I reached school, I attended the first class. After the first class I decided to spend some time studying, I've been lagging behind. After studying I head for a class that eventually did not hold. After leaving the class, I head to our Sport Centre and then back home. I saw some girls all throughout theses periods but I chickened out. I've been going through some personal issues too and I just feel terrible I'm not advancing in seduction (or any other areas of my life right now). I believe tomorrow will be a better day. As the saying goes, "there's a hottie at the end of a tunnel"
I started today hoping I'd do some approaches. Once I reached school, I attended the first class. After the first class I decided to spend some time studying, I've been lagging behind. After studying I head for a class that eventually did not hold. After leaving the class, I head to our Sport Centre and then back home. I saw some girls all throughout theses periods but I chickened out. I've been going through some personal issues too and I just feel terrible I'm not advancing in seduction (or any other areas of my life right now). I believe tomorrow will be a better day. As the saying goes, "there's a hottie at the end of a tunnel"
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Mystique,
Don't give up, man! I've been where you were...frustrated with myself and my own inability. The fact that you think it's terrible you're not productive shows me you've still got that fire to get out there and kick ass inside you; it's just waiting for you to let it out.
If there's one thing I'm convinced of, it's that the most important time to try your best is when you feel like shit. You can do it
Cheers,
Alex
Don't give up, man! I've been where you were...frustrated with myself and my own inability. The fact that you think it's terrible you're not productive shows me you've still got that fire to get out there and kick ass inside you; it's just waiting for you to let it out.
If there's one thing I'm convinced of, it's that the most important time to try your best is when you feel like shit. You can do it
Cheers,
Alex
Well, I have no choice. It's either I keep on failing and feeling like shit till I succeed or I keep on failing and feeling like shit till I succeed. Thanks for the kind words Alex.Don't give up, man! I've been where
you were...frustrated with myself and
my own inability. The fact that you
think it's terrible you're not
productive shows me you've still got
that fire to get out there and kick ass
inside you; it's just waiting for you to
let it out.
If there's one thing I'm convinced of,
it's that the most important time to
try your best is when you feel like
shit. You can do it
Cheers,
@Mr Ree
I meditate in the morning for about ten minutes. I first concentrate on breathing in and out for 2 mins to put me in a relaxed state. Then for the remaining 8 mins I use Ricardus's method from his "How to pick up girls" series. Here's how I do it. I bring to my memory my best, most confident and happiest moments socially. Memories of when girls were complimenting me on my dressing, or on how good looking or awesome I am, etc. I then imagine how confident I'd feel and walk. I then further imagine myself in this confident state walking to talk to the hottest girls and all of them being very receptive and attracted from the beginning of the interaction. I think this is what Chase calls visualization. I observe that most times when I do this and head out, I feel happy, more confident and social. So it's possible to control your state or feelings through visualization (that's some advanced meditation skill and I can't say I know how to work my way around it). Also at the end of the day, you're supposed to meditate using this: concentrate on your breathing for about 2 mins. After that you bring to your memory to your approaches and social interactions for that day and you review your strengths and mistakes without being emotionally attached to them. When you review this approaches/interactions you find out your mistakes and imagine yourself saying or doing the right thing. For the parts where you do well you can decide to imagine doing even better. At the end you then only attach your emotions to the solid approaches/interactions that happened that day and feel happy. The second part should last for 8 mins too.
Tipsy Conversations
This is an update on my outing yesterday. I haven't updated my journal in a while. I and my brother visited a relative. Once we're done there I head to school and it's already evening. I head for class. In class we're all just having fun as the lecturer is hilarious and we the students are always looking for an excuse to make things fun. Plus the course is simple for we that chose it as an elective as we've done similar courses. A female friend of mine is celebrating her birthday. She's throwing a small party in a chill spot close to her hostel. We all head there and we're chatting and drinking and that's when various girls start coming in. Girls that are not from our social circle. So far, I suck at social circle game as I don't seem to know how to seal the deal with the attractions I get. I've had many of those girls approach me and I don't know what to do. Logistics is a bitch too! I tell my guys we'll spin a bottle and whoever it falls on will go talk to one of the girls that are not in our circle. Prior to this time I'd initiated a conversation with a cute but chubby chic. So we spin the bottle and the guy it falls on chickens out. Lol. I'm thinking I need to talk to a girl but I literally didn't know how. I've been too focused on cold approach that I hadn't read up or thought deeply on gaming in social gatherings like parties and all. So I keep on fooling around and I'm already tipsy by now and it's late so I decide that I'll crash at a friend's hostel. I see a pretty girl walking past me with two drinks and I tease her that is that all for her and she shakes her head saying no. I go about talking to friends and when she's coming back I tease her again and before we can go into a proper conversation she says she needs to convey a msg to the celebrant and she'll be back. As she's about to come back to me, she stopped and is drawn into a conversation by a guy and a girl. I later give her a "why are you not over here" look. I then continue my conversation with a friend and I even go over and open a girl and go into one of the most stupid conversation I have ever had with a girl. As she's talking with her friend sitting. There are chairs everywhere and people were sitting. I tap her and ask for her name. I tell her mine too. I then asked if I could steal her for a second so we can talk and she says we can talk now. Immediately, I didn't know what to say. So I tell her some bullshit that I'm carrying out a survey and how would she rate the party: good, very good, excellent or in between (lol) and the