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i agree with a lot of this. I read chases post about going after hot girls and it’s wrong and simply won’t work to maintain things with women of actual quality or work well to seduce them for that matter. I’ve watched several videos by hector castillo that actually promote socially unacceptable behavior in regards to seducing women. I was actually about to do a post review on several of the YouTube videos. What role does hector actually play in regards to girls chase?MisterX said:Chase and the other's in GC's team this is to all of you. It's not a rant. It's just my 2 cents. My constructive criticism, that I hope can make GC that much greater for all who are reading.
I've noticed a trend here.
Most articles and advice are about seducing the most beautiful women there are. The women who make models look ugly in comparison. The girls who have millionaires chasing them. The women who have 50 or more guys trying to win her at any one time. The women who get approached 167 time per week. The kind most men will never even meet, not to speak even try to talk to.
And these articles assume that every single guy reading is of James Bond status.
So while writing you must not assume that every guy is like you, or wants to be like you.
It's not about how a regular guy can seduce a regular girl.
Not every guy wants the hottest women you can imagine. Most guys want a beautiful-in a cute way, girl. A nice regular girl. The kind that doesn't have tons of guys hitting on her every day. That hasn't been with 30-40 guys.
The kind that is shy and maybe likes you enough that she want's to be with you.
Cause most articles left me with a feeling of:
- women don't care about you
- they have had sooo much experience that you don't matter to her
- she doesn't care if you talk to her, if you go out together, if you sleep together, if you start dating
- she has at least 10 guys who are banging her on a regular basis and has another 3 boyfriends, all at the same time
- so she doesn't give a crap about you or any man
Yes the general idea is the same:
- have good fundamentals
- approach
- deep dive
- escalate
But the how you do it is very different.
And if you try to seduce a shy girl, that doesn't have much experience with guys, that has never been approach during the day, the way you'd do with a super hot, experienced woman, that has billionaires and celebrities crawling for her...
Well you won't have that much success.
Even acting super smooth and james bond-like may intimidate the girls you are trying to get.
I'm not saying the content is not good - IT'S GOLD!
Just saying that the majority of readers are normal guys who like normal girls and want to get into a relationship. Or maybe even guys who want that one special girl. To them the advice : "forget her" or "sleep with lots of women" may not apply.
Yes there are guys who want to be master seducers and sleep with hundreds of women and date the movie stars and super models.
But those are a very small part of your readership.
The majority of readers, the once that will buy your books and products are the loosers. The ones who are not smooth and have no experience with women or dating.
I know you, Chase and you other writers are experienced and good with women. But you must think from the perspective of the majority who are not like you.
I'm not sure if this is cultural difference between Europe and the US, but things are very different. But I can tell you (since I live in Europe) that the advice you give for the US won't work in Europe(maybe it'll in the UK), or it won't work in China or Japan or India, or Russia, etc.
And even if you american readers love the info - the readers from the rest of the world won't.
What I'm trying to say is you should diversify your team of writers.
Get guys from:
- central Europe
- Scandinavian Europe
- Eastern Europe (where I'm from)
- Asia
- Russia
- Australia
- etc.
Cause you can check your google analytics and I bet that like 50% of your readership is not from the US.
And I know you have a few articles about different countries but to the regular readers from those countries - 1 article is not enough.
I know you can't be that experienced in seducing in all those other countries - so get guys who live there their whole lives and know how seduction works there.
You can open a new section called "Seducing outside the US" and have all those articles written by those guys, go there.
For the rest of the readers, what do you think?
Does my idea make any sense to you?
Would you want GC to expand to outside the US?
Or any other ideas, just write them bellow.
i agree with a lot of this. I read chases post about going after hot girls and it’s wrong and simply won’t work to maintain things with women of actual quality or work well to seduce them for that matter. I’ve watched several videos by hector castillo that actually promote socially unacceptable behavior in regards to seducing women. I was actually about to do a post review on several of the YouTube videos. What role does hector actually play in regards to girls chase?
