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Here's a question I've wondered about for many years, and I thought perhaps some experienced members of our little community here might be able to give a perspective on it.
When you ask someone what women find sexy, alluring, or arousing, the first answers you usually hear have to do with activities in the bedroom—specifics of sexual technique, what parts of her anatomy to stimulate and how, positions to try, etc. Similar results appear among the websites offered when you put the above as a search term into Google. And, of course, the Girls Chase site has a wealth of information on this subject, some of which I have put into practice in the past, and some of which I have yet to try.
In the case of any particular woman, however, this information is of limited use until you actually get her into the bedroom and start removing her clothes, by which point, frankly, it's a rather academic issue. While not encyclopedic, I like to think that my knowledge of this area from personal experience of relationships with women is comprehensive enough for me to get by, causing adequate satisfaction at the very least. That area, therefore, is out of scope for the purposes of this thread.
What I am much more interested in is what turns women on, sexually, before the bedroom is even in the offing. Allow me to explain.
In past years, ordinary social attunement, intuition, and experience have permitted me to be seen as a decent, likable fellow among women in my social universe and those to whom I am introduced.
More recently, the invaluable advice contained in the articles on the Girls Chase site and in this forum, coupled with constant infield practical work, has allowed me to develop the ability to introduce myself to women in arbitrary and indiscriminate situations, for example in the streets, in a bookstore, or while grocery shopping, and within a few minutes' conversation to be seen as... yep, you guessed it, a decent, likable fellow. Decent enough to go on a date with, sometimes, or even, on occasion, to kiss.
Now what I'd like to do is to take it a step farther.
What can be done—and again I am talking strictly OUTSIDE the realm of the bedroom—to cause actual arousal among women?
What causes arousal among men is pretty obvious. Thin but shapely body, short skirt, hotpants, well-fitting business suit, well-chosen colors of eyeshadow, mascara, blusher and lipstick to match the woman's natural hues and coordinate with her clothing, suitable texture of hose, walk, footwear, facial expressions, behavior, laugh, provocative motions with hips, chest and the rest of it, that funny thing they do with their eyes... you got it. None of this has anything to do with a girl's performance in the bedroom. It's all before the event—anticipatory, if you wish.
Now what can men do?
I hope this question is not too risqué for this forum... frankly, if I can't ask it here, I don't know where it will be welcome
Thank you!
When you ask someone what women find sexy, alluring, or arousing, the first answers you usually hear have to do with activities in the bedroom—specifics of sexual technique, what parts of her anatomy to stimulate and how, positions to try, etc. Similar results appear among the websites offered when you put the above as a search term into Google. And, of course, the Girls Chase site has a wealth of information on this subject, some of which I have put into practice in the past, and some of which I have yet to try.
In the case of any particular woman, however, this information is of limited use until you actually get her into the bedroom and start removing her clothes, by which point, frankly, it's a rather academic issue. While not encyclopedic, I like to think that my knowledge of this area from personal experience of relationships with women is comprehensive enough for me to get by, causing adequate satisfaction at the very least. That area, therefore, is out of scope for the purposes of this thread.
What I am much more interested in is what turns women on, sexually, before the bedroom is even in the offing. Allow me to explain.
In past years, ordinary social attunement, intuition, and experience have permitted me to be seen as a decent, likable fellow among women in my social universe and those to whom I am introduced.
More recently, the invaluable advice contained in the articles on the Girls Chase site and in this forum, coupled with constant infield practical work, has allowed me to develop the ability to introduce myself to women in arbitrary and indiscriminate situations, for example in the streets, in a bookstore, or while grocery shopping, and within a few minutes' conversation to be seen as... yep, you guessed it, a decent, likable fellow. Decent enough to go on a date with, sometimes, or even, on occasion, to kiss.
Now what I'd like to do is to take it a step farther.
What can be done—and again I am talking strictly OUTSIDE the realm of the bedroom—to cause actual arousal among women?
What causes arousal among men is pretty obvious. Thin but shapely body, short skirt, hotpants, well-fitting business suit, well-chosen colors of eyeshadow, mascara, blusher and lipstick to match the woman's natural hues and coordinate with her clothing, suitable texture of hose, walk, footwear, facial expressions, behavior, laugh, provocative motions with hips, chest and the rest of it, that funny thing they do with their eyes... you got it. None of this has anything to do with a girl's performance in the bedroom. It's all before the event—anticipatory, if you wish.
Now what can men do?
I hope this question is not too risqué for this forum... frankly, if I can't ask it here, I don't know where it will be welcome
Thank you!