girl kept on nodding her head in mock seriousness. I was fucking drunk. I can't remember the rest of our conversation. I later find the pretty girl I opened sitting and I tell her that why didn't she keep to her word. She says but I found her and I tell her no, that we meeting again was just a coincidence and I playfully tell her that she broke my heart. She goes 'awww". I ask for her name and she says "Sabina" which sounds "sabaina". I ask her to spell it and I tell her my name. She quickly makes up a nickname for me and I give her a frown. She was sitting and I was standing and I didn't know what do say or do again and her two friends were around her. I ask her if she's still around and she says yes. I tell her I'll see her around and I go back to talking with my friends. I later encounter her sitting and I resume conversation with her and I find out she's from another campus. I tell her I'd like to grab her number so we could meet up some other time away from the noise and get to have a proper talk and then she says the shit that makes me realize I'd been wasting my time all along: "why do you want to get my number, what do you want to talk about?". And I tell her something along the lines "people ask too many questions and it tends to ruin everything". She still seems adamant and I try to build a better connection. A friend of mine interrupts us and tries to run game on her and I'm like wtf. Her friend then comes and gives her a lap dance. My friend was trying to make the girl I was talking to dance with him. So I tell him that here's a girl dancing he should talk to her. He tries and the girl gives him a wtf look and leaves. I try to get compliance from the pretty girl by telling her to stand for a sec so I can have a better look at her dress. She refuses. I should have gotten compliance earlier. I realize I had been wasting my time all along and most people had already left. I leave her. I had to lead my drunk friend back to his hostel. The dude was fucking wasted. I was fucking tired. All in all, it was good.
Lessons Learn
Read up on party/dance floor game
Drink less (hard to do)
Learn some non-verbal game
Ask for compliance early enough
Have a goal before starting a conversation with a girl (e.g number close, to fuck her, to learn physical escalation or make out, kiss her, etc)
This is an update on my outing yesterday. I haven't updated my journal in a while. I and my brother visited a relative. Once we're done there I head to school and it's already evening. I head for class. In class we're all just having fun as the lecturer is hilarious and we the students are always looking for an excuse to make things fun. Plus the course is simple for we that chose it as an elective as we've done similar courses. A female friend of mine is celebrating her birthday. She's throwing a small party in a chill spot close to her hostel. We all head there and we're chatting and drinking and that's when various girls start coming in. Girls that are not from our social circle. So far, I suck at social circle game as I don't seem to know how to seal the deal with the attractions I get. I've had many of those girls approach me and I don't know what to do. Logistics is a bitch too! I tell my guys we'll spin a bottle and whoever it falls on will go talk to one of the girls that are not in our circle. Prior to this time I'd initiated a conversation with a cute but chubby chic. So we spin the bottle and the guy it falls on chickens out. Lol. I'm thinking I need to talk to a girl but I literally didn't know how. I've been too focused on cold approach that I hadn't read up or thought deeply on gaming in social gatherings like parties and all. So I keep on fooling around and I'm already tipsy by now and it's late so I decide that I'll crash at a friend's hostel. I see a pretty girl walking past me with two drinks and I tease her that is that all for her and she shakes her head saying no. I go about talking to friends and when she's coming back I tease her again and before we can go into a proper conversation she says she needs to convey a msg to the celebrant and she'll be back. As she's about to come back to me, she stopped and is drawn into a conversation by a guy and a girl. I later give her a "why are you not over here" look. I then continue my conversation with a friend and I even go over and open a girl and go into one of the most stupid conversation I have ever had with a girl. As she's talking with her friend sitting. There are chairs everywhere and people were sitting. I tap her and ask for her name. I tell her mine too. I then asked if I could steal her for a second so we can talk and she says we can talk now. Immediately, I didn't know what to say. So I tell her some bullshit that I'm carrying out a survey and how would she rate the party: good, very good, excellent or in between (lol) and the girl kept on nodding her head in mock seriousness. I was fucking drunk. I can't remember the rest of our conversation. I later find the pretty girl I opened sitting and I tell her that why didn't she keep to her word. She says but I found her and I tell her no, that we meeting again was just a coincidence and I playfully tell her that she broke my heart. She goes 'awww". I ask for her name and she says "Sabina" which sounds "sabaina". I ask her to spell it and I tell her my name. She quickly makes up a nickname for me and I give her a frown. She was sitting and I was standing and I didn't know what do say or do again and her two friends were around her. I ask her if she's still around and she says yes. I tell her I'll see her around and I go back to talking with my friends. I later encounter her sitting and I resume conversation with her and I find out she's from another campus. I tell her I'd like to grab her number so we could meet up some other time away from the noise and get to have a proper talk and then she says the shit that makes me realize I'd been wasting my time all along: "why do you want to get my number, what do you want to talk about?". And I tell her something along the lines "people ask too many questions and it tends to ruin everything". She still seems adamant and I try to build a better connection. A friend of mine interrupts us and tries to run game on her and I'm like wtf. Her friend then comes and gives her a lap dance. My friend was trying to make the girl I was talking to dance with him. So I tell him that here's a girl dancing he should talk to her. He tries and the girl gives him a wtf look and leaves. I try to get compliance from the pretty girl by telling her to stand for a sec so I can have a better look at her dress. She refuses. I should have gotten compliance earlier. I realize I had been wasting my time all along and most people had already left. I leave her. I had to lead my drunk friend back to his hostel. The dude was fucking wasted. I was fucking tired. All in all, it was good.
