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The Tool here, and recently Zphix and I have been texting back and forth discussing things and what not and have decided to do a collaborative post about "the reasons your not getting results" Lets dive in.
First and Foremost we have noticed alot of guys have become stagnant and are not moving past something as simple as getting a date. So lets start from the beginning. (Now yes it doesn't take game or pick up to get girls, BUT IT SURE HELPS ALOT!!!)
Zphix and I believe in learning all your information first before going out and acting. as in. READ EVERYTHING YOU CAN AND ABSORB EVERYTHING YOU CAN. THEN GO OUT AND MAKE DECISIONS. I studied theory for a solid month before going out and doing ANY approaches, and what I found was I had an extremely large learning curve. I knew what I did wrong after I did them, and was able to tweak myself after each interaction. This is how we were able to ascend from AFCs to who we are today in as little as 3-4 months. Learn the material before you practice it.
So its time for some SSR. Sit down. Shut up and read
(Do as we do and tweak it to your own style and you will notice vast results)
Fundamentals. Zphix and I have discovered we are extremely similar. To our style of game, our attitude, how we portray ourselves, and how we interact with others. Which we believe correlates to success. and that formula is Sarcasm/playfulness with a casual blend of seriousness/sexiness.
Fundamentals we can't stress enough ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT for getting results. you could do 1000 approaches and if your fundamentals are off get less numbers and dates than someone with solid fundamentals and has only done 100 approaches.
How to base your fundamentals.
>100-Hour-Rule
>Vulnerbable-Enchanting-Alluring
>Shy Guys
>Attracting Women
>Changing Your Vibe with Women
READ THEM. LIVE THEM. BECOME THEM!!
Now that we have covered fundamentals Its time for the approach. We are going to stick to day game in this post.
As stated before its QUALITY over QUANTITY. I will tell you. my stats were about 2 -4 approaches 4-5 days, of those i would get 3-4 numbers (usually all) and of those numbers I would get 1 or 2 dates. Not bad if I do say so myself.
Now with the approach. With your fundamentals in hand it will lead you too success. The best way to approach I have found is direct as in "hey quick question? are you single?" or go direct like this: "I was walking past, and couldn't help but notice how cute you are, and I wanted to introduce myself while I still had the chance. I'm Zphix/Tool. Follow up with wit and confidence, as those are the best ways to approach and communicate.
>Zphix Conversation Examples
>How to Approach a Girl
>Cold Approaching Works
>Are You Single?
Now I know Chase, Franco, and most others recommend you do that "natural approach" and say what you feel you need to say without coming across as an autonomous robot. Zphix and I feel the same way. The best way to converse is a natural flow. But if you memorize the responses to some of the conversations above "especially those in the college game link and Ricardus's link" you will be extremely well off, and with time those responses will become natural. Yes it will become repetitive. But remember we are looking for results aren’t we?
Getting the number. This is where alot of guys drop the ball. They have solid fundaments, everything went great. but they get the number and what happens?? They do not get a response or the woman flakes every time... They wonder "WHAT DID I DO WRONG!!! Well I'll tell yea.
Most get so excited that they just say. "well I have to go, you should give me your number" she gives you her number. You text her for a date. and she says no. Why? You didn’t state your intentions. She doesn’t know why you want to text her.
-Is it for a date?
-Is it to ask her for homework?
-Is it to annoy her with texts?
STATE WHY YOU ARE GETTING HER NUMBER FIRST!!! Avoid asking generic things like "Let me get your number..." because you're not communicating your interest, and are likely going to be friendzoned-ed pretty fast, and you'll see the platonic nature in her texting.
Example: Conversation is going great. Its been 5 mins and you want to get going. you say "hey your a pretty cool chick, you and I should grab a coffee sometime" her "yea definitely" you "cool should give me your contact info" (as you extend your phone) she puts it in. Your on top of the world. You go your separate ways.
Now. this is another area where some guys bomb. TEXTING!!
Texting is the most efficient way to get a girl out on a date. It's not inconvenient like a phone call. But you can think about your responses. Where most guys fail is that they do not follow the texting process provided by this site. and again...Yes you can get dates without following the process but following it will give the the best results.
Texting 101. Zphix and I follow a strict process.
1) Get the girls number.
2) Text her 2 hours later with "hey this is (Tool or Zphix) save my number
her OKAY!
2 days later. Text with. "hey (name here) this is Zphix. Hope your days going well. Was thinking you and I should grab that coffee sometime. What’s your schedule look like this week?"
Her "well I'm open (this day or this day at this time)
Us: "how about Wednesday. Starbucks. 7 o’clock. sound good?"
