nino's Newbie Assignment

[nino]

Thanks for the kind words guys!

Was she sitting alone?

Yes, and no indication that someone else was with her. Makes it even worse.

Anyway, on to Day 4

That was tough, really tough. If you're short on time: no, I did not accomplish the goal of saying "Hi." to at least 6 different girls. Hate to admit it in "public". Wish I had any excuses but it simply was because of a lack of guts. However, I did approach 3 girls and got mixed results, kinda interesting.

The first one was really stupid and I don't even need to think about what was going wrong, I knew instantly.
So there I am, eager about the challenge, on my way to the park and after a couple of minutes I found a girl I liked already (wasn't in the park yet). So when we passed each other I said "Hey" with a little smile. She just looked at me in the strangest way possible, haha. Must have thought I'm a weirdo or something and I can't even blame her. She hadn't looked at me, in fact she even looked completely distracted by her thoughts and here I come throwing a Hi at her out of nowhere. What a failure on my part! Didn't even make me feel bad, tho, I just laugh about it.

With that in mind I kept walking and tried to establish at least some sort of connection, in this case thru eye contact. And while I did exchange some eye contact with a woman every now and then, I only had one real eye contact flirt and this really put me off. Which is stupid because if she's responsive to that a "Hi" won't scare her away either. Didn't necessarily feel regret, I was just mad about myself.
Anyway, I'm still walking (still not in the park) when I come to a red light, next to quite a beautiful girl who turned around to see who's getting close to her (although I wasn't that close, really). She had a neutral facial expression but something extra that told me she's an open person and I don't know what the EF got to my mind right there but I immediately said "Hi there". She even responded saying "erm, hi", kinda surprised, still keeping that same look but dunno, really didn't feel negative at all. And even if it was, for my progress, that was HUGE.

In the park I roamed around for quite some time without any success. That was mainly because there weren't too many girls my age and most people were in groups, which is understandable since it was Saturday. Then I found a woman about 2 or 3 years older than me sitting on a bench so I sat down and said "Hey how's it going?" and she smiled back saying "hii" (double i because she kinda dragged it out a little). That smile was rather a smile saying "I just answered because it's polite to do so" but that doesn't matter, this task was solely about saying hi. Luckily enough a friend of hers picked her up right after that, dunno, I would have felt awkward sitting there next to her after that.

Well, since the park wasn't all to great I took the bus to the shopping center which I now find to be stupid because had I walked, maybe I would have had another shot but in the bus where I'm exposed to everybody for quite some time I was put off even more (although I didn't think about the task at that time).
The shopping center wasn't too great either, not many people roaming around alone. Which I again think was because of Saturday. Could (should) have gone to the cafe while I was there but really didn't feel like it so I drove home getting ready to go out at night.

And that was it, so no, mission not accomplished. Quite mad about myself but then again, the first 3 days were really smooth sailing, nothing comes to you for free in life so I'm not embarrassed either. What is great about reflecting on everything, however, is that I noticed a very important thing. In the 3 cases above where I did say "Hi.", I did so spontaneously and without thinking. Once I over thought things, I would think about negative results and therefore play it safe (and not to win - what doesn't Chase have covered already?! ) which in this case even meant not playing at all. So yeah, I can definitely take a lot from that and it's progress nonetheless.

Today's Sunday but I'm pretty tired and not in the mood to go out today so Day 5 is going to be an off day. My plan for tomorrow is to try it again and say "Hi." to six different girls I don't know. Nope, not three more to even it out, not 5 1/2, six. And if don't manage to do so, I will go for another six on Tuesday. There's no need to cheat or rush things, because the following tasks are all built up from this one right here (how am I supposed to say "Hey, how's your day going?" when I can't even say "Hi."?) I'll rather take it slow but then do it well.

So long - nino

 

[Jeet02]

Seems like you still learned quite a bit from the experience Nino. Way to go man. I like the dedication and the fact that you want to approach 6 girls in total in ONE day. Good stuff.

