I reached my goal, well partially.
My goal was to get a lay from Cold Approach before I get my vaccine, which I expected sometime in June/July. The vaccine time table in NYC was accelerated, so I got my first dose about a week and a half ago, but I also just got my lay. So technically I achieved my goal before my second vaccine dose.
This is kind of crazy, but also a bit anti-climactic. 2.5 months ago when I started, it really seemed like an impossible task. I was literally shaking with anxiety just thinking about approaching a girl. And now I've done 100 approaches, and have a lay, and my seduction skills have ramped up at least one or two orders of magnitude throughout the whole process. I've achieved a certain degree of abundance mentality. Girls aren't really a scarce resource, although I'm not even close to "absolute abundance" yet, as ultra high quality girls are still relatively scarce. Going through this process has done wonders for my confidence, smoothness, sexual vibe, understanding of female psychology, and relationship dynamics. Even if I decide to be with one of the girls I'm seeing now for the rest of my life, I believe this process will have made that relationship much more wholesome and enjoyable for both of us.
The reason I said this was anti-climactic, was that I could already see several weeks ago that my first lay from Cold Approach was only a matter of time. Just going through the process of learning Cold Approach had already improved my dating app game (and all the subsequent steps of first date, escalation, bringing her home, more escalation, overcoming LMR, etc.) several orders of magnitude. Even though my date funnel from Cold Approach was relatively small, it was constant, and just a function of how much I went out and did approaches. So I just needed to keep at it for a bit, and it would eventually happen.
The actual lay was nothing particularly crazy. One of the Cold Approaches from a few weeks ago turned into 3 dates, and on the third date I took her home and went all the way. I know I'm supposed to move as fast as possible, and go for a first date lay if possible, but the vibe was just off on this one until the third date.
So what's next for me? I think I'm going to keep Cold Approaching. It's sort of getting fun now. And I'm working it much more casually into my everyday life rather than making a big deal about going out for approaching. I'm also regularly seeing two girls whom I met from dating apps, one of whom I'd consider a unicorn similar or better than the one I opened this thread about. I'm for the first time in my life feeling extremely romantically and sexually fulfilled. I wish I had more time on weekends to see these different girls, and to meet new ones.
Just for completeness, I'll list the few sets I've had since my last posting. It's been hard to go out for Cold Approach because my schedule is so full of dates and sleepovers:
1) At a bus stop, I approached a girl and asked her when the bus is coming. She gave me an informational reply. We chit chatted a little about how cold it was, and how our outfits looked warm. But I didn't think she was super cute, so I didn't ask for her number
2) At a Korean Supermarket, I hovered near a girl in the aisle, pretended to examine the nuts there, then told her "I like your outfit, it's very stylish". She gave me a really warm smile and said thanks. I should have continued this set, but it was the first of the day, and I felt very cold.
3) Going up the elevator in my apartment, an Asian girl came by and was also waiting for the elevator. My razor instincts at this point immediately noticed that she started fixing her hair when she came into my presence, and there was no one else around. So when we got in the elevator, I used the dumbest situational opener ever. I saw she was carrying a bag of groceries, with frozen scallion pancakes at the top of the bag, I said "Nice pancakes", and pointed at them, and said "I love scallion pancakes". She went on and on about how easy they are to make, and how much she likes them. I kind of lost interest, and I said "have a nice day", and she said "okay bye", in a sort of disappointed way. She wanted me to ask for her number. Anyway, this illustrated that when a girl gives you an approach invitation, you can literally say ANYTHING and it will work.
4) At an intersection outside my apartment, it was a warm day, and I approached a girl also waiting at the intersection, and said "it's so warm out". She agreed.
Statistics:
Sets: 100
Conversations: 11
Numbers: 3
Dates: 2
Lays: 1