You seem upset in your response. The “it’s wrong” was in correlation to a sticky by chase. The “socially unacceptable behavior” was in regards to a video you made. Honestly there’s no need to be defensive out of insecurity and worry to much what others think of you. What role do you play in regards to girls chase? Are you a employee? A fan?Hector Castillo said:i agree with a lot of this. I read chases post about going after hot girls and it’s wrong and simply won’t work to maintain things with women of actual quality or work well to seduce them for that matter. I’ve watched several videos by hector castillo that actually promote socially unacceptable behavior in regards to seducing women. I was actually about to do a post review on several of the YouTube videos. What role does hector actually play in regards to girls chase?
Lol.
"It's wrong."
"Socially unacceptable behavior."
> Presents no argument.
Can't wait to see the review.
Hector
You seem upset in your response. The “it’s wrong” was in correlation to a sticky by chase. The “socially unacceptable behavior” was in regards to a video you made. Honestly there’s no need to be defensive out of insecurity and worry to much what others think of you. What role do you play in regards to girls chase? Are you a employee? A fan?
I would but I’m not sure where to start or which video for that matter, as I’ve found several things that are inaccurate. You need to respond maturely hector, as every time you do it’s laden with defense mechanisms. People who often behave like that do that out of fear. It indicates you have something to hide. One error you made in a recent video was you inaccurately went off on a false assumption and used it as basis for your argument. You think that men who don’t show interest are creepy. Why that’s wrong:Hector Castillo said:You seem upset in your response. The “it’s wrong” was in correlation to a sticky by chase. The “socially unacceptable behavior” was in regards to a video you made. Honestly there’s no need to be defensive out of insecurity and worry to much what others think of you. What role do you play in regards to girls chase? Are you a employee? A fan?
Sophomore tactics. Do better than, "you're insecure for defending your name." It's a cheap tactic and easily defused. You've yet to present an argument regarding what you're specifically talking about being "wrong." Argue points, not people.
Hector
You need to respond maturely hector, as every time you do it’s laden with defense mechanisms. People who often behave like that do that out of fear. It indicates you have something to hide.
You think that men who don’t show interest are creepy.
Not Showing Interest to a Girl Can Be Creepy
. Not every girl a guy sees is gonna be worthwhile, thus not every girl is worth the time to be hit on. Largely the decision depends on whether or not the guy values female friendship or not.
Simply showing interest in a girl is not enough to get the girl.
Not really a big deal, you bring up James Bond but fail to recognize why he’s efficient.
Insecure behavior is not creepy to them, it’s unappealing because women themselves are insecure and often are their worse enemies.
You don’t understand women and have zero game. You asked me to show you the error in your reasoning and failed to comprehend what I said. Your remark about James Bond wasn’t remotely funny or I would have laughed. You said attack the premise but then deflect back onto attacking me. Surely you aren’t that dumb. Look I know you don’t do well with women, your response indicates a low self esteem which ties into confidence which I can tell you have issues with. Your advice is crap and misguided. You tried to lie because you were proven wrong. I fuck strippers, occasionally models and breasturant girls. Your still learning and I’m far beyond that process. You lack substance and will never do well with hot girls. Your attempt at humor shows you lack it, which is clearly autistic spectrum. This is further indicating by your reasoning ability which shows cognitive issues. Here is the proof that hector was lying you all.Hector Castillo said:You need to respond maturely hector, as every time you do it’s laden with defense mechanisms. People who often behave like that do that out of fear. It indicates you have something to hide.
Again, amateur tactics. Try another route. Doesn't work here.
You think that men who don’t show interest are creepy.
You didn't read the title or watch the video, did you?
Not Showing Interest to a Girl Can Be Creepy
Can be creepy =/= always creepy. Reading comprehension started you off with a false premise. Everything you say afterwards is bunk.
