Seducing a girl with a BF?

[Definitely_not_a_gymrat]

Hi, I am studying abroad in Rome.

Last night, our neighbors(girls) invited us to a pregame, and to go out with them, I went. There were more girls there, all of them receiving me very well.

On the train ride, this one girl, one I find pretty attractive, told me that she has a bf, but she wants my snap, to be “friends.” I say sure, maybe it’s a sign of interest?

Later on, we were walking out of the first bar and she’s bumping into me, chatting me up, touching me everywhere, I’m receptive but don’t do too much. She looked tired, but not super drunk or anything like that.

Is this a sign of attraction, and how do I proceed?

DISCLAIMER: I don’t care if she has a bf, she ain’t studying abroad with him, in my eyes, that relationship gonna break soon anyways. Also, all the girls and guys in that group liked me.

 

[James D]

Just follow normal process.

 

[Red]

Be fun, be sexual. Avoid romantic gestures lest she mistakenly think you're developing feelings.

Also, be discreet. Her circle likely knows she has a BF and she may want to avoid judegment even more than usual.

 

[Definitely_not_a_gymrat]

Thanks for the reply guys, met up with her and the entire group yesterday, talked for a bit, but not a

At the club, I put my hand out to her and she did a giggle, though she could have thought I was joking about something, I don’t think my gesture was clear enough.

She seemed really nice when she saw me, always saying hi in an enthusiastic way, and she and her friends invited me in one of her Ubers(I didn’t have to pay).

Gonna cut my attention back a lil bit, and not make any overt gestures, meanwhile flirt when I’m around her.

Tbh idk how a study abroad long distance relationship lasts for 4 months, especially her being the club type, almost running into me several times the first night.

Definitely not making any romantic gestures.

 

[Skills]

Its the same as this

How to seduce a married woman (forbidden seduction series) - The Skills Method

Married woman are easier than single women. Most of my seduction of married woman follow the following patterns or circumstances:

www.theskillsmethod.com

Also i have a post on the different i have a bf types:

The 3 "I have a boyfriend" scenarios

1.- She really has a boyfriend and will not cheat.- This is a girl that has a boyfriend and is really happy and invested with the boyfriend, she is not really going to cheat on him ever or will not cheat (at least in this stage of a relationship, some women can cheat at final stages of a bad...

www.skilledseducer.com

 

[Definitely_not_a_gymrat]

Its the same as this

How to seduce a married woman (forbidden seduction series) - The Skills Method

Married woman are easier than single women. Most of my seduction of married woman follow the following patterns or circumstances:

www.theskillsmethod.com

Also i have a post on the different i have a bf types:

The 3 "I have a boyfriend" scenarios

1.- She really has a boyfriend and will not cheat.- This is a girl that has a boyfriend and is really happy and invested with the boyfriend, she is not really going to cheat on him ever or will not cheat (at least in this stage of a relationship, some women can cheat at final stages of a bad...

www.skilledseducer.com

Will give them a read, I’m assuming she’s either number 1 or 2, based on how she had a bf but said she wanted to be friends out of nowhere(her friends were also right next to her) and asked for my contact info, and the fact she was bumping all over me a little bit later.

More of a social circle sitaution then cold approach.

 

[OldGuy]

If the friends are local and the bf is back home, he may even be imaginary, just to improve her status with locals.

 

[Definitely_not_a_gymrat]

If the friends are local and the bf is back home, he may even be imaginary, just to improve her status with locals.

Friends aren’t local, they’re from back home, bf is real, saw her ig, doesn’t seem very prominent though

 

[Skater]

"Aaaaahh your boyfriend's a fag, I'll kill 'im."
- Jeffy

 

[Skater]

An actually useful tip from Jeffy on the topic (which I, funnily enough, heard not long after posting the quote above):

1. Try to avoid the boyfriend in conversation (you probably know this).
2. If you can't, don't bad-mouth him. Rather, interpret him as a "nice guy" with insecurities, no matter what she says about him. Take his side even, if she starts to bad-mouth him. Always lead back to "insecure nice guy (how cute)."
3. Run normal, solid game.

Supposing you have some attraction, this positions you, subtly, as opposite to his needy behaviors and therefore attractive.

Use at your own risk, of course

 

[Definitely_not_a_gymrat]

An actually useful tip from Jeffy on the topic (which I, funnily enough, heard not long after posting the quote above):

1. Try to avoid the boyfriend in conversation (you probably know this).
2. If you can't, don't bad-mouth him. Rather, interpret him as a "nice guy" with insecurities, no matter what she says about him. Take his side even, if she starts to bad-mouth him. Always lead back to "insecure nice guy (how cute)."
3. Run normal, solid game.

Supposing you have some attraction, this positions you, subtly, as opposite to his needy behaviors and therefore attractive.

Use at your own risk, of course

Well, she brings up the fact that she has a bf every 10 seconds, I think she’s trying to convince herself not to cheat. If I can just take her out of that frame of mind, I’m good. Also need to make sure her friends don’t cockblock, but I’m friendly with most of them.

Haven’t bad mouthed him, I was going to frame him as a nice guy, but tbh I don’t really care about the boyfriend.

I’ve just been “friends” with her but obviously flirting with her as more than friends.

IMO it’s a matter of time, everyone I’ve talked to or who has been out with me(my friends) sees the same things as me.

 

[POB]

Her: "blahblahblah my BF"
You: "Yeah, no problem, he can cook us breakfast in the morning"
Her: "What?"
You: "Just tell him that I like my scrambled eggs without pepper, or else I'm gonna whip his ass with my belt"
Her: "giggles"
You: "For real, you should marry him...you guys seem like the perfect match"
(now you let her disqualify this idea)
You: "Yeah, he seems like fun and whatnot, but I rather focus on enjoying the present"
(now you start with the gambits about not judging her, being secret society, "us vs the world" mentality and push it forward)

 

[Definitely_not_a_gymrat]

Her: "blahblahblah my BF"
You: "Yeah, no problem, he can cook us breakfast in the morning"
Her: "What?"
You: "Just tell him that I like my scrambled eggs without pepper, or else I'm gonna whip his ass with my belt"
Her: "giggles"
You: "For real, you should marry him...you guys seem like the perfect match"
(now you let her disqualify this idea)
You: "Yeah, he seems like fun and whatnot, but I rather focus on enjoying the present"
(now you start with the gambits about not judging her, being secret society, "us vs the world" mentality and push it forward)

I feel like I set a pretty nonjudgmental, playful frame with her, gonna try out some of these gambits next time I see her. My main concern is being cockblocked, even though her friends like me, they may not like her cheating, in general.