With that said though, I have a feeling you will find saying "Hey, how's your day going?" way easier than just saying "Hi". Because the former opens up a conversation, where the latter just says "Hi" and it is hard to react to it. I mean, imagine someone approaching you with one and another person approaching you with the other one, who would you feel more "comfortable" with or talking back to? To me it is the former at least...

I feel like the "hi" portion of it is to help you with approach anxiety and to realize, like you did this time, that even if they reject you, you don't feel bad about it. You just laugh it out. I realized this too last night .

Keep it up!

-Jeet

 

[nino]

Seems like you still learned quite a bit from the experience Nino. Way to go man. I like the dedication and the fact that you want to approach 6 girls in total in ONE day. Good stuff.

Yeah I could definitely take something with me from yesterday so you could consider it success nonetheless.

With that said though, I have a feeling you will find saying "Hey, how's your day going?" way easier than just saying "Hi". Because the former opens up a conversation, where the latter just says "Hi" and it is hard to react to it. I mean, imagine someone approaching you with one and another person approaching you with the other one, who would you feel more "comfortable" with or talking back to? To me it is the former at least...

Definitely true but saying just "Hi." should help to break that mental barrier and will set up the better starter like "Hey, how's your day going?", which will be the next task anyway.

I feel like the "hi" portion of it is to help you with approach anxiety and to realize, like you did this time, that even if they reject you, you don't feel bad about it. You just laugh it out. I realized this too last night .

Ha, had anything similar happen to you too?

 

[Jeet02]

I feel like the "hi" portion of it is to help you with approach anxiety and to realize, like you did this time, that even if they reject you, you don't feel bad about it. You just laugh it out. I realized this too last night .

Ha, had anything similar happen to you too?

haha sort of, yes. There was this girl, and her body language screamed "I don't want to talk to anybody else but my friends", cause she was just turning to them, or her in this case. I observed her for a little bit and she was still turned towards her friend, and she started dancing...pretty good too. So I decided to approach her (we were close to the dance floor) and I said "you should definitely consider taking your dance moves up there..." and she turned to me, laughed. Then I said "cause the people up there are just horrible..." she kept laughing and this time she turned to look at the dance floor and I said "and you don't look too bad yourself". She looked at me again, still laughing, and turned to talk to her friend. She didnt say a single word haha. But I didn't care. I was going to say "I guess thats a no on the dancing huh?" but I figured I shouldnt haha. It is not like I wanted to dance with her or anything, just wanted to see her reaction. And it was kind of a lame one. But yeah, I didn't care really

 

[nino]

haha sort of, yes. There was this girl, and her body language screamed "I don't want to talk to anybody else but my friends", cause she was just turning to them, or her in this case. I observed her for a little bit and she was still turned towards her friend, and she started dancing...pretty good too. So I decided to approach her (we were close to the dance floor) and I said "you should definitely consider taking your dance moves up there..." and she turned to me, laughed. Then I said "cause the people up there are just horrible..." she kept laughing and this time she turned to look at the dance floor and I said "and you don't look too bad yourself". She looked at me again, still laughing, and turned to talk to her friend. She didnt say a single word haha. But I didn't care. I was going to say "I guess thats a no on the dancing huh?" but I figured I shouldnt haha. It is not like I wanted to dance with her or anything, just wanted to see her reaction. And it was kind of a lame one. But yeah, I didn't care really

Haha nice story though. And, actually helpful (I know, I'm in analyzing the sh*t out of everything mode these days..) but guess that should help change my mindset a little, you know, we all can just laugh about rejections one day ;D

On to Day 6!

The result: two girls. What a failure. NOT! Yes, it was two girls only, and earlier today I really struggled, but I'm really proud about how things went. And since it's a late entry, and I've been writing novels the past couple of days anyway, I'll get right to the point.

So like I said, earlier today I didn't get anything to go and didn't feel all too comfortable. Didn't have all too much time either so I went back home, did some work and then started my new routine - grab a coffee and then do my work out in the evening.