. Not every girl a guy sees is gonna be worthwhile, thus not every girl is worth the time to be hit on. Largely the decision depends on whether or not the guy values female friendship or not.
Never said that every woman was.
Simply showing interest in a girl is not enough to get the girl.
Never said it was.
Not really a big deal, you bring up James Bond but fail to recognize why he’s efficient.
The James Bond reference was a joke, dude. So much for being alpha, you can't recognize basic humor.
Insecure behavior is not creepy to them, it’s unappealing because women themselves are insecure and often are their worse enemies.
No. It's creepy. An insecure guy isn't going to cause insecurity problems in the girl - he will cause feelings of superiority in her. Your argument makes 0 sense. When women feel insecure is when guys make them feel insecure because they out-value the girl. By your logic, women are being triggered 24/7.
That was easy. See ya around, kid.
Hector
That’s not trolling. You were wrong, how is that making fun of me? Still showing lack of social sophistication. You said in the video about how creepy is relative to the girl at hand, which is not so. Your upset because I actually get results and you don’t? I’m not surprised, jealousy is insecurity. You can feel free to comment on my videos once I start making themHector Castillo said:There was no proof in anything you said. Half of your responses were to things I didn't even say. You made your points, they were defused, and now I'm making fun of you.
Troll confirmed. Ban incoming. Bye, faggot.
Hector
has nothing to do with frames, although they can be used as justification for things. He was implying that in some instances it’s ok to go grind girls you don’t know, where as a socially savvy person would understand that if you don’t know the girl it’s socially unacceptable to touch unless she’s interested and comfortable with you. His sexually escalation tactic gets him burned because it’s unsavvy. I’ve been good with women and understand the premise behind their behavior, so I can understand things from their POV. The problem I see zac is that when guys who don’t naturally do well with women communicate with me, they become intimidated by me because I actually get results. Hard to believe story, back in 2012 one of mystery from vh1s show the pickup artist comes to my city and sees me with a hooters girl that I was fucking and with hot women on different nights. The guy realizes I’m the charming funny guy who gets hot girls and try’s to recruit me. I end up meeting several Venusian arts coaches,RSD coaches, and several of afc Adams people also. A majority of the guys I meet are unsocially savvy and lack high value personalities(not read as confidence). I find it rediculous that because I get results, other guys who I meet can’t keep up due to lacking instinct and get offended because I show them what actually works. They must not want to excel and often use theory that they read as a pigeon hole for arguments which only leads to logical fallacies in understanding.ZacAdam said:P.a.p,
Should not bump this but i bump this for constructive learning.
Girlschase is the only forum where ideas are battle out with peace, except for abortion and religion, which i believe i can have the conversation with the high rank guys but not everyone because everyone tends to be fucktard. (tribalism!)
Eh man, i argued with a lot of people here. but all i see is you attacking Hector with some shade of school tactic frame battles.
In arguments, your tactics of shade + 'constructive' arguments is fine in reality. It's how you win over stupid people.
But while here there's enough stupid people per se, most of the people here want real constructive battles.
Zac
P.a.p said:He was implying that in some instances it’s ok to go grind girls you don’t know, where as a socially savvy person would understand that if you don’t know the girl it’s socially unacceptable to touch unless she’s interested and comfortable with you.
P.a.p said:His sexually escalation tactic gets him burned because it’s unsavvy. I’ve been good with women and understand the premise behind their behavior, so I can understand things from their POV.
P.a.p said:when guys who don’t naturally do well with women communicate with me, they become intimidated by me because I actually get results. H
P.a.p said:majority of the guys I meet are unsocially savvy and lack high value personalities(not read as confidence). I find it rediculous that because I get results,
P.a.p said:They must not want to excel and often use theory that they read as a pigeon hole for arguments which only leads to logical fallacies in understanding.