Her "sounds great!"
Us. "cool see you there"
The day of the date. 11 o’clock am. Hey (name here) when you get to starbucks I’ll meet you by the front door"
her "okay see you there)
Boom. Bam. Done. Notice there was no rapport building. no intermittent texting. Just straight to the point. You want to keep all the rapport building for the face to face date
Now you might ask. "But Zphix!! how can I get her out without building rapport???" well. If your fundamentals and everything else have been solid then you will.
You might ask. But what if she flakes or gives you a hard time, or wants to keep texting you.
If she texts you. Be warm and text back and keep it short and concise.
If she is flaky/ unwilling to go out then follow this process:
-2 days after number you text her.
-She says "my schedule looks pretty full. I'll let you know when I'm free"
-You say "Ok sounds good."
Leave it at that for 5-7 days. then text back with. "hey (name here) hope things have been good. How’s that schedule looking?"
and if you get the same busy response. DON'T EVEN CONTACT HER AGAIN! LEAVE IT!! DONE!! KAPUT!!! She might text you in 2 weeks which is a common trend and NJ handled that like a champ so here is the link to what he did about it: NJ's HBRockerChick
As a note: We typically continually text a girl like this throughout the dating process if we choose it to continue. ITS BEST TO GET TO KNOW ONE ANOTHER IN PERSON AND THE MORE YOU TEXT HER THE LESS OF A CHANCE YOU HAVE OF GETTING HER OUT!!
With abundance you don’t need to dwell on numbers, and for the exact process here are some links. AGAIN!! READ IT!! FOLLOW IT! BECOME IT!!
>What To Text Girls
>Text Message Flirting
>How To Text Girls
Now for The date.
Alright! So you have the date set. Its 11 am. She’s said ok see you there. You're on top of the world, you're feeling great! BUT, WHAT DO YOU DO?
YOU FOLLOW THIS PROCESS BELOW!!!!!!!!
>Tool's First Date Logistics
and
>Tool's LR with Logistics
I don’t even have to outline or tell you anything because it is all outlined in the links above
Now if you have gotten this far. The date should have gone pretty darn well. You’ve pulled her home.
Now the escalation process.
>Escalating in Public
>Take Her To Bed
>Get Her In Bed: 10 Tips
>7 Ways to Touch a Girl
>Sexual Touch
If you follow all of this information given to the T and do as we do. You will see results.
Cheers, The Tool, and Zphix
First and Foremost we have noticed alot of guys have become stagnant and are not moving past something as simple as getting a date. So lets start from the beginning. (Now yes it doesn't take game or pick up to get girls, BUT IT SURE HELPS ALOT!!!)
Zphix and I believe in learning all your information first before going out and acting. as in. READ EVERYTHING YOU CAN AND ABSORB EVERYTHING YOU CAN. THEN GO OUT AND MAKE DECISIONS. I studied theory for a solid month before going out and doing ANY approaches, and what I found was I had an extremely large learning curve. I knew what I did wrong after I did them, and was able to tweak myself after each interaction. This is how we were able to ascend from AFCs to who we are today in as little as 3-4 months. Learn the material before you practice it.
So its time for some SSR. Sit down. Shut up and read
(Do as we do and tweak it to your own style and you will notice vast results)
Fundamentals. Zphix and I have discovered we are extremely similar. To our style of game, our attitude, how we portray ourselves, and how we interact with others. Which we believe correlates to success. and that formula is Sarcasm/playfulness with a casual blend of seriousness/sexiness.
Fundamentals we can't stress enough ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT for getting results. you could do 1000 approaches and if your fundamentals are off get less numbers and dates than someone with solid fundamentals and has only done 100 approaches.
How to base your fundamentals.
>100-Hour-Rule
>Vulnerbable-Enchanting-Alluring
>Shy Guys
>Attracting Women
>Changing Your Vibe with Women
READ THEM. LIVE THEM. BECOME THEM!!
Now that we have covered fundamentals Its time for the approach. We are going to stick to day game in this post.
As stated before its QUALITY over QUANTITY. I will tell you. my stats were about 2 -4 approaches 4-5 days, of those i would get 3-4 numbers (usually all) and of those numbers I would get 1 or 2 dates. Not bad if I do say so myself.
Now with the approach. With your fundamentals in hand it will lead you too success. The best way to approach I have found is direct as in "hey quick question? are you single?" or go direct like this: "I was walking past, and couldn't help but notice how cute you are, and I wanted to introduce myself while I still had the chance. I'm Zphix/Tool. Follow up with wit and confidence, as those are the best ways to approach and communicate.
>Zphix Conversation Examples
>How to Approach a Girl
>Cold Approaching Works
>Are You Single?
