*991 left to full freedom (Hack that helped me, more on that later)
So I think I did about 16-19 approaches today, not even sure.
Start of day
Woke up really bad, lethargic, tons of work to cram for business, regretted having to leave the house, but I had to because I was out of groceries. I totally dreaded leaving the house, coz I know I have no AA and I will end up going on an approaching rampage.
But I had to, my diet is pretty strict... So I'm like ok, today I'm limited to only hellos.
- Saw a 40 year old who was all dressed up (as if though she's one of the sex and the city girls)... I looked at her smiling (she was totally across the street)... she looked at me, all confident and shit. I say hello, she doesn't say anything back, but does this confident "I'm samantha from sex and the city" shit.
Then after not finding what I need in some store, continued past it in another direction
- I saw some chick, totally like a 6, a 35 year old six. But there was "something about her". I walk up next to her, and I'm like hey I'm looking for "xyz type of spot" to do "abc activity" with my female friends. She was like "what I don't understand". I then explained, and basically I was doing it just going through the motions. I had no intentions of doing more, meant to go straight back home. But then had to go by another grocery store.
- Saw some chick coming out of it, I said "hey", she sped along. Looked pretty low class (including poor hygiene). Not making excuses, approach was from back, not amazing projection, but still there's a big correlation in how they respond to me.
- Inside the store I saw a really cute petite, while 35-ish, perfect physically, think little spinner with perky boobs. The only type of 35 year old I would gladly take. She was holding some items I eat, I was like heeeeey they sell these here, she was like yeah, and she was really intent on taking my almost by the hand to the aisle, at the moment I got weirded out by it, in retrospect I understand she was happy to be talking to a guy and wanted to prolong the conversation. At the moment I was like "ok ok I can find it thanks", almost like "I don't need to be handheld, i'm a grown man". Funny how RAS works, I totally didn't see it as the sign it was (in the moment), only in retrospect
Then walked through another street to get to the other store.
- Saw a stylish 30 something sitting around talking on the phone or playing with it, or inbetween calls. Not even sure. I was like HELLO PRACTICE time. So walking past here I say oh hellooo.... She looks at me and shyly whispers hello (I think, it was literally a whispter)
Went into store. Shopped some. Went to check out, had a really long conversation with the cashier, she literally didn't want to let me go. I had to literally like eject. I think she would have kept me there all day. (not counting it as an approach, but happy for this conversation, since I'm working on my sociial skills, not doing pickup)
Some hottie walked into the store as I was exiting it, I almost though of going back in just because of her, but that didn't make sense, so I exited the store in the direction she came from, walking slowly. She might be one of those quick shoppers and come back from direction she came. Perfect excuse for "spontaneous" approach....
- Saw a grumpy younger chick walking my direction, I started smiling from afar. As I reached her, I said hello. She made like a disgusted/weirded out face. I'm like "yeeeeee 1 down" (more on that later)
- Continued walking in same direction, saw some super skinny chick, my exact type (except with tatoos), and with eyeglasses. Looked like a porn chick to be honest, or an escort. I asked her the same thing from before, with the spot for activities with my female friends. She said she's new in the area, doesn't know it, but she kept wanting to prolong the conversation. It's like every chick I open just plants themselves, they never want to go. It's weird coz my whole excuse is I'm trying to do "hit & run approaches", but they all stop and give me their full attention... In any case... I was like I have some project where we work with stylish chicks, like how she is. And she was like ohhh no, that's not for me tehehe. I was like it's ok or if you have friends who are... She was like I doubt it. But she keeps planting herself, and looking at me. It's almost like every chick I open with an excuse is like "can you please pick me up instead, I want you to hit on me". So I'm like how long you been since you moved... 4 months since she moved bla bla. I'm like ok well I'm well connected with fun stuff to do, if you want follow me on insta, or if you ever meet someone into activities xyz, feel free to recommend me to them. So I gave her my insta.
Then coming back I went back in the same direction I came from, and this time the chick who reacted rudely to my hello previously (not sure, but I think so, only 50% sure) had an energy like guilt or shame. Almost like she felt guilt for her reaction previously. But maybe I'm making it all up and it's a different chick
- passed some low-class 6, I was like gotta do the hello. She was confused/weirded out, didn't say hi back.
- Then continued into another street, saw a stylish girl, I noticed her noticing me... As we got closer I sad hellooo.. she shyly looked into the ground.
(This last one is one of those girls that had I oppened would have been an easy hooked approach, but I'm practicing my weakpoint, i.e hellos)
- Then I quickly scanned what street has the most chicks, went into the direction of one. Noticed a girl on bike. Only one I didn't say hello to (though of, but didn't). I think it's because she had a weird reaction when I looked at her getting ready to say the hi, and I think I actually recognized her from an adjacent social circle (we've been to the same parties, and I don't like her). Not sure if her, had sunglasses... regardless...
- Then I went back the other direction, standing on the traffic lights for pedestrians, there was some chick on a bike, and she had funny tattoos. I was like "Helooo". And kept looking at her and smiling. She said HELOOO back with a smile. I was like "I bet everyone comments on the tatoos eh". She was like "oh not really", I was like really, I thought it's cliche, everyone comments on tattoos. Then we talked about the meaning of one. I said had a friend who does (the xyz activity portrayed). She was like Oh I actually live in a different country, just visiting. I was like oh yah, you totally have a foreigner vibe, I was actually going to open you in english, you didn't seem like a local, not local vibe.
- Then I continued in the direction of my home. Saw another blonde, tall, classy chick. I'm like "Heloo". This one stopped, I think she thought we know each other, or I'm approaching her. Reacted really charmed. I'm like "Do you know you're the 6th person today with an armsleeve", She kept smiling and being happy, but kind of dissapointed I'm not hitting on her, as basically I had a hit and run strategy, like I continue walking after I say it. I think I finished it with "Yeah, maybe it's armsleeve day, or it's in fashion".
Then I continued i the same direction, and not sure if I did another hello or not... in either case I decided to go back home. Saw a chick with a unique/interesting color combination. And I was like "Totally dig it! Cool style!". I think she got confused, then I noticed she had earphones
*-I'm sure there's 2-3 chicks I'm not remembering, there was a ton
**-I'm counting hellos as approaches since for me this is about growth, and hellos are growing my skills and confidence more than approaches
It says 991 because I only started counting after I did some. So I only did 9 after I started counting down on my countdown list, but I had done 6-7-8-9 approaches before counting. Not everything is on this list, because I don't even remember everything. I basically had zero plans to do approaching today. Just planned to run to store, grab stuff, run back home, praying I don't see any chicks. It sucks not to have any AA.
The 1000 approaches countdown hack
I don't even remember who I got this idea from. Might have been from something Austin Summers or Justin Marc said. But basically the idea is that there's x number of rejections between your life now, and the sex life of your dreams. There's x approaches between where you're at now, and getting to that point where you reach abundance.
- I set the number at a 1000
- I'm counting down from 1000. I see each one down, as one less to go
Think of it almost like those old cartoons where prisoners strike off a line on the wall representing how many weeks to freedom. Kind of like that. So each time I start getting thoughts getting me into making excuses, I'm like fuck no, I want to get one off of my list. I mentally see the next number, and go open (or say hello)
