Man of action

[Skills]

Had a really good experience today in the field .

No closes cuz I am still learning .

Major sticking point is ---- Running out of things to say .

Anyone ? Wanna help .

you don't always need to be talking silence causes tension, rejoice in the tension... I don't talk much, and i don't run out of things to say, but there is 0 need to talk more than you have to, do you ran out of things to say with your friends?? no but you also not always talking either...flip it on her and make the girl talk more...

 

[Spyce D]

you don't always need to be talking silence causes tension, rejoice in the tension... I don't talk much, and i don't run out of things to say, but there is 0 need to talk more than you have to, do you ran out of things to say with your friends?? no but you also not always talking either...flip it on her and make the girl talk more...

Yeah.

That's what I may need to do .

Let's see how I apply this tomorrow ...

 

[Spyce D]

Anyways , it seems like Indirect game
Suits me better due to being least stressful , atleast to me .

It's also fun now cuz I have taken the stress out of my mind by not thinking about direct ...and focussing more on the convos.

So , it shifted the pressure from approach to convos .....that's why I approached like 15 chicks today .

Also due to a new wing , I have now .

Somehow his confidence transferred into me .

Maybe could be due to my digital detox too ..that I am able to think Clearly and experience less anxiety from before .

 

[Spyce D]

One more thing that helped me was -

Coming to reality that I am infact a beginner in game , no amount of knowledge can make me mpua without the effort .

So , it's like there is no approach stress when you know that you are beginner and you might f it up .

Cuz , that's the only way to reach the pinnacle .

So , if anyone wants to get real results ( for me , the result is to just talk to chicks and make them feel , for now) ..... Be realistic with your current situation , logistics , whatnot and

Just approach .

Who cares if it's direct / Indirect .

We beginners need to learn how to make it work for us .

Spyce .

 

[Conquistador]

Major sticking point is ---- Running out of things to say.

Ask her about herself. Use a mix of horizontal and vertical questioning, and use the information she gives you to come up with more questions.

 

[Spyce D]

Ask her about herself. Use a mix of horizontal and vertical questioning, and use the information she gives you to come up with more questions.

Thanks man.

Anyways, what's horizontal , vertical questioning ?

 

[Conquistador]

Thanks man.

Anyways, what's horizontal , vertical questioning ?

Vertical = follow up
Horizontal = different thread (but you can still use info she gave you before)

 

[Spyce D]

Yeah.

That's what I may need to do .

Let's see how I apply this tomorrow ...

So , I tried to apply it and failed . Haha.

Needs more practice .

 

[Spyce D]

(but you can still use info she gave you before)

Ya , it helps in building a connection.

 

[Spyce D]

Small wins make me feel like

From feeling like loser to actively wanting to achieve stuff in my life .

 

[Spyce D]

Opened like 4 sets today in my small city .

2 directional
2 situational

I had no plans to game tho .
I prefer to do it in a big city .

So , it's just to be in flow and see what's up .

And if I can destroy my belief that Daygame is impossible in my city .

Small wins , baby .

 

[Spyce D]

K , so I am comfortable at approaching and initiating convos with chicks , now .

Actually, I am getting comfortable around them too ( there are some exceptions )

My new goal is to holding a good conversation with them ..... And escalating on conversations .

 

[Spyce D]

So , I have officially started my Daygame + social circle game journey , as in doing it consistently which I had been neglecting it for more than 7 years .

 

[Spyce D]

I have been going out regularly since last Saturday and wanto to tell that @Karea Ricardus D. Advice about indirect game worked for me .

I approached 20+ sets yesterday , and was able to hold a convo with around 10 of them .

Even though, all were directional openers ( a few were situational) .

Somehow, I was able to make it fun .

Not really focussed on results as only working on able to have 5-10 min convo in Daygame.

Rn , I am able to hold 1-4 minutes conversations even doing indirect game .

 

[Spyce D]

I have approached around 15-16 sets as of yet during commute .

I think I may be too much focused on self amusement ....



I can approach , can talk past approach , rn averaging 1-2 minutes convos .

Using teases , negs .

Sometimes deep dive .

 

[Spyce D]

Total 25 sets .

Lot of feedback .


Tomorrow , I am going to salsa class .

Spyce .

 

[Conquistador]

Using teases , negs .

Mind elaborating?

 

[Spyce D]

So , talked to 10 chicks approximately today , including class + situational + indirect .

Now , it feels like it's time for a change .

I need to have a structure , now .

I have effectively chatted up with 150 + chicks in last 11 days .

Had a lot of convos , one awkward metro ride .

I feel comfortable now .

 

[Spyce D]

Mind elaborating?

Teasing her fake accent .

Telling them they are boring ( when they told us that they didn't know any good cafe)

If they are student ... Then teasing about their subject , college .

And like .

Maybe also about their profession ....

The way they are talking

I do it in a way that won't be outright rude but more in a light teasing way that gets them to laugh .

Basically, I tease in a loving manner .

Some chicks may not want to play along , that's fine .

 

[Spyce D]

Me going to the root cause of all my life problems, right now .