While waiting for the coffee a girl next to me did the same. Would say she was about 18 years old so thus far the youngest woman I've talked to since the Newbie Assignment. I was right before her so we stood next to each other at the counter. And I have no idea how, but apparently I grew some chest hair in that moment. Maybe it was how relaxed I stood there, or simply because of the fact that she looked at me but while she was coming over to wait for her coffee too we had some eye contact and I had a very slight smile. When she was next to me I said "Hey, how's it going?" which isn't quite a "Hey, how's your day going?" but definitely more than a "Hi." so I'm proud of myself. Even better, she responded saying that she was fine and asked how I was. Apart from saying I was good too the conversation didn't go any further, tho. Two reasons for this: I wouldn't have known how anyway (and I even before I had found GirlsChase I knew that "so what coffee are you getting?" won't get me a girl ) and since I've been a regular in that cafe for 4 years now my coffee's ready pretty quickly, which rescued me. But I didn't need to get any further, it's all about saying "Hi.", which I did.

And as I'm writing this, argh, I can't keep it short, I simply have to analyze the whole situation (it's quite amazing how things become so clear to you once you start to reflect on them and write your thoughts down). But first I'll go on to the next girl.

It was at the gym. YES, my chest apparently got so hairy that I even talked to a girl in the gym. It was after I was done, ready to leave. And there was a girl on the treadmill I found to be pretty darn pretty. Also, her body was great. She was pretty lean, not too skinny tho and yet had rather big breasts. So actually a girl most guys wouldn't dare to approach and neither would I but she gave me a pretty neat smile when we locked eyes so once I passed her I simply had to say something. And since she was walking only I again said "Hey, how's it going?" but this time with a playful voice, joking around a little. Wait. Was that an early banter? No way...that's task 9 of the assignment! But I think it actually was.
She responded pretty nicely to it saying "well, not all too fast as you can see." and I just gave her a smile as I walked away (I never stopped). I once again felt like in the movies, that was so amazing.

I'm proud of myself, I really am. And that in the two venues I thought were the hardest. But like I said before, thinking about all that makes things clear. Because out of the 4 places I chose for the assignment, these two are the ones I feel the most comfortable in. The cafe is a place I've visited almost daily for the past 4 years, I know the personal well and I even make fun of the new guys and stuff. Quite similar to what Chase described in Gym Pickup. Either that girl noticed, or I just had something confident about myself as a result.

The gym's similar. It's not a second home like the cafe, but I know my way around and I know what I'm doing. Also, for the first time I actually kept my sexy walk in the gym. Was kinda scared to do so at first but I had a good workout session and that always gets me pumped up (even literally ;P).

And now the two things the girls shared: they looked at me first. That's also what I noticed on Day 3, when I was looked at first, I got the eye game down much easier. Guess it's just a confidence boost when you notice a girl looks at you a little longer. I once again learned so much in one day. Today, I had elements of various tasks. While task 1 was checking out venues, I now know where I have home court advantage. Task 3 was about eye contact, but it's only today that I'm absolute certain about the situation - that I'm somewhat relying on girls looking at me first. Doesn't mean I won't try to master how things turn out when I initiate the eye contact but once again Chase got something covered already - Pre Opening. Guess reading one of his books and spending hours on his blog did pay off!
Also, I tip-toed in the waters of future tasks, like saying "Hey, how's your day going" (or in my case just Hey how's it going) or even the early banter.

Today also changes how I go about the Newbie Assignment. I'll still try to do each task day by day and try to complete it but then again, when the situation occurs where I can do something more, why not go for it? Why should I wait till I said "Hi." to six girls on one day when I have the guts to say "Hey, how's your day going?" to let's say 4 girls on a certain day? In the end, this assignment is all about building up one's confidence anyway.

So yeah, another great day, in such a short amount of time. Remembers me of high school, where I only succeeded when I really put the time and effort into studying and I guess the last week I did put in a lot of time and effort into it. Hey, I won't study until March and I don't work a full time job, so why not? It's difficult to get me dedicated but once I am, I am dedicatedly dedicated. I mean it's kind of silly that I'm getting so fired up about such little things but hey, I'll hook up with one girl I met during the day sooner or later, I'll get there

Although, tomorrow actually is one the few busy days I have. We'll see if I can ride this momentum! So long - nino

 

[Jeet02]

Nino,

Glad to see you are making progress. Was it easier or not, to say "hey, how's it going?" instead of just "hi"? To me it is...definitely.

