nino's Newbie Assignment

[nino]

Day 17

Today was to approach some girls with an early banter. Was quite tough to find appropriate situations. I mean I just can't walk up to a girl and say something negative to her! However, I did tease one girl and that was very important.In fact, it was the girl in the gym!

So as I was about to leave again we greeted each other and I said "Still going slow, eh?" in what I would say the perfect voice tone. My smile wasn't all too sexy and rather friendly but maybe that helped my cause. She responded saying "well, I never see you running, at all!!" and eventually we agreed that on Monday I'll be joining her on the treadmill after the workout. (guys, if you have any tips for me don't hesitate! I'm getting nervous) Yeah, things are going slow with her and maybe I'm turning myself into boyfriend material but I actually wouldn't mind. However, as I'm getting better and better at picking up girls I'm a little more relaxed and maybe I'll try to experiment a little with her as well.

Overall though I'm feeling pretty comfortable with an early banter, it's something I've done once in a while anyway in the past. Tomorrow I'll be in Johannesburg so I won't be able to focus on the assignment but my plan for next week is to ask four girls for a phone number and I'll try to do an early banter if a situation for that occurs.

Tonight, tonight I'll meet up with the girl from Wednesday. Hopefully I'll get some material for a FR Given that it's pretty darn late already I think I should be able to move things fast. I used to text a little with another girl but she would answer in like literally 1 or 2 words and I didn't want to keep coming up with new topics and long text messages, you know, put too much effort in!

So long - nino

 

[Chase]

Doing great, Nino. You really tore through the early parts of the Newbie Assignment, and you've kept up some solid momentum since then.

The girl on the treadmill - make it a competition. And make sure you frame it that she's the one who pushed for this, not you (no matter who actually did).

So when you show up, you can say something like, "All right, let's do this," and start running with her. Make some small talk / casual conversation when you start, get to know her. Then at some point when you're both running hard, you can say, "What do you think we should race for? How do we know who's won, and what's the loser have to do?" See if you can get that into going out for drinks or ice cream. Then you can lose or win or joke around about it - it'll be more fun if there's no clear idea about who's the winner and who's the loser (e.g., "Okay, whoever gets tired first - loses!" then later "Maybe we should just call it a draw. I'll buy the ice cream this time, you get it next time.").

Hope things went well with Wednesday's board (haven't checked the FRs yet).

Chase

 

[nino]

Doing great, Nino. You really tore through the early parts of the Newbie Assignment, and you've kept up some solid momentum since then.
The girl on the treadmill - make it a competition. And make sure you frame it that she's the one who pushed for this, not you (no matter who actually did).

Thanks for the tips, will definitely keep them in mind! Makes me feel ready for later

Didn't write a FR about that girl because things were just crazy. So we meet in the middle of the night downtown which I found to be unusual but I thought she was in a bar with friends maybe preparing herself or drinking a little bit to gain some confidence. However, she was completely wasted and it was just awkward. She wanted to take me home and I accompanied her but declined to go upstairs. She was kinda mad but she was just so so drunk and laughing all the time. Big turn off! And I didn't want to take advantage of her state as well, would have felt wrong. Didn't bother texting her and nor has she, I think she is quite embarrassed.

So long - nino

 

[stratvm]

awesome commitment (and results you show) man, grats! think you will have 0 problems in a month.

im wondering though about one thing. i`m convinced you are good looking (and not just because of the gym, that is not enough at all just a plus, i know) and still had problems with the game pre-gc. why is that? you also say you have consistent results in night game = lots of attention, lots of success and still had confidence & game problems?

i do this stuff for 5 weeks, started reading this blog 2-3 weeks ago but despite i advanced more in these 2-3 weeks than in my entire life altogether i got only a last 5% failure and a promising fck date this week and a cliffhanger story with a personal trainer that is probably a dead end. i admit i lost a lot of women though by not pushing/persisting/being certain about me as a man.

