Thanks to a recent post by
@Grand Pooba which
you guys can check out right here I wanted to revisit a theme that has long been central to my life when it comes to seduction. On paper, I am a part of the same ethnic group as my boy
@Grand Pooba and that can be polarizing compared to being white like
@Chase.
About having a "type" and the frustrating part of it.
I think all of us are inclined to have a type or lean towards one kind of look in a woman than others. We cannot help what we might be attracted to and some of us hit the jackpot when it comes to game and having a "type".
Clean cut white guy and Asian women are his type? Home run.
Aesthetic darker-skinned guy (Black, Indian, Latino, etc.) with a thing for Eastern European girls? No worries.
Athletic black guy with a thing for suburban white girls? Go get em!
If you are one of these guys who is in this favorable scenario, you might as well stop reading and just leave the boards altogether, you're set. Hot girls from some of these groups have seen so many women who look like them date the type of guy in question that they almost consider these men their types!
Then there is the more frustrating and abnormal part of it all. In this case, you being a guy who has a type but women of that type not normally seen dating guys like you. Make no mistake about it,
women follow social trends like no one's business and if they do not see a lot of women who look like them dating guys who look like you, they are going to hold it against you. In some cases, it could also be that men who look like you are looked down upon in her culture as
@Grand Pooba might notice going for Asian women.
So what do you do?
1. Be genuine in having a type, its either because women of that look are hot to you and/or you love the culture.
I loved hot blondes because when I was growing up, they were shown as hot and a lot of women I had a crush on were blondes. Even in media, something about that look had me going. Getting a hot blonde to me was getting to be with a look I was into. If I was going for hot blondes to get back at "the man" or "make it" in America, then I would have failed and it would have come out fake and not worked out for me. Unlike most people, I actually love American culture and think America is the best country on the planet, would not have asked to be born and raised anywhere else.
Make sure you love the women you love for attraction reasons or something genuine, it makes the whole transition smooth. In some ways, it works out because the frame is changed. You like blondes that happen to be hot so even if she is not a girl from rich suburbia, she is a hot blonde and it is a great night, it widens your pool among that type.
2. Be as attractive as possible and go for attractive girls that meet your fancy, even if they are not exactly your type.
My type for the longest of time was hot blondes but I found for a weird strange reason, brunettes and more tanned skin white women with dark hair gave me too many IOIs and attention. At times, cute girls with that kind of a look would make it so obvious that they are down that I had to act on it. To this date, I'd say 80% of my lays have been with white girls with tanned skin and dark hair.
Over time, I started to notice something, hot blondes started liking me more too. I had some blonde bombshells shooting me IOIs or telling me I am handsome, this used to never happen. The thing about winning is that it attracts more winning, plus you get less bogged down by X girls not liking Y guys. Soon enough, you'll see that other kinds of girls who are your type start propping up everywhere and want your fancy. I magically started to match with hot blondes on Hinge and Bumble more, though most of my matches are still either brown women or dark-haired white girls.
3. Do not sell yourself out for your "type".
I disagree with the notion that you need to change who you are completely in order to get your type, I think being high value on paper should be what you aim for in general in life. You should want to be as hot as you can be, as rich as you can be, and as socially advanced as you can be due to the benefits outside of game. I will not, on the other hand, wear Greek Letters or talk Greek Life just so I can get hot blondes. It is a fruitless effort and you'll cringe at yourself for doing it.
4. See it more as an Electoral College in the US Presidential Election and decide if it is worth it.
Some women come from cultures that are shallow and some from very racist backward cultures that see certain appearances as below them. Certain kinds of women were raised to think of you as below them or see men of your race as a certain stereotype. As much as
@Grand Pooba loves Asian girls and as optimistic as he might be, even he won't bother going to San Franciso for Asian women given the city's racist culture towards Indian men.
In the US, the presidential election is decided by the Electoral college where all 50 states vote and their votes are weighed. A candidate can win 51% of votes in some states and win the whole majority but sometimes, they win over 60% in some states and at times even close to 70. Point being, even in the most Republican of states there are liberal democrats and vice versa.
Accept that while a guy who is of her type might get 70% of women in a given group that are interested, you might only get 40% or 30%. This is where you ask yourself if it is worth it to even pursue your "type" and instead go for your match.
5. Accept the harsh reality of preferences, don't sell yourself out, and keep your head up.
Some cultures do produce women that are bigoted and largely intolerant, you might be at the end of that bigotry. While some will tell you to try and "have better game", I think it is not worth it, in the end, to sell out to such people. While some men might benefit from the bigotry of such cultures and be seen as their type, others are starting off way behind.
I say forget gaming women from such cultures and just go for girls, in general, you are attracted to, I promise it is not just that culture or background.
The fact of the matter is that the universe balances itself out for exceptional men, you have a market somewhere full of women who are dying to fuck you!