And you should feel pumped up. If it is something you are not used to doing and now you have the confidence and guts to do it, even if its "just 2 girls", it is more than enough. 6 days ago you wouldn't have even looked at any of those girls for more than one second. And that is only in 6 days! So yes, it is not silly...be happy about it and dont feel silly. Also, I am sure you realized, it isn't too bad once you actually talk to them huh? The anticipation is way worse than the actual thing.

Keep it up man!

-Jeet

 

[Eric]

Yeahhhhh boiii.

You're starting to recognize some of the signs of interest. This might be a bummer to realize, but you definitely could have pulled those girls if you had the experience. They were (almost, I can't ever be too sure) essentially waiting for you to sweep them up.

But now you've got the key to meeting new women, and effortlessly. Soon it becomes auto pilot, you'll lead women around and do this stuff like it's normal.

 

[nino]

Glad to see you are making progress. Was it easier or not, to say "hey, how's it going?" instead of just "hi"? To me it is...definitely.

Very much so. It also feels more natural and less awkward, to both me, and the women.

You're starting to recognize some of the signs of interest. This might be a bummer to realize, but you definitely could have pulled those girls if you had the experience. They were (almost, I can't ever be too sure) essentially waiting for you to sweep them up.

Definitely, makes it easier to approach them once you realize hey, she might be interested as well. And I know, I know, I might have gotten more out of those situations which stinks but I'm getting there!


Didn't report in yesterday because there was nothing to report. For one, I didn't really have time and wasn't thinking all too much about the assignment, and when I did I wasn't really into it. But today's another day and I'm super excited about what I could possibly do in the cafe or gym today! And I've already got two cool stories to share. Also, I'll be out tonight again but I told a friend of mine about this assignment and we both choose to not drink tonight and see what we can do. He's very similar to me, good when drunk and clubbing, not so good during the day but finally wants something serious. We're always out together (today I think it's actually just the two of us even) and when there's one person getting a girl only, it's him. But overall, we're a pretty good duo so I'm excited for this experiment and if it works well, maybe we'll even go on a hunt together during the day!

Will check back after the gym - nino

 

[nino]

Day 8

Trying to keep things "short" once again as I need to get going soon. So anyway, two stories from this morning:

First one was when I was walking home after my morning coffee when the girl in front of me suddenly kneed down to tie her laces. As a result I ran into her but instead of saying sorry like I normally would have I just said "woops" but with a voice that suggested she did wrong (not in a bad way though) and she was like "oh my gosh I'm so sorry", she really felt super guilty and embarrassed. Which isn't necessarily all too great as you want women to feel good around you but I didn't care and I'm all about trying new things out anyway so instead of saying something like "it's cool" or anything I said "You know you have to make that up to me one day" and gave her a friendly, but (hopefully) sexy smile and walked away. Went off a little too quick because I don't even know how she reacted, haha. I think I didn't handle the situation perfectly either but it at least got me to say something and more importantly, not some boring, auto-pilot stuff like "sorry" or "no problem".

Now the next girl, that was huge. We both were walking towards each other and she had a somewhat angry look on her face and I said to myself just say something, it effin doesn't matter and she did look back at me, so wanting to feel like in the movies again I said "Why you're looking so mad? Smile a little" with a nice smile myself (I'm afraid it wasn't necessarily a sexy smile though). This time I looked back and she looked at me with an expression that said "What the hell do you want from me? Don't you see I got other things on my mind?" so not all too good I guess! But what is important is that I at least opened my mouth!