 

[nino]

awesome commitment (and results you show) man, grats! think you will have 0 problems in a month.

im wondering though about one thing. i`m convinced you are good looking (and not just because of the gym, that is not enough at all just a plus, i know) and still had problems with the game pre-gc. why is that? you also say you have consistent results in night game = lots of attention, lots of success and still had confidence & game problems?

i do this stuff for 5 weeks, started reading this blog 2-3 weeks ago but despite i advanced more in these 2-3 weeks than in my entire life altogether i got only a last 5% failure and a promising fck date this week and a cliffhanger story with a personal trainer that is probably a dead end. i admit i lost a lot of women though by not pushing/persisting/being certain about me as a man.

Well the night game came easy to me because of the alcohol and being in a venue were you [know] girls want exactly that. But all in all, I can't even answer your question myself. Like I stated a couple of times, regret is worse than a simple "no", you will just laugh off a "no" and you won't even see that woman ever again yet that mental barrier was there. Didn't help that my past girlfriends were the ones who did most of the work. And back then after a break up I wasn't thinking "I need to learn how to pick up girls". In fact, wasn't even thinking that after my last break up and it took me two months until I decided to do something.

Thanks for your stopping by and your nice words, though!

 

[nino]

Day 20

The last day of the assignment, and it couldn't have been any better. Is it the fact that for the first time, I actually met the goal suggested by Chase? Maybe. But apart from asking 4 girls for a number, I actually got two.

The first one was in the bus and I think I did a couple of things right there. So it all started while we both were waiting for the bus to come and she looked over to see whether it was coming or not and I was in her line of sight. I looked over but really slowly so while I wasn't quite looking at her yet she looked at me and so did I. She had her earphones plugged in which at first put me a little off to open up a conversation but it was also a good opportunity to open up with an early banter. So I asked her "How are we supposed to talk if you don't bother listening to me?" In my mind I was hoping she wouldn't hear it because of the music so I could continue with something like "exactly what I meant" or something but she did hear me. Wasn't a bad thing though as she took one of her earphones out and asked what I wanted to say. Losing some confidence because of a stupid venue (would have to be in a bus with her) I didn't go for "well, you look good and I wanted to meet you. I'm Nino" and instead said "We've been waiting for so long already, might as well sweeten up our time a little bit". So we had a little chatter, continued to talk a little bit in the bus and then out of nowhere (but I would say on a high note) is asked for her number. I said "You know what, I don't even have your number yet" but I said so very casually and as if we had been friends for some time now. Think she was a little surprised but she was like "Oh, sorry, here you are" and then I just continued with our chatter. Big shout out to ShotCalla for his post!

Also, I didn't call her to give her my number because I didn't want to make a big deal out of it and in addition to that, I find it easier to text her on the same day that way ("hey, this is nino and here's my number by the way") or something like that. All in all, I think I played a great game with her, especially since I didn't really stick to small talk and maybe even did some deep diving, although that exactly is what I am going to work on next.

When I stepped off the bus I asked another girl already but I'm not quite sure if that one counts. So her friend was about to get on the bus and she told her "call me" and I just responded "well I need your number for that!" in a joking way. She laughed a little but I just continued to walk. Thinking about it, maybe I should have stopped and made my intentions clear.

The third time I got "dumped". Had quite a lot of eye contact with a girl and I wasn't even sure if I was going to talk to her but she already said "What?!" but not in an aggressive way at all so I said "just checking if I like what I'm seeing" to which she asked "and?" and I said "yeah, I would definitely ask for your number". She said "mh maybe I would haven given it to you but since you didn't bother talking to me I won't bother talking to you either". Again, this wasn't aggressive and once again, now I realize I should have been persistent. Instead I just walked of with a smile indicating "ha, your loss!". At least I hope I looked that way anyway.

The fourth number was huge, though. In fact, it was the girl on the treadmill's number! Oh and yes, she does have a name, Jess. I'm super excited about this one I can't even report all that much right now. Basically, though I copied what Chase suggested me. Worked awesome! Only thing I'm not quite proud of is that I didn't ask for her number on a high note and instead at the end of our race, making our next meet up look like date, which isn't all too bad since our little race basically was set up as well but I want to do everything right with this girl. But be on the look out for (hopefully) lots of FRs

It's getting late so I will write the conclusion tomorrow but I can definitely say it was an awesome journey and an even better finish to the assignment! I'm really excited on how things will go on from here but I already got something in mind.