His justifications come from what he has read, thus his response is filtered through it. Watch the link that I posted to the video, he try’s and justifies socially unacceptable behavior and it’s really that simple. don’t see why I should take pity on guys who don’t have instinct like I do. I could easily make fun of hector for his odd behavior, but then he would wine and say I’m trolling. Just saying zac, there’s a reason I distanced myself from the community a while back. It becomes super annoying when guys ask me questions like “how did you do that? I didn’t read that in a book.” Then they try and argue using theory which is poorly construed in some aspects. It becomes a huge waste of time. Have you ever read the game by Neil Strauss? Several things seemed right but a lot of the book seemed odd. Did you get the same read when you read it?ZacAdam said:P.a.p,
P.a.p said:He was implying that in some instances it’s ok to go grind girls you don’t know, where as a socially savvy person would understand that if you don’t know the girl it’s socially unacceptable to touch unless she’s interested and comfortable with you.
Please point this out. I don't think he makes that point. I be here to clear it up. I don't think he needs me to do this because i don't believe he makes this point as specific. This is me wanting to share more data points.
P.a.p said:His sexually escalation tactic gets him burned because it’s unsavvy. I’ve been good with women and understand the premise behind their behavior, so I can understand things from their POV.
This is assuming.
Everyone can say their tactic is great. Hey, if yours is great, why bash his in vague form? If you want to bash someone in his house, firstly, don't do that. Secondly, give concrete and/or objective you heading.
That's why you need to clear the first point (on top).
P.a.p said:when guys who don’t naturally do well with women communicate with me, they become intimidated by me because I actually get results. H
Okay.
P.a.p said:majority of the guys I meet are unsocially savvy and lack high value personalities(not read as confidence). I find it rediculous that because I get results,
I heard the story of RSD instructors or other company instructors where they are unsocially savvy. But Hector's mindspace and mine is alike similar. I don't think he's unsocially savvy, far from it.
P.a.p said:They must not want to excel and often use theory that they read as a pigeon hole for arguments which only leads to logical fallacies in understanding.
What is it about Hector's info that makes you conclude that he is creating logical fallacies?
Is it something that he says in a specific video
and then the next one suddenly has a different data point
that makes you conclude he is bullshitting?
I really want to know. This is not a frame battle, or to fuck you up.
Zac
"this is assuming part" women don't respond well to outwardly sexually stuff and find it creepy when men do that. hector concludes in the video that its individual specific or in the eye of the beholder hence false conclusion= if a girl is not interested in you and comfortable with you then its a guy violating her personal space, hence as why they don't like it. I don't say "everything he says is bullshit" which apparently it has been assumed that, I outlined specific things he touched in the linked video and explained what was right vs what was misguided. I spent time with RSD instructors in field because I met one of mysteries adjunct instructors who had ties to RSD and AFC Adam who was once the top ranked pickup artist at the time. got asked to help be a approach coach by Adam Lyons and personally watched him and his 2 lead instructors hit on girls a nightclub, Adam Lyons is good at flash game aka making it count when someone is watching but saw him get blown out a lot. His coach AlexPua sucks and isn't remotely charming. Luke his other coach is try hard and and when he came out to my city PAID A STRIPPER TO FUCK. Try hard generally gets you blown out and the girls I see him with are not remotely attractive. The only guy who is good from RSD is JMLV where as the rest of their instructors suck. I've personally watch Tyler and Jeff hit on girls and they suck. met 2 of Vince kelvins guys when they came to a lair meeting in my city and they are weird as fuck. don't trust everything you read or watch online. I've personally met a lot of those guys face to face, was only impressed by one.ZacAdam said:P.a.p,
P.a.p said:He was implying that in some instances it’s ok to go grind girls you don’t know, where as a socially savvy person would understand that if you don’t know the girl it’s socially unacceptable to touch unless she’s interested and comfortable with you.
Please point this out. I don't think he makes that point. I be here to clear it up. I don't think he needs me to do this because i don't believe he makes this point as specific. This is me wanting to share more data points.
