Parties in mixed company

[Marty]

Hi all

The obvious problem with male-only parties is that you aren't going to meet any women there. So the obvious solution should be to go to a party with both men and women present, right?

The only trouble is, as soon as there are both sexes at a social event then everybody starts acting wooden and awkward and on their "best behavior". It makes it awfully hard to break the ice. The fraternal feeling among men dissolves into thin air and is replaced by classical social programing.

Any ideas how to deal with this?

I am invited to a party this Saturday and I have no idea whether girls will be there but I am not looking forward to this Catch-22.

Thanks
Marty

 

[headsup38]

Hi,

When put in mixed company where all the sexes are separated, I usually loiter around the female side. I'll usually look for any girl that's by herself and might be open to conversation(usually not the hottest girl present) and start with her. You have to be reachable and approachable and being geographically there helps a lot. I'm usually there with a drink so it doesn't look like it's creepy. That's me though and it took years to develop a routine that worked for me. It's also probably the reason I get saddled with various "player" nicknames. Good luck.

 

[Marty]

I think that's a good idea, actually, Heads Up. If there's a large female group then a less-assertive girl might gravitate toward it because it gives her comfort, but there's the possibility she won't really have "broken into" it yet and that sounds a good time to rescue her and ask if she's having a good time. Thanks for the tip