Then, since it's a workout day I obviously had my coffee beforehand and a friend whom I hung around with joined me for it so we sat down in the cafe. While waiting for the coffee I spotted two girls sitting on a table for 4 and one of them (the hotter one, *YES!*) kept looking at me and I told my friend I wanted to sit next to them. So we went there and ask them if that was okay. They agreed and we had a nice little chatter but nothing special. I didn't make any intentions clear or admitted I wanted to talk to them because they were hot but again, I don't care. It's all about the approach right now and I'm progressing in that regard.

In the gym nothing special happened, I saw the one girl from Monday on the treadmill again. She smiled at me as she recognized me and I made sure she knows I noticed her too but that was about it. Somehow I do hope to see her on Friday again, tho... (and I'll better have the guts to talk to her then!!)

And that was it for today. I'm pleased and I'm starting to think whether I should try to move on to the next task, asking if the girl is single. I'm not good at moving on yet, but this isn't important still and I definitely am feeling more and more comfortable at least approaching women so it's time for a new challenge but this one's going to be tough.

Anyway, time for clubbing.. sober.

Thanks for reading - nino

 

[The Tool]

Very nice progress Nino, Glad to see your taking it day by day, Yes the next step of asking a girl if she is single does seem a little intimidating, but you should definately go for it, you have nothing to lose, and once you pass that hurdle of putting yourself out there no matter what the outcome, you will be better for it and each step will only get easier and easier. Just remember when you approach the girl and ask if she is single "hey! quick question. are you single?" , keep your head high and use confidance, like a cop would who is pulling you over.

 

[nino]

Very nice progress Nino, Glad to see your taking it day by day, Yes the next step of asking a girl if she is single does seem a little intimidating, but you should definately go for it, you have nothing to lose, and once you pass that hurdle of putting yourself out there no matter what the outcome, you will be better for it and each step will only get easier and easier. Just remember when you approach the girl and ask if she is single "hey! quick question. are you single?" , keep your head high and use confidance, like a cop would who is pulling you over.

Thanks for the nice words man!

Day 9

I approached girls, and it's still a failure. I didn't ask anyone if they were single, I just did what I've done the past couple of days. Which isn't necessarily a bad thing, but it won't help me progress either. With one girl I even had a little bit of a conversation and the entire time I thought "ask something in that regard, just something" but it never happened because as always, when you think, you'll start to worry and you won't do it anyway. Or sometimes I would see a girl, have some eye contact with her and then think "ask her, ask her, ask her" and then I wouldn't even say hi anymore.

Of course you could say it's great I at least approached some girls but by now this isn't anything new to me anymore and it doesn't feel uncomfortable to me anymore. And that's always been a problem for me, once I start feeling comfortable I like it to be that way and are kinda scared to tap into new waters. So yeah, will definitely have to push myself! It will be tough but I want this bad!

So long - nino

 

[Jeet02]

Very nice progress Nino, Glad to see your taking it day by day, Yes the next step of asking a girl if she is single does seem a little intimidating, but you should definately go for it, you have nothing to lose, and once you pass that hurdle of putting yourself out there no matter what the outcome, you will be better for it and each step will only get easier and easier. Just remember when you approach the girl and ask if she is single "hey! quick question. are you single?" , keep your head high and use confidance, like a cop would who is pulling you over.

Thanks for the nice words man!

Day 9

I approached girls, and it's still a failure. I didn't ask anyone if they were single, I just did what I've done the past couple of days. Which isn't necessarily a bad thing, but it won't help me progress either. With one girl I even had a little bit of a conversation and the entire time I thought "ask something in that regard, just something" but it never happened because as always, when you think, you'll start to worry and you won't do it anyway. Or sometimes I would see a girl, have some eye contact with her and then think "ask her, ask her, ask her" and then I wouldn't even say hi anymore.

Of course you could say it's great I at least approached some girls but by now this isn't anything new to me anymore and it doesn't feel uncomfortable to me anymore. And that's always been a problem for me, once I start feeling comfortable I like it to be that way and are kinda scared to tap into new waters. So yeah, will definitely have to push myself! It will be tough but I want this bad!

So long - nino

Just think back to a few days ago. You felt comfortable without approaching girls, but don't you feel a whole lot better now? Think of it that same way...in a few days, you will feel a whole lote better about yourself. Not only that, but you will be full of confidence and be proud of it too. Go for it.