P.a.p said:His sexually escalation tactic gets him burned because it’s unsavvy. I’ve been good with women and understand the premise behind their behavior, so I can understand things from their POV.
This is assuming.
Everyone can say their tactic is great. Hey, if yours is great, why bash his in vague form? If you want to bash someone in his house, firstly, don't do that. Secondly, give concrete and/or objective you heading.
That's why you need to clear the first point (on top).
P.a.p said:when guys who don’t naturally do well with women communicate with me, they become intimidated by me because I actually get results. H
Okay.
P.a.p said:majority of the guys I meet are unsocially savvy and lack high value personalities(not read as confidence). I find it rediculous that because I get results,
I heard the story of RSD instructors or other company instructors where they are unsocially savvy. But Hector's mindspace and mine is alike similar. I don't think he's unsocially savvy, far from it.
P.a.p said:They must not want to excel and often use theory that they read as a pigeon hole for arguments which only leads to logical fallacies in understanding.
What is it about Hector's info that makes you conclude that he is creating logical fallacies?
Is it something that he says in a specific video
and then the next one suddenly has a different data point
that makes you conclude he is bullshitting?
I really want to know. This is not a frame battle, or to fuck you up.
Zac
P.a.p said:hector did that the moment he tried to justify inappropriate behavior
P.a.p said:same old shit of justifying rational based of theory read which isn’t based in common sense which naturals like me have and what most people study pickup lack
P.a.p said:I personally think you guys are threatened by naturals, we don't follow the theory that is but get results anyways.
P.a.p said:I get results not following pickup advice, what benefit is it to me to help other guys with women, when I'm beyond that point? I have everything I do broken down to a science, seems like me sticking around is more beneficial to you all where I don't technically benefit from the scenario.
P.a.p said:Problem with my style of game is it requires an innate sense of humor to pull off, hence why I said I may not be highly beneficial to the others on this board.
P.a.p said:take for instance I use entertainment to get hooters girls and strippers, I can explain sexual escalation and how to go indirect to push womens arousal levels through the roof to block lmr somewhat in a post if you would like. I banged a hooters girl a few months back and can post my tactics and how I get girls to qualify sexually in a manner that is proper without creeping them out. is that of interest?
P.a.p said:I generally get bad reads from those companies and guys I meet off of my cities lair when I was in the community, hence why I distanced myself from them. you know mike s. who was mysteries ex pupil? I used to spend a lot of time with that due and he would constantly refute method with me and because it wasn't something he read in a book, despite him copying other naturals that we both knew because his primary issue was lacking substance. don't get me wrong 2 of the guys in the lair that I was part of managed to get past 100 but they were all read tactics and not much personality wise, so I distanced myself from them.
P.a.p said:I figured out the concept of social proof by watching women and understanding that they are prone to being more observant than men and can work them indirectly to get the girl to come to me in the club. is that the type of information that you all are looking for?
P.a.p said:if so ill post in the advanced section on hired gun game, as I don't spend much time dealing with regular girls anymore because they don't do it for me.
@ hector if the girl is not remotely showing interest in you and is comfortable, don't touch the girl. her thoughts go like this "who is this guy and why is he touching me?". you saying that its context related based on how she reacts is incorrect. the general rule of thumb is directly in sentence one. So creepiness is not fully in the eye of the beholder. point 2, outward sexual comments often women find to be uncomfortable. better to go indirect sexually to pump her arousal levels.its perfectly fine to make comments once your about to get with the girl like "I'm gonna fuck you so hard it hurts" on the basis you've gotten her clothes off.
you saying that its context related based on how she reacts is incorrect
outward sexual comments often women find to be uncomfortable
better to go indirect sexually to pump her arousal levels.its perfectly fine to make comments once your about to get with the girl like "I'm gonna fuck you so hard it hurts" on the basis you've gotten her clothes off.