So long - nino

 

[Jeet02]

Nice! Kudos on the Gym girl! Or shall i say Jess? Seems like you have been practicing for that precise moment, glad you came out pretty good from it! Happy to hear man.

As far as the girl form the bus, good stuff as well. I really like how you talked it, seems like she started of a little off but things apparently went smooth after that. As far as the text, I would say something a little bit more creative. "Here is my number btw" is too generic, non personal and pretty much overdone. The fact that you are texting is obvious that she is going to get your number. So I don't think there is a real need to say something like that. Instead, try saying something a little bit more personal, something like: "Nice running into you the other day. Good thing about texts? You can listen to your music and me at the same time. - Nino" something like that....basically connect on what you guys talked about or something that happened. Basically a "inside joke", which in turn starts creating the idea of "us" between you and her. It is a specific connection and something different than what she is usually getting.

You obviously don't have to say what I said, maybe you can come up with something better, but that's the idea!

Good luck...with both!

-Jeet

 

[nino]

Thanks for the advice Jeet! Exactly what I've read so often now and still forgot.

Day 21

It's over! Damn, did time fly or what? Didn't notice how this forum's been up for three weeks already and how I've been doing this for so long already as well. Then again, it's unbelievable how quickly I developed. I mean look at all that progress, in just 3 weeks (or 2 months overall). I already feel so much more confident and kinda like a new person in the making. I did notice how I look at things differently now and how I've changed, heck, I've been trying to even deep dive in conversations with other men. And my new walk/my new movements in general is/are (almost) completely natural now. I had problems just saying a quick "Hi." and now I basically tackle girls

But as much progress as I may have made, this is just the beginning. I now know how to approach girls but that obviously isn't enough. I really want to become a great seducer and pick up artist. If I happen to get a girlfriend along the way I won't complain either. Although I certainly am in no rush whatsoever, I'm starting to enjoy that kind of lifestyle and it can get better only. Will probably put a little more energy into [Jess] but I will certainly not waste my energy, a mistake I've done in the past.

I will definitely continue to log! For now I'll try to get as many numbers/dates as possible, continue to check out night life sober and will write tons of FR, it's just amazing how much it helps to write it all down, analyze it and have a couple more eyes looking over your shoulder as well, helping you out. I am actually considering if I want to open up another journal, just need to come up with something interesting.

If somewhat asked me what I've learned on the way I wouldn't be able to sum it all up. It's just so much but there's one important thing I want to say: waiting for "the right moment" or the "right girl to come around" isn't going to do it. You actually need to go out and perform. You have to do something. But once you do, you see how picking up girls actually is something you can practice. It's like a sport. You get coached, then you go out following drills that lead to more advanced drills and you just keep practicing. Like Chase wrote ever so often, seducing women truly is a skill that can be acquired, and mastered.

Also, this is a good time to show my gratefulness. Obviously, I want to start with Chase, Franco and the entire team of GirlsChase. In just two months they've changed my life (or initiated that change) and helped me overcome my relationship and made me a different person. Be it because of the books or more importantly, because of all the work and effort they put into free information on the blog, the newsletters or now this forum. I really admire and appreciate all their work and it's impossible to put into words how grateful I am.
And of course, I want to thank all the members of this forum! Be it the ones who keep posting article after article, keep answering any question out there or, to me the most important ones, the ones who kept checking back in here and help me out on my journey. And while I really, really am grateful for absolutely everyone who ever stopped by I especially want to give a big shout out to AFCnoob and Jeet02 who've been here from the very beginning and stuck around the entire way, giving me advice after advice as well as motivating me with all those kind words.

Anyway, I start to feel how I'm getting too emotional, not my style! And I think I've written enough novels now. Must be like, uhm, 21 of 'em?

So long - nino

 

[Jeet02]

Re: STICKIED: nino's Newbie Assignment

Hey Nino! Thanks for the mention man. It has been real fun following your journey! I hope you keep us updated with how things keep going...so far you have definitely advanced quite a lot! Best of luck to you man! I admire your dedication, you are a true inspiration to anyone that wants to try the assignment and I believe Chase and Franco feel the same way, which is why they have sticked your journal. Awesome stuff dude.