-Jeet

 

[nino]

Just think back to a few days ago. You felt comfortable without approaching girls, but don't you feel a whole lot better now? Think of it that same way...in a few days, you will feel a whole lote better about yourself. Not only that, but you will be full of confidence and be proud of it too. Go for it.
-Jeet

True as usual Jeet!

Day 10

Apparently two is my magic number, because today I talked to two girls only again. Didn't get out all too early today and I thought I might check out the shopping center for a change but I never got the guts to ask anyone out. So yeah, it was getting late and I needed to work out so as usually I grabbed my coffee (with the cafe being in that shopping center) and there was girl number 1.

As usual, I was right in front of that girl. And my best friend there (one of the baristas) noticed I was trying to talk to lots of girls recently so he joked around, "On the hunt again, eh? Show me what you got right now" and she overheard us. So, having him as a backup I said "I'll show you how it's done" and turned to her saying "Hey, you look cute, are you single too?" but she didn't answer and just giggled a little. It's my own fault even, I didn't say it seriously enough and the whole situation made it appear as a joke only. But at least I spoke the words, and she actually was kinda cute. I'm not super pleased, I mean yes, I asked a girl like that but it wasn't the same and I still found myself in a comfort zone. A first step, but nothing more.

Second encounter was in the gym, it was kinda funny. So there was a woman about 40 years of age working out next to me and while we both rested she asked me how long I've been working out for and I said for almost three years and she said I looked good for such "a young bloke". Seeming like an open person I answered "well, I still need to work hard for that booty of yours" after which I immediately thought "goddammit what the hell am I doing?" but she responded well to it and said we should work out together one day. Having the task in mind I said "So I figure you have no husband who'd get mad at me?" but in a jokingly voice, wasn't brave enough to make it sound playful. She also answered jokingly that he wouldn't need to find out and then we both returned to our sets and thank God it was my last one so I could quickly run away. Now she didn't necessarily look hot but older women with great bodies do turn me on a lot so yeah, was great.

That's it. This task is very tough and while heading in the right direction I was still craving that comfort. Need to approach it a lot more aggressively or it will take for ages!

Anyway, gotta enjoy night life again (and I'll stay sober again, maybe that will help me indirectly as well!) so let's see what I can do tomorrow, it's getting embarrassing for me!

So long - nino

 

[nino]

I hate technology. Just spent a lot of time writing today's entry and then my laptop crashed. As usual, I wrote a ton and I'm not going to write it all over again. So today's going to be a very, very short entry.

Tl;dr version of Day 11:

On Friday night I at first was a scaredy cat but pulled myself together and ended up in bed with one of the most beautiful girls I've ever hooked up with. Having a lot of confidence as a result I went to the shopping center on Saturday.

First encounter was at a ATM where I "accidentally" ran into a girl coming off it and said "now I know why they always run into women in movies, you do get to meet beautiful girls that way. Are you single also?" She knew I set that one up but she said it was so silly she liked it and we actually exchanged numbers !

Next was two girls, with one I had a lot of eye contact so I approached them and said Hi and asked if they were single. They said they were but also that they had each other. All in a good manner, though and I felt great having the guts to ask even if I was outmatched!

Then I went cold a little and decided to go home but grab some food in a sushi bar. I sat down and it was kinda crowded when I saw a girl looking for somewhere to sit down and when she was near me I offered her to sit next to me, "but only if she promises she won't tell her boyfriend". She giggled and accepted. We had a really good conversation but I didn't ask her for anything more, it would have felt awkward to sit next there if she declined. But it wasn't important, it's all about approaching still!

So overall a very awesome day and I took a lot from it, a lot of confidence and actually joy.

On Sunday's I don't like to go out so today will be another off day, but I'm ready to go tomorrow! Now the next task is taking a break and check the walk but I've been doing so all the time and been steadily improving. So instead of doing that, but also instead of skipping it, I will try to ask some more girls if they are single. Maybe it's got something to do with trying to stay in my comfort zone, but I will also tell you that it's got something to do with something else: it actually is a lot of fun and, addictive. Feeling really good, what a weekend!

