Ok I'm stuck on why I keep losing girls over text

[Dough]

I have this issue where girls seem super into me and then just vanish and leave me on read. Here's an example. From the convo I had with her in person she seemed inexperienced, genuine and very smart. No tattoos or hair dye, dressed very modestly, stuff like that as well. Which is exactly my type!

https://imgur.com/a/yHXyGM2

I sat beside her while she was waiting for a bus, and I was waiting for a friend. So we both had an arbitrary time constraint. I felt like we hit it off, and thought she was really into me as well since she started texting me pretty much immediately after she left. But then she dropped off when I sent the hangout text. I assumed it was just because I sent a bad text that didn't invite a reply, so I didn't think anything of it and sent the last text after supper the next day, which was also left on read.

The only mistake I really think I made was not scheduling the next meetup in person before she left. But was that one mistake enough to cause this...? I can't figure out what's going through their minds when they're into me and then just vanish for no discernible reason like that.

 

[Atlas IV]

Probably she wasn't available after class, but she didn't feel invested enough in you to suggest another time, so she just left you on read.

Next time, try some banter before soft closing (we should grab matcha/coffee sometime), and don't immediately suggest a time. If she answers yes, check her schedule, then suggest a day/time based on her availability.

Also, why are you calling a girl "dude"?

 

[Dough]

Also, why are you calling a girl "dude"?

idk I do it all the time
Maybe I should keep that for friends only, good catch

 

[Aussiedude]

Don't call a chick dude, just call her by her name.

Need more of the conversation to have a better idea, just send the full transcript.

 

[alexlaguma]

Also, why are you calling a girl "dude"?

Was literally about to reply with exactly the same question.

The 'grilled cheese' line just sounds very corny / player / pick up / try hard.

My texting has improved A LOT this year and I put it down to watching PWF videos. That guys texting style really works for me. Its pretty similar to the approach @Skills suggests. Check out some of his videos.

 

[Skills]

Was literally about to reply with exactly the same question.

The 'grilled cheese' line just sounds very corny / player / pick up / try hard.

My texting has improved A LOT this year and I put it down to watching PWF videos. That guys texting style really works for me. Its pretty similar to the approach @Skills suggests. Check out some of his videos.

Pwf is good but he is screening for dtf mainly....i recommend him in my post and videos but just remember the dtf distinction and he is mainly doing online.... Barely any day game and no night game....i mentioned in my post some of his lines...

 

[Skills]

Your texting is no bad, is ok.... that dude stuff is horrible, calling a girl dude is like a girl calling you pinky... As atlas said you put her on the spot with the soft close she instead of saying no, didn't reply to save face.... You should have ping next day with the morning and cont texting from 0 and then soft close again...drop dude use more seductive names: sexy nurse, rubia, colobian princess, etc... Unique or cute maybe original, one time i called a girl skater that love to rollerblade... But dude brah! Call a girl mustache girl next time... Brah horrible... That dude stuff is cringe

 

[Skills]

at op:

correct structure for context:

open/get open/banter/high point of interaction soft close/hard close

^ this is what @Atlas IV saying, vs what you did:

got open/soft close

then re open

low odds as you can see...

 

[bkw]

in general, guys "lose" girls over text usually because the girl was never that interested to begin with. If she was, then guys wouldn't "lose" girls over texts, unless the guy acted very needy and/or weird, which is not hard to avoid doing. I really feel like texting is very straightforward. I think guys try to "game" girls over text and they think it's a make or break via texting, but it's mainly how into she is OUTSIDE of texting that keeps her around. You can't really game a girl into liking you via texting imo as most of that is done outside of texting, and you only lose girls via texting if you're a weird needy person. Other than that, texting is straightforward imo

TL;DR version:
guys put waaaayyy too much emphasis on texting

 

[Skills]

in general, guys "lose" girls over text usually because the girl was never that interested to begin with. If she was, then guys wouldn't "lose" girls over texts, unless the guy acted very needy and/or weird, which is not hard to avoid doing. I really feel like texting is very straightforward. I think guys try to "game" girls over text and they think it's a make or break via texting, but it's mainly how into she is OUTSIDE of texting that keeps her around. You can't really game a girl into liking you via texting imo as most of that is done outside of texting, and you only lose girls via texting if you're a weird needy person. Other than that, texting is straightforward imo

TL;DR version:
guys put waaaayyy too much emphasis on texting

if that would be true, does not match... lets see:

the girl open (women not that interested DON'T OPEN DUDES0 = massive ioi (you can feel in the opener the interest level is high)

the girl she trying to banter with the dude and used emojis subcommunicating friendliness and interest (most girls not that interested do that)....

The op sample does not match at all what you are saying... And does not match my personal experience...