Lessons Learn
Read up on party/dance floor game
Drink less (hard to do)
Learn some non-verbal game
Ask for compliance early enough
Have a goal before starting a conversation with a girl (e.g number close, to fuck her, to learn physical escalation or make out, kiss her, etc)
I've been so busy with school and it's painful I can't keep track of my progress sometimes. It has also affected my cold approaches. But of late I've gotten back into things. I approached three girls two days ago and I went on a short instant date with one and eventually got her number. We've been texting and we're yet to meet again. I'm still trying to improve my texting game. Today I was so fucking busy that I missed meals trying to catch up with school work. Tonight I strolled around campus (I'm now living in campus) and I couldn't approach a single girl even though there were lots of girls. I have a mental obstacle that's stopping me from approaching girls on campus at night. I have a few theories but I'm working on overcoming them. Ciao amigos.
I haven't updated in a while coz school work has been killing me. Exams are close. I haven't been approaching as much girls as I want to but I've been approaching and generally gaming. I still feel like shit and got AA but I'm making some progress (I hope). Here's my latest report https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=13533
Still pushing!
Still pushing!
Update on My Outing Yesterday
Well I did go for the outing and I learnt a lot. The girls we hung out with were street girls. It was so fucking hard to game them. Deep diving is kinda impossible and you need to be a real asshole to seduce them. They respond to aggressive guys. I don't have what it takes yet to seduce this kinda girls yet. Although I prefer the more refined girls, but of late I've taken a keen interest for the streets and learning some street smarts. So I'm going to learn from some of my street natural friends how to seduce this kinda girls. I watched my natural friend run his game, he's got it. He got laid even before I arrived (although he has known the girl he fucked prior to this time and that's not his first time banging her). Got a lot to learn. Here's my new process now (stuffs I'll be practising):
Cold Approach
1.Pre-opening
2.Approaching girls in situations that seem awkward to me
3.Long conversations with girls I just met and probably follow up with an instant date
Dates[/]
1.Have a solid plan from scratch to finish
2.Push-pull
3.Chase/sexual framing
4.Seppuku's detailed escalation process
Until next time. Cheers!
Well I did go for the outing and I learnt a lot. The girls we hung out with were street girls. It was so fucking hard to game them. Deep diving is kinda impossible and you need to be a real asshole to seduce them. They respond to aggressive guys. I don't have what it takes yet to seduce this kinda girls yet. Although I prefer the more refined girls, but of late I've taken a keen interest for the streets and learning some street smarts. So I'm going to learn from some of my street natural friends how to seduce this kinda girls. I watched my natural friend run his game, he's got it. He got laid even before I arrived (although he has known the girl he fucked prior to this time and that's not his first time banging her). Got a lot to learn. Here's my new process now (stuffs I'll be practising):
Cold Approach
1.Pre-opening
2.Approaching girls in situations that seem awkward to me
3.Long conversations with girls I just met and probably follow up with an instant date
Dates[/]
1.Have a solid plan from scratch to finish
2.Push-pull
3.Chase/sexual framing
4.Seppuku's detailed escalation process
Until next time. Cheers!
Is this journal dead? Nah, coz my seduction career has only begun. I got laid last night and it made me realize my problem was the fact that I had no place and all along I was trying to use logistics on the fly. For a beginner, that's a tall order. I faced a huge LMR that lasted for a while but I overcame it (a huge achievement for a newbie). An FR will be coming up soon (I'd have probably shagged another girl again so maybe two!). To all my readers out there I say - Cheers!