So long - nino

 

[Jeet02]

I hate technology. Just spent a lot of time writing today's entry and then my laptop crashed. As usual, I wrote a ton and I'm not going to write it all over again. So today's going to be a very, very short entry.

Tl;dr version of Day 11:

On Friday night I at first was a scaredy cat but pulled myself together and ended up in bed with one of the most beautiful girls I've ever hooked up with. Having a lot of confidence as a result I went to the shopping center on Saturday.

First encounter was at a ATM where I "accidentally" ran into a girl coming off it and said "now I know why they always run into women in movies, you do get to meet beautiful girls that way. Are you single also?" She knew I set that one up but she said it was so silly she liked it and we actually exchanged numbers !

Next was two girls, with one I had a lot of eye contact so I approached them and said Hi and asked if they were single. They said they were but also that they had each other. All in a good manner, though and I felt great having the guts to ask even if I was outmatched!

Then I went cold a little and decided to go home but grab some food in a sushi bar. I sat down and it was kinda crowded when I saw a girl looking for somewhere to sit down and when she was near me I offered her to sit next to me, "but only if she promises she won't tell her boyfriend". She giggled and accepted. We had a really good conversation but I didn't ask her for anything more, it would have felt awkward to sit next there if she declined. But it wasn't important, it's all about approaching still!

So overall a very awesome day and I took a lot from it, a lot of confidence and actually joy.

On Sunday's I don't like to go out so today will be another off day, but I'm ready to go tomorrow! Now the next task is taking a break and check the walk but I've been doing so all the time and been steadily improving. So instead of doing that, but also instead of skipping it, I will try to ask some more girls if they are single. Maybe it's got something to do with trying to stay in my comfort zone, but I will also tell you that it's got something to do with something else: it actually is a lot of fun and, addictive. Feeling really good, what a weekend!

So long - nino

Pretty awesome stuff as always Nino. You can definitely notice the improvement so far! Congrats man.

You should definitely tell us a little bit more about that friday night lay though...over at the field report or here, whichever you think you see as more fit!

Keep it up!

-Jeet

 

[nino]

You should definitely tell us a little bit more about that friday night lay though...over at the field report or here, whichever you think you see as more fit!

Good idea man, you know how I love to analyze things! (and to have others help me out as well!)

So I took your words and wrote a Field Report

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[nino]

Day 13

Today I met up with a friend so I didn't really focus too much on the assignment. I made some observations, though regarding my walk (which would be today's task anyway). While being distracted I managed to remind myself every now and then to keep an eye in my walk and I can definitely say it's becoming more and more natural. Only thing that I still have problems is the shoulder movement as I either tend to simply not know how to get it down or to just forget about it completely. Don't think it's a big deal but it could be the edge down lo'.

What I also noticed was that either this friend isn't a good wing man or that I maybe should have told me I'd use him for those girls we saw. One looked quite good, the other one not so much but since a lot of my friends now know what I'm about these days I told him I'd like to talk to them and we did. So we approached them and I introduced myself and asked how their days were going. Didn't ask the "are you single" question because I felt it would have been too aggressive for the situation or maybe even intimidating/seeming like a joke like lots of guys in groups like to do. All in all it was kinda awkward, though as my friend and her friend were just standing next to us so after that little chit chat I didn't decide to ask if they wanted to spend some time with us and we walked away.

But I had a great day nonetheless and for some reason I feel super ready for tomorrow's task which is all about indirect direct !

So long - nino

 

[nino]

Day 14

As eager as I was, I unfortunately didn't go out to pursue any women because Tuesday's a pretty busy day and I didn't get a good sleep last night either. Not worrying though as I'm still super motivated for tomorrow!

However, I got two unexpected text messages. The first one was from a girl I occasionally met with before the assignment, not quite sure if I mentioned her before. I feel like an asshole because I completely forgot about her! Now we both didn't want anything serious but I think she did want a little more.