Now I know Chase, Franco, and most others recommend you do that "natural approach" and say what you feel you need to say without coming across as an autonomous robot. Zphix and I feel the same way. The best way to converse is a natural flow. But if you memorize the responses to some of the conversations above "especially those in the college game link and Ricardus's link" you will be extremely well off, and with time those responses will become natural. Yes it will become repetitive. But remember we are looking for results aren’t we?
Getting the number. This is where alot of guys drop the ball. They have solid fundaments, everything went great. but they get the number and what happens?? They do not get a response or the woman flakes every time... They wonder "WHAT DID I DO WRONG!!! Well I'll tell yea.
Most get so excited that they just say. "well I have to go, you should give me your number" she gives you her number. You text her for a date. and she says no. Why? You didn’t state your intentions. She doesn’t know why you want to text her.
-Is it for a date?
-Is it to ask her for homework?
-Is it to annoy her with texts?
STATE WHY YOU ARE GETTING HER NUMBER FIRST!!! Avoid asking generic things like "Let me get your number..." because you're not communicating your interest, and are likely going to be friendzoned-ed pretty fast, and you'll see the platonic nature in her texting.
Example: Conversation is going great. Its been 5 mins and you want to get going. you say "hey your a pretty cool chick, you and I should grab a coffee sometime" her "yea definitely" you "cool should give me your contact info" (as you extend your phone) she puts it in. Your on top of the world. You go your separate ways.
Now. this is another area where some guys bomb. TEXTING!!
Texting is the most efficient way to get a girl out on a date. It's not inconvenient like a phone call. But you can think about your responses. Where most guys fail is that they do not follow the texting process provided by this site. and again...Yes you can get dates without following the process but following it will give the the best results.
Texting 101. Zphix and I follow a strict process.
1) Get the girls number.
2) Text her 2 hours later with "hey this is (Tool or Zphix) save my number
her OKAY!
2 days later. Text with. "hey (name here) this is Zphix. Hope your days going well. Was thinking you and I should grab that coffee sometime. What’s your schedule look like this week?"
Her "well I'm open (this day or this day at this time)
Us: "how about Wednesday. Starbucks. 7 o’clock. sound good?"
Her "sounds great!"
Us. "cool see you there
"The day of the date. 11 o’clock am. Hey (name here) when you get to starbucks I’ll meet you by the front door"
her "okay see you there
) Boom. Bam. Done. Notice there was no rapport building. no intermittent texting. Just straight to the point. You want to keep all the rapport building for the face to face date
Now you might ask. "But Zphix!! how can I get her out without building rapport???" well. If your fundamentals and everything else have been solid then you will.
You might ask. But what if she flakes or gives you a hard time, or wants to keep texting you.
If she texts you. Be warm and text back and keep it short and concise.
If she is flaky/ unwilling to go out then follow this process:
-2 days after number you text her.
-She says "my schedule looks pretty full. I'll let you know when I'm free"
-You say "Ok sounds good."
Leave it at that for 5-7 days. then text back with. "hey (name here) hope things have been good. How’s that schedule looking?"
and if you get the same busy response. DON'T EVEN CONTACT HER AGAIN! LEAVE IT!! DONE!! KAPUT!!! She might text you in 2 weeks which is a common trend and NJ handled that like a champ so here is the link to what he did about it: NJ's HBRockerChick
As a note: We typically continually text a girl like this throughout the dating process if we choose it to continue. ITS BEST TO GET TO KNOW ONE ANOTHER IN PERSON AND THE MORE YOU TEXT HER THE LESS OF A CHANCE YOU HAVE OF GETTING HER OUT!!
With abundance you don’t need to dwell on numbers, and for the exact process here are some links. AGAIN!! READ IT!! FOLLOW IT! BECOME IT!!
>What To Text Girls
>Text Message Flirting
>How To Text Girls
Now for The date.
Alright! So you have the date set. Its 11 am. She’s said ok see you there. You're on top of the world, you're feeling great! BUT, WHAT DO YOU DO?
YOU FOLLOW THIS PROCESS BELOW!!!!!!!!
>Tool's First Date Logistics
and
>Tool's LR with Logistics
I don’t even have to outline or tell you anything because it is all outlined in the links above
Now if you have gotten this far. The date should have gone pretty darn well. You’ve pulled her home.
Now the escalation process.
>Escalating in Public
>Take Her To Bed
>Get Her In Bed: 10 Tips
>7 Ways to Touch a Girl
>Sexual Touch
If you follow all of this information given to the T and do as we do. You will see results.
Cheers, The Tool, and Zphix
