Hey buddy 6 figure revenue business owner here. Did it in 3 years. So, I'd say yes to your 2-4 year plan.
You will kill yourself trying to get the business up and running. Never for one second think it will be sunshine and rainbows. It will incredibly damage your relationship by itself, especially if she's the kind of girl not into that kind of stuff. And to add a kid into the equation, I would do that only after I stabilized my life. Not before. You will have sleepless nights where you have 0 energy for anything and are just exhausted and depressed in general. And then you can see how much your girl loves you, when you're "cool and on-point" it's easy to be "in love".
There are almost no "family-man" entrepreneurs. Especially when they're bootstrapping the business. When you become a business-man sure, but when an entrepreneur. Tricky. Usually most I see are broken families.
This was the reason I broke up with my fiance of 3 years. She just couldn't handle it. I don't blame her. I probably wouldn't either. I don't know how much you love this chick but she has to be someone who would fit in your path. If she doesn't trying fit into hers or shoehorning her into yours usually end up in tears. Don't ask how I know. It's easy to find an housewife when you're looking for it, into a stable lifestyle.
Tell her you are OK with the baby but only after you have your shit up and running which most likely will be in 4 years. And then you'll see if you guys can work it out or now. No tears necessary for either side. Also, do realize, if you will operate a business, you will have zero fucking time for the menial baby activies. She better be prepared to be "a mother".
One tip I'd give though. If you'll have an entrepreneur life; you would like 2 get 2 kinds of women to have a wife-like situation. One is the submissive house-wife. Classic. Cooks, cleans, happy that the hubby is out there in the world crushing it, supportive and willing to get the load of the house; is relatively OK with little attention or support. The other is the opposite; a professional shark. Manager, lawyer, business-woman, doctor, etc. Someone who's out there in the world and hustling. I've found anything in between is not a good match for the crazy business lifestyle. She either won't get it or won't be supportive of it.
YS. thank you for that answer, it really shows the truth. Especially your last part about only choosing from 2 types of women.
Also, I'm glad your business is doing well and I'm sorry that your relationship didn't workout. I think this entrepreneur lifestyle really asks us to sacrifice more than I imagined. Guess it's the price to pay for freedom, which I'll gladly pay.
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Just wanted to thank everyone that contributed to this thread and provide an
UPDATE to the situation.
The past couple of months have been really really rocky. I had about 12 months of saving runway to launch my business so I left my job in January.
Immediately her reaction was of discontent and disbelief in my plan to be making enough in one year to sustain myself. She has a regular job as a teacher which is quite safe because in Germany they basically work for the state. So my situation is quite uncertain and she thought it was naive of me because I didn't have a Plan B in life (I'm all in on entrepreneurship, but I don't mind getting a job temporarily to get by while I build my business).
I tried to show her in these couple of months the progress that I was making in the business. I validated my idea, spoke to a lot of potential customers who had interest, made 2 sales so far (only $20, but a proof of concept). And I asked her to read a book called The Millionaire Fastlane (great book, I recommend it), which she read 20 pages of and gave up because she thought the author was showing-off his accomplishments.
I saw that as a sign that she wasn't willing to at least find proof to understand the validity of how I think about the world and the potential of a business. For me it is about stepping up to the plate and trying as many times as you can and one day you'll hit the home run. She believes that is more about the idea and having luck (which plays a part, but smaller; check Chase's article in January on the topic).
Still, I pushed through and tried work things out. The last straw was this past weekend. I decided to get a reputable (expensive but in my estimation worthwhile) business coach who has sold 3 businesses and is on his fourth. For her that money could go instead to us going on trips or enjoying dates out in the city (which is understandable, but not something I can do at the moment).
So, I decided to end things with her. I didn't assume that she should support me emotionally right away especially because I haven't provided an actual monthly income that could sustain me. But business takes time and 2 months is not enough to get to that point for me.
We ended it on Saturday and I can't help but feel a bit empty inside, and a part of me wants to go to her apartment and tell her that we can work things out.
I'm not sure if that is scarcity mentality or I'm regretting the decision or she is like a drug and I miss the feeling she gives me and not her specifically.
Also, this corona virus really does not help at all because I can't go out and pick up a new girl since everything will be in lockdown for a while.
I now I may get backlash for this question, but would you guys recommend me getting back with her until this crisis is over? That way she can feel safe and protected, and once it is over she can fully move on by going out and meeting new people and I can do the same.
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