Second message was from the girl I ran into on Saturday at the shopping center. I kinda forgot about her too and that although nothing happened in the meantime. Haven't responded to her yet because for one, I don't quite know what (she only wrote, "hey how are you? " ) and two, I'm not quite sure if I really want to. Now she looks alright but dunno, those two messages, even if it was two only, overwhelm me right now, quite frankly. I mean it's actually positive stuff but don't know, I have no desire to see either girl. It feels like so much work and I'd rather focus on the assignment at the moment and put effort into approaching new girls.

If I had to choose I would rather go with the second girl in order to try things out and get to learn things and see if I could possibly set up a date or just improve my texting but I've been learning so much in the past two weeks and some things are going really fast now so like I said, I'm kinda overwhelmed !

Would appreciate any insight

- nino

 

[Jeet02]

Hey nino,

I say you should text the second girl back. Part of the idea of meeting and approaching new women is not to just do that and get their numbers and that is it. It is to get dates that will either end on a lay or a good relationship. I say text her back, and try to set up a date and learn from your date with her. If nothing really goes anywhere or you are not interested, then you can then decide not to contact her any longer. But this is why we are learning to approach women, to do precisely this.

Also, you can still approach and meet new women while you wait for your date with this girl. Or even while you are dating, as soon as it turns into something serious, then thats when you need to stop...but for now, you can have the best of both worlds. Dating is part of the game. Play it.

-Jeet

Ps. She texted first...she is obviously interested, imo.

 

[nino]

I say you should text the second girl back.

You're right and I did especially after looking at the task sheet again, the newbie assignment is over pretty soon so yeah, keep moving on and texted her back yesterday. We'll see what will happen!

Anyway, on to Day 15 (yesterday)

And for once ago I got two girls only! However, it didn't really feel difficult at all. Took some time because I still needed a lot of clear signs in order to feel secure.

The weather was bad once again so the park was no option and I didn't want to roam around the shopping center again so I decided to head downtown. In the crowded areas I found it hard to establish some sort of connection so I went to quieter places and there is that little plaza and I saw a girl standing around, apparently waiting for somebody (and she did). Anyway, we had some eye contact and I walked toward her and asked if she was single. Now according to the assignment I could have also asked how her day was going but I felt to just go the distance yesterday. Unfortunately, she wasn't and was indeed waiting for [him] but said so in a somewhat sorry voice, hopefully she didn't think I couldn't take it. Anyway I answered, "oh no it's cool, just thought you were beautiful and wanted to take my chances". Think I did come across as confident enough.

Next girl was somebody who was unfortunate to get run into by me again. I wonder how often I can pull this one off. For now, it gave me a phone number once again. So yeah, we were walking towards each other and I acted distracted and bumped her a little. Like a couple of days ago I again said "woops" in a voice suggesting it's her fault. She apologized and I said "no worries, so how's your day going?". She said "little lost in my thoughts, I'm so sorry again". Thinking about my Field Report where I was suggested not to play the white knight I didn't go for another "it's okay" and instead said "that makes you even cuter, I'm Nino by the way" and she responded that it was quite an unusual name and if my parents where from somewhere else. I answered her just shortly saying no and that I was named after someone but also that I was kinda in a hurry so I asked "wanna give me your number? So we can get to know each other even better." She agreed but I didn't call her to give her my number and just went away. I did, however, text her yesterday evening say "hey this is nino. happy to "run" into you today but you haven't told me your name yet!" She responded and I actually hope for a date with her. She wasn't super hot but looked great enough for me to try out more than just experimenting to gain experience!

Then I was in the cafe before my workout but didn't really see anyone who looked appealing to me that time. In the gym I saw the girl on the treadmill again and we said a quick "Hi." to each other but nothing more which starts to pi*s me off because I gotta get moving. Makes it just so much more difficult because right now she's the girl I have a strong interest in.

Anyway, next task is an early banter, however, I won't be going out today. I'll see what I can do tomorrow and if she's in the gym too I will make her another task for myself.

So long - nino