Cheers,
Jeet

 

[Chase]

You killed it, Nino. Way to knock it out of the park, push your comfort zones, get some solid progress during the daytime, grab a night game lay in the meanwhile, and wrap things up with lining up a date with the girl you'd been checking out at the gym throughout the assignment.

Great stuff, great persistence, and really pleased to see you push yourself and get rewarded for it. Way to go, amigo.

-Chase

 

[Rasta]

Re: STICKIED: nino's Newbie Assignment

Nino, thanks a bunch for posting these. Really inspirational and you've just about convinced me to start it, too.

 

[kneek0]

Re: STICKIED: nino's Newbie Assignment

Nino,
Just read through your assignment, and I wanted to say congrats!
Inspired me to do a newbie assignment as well. Once I get back to campus in January, I will start journal post.
I learned a lot through your findings and will continue to practice, and I am sure you will the same.

Best of luck! Or should I say skill

 

[nino]

Re: STICKIED: nino's Newbie Assignment

Nino, thanks a bunch for posting these. Really inspirational and you've just about convinced me to start it, too.

Nino,
Just read through your assignment, and I wanted to say congrats!
Inspired me to do a newbie assignment as well. Once I get back to campus in January, I will start journal post.
I learned a lot through your findings and will continue to practice, and I am sure you will the same.

Best of luck! Or should I say skill

Thanks a lot guys! Happy to inspire you guys!

- nino

 

[Mr. Wes]

Re: STICKIED: nino's Newbie Assignment

Hey Nino,
It was great following your progress. You have also inspired me to begin the newbies assignment when january comes around.

Great job man

 

[PinotNoir]

Re: STICKIED: nino's Newbie Assignment

Dude, this was really inspirational. Great read! Is there a GC Hall of Fame?

 

[Franco]

Re: STICKIED: nino's Newbie Assignment

Hey nino,

I just took some time to read through the rest of your assignment here, and I am very impressed! You really seemed to have taken away a lot from the assignment, and it's given you a lot of confidence! Congratulations!

Chase and I look forward to seeing more from you in your promising future! =)

Cheers!

- Franco

 

[nino]

Re: STICKIED: nino's Newbie Assignment

Thanks for your nice words Franco! Rather been a lurker the past couple of days because of my new job but once I'm back to a daily routine I'll make sure to check back regularly again!

 

[ChalupaBatman]

Re: STICKIED: nino's Newbie Assignment

Great job Nino. I also enjoyed reading through your posts and could definitely relate. Especially with the girl in the coffee shop who smiled at you but you didn't talk to. Been there many times before and I wanted to kick myself every time. Keep up the good work!

CB

 

[Anonymous]

inspired by a fellow durbanite... the newbie assignment is what I've been looking for. this is testament that the advice given by girls chase applies to anywhere in the world.

 

[Yaxir]

this is testament that the advice given by girls chase applies to anywhere in the world

almost anywhere in the world

I just finished reading Nino's 21 day ( or 2 months' ) newbie assignment and i can say it will work in societies which keep an open mind regarding sexual and even non-sexual interactions between a man and a woman

take nothing away from Nino, he really put in a lot of effort to overcome his personal barriers and learn probably the harder part of game ( i just think that day game is harder than night game )

these are good tasks and will help any newbie ( i can relate as i am someone with 0 game right now )

but they cannot be applied to super conservative societies where girls are forbidden by their parents from talking to boys and where boys are trained to not talk to girls they are not related to

i will hopefully undertake the assignment when i am in a better, more broad minded society

P.S : and i won't lie, reading some of the stuff reported by nino made me very anxious. Also, @nino already had a fair amount experience with girls as he was strong in night game and consistently laying with girls from clubs/bars at night. He was focusing on improving his day game. A really helpful report for everyone would be a guy who's literally zero meter in game and goes on to attempt this challenge. that would a hallmark example of learning pickup/seduction for all types of beginners